Do you spend New Years Eve with your OH?

girloperfection

Ok so after reading the thread "Do you spend Christmas Day with your OH" I decided to ask how many of you spend New Years Eve with your OH?

This is my 3rd year with my boyfriend, the last 2 New Years we have celebrated together so I didnt think this year would be any different until the other day when I found out his brother has asked him to go and spend New Years with him and his girlfriend in Dublin. Im disappointed that he is thinking about going, or maybe im just being selfish for wanting him to be with me.

So anyway how many of you will be spending New Years Eve with your partner or will you be spending it apart?

bills

yes will be spending it with him, usually do. I dont get that excited about new years though!!

LolaLuv

girloperfection wrote: »

Ok so after reading the thread "Do you spend Christmas Day with your OH" I decided to ask how many of you spend New Years Eve with your OH?

This is my 3rd year with my boyfriend, the last 2 New Years we have celebrated together so I didnt think this year would be any different until the other day when I found out his brother has asked him to go and spend New Years with him and his girlfriend in Dublin. Im disappointed that he is thinking about going, or maybe im just being selfish for wanting him to be with me.

So anyway how many of you will be spending New Years Eve with your partner or will you be spending it apart?

Were you not invited to Dublin as well? That's sort of shady.

girloperfection

PillyPen wrote: »

Were you not invited to Dublin as well? That's sort of shady.

Nope just him invited

Clare Bear

Bit lousy they didn't invite you too?

New Years Eve is a big deal for me, we're definitely ringing it in together, wouldn't feel right without him.

seanybiker

definately be with my princess. Cant wait. Couldnt care about it been new years just love spending time with her. God that sounds so cheesy lol.
Buy a tiny mini skirt and show it to your boyfriend. Ask him do ya look good in it and when he says yes just tell him nice one, you plan on wearing it new years eve. He he

Alicat

No my boyf is working New Years Eve night No one to ring the New Year in with 'cept the dogs

Clare Bear

Alicat wrote: »

No my boyf is working New Years Eve night No one to ring the New Year in with 'cept the dogs

Aww I'd pick being with my doggies over spending it with lots of drunken eejits. Maybe he can ring you and ye can count it down together over the phone?

LolaLuv

seanybiker wrote: »

Buy a tiny mini skirt and show it to your boyfriend. Ask him do ya look good in it and when he says yes just tell him nice one, you plan on wearing it new years eve. He he

Ha. Sage advice here. Worth a try, anyway.

Why didn't they invite you? I'd be hurt by that, unless there were some crazy circumstances. Anyway, I don't have an OH but my family's coming to visit from the States and we're going to London. I'm more excited to see them than anything, but London should be fun, too!

6th

Hey, whats wrong with Dublin for New Years!

LolaLuv

Sabotage wrote: »

Hey, whats wrong with Dublin for New Years!

Are you asking me? Nothing! I would have preferred to stay here tbh. London will probably be insane and none of us knows how to get around there. At least in Dublin I know my way around all right. But my mom didn't think there'd be enough here to keep my younger brothers entertained for a week. :rolleyes: It's fine, though. My brothers haven't ever left the States so now they'll be able to go to two countries instead of one.

Azureus

its very weird they didnt invite you down too imo, i thought it was kinda an obligatory thing that ya spent new years with your OH - midnight kiss and all that jazz!
unless theyre working or some such but even if ya dont make a big deal of new years its still nice to be with them!

Alicat

Clare Bear wrote: »

Aww I'd pick being with my doggies over spending it with lots of drunken eejits. Maybe he can ring you and ye can count it down together over the phone?

Maybe, but his job requires him to 'guard'(!)the streets of Dublin so he might be fairly busy !

I just hope next year we can spend it together. Last year he got sick all of a sudden and couldn't make it up to me, and I couldn't drive, so we missed that one together Year before that he was out of the country and the year before that we werent going out!

But the dogs and Jools Holland should help keep my mind of it I suppose

lilminx

Spending this New Year with my fella. Only been together a few months but really looking forward to it to be honest. I usually hate New Year's Eve and spend it on my own - just hate the going into town/crowd/Auld Langer Sign song *as I call it* just makes me cringe.

But this year - it's a small party at my best mate's place and my fella and his best mate is coming too with his gf cos poor ol' dote felt a bit outnumbered by my girlie crew *understandably - we're a bit mad when we get together to be frank (nothing mad - just have our own language and laugh at silly in jokes*

As for you OP, I agree with some of the other posters here - a little rude for you not to have been invited in my mind. But I hope you have a great night regardless.

Tech3

Spending this new years with herself. Only been going out for a few months but really looking forward to it.

Lainey

spending it at home with the hubbie and kids.. only time i liked going out at new years eve was when i was late teens out with big gang of ladies, everyone having new years eve snogs everywhere

so mine is quite nice now.. family, parents brothers and their OH's..

CathyMoran

Have only spent our first New Years apart - we normally go to my parents. The thought of not kissing him at midnight would make me really sad! I suppose that I consider him part of my future so I like the year to start off with one resolution kept.

Piste

We were togather last year for New Years cos we wer at a party of a mutual friend, I've no plans for this year though, no idea if he does either.

Nightwish

Yes, definately spending it together. He was working Christmas Eve and Christmas day, so I have New Years with him at least.

Dudess

Am indeed. We're just going to the pub with lots of mates, then a house party. I have to go out for new year's - stayed in once with an ex and it was horribly dull. Clock struck midnight and it was "eh... happy new year..."

Alicat wrote: »

No my boyf is working New Years Eve night No one to ring the New Year in with 'cept the dogs

Any mates you could go out with?

PillyPen wrote: »

Were you not invited to Dublin as well? That's sort of shady.

Clare Bear wrote: »

Bit lousy they didn't invite you too?

Azureus wrote: »

its very weird they didnt invite you down too imo, i thought it was kinda an obligatory thing that ya spent new years with your OH - midnight kiss and all that jazz!

lilminx wrote: »

As for you OP, I agree with some of the other posters here - a little rude for you not to have been invited in my mind.

It's disappointing for the OP certainly, but I don't understand... why should the guy's brother and his girlfriend feel obliged to invite her?

Clare Bear

Why shouldn't they though? If it was just his brother I'd say fair enough but it's his brother and his girlfriend. I'm sure they know most couples would like to spend New Year's Eve together unless it was just a family only thing but it isn't. I'd feel pretty left out of I was the OP to be honest.

LolaLuv

Dudess wrote: »

It's disappointing for the OP certainly, but I don't understand... why should the guy's brother and his girlfriend feel obliged to invite her?

I think primarily reason for inviting the OH would be so that the OP's brother wouldn't be put into the position of having to choose to spend his NYE with his brother or his girlfriend. It seems sort of inconsiderate to put that on someone, imo. Also, if someone has been dating someone else for several years and they always spend NYE together, it's nice to acknowledge that. It's sort of disrespectful to their relationship not to.

One time I invited my bff somewhere for NYE. She had a boyfriend I fecking despised. Like being around him made me feel violent because he was such a tosser. Still, I invited him, too, because I cared more about how she would feel if I didn't invite him than how much he annoyed me.

Dudess

It is unusual, sure, but not necessarily unreasonable. There is no onus on anyone to invite a person's significant other just because they're... that person's significant other.

LolaLuv

Dudess wrote: »

It is unusual, sure, but not necessarily unreasonable. There is no onus on anyone to invite a person's significant other just because they're... that person's significant other.

Right, but nobody said that. It's more to avoid putting someone you care about (the one with an OH you're not inviting) into a difficult position.

Abi

Odd you werent invited alright.
Id start planning something else asap. Buy yourself a fabulous dress and go dancing with your friends.

What you would do, and what I would do at 12 are probably two different things.. Thats not advice, of course. But Id question why he didnt realise he didnt think you would bat an eye lid.

star-pants

I personally think it's a little odd that they didn't even invite the OP. It's not like they've only been dating a couple of months, they've been together a few years, meaning the familys are most likely well aware of the fact they're a couple.
I wouldn't invite my sister out with me and my boyfriend and not invite her bf (whether I liked him or not). Why would you invite someone to be a potential third wheel? I would automatically invite a couple, rather than invite one half.

New Years means nothing to me so I've never been bothered, and never really had anyone for new years. I do this year but he's down the country at home with family and friends, and that's fine by my book.

Dudess

star-pants wrote: »

I would automatically invite a couple, rather than invite one half.

But that's a phenomenon I don't understand. It seems to be that people are defined as part of a couple far too much rather than as individuals.

I'm not trying to be confrontational and I do understand the OP's disappointment but this is something people don't seem to question. If my mate was going out with a guy whom I couldn't stand, I wouldn't invite him. Why should you feel obliged to spend time with someone you detest just because they're going out with your friend?

star-pants

Dudess wrote: »

But that's a phenomenon I don't understand. It seems to be that people are defined as part of a couple far too much rather than as individuals.

I'm not trying to be confrontational and I do understand the OP's disappointment but this is something people don't seem to question. If my mate was going out with a guy whom I couldn't stand, I wouldn't invite him. Why should you feel obliged to spend time with someone you detest just because they're going out with your friend?

I understand what you mean - why invite someone you don't really have any personal ties to. I would give the option, let my friend/sister/whomever decide if they wanted their other half to come along, but I would always give them the choice, I wouldn't just invite them alone.
Reason why I would put up with someone I don't like? because I would care enough for my friend/family member to do so. I've put up with bfs of friends that I've really really disliked, because there are times when it's unfair to make your friend choose you or their OH for the sake of a few hours especially when there'll be more than yourselves there.

Dudess

Sorry, I genuinely don't see the logic. What choosing does the friend have to do if it's merely a case of spending time with other friends without her boyfriend?

star-pants

If New Year's means something to someone, I wouldn't invite a friend who's in a relationship out with me and my bf on her own. I don't see the point in that. ''Here come be the third wheel''
If it was just me I might ask my friend on her own, cuz then neither of us would have our other halves. Would you invite your mother out with you and your boyfriend but not your dad too?

Dudess

Sorry, I didn't realise you were referring to New Year's specifically, I thought you meant in general.
Yeah, it's weird of the OP's boyfriend's brother all right.

star-pants

Ah sorry! Nah on a normal night that'd be fine, of course you don't have to invite the persons OH, but I was saying in the case of a special occasion where the couple would probably prefer to be together.

Clare Bear

star-pants wrote: »

Ah sorry! Nah on a normal night that'd be fine, of course you don't have to invite the persons OH, but I was saying in the case of a special occasion where the couple would probably prefer to be together.

Yeah that's what everyone else meant too I presume.

Boston

oops

Pythia

Yeah, we'll be spending it together. I'm off on holidays the following day so I won't be partying too much, but I wouldn't spend it without him

jellie

ive spent the last 2 new years with my ex, gonna be a bit weird this year but gonna go out & have fun & hopefully not think about him at all

i know a lot of couples that wont be spending it together, cause of work or holidays or whatever. if new years is actually important to you then i understand why you would be annoyed at no invite. im not a big new years fan though, always a bit of an anti-climax.

shinny

OP, is there something you're leaving out? Do you get on with his brother/girlfriend? Have they ever met you? Are you and your b/f going through a rocky patch?

To be honest, any reasonable person wouldn't do this, so I wonder is there more to this?

Faith

I'd love to, but he's working .

Trinity

I start the year as i mean to go on so i spend mine with my children. And yes OH will be there too

I wouldnt feel right about not being with my kids even though they are asleep. I'll kiss them at midnight while they sleep and make a wish that they will always be with me throughout the year. (meaning that nothing happens to them throughout the year, its my biggest fear, every mothers i'm sure)

I've never been out on a New Years Eve even when single, I dont know why but it doesnt appeal to me now that i'm old and superstitious

Boston

Its like this, when ever I have a party or a get together I always make it clear partners are welcome to my friends, but I leave it to them to decide if they want their partner there. So if the OP wasn't invited, its probably because here other half doesn't want her there.

Ginny

Yup, we're staying in though, my friends are having a family type night in in s friends house and if we went we'd have to book somewhere to stay, so its just us for the night.

Dudess

Dudess wrote: »

Am indeed. We're just going to the pub with lots of mates, then a house party. I have to go out for new year's - stayed in once with an ex and it was horribly dull. Clock struck midnight and it was "eh... happy new year..."

Any mates you could go out with?




It's disappointing for the OP certainly, but I don't understand... why should the guy's brother and his girlfriend feel obliged to invite her?

They are together 3 years, which even at a young age would warrant a certain level of commitment IMO
I'll be going away to Wicklow with my OH and his friends

MJOR

Personally I'd be a little put out at not being invited. I'm headed to a little drinks night with my OH (as he is coming from Dublin i'll head there first and he'll follow). I am looking forward to it!

lovemypinkhat

A friend said it to me today actually, asked would it be weird for me because we (the OH and I) weren't spending it together (we're going out with respective friends). We go to college together so when Christmas comes around I like to spend a lot of it with family and friends I wouldn't see a lot. And he's the same. So we're spending it apart. But we're going to Paris next week together (my bday pressie!)

Censorsh!t

This is my first new years with my boyfriend, and we're spending it together at one of my friend's parties and then going back to his gaf sometime in the noight.
New years is for friends and boy/girlfriends. Christmas is for family though

XJR

We usually spend NYE together but for the last few years we have have had a third along to spice it up and start the year with a bang.

She Devil

I think the issue the OP should be having is with her OH and not his brother.

My OH to is guard!ing the streets of dubland to, so is not spending it with me, it really upsets me, I just want to be with him and thats it. At midnight i will be crying because i want to be with him and nobody else.

Fox McCloud

The last two years have been spnt with the OH but this year have to work damn bar work! t'will be strange ringing in the new year with the people i work with rather than friends!

aloevera

theboyf and i always spend it together. TBH i couldnt imagine not spending it without him, and i dont think he could either... ..

not many people enjoy new years though, i even know a good few couple who stay in etc..

we love it though, new yers kiss and all..