Do you find 'campness' annoying?

Kold

I do. I'm not homophobic, as far as I can see it's not limited to gay men anyway. It's not so much the overt feminine behaviour as the obnoxiousness of the sources it seems to come from. Camp people are boisterous and attention seeking from what I've seen and this is what gets to me before them acting like nancy boys.

I don't really understand the mentality either. I knew a guy that as soon as he came out started wearing the most garish clothes and started talking in that creepy 'soft but dirty' way. Makes me very uncomfortable when people put on such a big front.

Kold

F*cksake, meant to add a poll.

johnnyrotten

Yes, absolutely

oztots

Whats worse is people who are like that yet are adament their not gay. Its quite funny really. Just waiting for them to realise.

Ather than that i reckon they're a laugh. Your just afraid you might catch the gay off them.

MagicMarker

I love it, makes me want to be gay.

phenomenon

They make good comedians tho. eg Graham Norton, Alan Carr etc. Suppose you have to be a bit OTT in that profession.

chops1990

yeah its annoying, the only encounters I've had with camp people fortunately is when they are on telly.

Acacia

Kold wrote: »

I don't really understand the mentality either. I knew a guy that as soon as he came out started wearing the most garish clothes and started talking in that creepy 'soft but dirty' way. Makes me very uncomfortable when people put on such a big front.

Maybe he didn't feel comfortable being himself, as it were, until he came out? Maybe it's not a front? It could be that he felt he was putting on a front before he came out, and this is his real self. Who knows.

In any case, campness doesn't annoy me at all. Live and let live, and all that.

Kold

Acacia wrote: »

Maybe he didn't feel comfortable being himself, as it were, until he came out? Maybe it's not a front? It could be that he felt he was putting on a front before he came out, and this is his real self. Who knows.

In any case, campness doesn't annoy me at all. Live and let live, and all that.

Oh very true, I've a good few gay peers but it's the ones who don't act all flambouyantly that tend to actually be mates. Well if that's the real them then I guess I find the real them extremely ittitating.

stovelid

Maybe if it's forced and theatrical.

If somebody is just a little camp by nature: no.



/estimated time before first occurrence of gay mates disclaimer: two pages.

Terry

Poll options?

I also find camp people annoying, but only because of the attention seeking aspect of it.

Kold

Terry wrote: »

Poll options?

I also find camp people annoying, but only because of the attention seeking aspect of it.

Yes; No; A bit; WOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooo Lookit me; atari shagyorema

ronano

only when they are girly scream ear destroying loud otherwise i'm fine with it but then i plain hate the girly loudness crap

4zn76tysfajdxp

Yes, it's incredibly annoying although I haven't come across much of it. On TV though it's quite irritating.

Dyr

Damn right, especially when they camp spawn points :mad:

ntlbell

It drives me up the f*cking wall.

I've no problem asking them to tone it down to and have done in the past especially if I'm at the bar having a nice pint of the black stuff and some nancy is bouncing around behind me.

stfu like

javaboy

It's funny. I don't find it irritating in real life but it annoys me in comedians/tv characters.

TMoreno

They're not annoying. They're funny. I love them.
Straight acting people are boring.

swiss

Do you find these mannerisms equally annoying in women?

ntlbell

swiss wrote: »

Do you find these mannerisms equally annoying in women?

Women don't tend to put on funny voices and pretend to be men.

not in my experience anyway

Kold

swiss wrote: »

Do you find these mannerisms equally annoying in women?

Yes. Very much so.

oztots

Where does the typical gay accent come from? It seems to be universal and i doubt their parents used it.

ntlbell

oztots wrote: »

Where does the typical gay accent come from? It seems to be universal and i doubt their parents used it.

It only became universal after the invention of movies and TV

I think we can work it out...

Sharpshooter

l like Alan Carr a lot, especially when he is being interviewed as he naturally funny and has just the right
amount of campness as not to be irritating.
Graham Norton's campness is sometimes ott but it is the type of campness that comes from Julian Clary
that grates on me.
So , l suppose l only find it annoying when its someone
like Julian.

Nehaxak

ntlbell wrote: »

Women don't tend to put on funny voices and pretend to be men.

not in my experience anyway

You haven't been to Germany so.

ntlbell

Nehaxak wrote: »

You haven't been to Germany so.

I doubt grown women in germany sound like sqeeking 12yr old girls..

NOGMaxpower

Some people are just camp, they can't help it so i don't mind it when its natural.

I know a few friends who are gay and they're not overly camp but still camp enough to know they're gay if that makes sense. Still this doesn't annoy me...

However I did work with a ginger bloke who was as gay as Christmas, he was rude and put his sexual prefference out there for everyone to know and see. He would make lude jokes about how he likes his sex etc, he was annoyingly camp and he put it on just to let people know he's gay.

Kinda like Born again christians annoying you at the door... yes you're christian just don't go ramming your beliefs down peoples throats.

just my 2cents

oztots

ntlbell wrote: »

I doubt grown women in germany sound like sqeeking 12yr old girls..

You'd be suprised at some of them.

But theres them in ireland aswell.

That said i havent met an olga or helga since i got here 7 months ago.

ntlbell

You're sexual preference shouldn't define you're personality.

it's put on, it's attention seeking, it's annoying.

no one is _born_ with that voice, no one.

shellyboo

ntlbell wrote: »

Women don't tend to put on funny voices and pretend to be men.

Nehaxak wrote: »

You haven't been to Germany so.

Or the George.

ntlbell

shellyboo wrote: »

Or the George.

I've been to the george.

I've met lesbians who are a bit "manly"

but they don't sqeek in my ear when I'm drinking and don't annoy the f*ck out of me.

~Rebel~

Bugs me.

I dont understand it either, its like most men who come out seem to immediately inherit the same personality. Why?! Just cause a lad realises he finds women hot, or a woman finds men hot, their whole personality doesn't suddenly morph to a ridiculous stereotype. I know 2 gay chaps, who are completely like any other guys i know, except that they happen to fancy men, and they dont really understand the whole thing either...

why does what people happen to find attractive have to dominate every other characteristic of their persona?

Mossy Monk

Yes. Over the top camp people annoy the hell out of me.

javaboy

NOGMaxpower wrote: »

Kinda like Born again christians annoying you at the door... yes you're christian just don't go ramming your beliefs down peoples throats.

Do you find homosexual men ramming their sexuality down your throat happens very often?

NOGMaxpower

javaboy wrote: »

Do you find homosexual men ramming their sexuality down your throat happens very often?

I was waiting for a comment like that LMFAO

Thankfully no that has never happend no would i ever be in a position for it to happen LOL

have you?

Roadend

Most camp men are a pain in the arse.......

4zn76tysfajdxp

NOGMaxpower wrote: »

I was waiting for a comment like that LMFAO

Thankfully no that has never happend no would i ever be in a position for it to happen LOL

have you?

Yeah javaboy, we're gagging to find out. Ooooooh!

Naos

Campness bugs me.

I have the same feeling towards girls who scream and shout in my ear. You're not really that excited, don't lie.

Kold

Naos wrote: »

Campness bugs me.

I have the same feeling towards girls who scream and shout in my ear. You're not really that excited, don't lie.

Maybe they are. Maybe they're just simple. It's not that they act like women, it's that they act like the most annoying women.

NOGMaxpower

Naos wrote: »

Campness bugs me.

I have the same feeling towards girls who scream and shout in my ear. You're not really that excited, don't lie.

You're obviously not giving the ladies the right attention!

shellyboo

ntlbell wrote: »

I've been to the george.

I've met lesbians who are a bit "manly"

but they don't sqeek in my ear when I'm drinking and don't annoy the f*ck out of me.

No, but they do wear men's clothes and have deep voices and adopt male affectations... which is what you were saying they didn't do? Right?

ntlbell wrote: »

Women don't tend to put on funny voices and pretend to be men.

not in my experience anyway

I agree that campness can be annoying, I was just giving you an example of where women "put on funny voices and pretend to be men".

ntlbell

shellyboo wrote: »

No, but they do wear men's clothes and have deep voices and adopt male affectations... which is what you were saying they didn't do? Right?



I agree that campness can be annoying, I was just giving you an example of where women "put on funny voices and pretend to be men".

I've met lots of straight women who have deepish voices.

I've met lots of straight women who like wearing guys clothes.

I have NOT met a straight guy that talks like a f*cking squeeky annoying gremlin.

deep voiced tomboys i can handle squeeky little nanices i cannot.

Professey Chin

Roadend wrote: »

Most camp men are a pain in the arse.......

Your ass maybe. I kill them before they have the chance

/not literally kill........anymore

stovelid

ntlbell wrote: »

I have NOT met a straight guy that talks like a f*cking squeeky annoying gremlin.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-y6oO1G3NHE

luckat

Kold wrote: »

Makes me very uncomfortable when people put on such a big front.

Oooh, get you and your big front, duckie!

walshb

I'm not anti gay at all; but I do think a lot of Gay men play on their 'gayness' a little too much.
Everything is so OTT and in your face. Relax, you're gay, I'm straight, chill and relax!

I guess it's the feminine side; though most gay men are a lot more feminine that most bloody women, see, it' OTT

Rsaeire

If they're the loud, annoying, "look at me, i'm queer" type then yes, it annoys the hell out of me and irritates me no end because it just seems put on and fake.

Xavi6

It bugs the shite out of me.

Purely attention seeking. You're gay, we get it so stfu.

emeraldstar

I quite like the campness!

Naos

NOGMaxpower wrote: »

You're obviously not giving the ladies the right attention!

Well if they're screaming and shouting in my ear I must be doing something good

But I mean the annoying "OMG lets have a DMC *scream*" ones...

DMC = Deep Meaningful Conversation - I wanted to headbutt the person who said that to me the first time I heard it.

ntlbell

stovelid wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-y6oO1G3NHE

lulz.

Say it to his face, see who's squeeking then bitch.

:pac: