Sex With Best Friend's Partner

Wurly · 21-09-2008 12:33pm #1

Just watching a programme on TV here and it put a thought into my head...

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

Also, I wonder which sex is the most dishonest here. Men tend to have a bad reputation with stuff like this more so than women.. But are us wimmenz just as bad?

So, would you?

pablomakaveli · 21-09-2008 12:37pm

If it was a good friend i wouldnt. i like to think im a loyal friend.

Id rather do it to someone i hate. id ride their girlfriend really hard as well just to really feel satisfied about it afterwards.

Caoimhín · 21-09-2008 12:38pm

No.

I have more respect for my friends and their partners.

Dancor · 21-09-2008 12:39pm

Tri wrote: »

But are us wimmenz just as bad?

Your a woman?

tribulus · 21-09-2008 12:40pm

pablomakaveli wrote: »

If it was a good friend i wouldnt. i like to think im a loyal friend.

Id rather do it to someone i hate. id ride their girlfriend really hard as well just to really feel satisfied about it afterwards.

Lol

Wouldn't and couldn't do it to a mate.

Wurly · 21-09-2008 12:41pm

dancor wrote: »

Your a woman?

Yeah. Damn it!! I simply MUST change my avatar.:pac::pac:

KnifeWRENCH · 21-09-2008 12:41pm

What he doesn't know won't hurt him

Hypothetically I'd say yes, but in reality there's a chance I'd bottle it due to the guilt.

elmolesto · 21-09-2008 12:57pm

No, I respect my friends.

Lafortezza · 21-09-2008 1:10pm

Bros before hoes!

Wurly · 21-09-2008 1:15pm

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

Nice quote.... (not)!

Really? REALLY?:pac:

You're p1ssed, she's p1ssed... Looking tasty... In a room alone... no one would come in.... one night thing.... will never speak about it again.... she starts to kiss you.... No?

Very admirable.

/laughs at the lies. ha ha

arybvtcw0eolkf · 21-09-2008 1:22pm

No, not a chance.

I don't even see my mates girlfriends and wives as sex things.

brianthebard · 21-09-2008 1:25pm

Ive never had a male friend i'd consider a best friend,but there were some guys i knew with gf's they didn't deserve-given the chance i'd ride her gee raw,tell him about it and steal his bike for my getaway!It would totally work.

21-09-2008 1:26pm

Mairt wrote: »

No, not a chance.

I don't even see my mates girlfriends and wives as sex things.

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

brianthebard · 21-09-2008 1:28pm

Moonbaby wrote: »

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

objects on the street.

TPD · 21-09-2008 1:29pm

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

So you'd do him before you'd do his girl?

arybvtcw0eolkf · 21-09-2008 1:30pm

Moonbaby wrote: »

Who/What do you see as "sex things"?

Sry didn't mean it to sound cold like that, but I'm up to my eye's doing stuff.

I just wouldn't contemplate being with a mates partner, its really that simple.

longshanks · 21-09-2008 1:36pm

i'd like to think i wouldn't, y'know have the balls to just walk away. but i've never been in the situation where i was really into a mates missus.
the other side of it is a lot of my mates wives/girlfriends are really good mates to me as well and its handy to have them around for the female perspective on things.
anyway its like what mairt said, i dont really see them in that light. most of the time

21-09-2008 1:37pm

Mairt wrote: »

Sry didn't mean it to sound cold like that, but I'm up to my eye's doing stuff.

I just wouldn't contemplate being with a mates partner, its really that simple.

I know what you mean anyways. I can't look at friends, their fella's, or even their brothers in that light.

Wurly · 21-09-2008 1:39pm

The 9 men that said yes are being awfully quiet...:D

antodeco · 21-09-2008 1:46pm

I defo would. If shes hot, why not? Saying that, I have very few true friends, possibly as a result of the previous sentence

tribulus · 21-09-2008 2:00pm

I would echo what Mairt said, it just doesn't enter my head. Sure I could think they're attractive but imo there's a big difference between that and being willing to shag them if you thought you'd get away with it.

Jay P · 21-09-2008 2:07pm

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

+1!

I never would. I like my friends and would feel really bad about doing it.

Wibbs · 21-09-2008 2:17pm

Nope. Never gonna happen. I know of two guys in my life that have crossed that line. I know way more women that have though. Maybe it's just the ones I know.

Wurly · 21-09-2008 2:19pm

Wibbs wrote: »

I know way more women that have though. Maybe it's just the ones I know.

Really? Well that certainly dispels the myth then that men are worse in this type of situation than women. Just goes to show.

krpc · 21-09-2008 2:47pm

Nope, never would. Would have no problem doing it to someone I hated though. I'm clearly a man of principle

Call Me Jimmy · 21-09-2008 2:52pm

If they were hot and there was an opportunity I can't say I definately wouldn't. Luckily that situation prooobably won't ever arise...

Wibbs · 21-09-2008 2:57pm

I dunno. As I say that's just the men and women I know and have known. My male mates would be more loyal to each other, especially when it comes to this stuff.. My female mates would be very loyal to me, but to their women friends, I'm not so sure.

Again this would be my circle but the blokes tend to have more stable long term friendships than the women. The women wouldn't have friendships as long as the guys would. In fact of my women friends I would defo be the longest friend they had.

Again maybe it's just the women I've known (and picked), but with many girlfriends in the past, an awfully high amount of their "friends" have made some uncomfortable advance or other. Either that or if they figure I'm taking their friend away (or they simply don't like me) they'll make sure the girlfriend knows about it or will try to make a play to "prove" I can't be trusted or somesuch.

IMHO women are more fluid when it comes to friendships over time and they're more or differently competitive when it comes to romance.

SV · 21-09-2008 3:28pm

Best friend? not a hope..all others..yes indeedy.

Wurly · 21-09-2008 3:31pm

ClioV6 wrote: »

Best friend? not a hope..all others..yes indeedy.

Why would you sleep with someone, knowing their attached though? Would you like this done on you?

I personally don't get this. If I was being chatted up by a guy and he mentioned that he was attached or married - he'd lose his appeal immediately.

GirlInterrupted · 21-09-2008 3:45pm

Moonbaby wrote: »

I know what you mean anyways. I can't look at friends, their fella's, or even their brothers in that light.

...I can look at their brothers no problem

.

In answer to the original question, its never acceptable, it always unforgivable.

SV · 21-09-2008 3:50pm

Tri wrote: »

Why would you sleep with someone, knowing their attached though? Would you like this done on you?

I personally don't get this. If I was being chatted up by a guy and he mentioned that he was attached or married - he'd lose his appeal immediately.

Wouldn't like it done on me though, but from past experience all women do it anyway so I might as well get some benefit out of it.

Wurly · 21-09-2008 3:52pm

ClioV6 wrote: »

Wouldn't like it done on me though, but from past experience all women do it anyway so I might as well get some benefit out of it.

Not me. Wow - I AM one in a million! :pac::pac:

SV · 21-09-2008 3:53pm

Tri wrote: »

Not me. Wow - I AM one in a million! :pac::pac:

must be

psycho8itch · 21-09-2008 4:23pm

They're hardly your best friend if you could possibly do that then are they?

dlofnep · 21-09-2008 4:24pm

Nah, the guilt would be overwhelming. Wouldn't be worth it.

MagicMarker · 21-09-2008 4:26pm

Nope.

pseudonym1 · 21-09-2008 4:38pm

No way - somethings adults just shouldn t do!

But there are always accenuating circumstances ... he is ultra sexy attractive and as near as perfect imaginable genuine attraction - she is in a coma!

Dudess · 21-09-2008 4:41pm

No way - not even if there was a cast-iron guarantee I wouldn't get caught. It's not about that anyway, it's about betraying your friend. I couldn't live with myself - imagine the guilt.

Holsten · 21-09-2008 4:53pm

lafortezza wrote: »

Bros before hoes!

Deffo!

humbert · 21-09-2008 5:00pm

Na, generally I've no problem getting with a girl that's attached, her choice. But a girl that would hit on one of her boyfriend's best friends I'd find a bit icky.

Oh, and loyalty and all that sort of stuff too, ahem.

Sparky · 21-09-2008 5:09pm

The guilt would get to me!
I couldnt stand to be in the presence of a best friend knowing I done that to them

21-09-2008 5:14pm

I dunno.....if she said she'd clean my room & make me dinner after it I would have to think long & hard about it

RugbyFanatic · 21-09-2008 5:20pm

I think a lot of the people saying yes are the people who rarely get an opportunity to have sex.

I mean ffs its your best mates girlfriend this city is full of other attractive women are you that pathetic that you can't walk away and go for another girl?

Delirium · 21-09-2008 5:50pm

No.
Wouldn't betray a friend like that.

thelordofcheese · 21-09-2008 7:31pm

ITT: everyone lies.

randylonghorn · 21-09-2008 8:14pm

Tri wrote: »

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

No bloody way! Now, if they invited me along for the ride ... :pac:

Seriously, though, doing the dirt on a mate like that is the lowest of the low. I have a bit more respect for my friends and, even more importantly, for myself!

TPD wrote: »

So you'd do him before you'd do his girl?

Give this man a cigar!

JangoFett · 21-09-2008 8:52pm

Tri wrote: »

Just watching a programme on TV here and it put a thought into my head...

If your best friend was going out with someone that you fancied the pants off, would you sleep with them if there was no way of your friend finding out?

Also, I wonder which sex is the most dishonest here. Men tend to have a bad reputation with stuff like this more so than women.. But are us wimmenz just as bad?

So, would you?

I wouldn't cuz it'd ruin your friendship, you'd be paranoid of them finding out all the time!

Aodan83 · 21-09-2008 8:58pm

Not a chance. I'd feel way too guilty. I'd get really paranoid. Could get really awkward with the gf too. And she'd probably blackmail me.

LolaLuv · 21-09-2008 8:59pm

I absolutely would not. If someone lets you into their life enough for you to consider them a best friend, then it is an egregious violation of trust and vulnerability to do that to them. It's just a scummy thing to do.

The being said, if my bff were with Ralph Fiennes I think all bets would be off. But that's the only exception.

Dave! · 21-09-2008 9:00pm

My mate's mot is gorgeous, but no I wouldn't do it. Just not worth it for a shag.

Pen1987 · 21-09-2008 10:02pm

if there was no chance of you ever having sex with anyone else or of your friend finding out about it EVERYONE would, its a fact. There was a social experiment done on something similar... basically alot of people would hold out for three weeks then think '**** it'... but everyone would.

So basically it depends on the chances of you having sex with someone else in the future.

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