When yes means no?

BKtje

Right this isn't really what the title suggests but i am looking for opinions from the ladies (and lads) as i been wondering about it a bit. Guess it's a bit convoluted (first time i've ever used that word ) and long but please bear with me.

Was out for my weekly post football music session on tuesday in Temple Bar. We are standing outside after closing (2.30) having a waffle about stuff to some randomers when this girl walks up the road and stands beside us. She stands there for a minute before joining in the conversation. Shortly after another guy comes over to us and stands beside her (dunno if he came from inside or down the road but i figured he knew her since he walked right over and stood beside her). I eventually start talking to her more directly and it turns out she's lost her friends and can't get in contact with them. I look over at the guy beside her and ask if she knew him and she said no. At this stage i'm fairly amused at this guy just standing there in silence.

Not long after we (my friends and I) walk to the Centra around the corner and one of my friends goes in for smokes. So the rest of us are standing outside waiting when she walks over to us again with her "friend" in tow. We have a laugh about something or other before my mate comes out with his smokes and the rest of them walk on. I say my goodbyes to her and move to follow before i realise that i still haven't seen her say two words to this guy standing beside her (or him to her).

I have a quick think and walk back to her and ask if she's going to be alright, the guy immediately says she's fine. I tell him that i was asking her and she pauses before saying she's fine. I ask again if she's sure and she says "I'm ok". Not totally convinced but not knowing what else to do i walk off after my mates.

We go to the kebab place on dame street and moments later who should walk in but the two of them. She immediately walks over to me and we talk a while before my order is called and i say goodbye again and sit down to eat.

As i'm leaving i notice the two of them sitting down at the side counter (without food) and she has the phone to her ear. She looks up at me as i pass and i throw her a smile and walk out.

The next day one of the lads brought her up and got me to thinking if i should have said/done something more to her or if i did my "duty" and should mind my own business.

I've never met this girl before and all i know about her is the little she told me about her during the three seperate conversations we had. With that in mind my question is should i have done/said something more? As a girl would you have appreciated me doing/saying anything more or at that stage should i just mind my own business? As a lad have you ever been in a similar situation, if so how did you handle it or what would you have done differently?

Thanks!

JackieO

As a girl, her behaviour seems very odd. If she needed help she had every opportunity to ask for it IMO.

Don't be worrying about it too much.

My suspicious mind would suggest they were trying to set you up in some way, but I might be wrong.

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JackieO wrote: »

As a girl, her behaviour seems very odd. If she needed help she had every opportunity to ask for it IMO.

Agree with you there. If she had asked for help and the guy had got annoyed, well it was you and your mates against him....so she wouldnt have got hurt. She just seems a bit odd from what you said!

Futurecrook

You did what you could. If there was something wrong she had the opportunity to tell you.

A similar thing happened me in Temple Bar once. Standing around chatting outside Dorans and moved over to sit down on step so those of us in heels could have a rest. Some random girl comes over to sit beside me on the step and proceeds to tell me how drunk she is and asking me if I know how to get to such and such a place coz thats where the apartment shes staying in is. So I point her in the direction of Dame Street and tell her to hop in a taxi and tell the taxi driver the address she just told me and checked that she had money. (Beyond the call of duty in itself but she was really drunk so I felt sorry for her.) So were about to go off on our merry way when I look back and some guy has sat down beside her on the step and is clearly trying it on with her. So I went back and not even knowing the girls name said "Kylie come on were leaving now, its time to go home. Do you know this guy?" to which she says no and the bloke replies "f*** off". She doesnt make any effort to move so I said to her "are you alright?" even though she clearly wasnt as she had just told me she was too drunk to get herself home, to which she replied "ah yea, this guys gonna bring me home..." She was adament that she didnt want to come with us so there was nothing else I could do and I just had to leave her there. Theres only so much you can help someone.

PurplePrincess

It seems really odd to be honest. As others have said she had every opportunity to ask you for help if she needed it. Was she drunk?
The fact that the two of them kept turning up where you were strikes me as odd and would make me suspicious that they were setting you up for something baad.

Daithi McGee

Sounds like you should have put a bid in :eek:

1st situation, it doesn't sound like there is anything amiss.

Futurecrooks story, I would have have had to have been bodily removed by the boys in blue from that situation.

BKtje

Spoke to another of the lads last night who was there and apparently he asked her as well. After discussing it for a while we agreed there was nothing else we could have done and (as was said here) she had plenty of opportunity to ask for help if needed. She was drunk but not hammered iirc. About as drunk as i was i guess.

The guy i spoke to last night said he even offered to put her in a taxi but she said she didn't trust taxi drivers or when he suggested she go back to the bouncers outside the place we just left she said she didn't trust bouncers either.

The fact that the two of them kept turning up where you were strikes me as odd and would make me suspicious that they were setting you up for something baad.

Well if that was the case she played the part of the lost country girl in Dublin very well and is definaltely wasting her talents for acting in UCD Maybe she liked the attention from us or something.

Cheers for the comments folks, not gonna worry about it anymore

Redpunto

Sounds like she mightnt have been all there if ya know what I mean, you did what you could and fair deuce for trying to help her.

BKtje

aye true it doesn't but she didn't seem weird or crazy when i was talking to her. Just your average student.

Ah well.

SW81

I think we've all (guys and girls) been in a situation like that and wonder about them after but you tried your best OP, what more can you do I guess.