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First Unprotected Sex...
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05-12-2008 12:28am#1
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HouseHippo wrote: »I am off to college soon, we just moved in together and I am definitely not ready for a baby
Like kingtut said, you've answered your own question here. The only surefire way of not getting pregant is abstinence (but where's the fun in that?
). The next best thing is to take sensible precautions. If a baby's not in your plans but wouldn't be a complete disaster then the pill alone would be fine... but if you are definitely not ready for a baby, then I wouldn't be taking unnecessary risks.I would like it to be a nice ahem birthday present for him lol.
This:
will probably be at the back of your mind if you do go through with it and it might keep you from enjoying it as much as you should.Thaedydal wrote:I was on the pill and taking it correctly and using condoms and got pregnant with my eldest.
Belt and braces as they say.0 -
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MagicMarker wrote: »If you are both clean and you are strict with taking the pill then there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't have unprotected sex. Millions of couples do it across the world. Condoms only add peace of mind, not 100% effective.
Yeah, exactly... Of course there are going to be 1 in a million chances, but you take those risks no matter how careful you are, I think. They'll tell you that Depo is 99% effective... Depo plus condoms are 99.9% effective... doesn't matter how careful you are, there'll always be that 0.01% of a chance, and (in my opinion) if you're destined for that 0.01% baby, it's coming, no matter how careful you are.
So, to contradict all the miracle pregnancy stories - I was having unprotected sex on Depo for 5 years and I didn't get pregnant. And now I've been using Depo/NuvaRing and condoms for six months... and I still haven't got pregnant. There are hundreds of thousands of women all over the world using the Pill effectively... there's no reason why it wouldn't work for you, too.
And if you're still worried, just don't let him come inside you - which could also be another birthday treat, eh... depending on what he's into
BUT... go and get tested for STIs before engaging in unprotected sex, if you haven't already!0 -
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HouseHippo wrote: »I have decided I would like to have unprotected sex with my bf...
I'm 18 years old,we have been together 5 years and sexually active for 2.
I am currently on the pill(Yasmin) and we have always used condoms,however I would like to try unprotected sex but am worried about the failure rate pill wise. I am off to college soon, we just moved in together and I am definitely not ready for a baby
How safe is it?Should I just give it a miss until I am older? I would like it to be a nice ahem birthday present for him lol.
Is there a safer non barrier method such as the injection or the noroplant?
Thanks for the help.
Hey OP,
Just my 2 cents..I don't use a condom with my gf, she's on yasmin and takes it perfectly and I don't pull out either cause that's the whole point in not using a condom,well for me it is,we've been doing this for 2 years now and obviously she hasn't gotten pregnant otherwise I wouldn't be posting this so as long as you take the pill correctly it should be fine, again if you're destined for that 1 in a bajillion chances of getting pregnant using the pill or condom then as a poster already said it's going to happen anyway but seriously it'll be fine and you'll love it 0 -
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My 2 cents ! wrote: »Hey OP,
Just my 2 cents..I don't use a condom with my gf, she's on yasmin and takes it perfectly and I don't pull out either cause that's the whole point in not using a condom,well for me it is,we've been doing this for 2 years now and obviously she hasn't gotten pregnant otherwise I wouldn't be posting this so as long as you take the pill correctly it should be fine, again if you're destined for that 1 in a bajillion chances of getting pregnant using the pill or condom then as a poster already said it's going to happen anyway but seriously it'll be fine and you'll love it
It's a little bit misleading to label the chances of getting pregnant using the pill or a condom alone as 1 in a bajillion. Even a 99% effective pill in conjunction with a 99% effective condom and a 99% effective withdrawal method still leaves you with a 1 in a million chance of getting pregnant. 0 -
It's a little bit misleading to label the chances of getting pregnant using the pill or a condom alone as 1 in a bajillion. Even a 99% effective pill in conjunction with a 99% effective condom and a 99% effective withdrawal method still leaves you with a 1 in a million chance of getting pregnant.
yeah but you are really just being pedantic - it can happen in circumstances where a lot has been done to prevent it - but all the ways are fairly good at what they are supposed to do. I find the idea of combining methods with a long term partner to be paranoia inspired, which would certainly lessen my enjoyment of sexual activity. Pick a method, be responsible and knowledgable about it - my girlfriend is uber strict with her pill & if she misses one or is on antibiotics or a few other reasons, we use condoms for a few weeks during and afterwards & then when it's all back on schedule, we can continue as we did before. We're both happy & healthy and have a good love life, and don't work ourselves up about it - just approach it responsibly and you should be fine.0 -
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OK folks there's probably a stats forum somewhere around here, so lets stick to the oul topic. Is being a pedant against the forum charter? Hmmmm. Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.
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jim o doom wrote: »yeah but you are really just being pedantic - it can happen in circumstances where a lot has been done to prevent it - but all the ways are fairly good at what they are supposed to do. I find the idea of combining methods with a long term partner to be paranoia inspired, which would certainly lessen my enjoyment of sexual activity.
I disagree. If a a method like Depo is 99.7% effective, that's a 1 in 333 chance of getting pregnant. If you had sex once every Wednesday and Saturday and also played the lotto once every Wednesday and Saturday, statistically you're more likely to get pregnant before you'll get 4 numbers. And I know a lot of people who've hit the 4 numbers.
It may seem like I'm being pedantic but I really don't think combining methods even with a long term partner is paranoid. Reducing the odds of an unplanned pregnancy from 1 in 333 to say 1 in 10,000 just seems sensible to me.
So to relate back to the OP, it all depends on how 'bad' an unplanned pregnancy would be for you. A long term couple with no major financial worries can comfortably work with 1 in 333, but if you really really can't afford to have a baby, those odds start to look a lot smaller.0 -
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OK folks there's probably a stats forum somewhere around here, so lets stick to the oul topic. Is being a pedant against the forum charter? Hmmmm.
Does that mean you're not going to approve my post?
The question of statistics is most definitely on topic. The OP doesn't want to become a parent just yet and there's only one sure fire way of preventing this. Abstention.
No matter what your method, or combination of methods, your probability of conceiving is never zero.0 -
OP, if you know your cycle, you could try unprotected sex at the best time for you. If you're on the pill, and time it to the correct part of your cycle, then your chances of conceiving are very slim.
The only issue that may arise is that you will still be worried about it. There is always going to be a chance so if that's in your mind you may be a little uptight and it would make the experience a lot less enjoyable for both of you. So definitely bear that in mind.
If you decide against it, the lingerie idea is a good one. But, in fairness, us men are not picky when it comes to sex. The fact that he's able to have sex with someone he loves, and that loves him, is a great present in and of itself! Have fun 0 -
Sorry Wibbs. I posted that last one before I saw that. I still think it's relevant but I'll keep the stats to a minimum.
Yeah but where are you actually pulling these stats from is a good question, they are all up in the air with no actual evidence to back them up whatsoever, you seem to be using invented numbers as a mathematical exercise to show differences which are VERY small. More types of contraception = safer.. but the fact is 99% of the people don't conceive with one type of contraception used correctly. Sure you could be in that less than 1% like thaeyd, but as stated it's immensely unlikely.. If the OP is paranoid then you are right - she should stick with what she is doing, or perhaps try an implant - but I feel that level of paranoia & knowing that even with 2 types of contraception you can still conceive - it's even less likely still but there is still "that chance". Personally I find sex with a condom to be half as enjoyable - it's still great, two people connecting in that way, but it's certainly lessened. I guess me and my fiancee are just willing to take that tiny % chance to be closer & have that bit much more fun, but of course the OP may be completely different, as a lot of other posters here also seem to be. Perhaps I am just an idiot 0 -
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monkeytronics wrote: »Quality assured condoms are 100% effective against STIs present in male and female secretions and against pregnancy providing they are used correctly and consistently and therefore do not break.
Take the pill, be careful about how you take it making sure to follow the guidelines and use extra precautions when these guidelines are not followed. e.g. late pill taking, use of antibiotics etc... If you do this you are highly unlikely to get pregnant. No one, including science can give 100% assurance against anything.
You might get hit by lightening tonight (which is a bout the same chance of getting pregnant if taking pill correctly and consistently). Do you worry about getting hit by lightening? I know I don't. So I don;t know or see the need to lose out on enjoyment for a slim chance of something happening.
Since when do people have a 3 in 100 chance of being struck by lightening?
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