Sex With Best Friend's Partner

Wurly

Just watching a programme on TV here and it put a thought into my head...

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

Also, I wonder which sex is the most dishonest here. Men tend to have a bad reputation with stuff like this more so than women.. But are us wimmenz just as bad?

So, would you?

pablomakaveli

If it was a good friend i wouldnt. i like to think im a loyal friend.

Id rather do it to someone i hate. id ride their girlfriend really hard as well just to really feel satisfied about it afterwards.

Caoimhín

No.

I have more respect for my friends and their partners.

Dancor

Tri wrote: »

But are us wimmenz just as bad?

Your a woman?

tribulus

pablomakaveli wrote: »

If it was a good friend i wouldnt. i like to think im a loyal friend.

Id rather do it to someone i hate. id ride their girlfriend really hard as well just to really feel satisfied about it afterwards.

Lol

Wouldn't and couldn't do it to a mate.

Wurly

dancor wrote: »

Your a woman?

Yeah. Damn it!! I simply MUST change my avatar.:pac::pac:

KnifeWRENCH

What he doesn't know won't hurt him

Hypothetically I'd say yes, but in reality there's a chance I'd bottle it due to the guilt.

elmolesto

No, I respect my friends.

Lafortezza

Bros before hoes!

Wurly

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

Nice quote.... (not)!

Really? REALLY?:pac:

You're p1ssed, she's p1ssed... Looking tasty... In a room alone... no one would come in.... one night thing.... will never speak about it again.... she starts to kiss you.... No?

Very admirable.

/laughs at the lies. ha ha

arybvtcw0eolkf

No, not a chance.

I don't even see my mates girlfriends and wives as sex things.

brianthebard

Ive never had a male friend i'd consider a best friend,but there were some guys i knew with gf's they didn't deserve-given the chance i'd ride her gee raw,tell him about it and steal his bike for my getaway!It would totally work.

Mairt

Mairt wrote: »

No, not a chance.

I don't even see my mates girlfriends and wives as sex things.

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

brianthebard

Moonbaby wrote: »

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

objects on the street.

TPD

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

So you'd do him before you'd do his girl?

arybvtcw0eolkf

Moonbaby wrote: »

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

Sry didn't mean it to sound cold like that, but I'm up to my eye's doing stuff.

I just wouldn't contemplate being with a mates partner, its really that simple.

longshanks

i'd like to think i wouldn't, y'know have the balls to just walk away. but i've never been in the situation where i was really into a mates missus.
the other side of it is a lot of my mates wives/girlfriends are really good mates to me as well and its handy to have them around for the female perspective on things.
anyway its like what mairt said, i dont really see them in that light. most of the time

Mairt

Mairt wrote: »

Sry didn't mean it to sound cold like that, but I'm up to my eye's doing stuff.

I just wouldn't contemplate being with a mates partner, its really that simple.

I know what you mean anyways. I can't look at friends, their fella's, or even their brothers in that light.

Wurly

The 9 men that said yes are being awfully quiet...:D

antodeco

I defo would. If shes hot, why not? Saying that, I have very few true friends, possibly as a result of the previous sentence

tribulus

I would echo what Mairt said, it just doesn't enter my head. Sure I could think they're attractive but imo there's a big difference between that and being willing to shag them if you thought you'd get away with it.

Jay P

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

+1!

I never would. I like my friends and would feel really bad about doing it.

Wibbs

Nope. Never gonna happen. I know of two guys in my life that have crossed that line. I know way more women that have though. Maybe it's just the ones I know.

Wurly

Wibbs wrote: »

I know way more women that have though. Maybe it's just the ones I know.

Really? Well that certainly dispels the myth then that men are worse in this type of situation than women. Just goes to show.

krpc

Nope, never would. Would have no problem doing it to someone I hated though. I'm clearly a man of principle

Call Me Jimmy

If they were hot and there was an opportunity I can't say I definately wouldn't. Luckily that situation prooobably won't ever arise...

Wibbs

I dunno. As I say that's just the men and women I know and have known. My male mates would be more loyal to each other, especially when it comes to this stuff.. My female mates would be very loyal to me, but to their women friends, I'm not so sure.

Again this would be my circle but the blokes tend to have more stable long term friendships than the women. The women wouldn't have friendships as long as the guys would. In fact of my women friends I would defo be the longest friend they had.

Again maybe it's just the women I've known (and picked), but with many girlfriends in the past, an awfully high amount of their "friends" have made some uncomfortable advance or other. Either that or if they figure I'm taking their friend away (or they simply don't like me) they'll make sure the girlfriend knows about it or will try to make a play to "prove" I can't be trusted or somesuch.

IMHO women are more fluid when it comes to friendships over time and they're more or differently competitive when it comes to romance.

SV

Best friend? not a hope..all others..yes indeedy.

Wurly

ClioV6 wrote: »

Best friend? not a hope..all others..yes indeedy.

Why would you sleep with someone, knowing their attached though? Would you like this done on you?

I personally don't get this. If I was being chatted up by a guy and he mentioned that he was attached or married - he'd lose his appeal immediately.

GirlInterrupted

Moonbaby wrote: »

I know what you mean anyways. I can't look at friends, their fella's, or even their brothers in that light.

...I can look at their brothers no problem .

In answer to the original question, its never acceptable, it always unforgivable.

SV

Tri wrote: »

Why would you sleep with someone, knowing their attached though? Would you like this done on you?

I personally don't get this. If I was being chatted up by a guy and he mentioned that he was attached or married - he'd lose his appeal immediately.

Wouldn't like it done on me though, but from past experience all women do it anyway so I might as well get some benefit out of it.

Wurly

ClioV6 wrote: »

Wouldn't like it done on me though, but from past experience all women do it anyway so I might as well get some benefit out of it.

Not me. Wow - I AM one in a million! :pac::pac:

SV

Tri wrote: »

Not me. Wow - I AM one in a million! :pac::pac:

must be

psycho8itch

They're hardly your best friend if you could possibly do that then are they?

dlofnep

Nah, the guilt would be overwhelming. Wouldn't be worth it.

MagicMarker

Nope.

pseudonym1

No way - somethings adults just shouldn t do!

But there are always accenuating circumstances ... he is ultra sexy attractive and as near as perfect imaginable genuine attraction - she is in a coma!

Dudess

No way - not even if there was a cast-iron guarantee I wouldn't get caught. It's not about that anyway, it's about betraying your friend. I couldn't live with myself - imagine the guilt.

Holsten

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

Deffo!

humbert

Na, generally I've no problem getting with a girl that's attached, her choice. But a girl that would hit on one of her boyfriend's best friends I'd find a bit icky.

Oh, and loyalty and all that sort of stuff too, ahem.

Sparky

The guilt would get to me!
I couldnt stand to be in the presence of a best friend knowing I done that to them

I dunno.....if she said she'd clean my room & make me dinner after it I would have to think long & hard about it

RugbyFanatic

I think a lot of the people saying yes are the people who rarely get an opportunity to have sex.

I mean ffs its your best mates girlfriend this city is full of other attractive women are you that pathetic that you can't walk away and go for another girl?

Delirium

No.
Wouldn't betray a friend like that.

thelordofcheese

ITT: everyone lies.

randylonghorn

Tri wrote: »

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

No bloody way! Now, if they invited me along for the ride ... :pac:

Seriously, though, doing the dirt on a mate like that is the lowest of the low. I have a bit more respect for my friends and, even more importantly, for myself!

TPD wrote: »

So you'd do him before you'd do his girl?

Give this man a cigar!

JangoFett

Tri wrote: »

Just watching a programme on TV here and it put a thought into my head...

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

Also, I wonder which sex is the most dishonest here. Men tend to have a bad reputation with stuff like this more so than women.. But are us wimmenz just as bad?

So, would you?

I wouldn't cuz it'd ruin your friendship, you'd be paranoid of them finding out all the time!

Aodan83

Not a chance. I'd feel way too guilty. I'd get really paranoid. Could get really awkward with the gf too. And she'd probably blackmail me.

LolaLuv

I absolutely would not. If someone lets you into their life enough for you to consider them a best friend, then it is an egregious violation of trust and vulnerability to do that to them. It's just a scummy thing to do.

The being said, if my bff were with Ralph Fiennes I think all bets would be off. But that's the only exception.

Dave!

My mate's mot is gorgeous, but no I wouldn't do it. Just not worth it for a shag.

Pen1987

if there was no chance of you ever having sex with anyone else or of your friend finding out about it EVERYONE would, its a fact. There was a social experiment done on something similar... basically alot of people would hold out for three weeks then think '**** it'... but everyone would.


So basically it depends on the chances of you having sex with someone else in the future.