Uncontrollable hard on

animan · 08-09-2008 7:56pm #1

Ok I'm 15 and there's hormones and stuff going on but it only really happens when I'm around my girlfriend. I suppose my question is for the women here. If you noticed your boyfriend had a hard on when you were 16 would you be freaked out/care?

Thanks.

challengemaster · 08-09-2008 7:57pm

Congrats, you're male.

Most females would find it as a compliment.

Toots · 08-09-2008 8:01pm

I agree!

Just don't go pointing it in her face or anything! (Unless she asks :P)
Nah, most girls I know would have taken that as a sign that you found her attractive and would be flattered.

animan · 08-09-2008 8:05pm

Toots85 wrote: »

I agree!

Just don't go pointing it in her face or anything! (Unless she asks :P)
Nah, most girls I know would have taken that as a sign that you found her attractive and would be flattered.

Ok. Thanks. I was a bit worried about it. Like when I'm kissing her I'm like 'oh god please not now.'

Marksie · 08-09-2008 8:11pm

animan wrote: »

Ok. Thanks. I was a bit worried about it. Like when I'm kissing her I'm like 'oh god please not now.'

Animan: dont get into that thinking, you are going to store up an issue there for later..when it *may* be important.

Its a natural reaction always remember that. That is what is meant to happen when you find someone sexually attractive.

challengemaster · 08-09-2008 8:12pm

Just enjoy it.. It means you're perfectally normal. Don't think about anything else.. just go with it..

If she notices.. well, I'm sure you'll see what way that goes when it happens

(keep a condom or two in your wallet or something - never hurts to be prepared incase..)

animan · 08-09-2008 8:15pm

challengemaster wrote: »

(keep a condom or two in your wallet or something - never hurts to be prepared incase..)

My dad bought me a box 'just incase' and trust me I wont need them for a while.

challengemaster · 08-09-2008 8:21pm

animan wrote: »

My dad bought me a box 'just incase' and trust me I wont need them for a while.

Fair play to him! And lucky you that you've a dad like that..

Cuddlesworth · 08-09-2008 8:24pm

Its the opposite that's the real problem.

animan · 08-09-2008 8:25pm

challengemaster wrote: »

Fair play to him! And lucky you that you've a dad like that..

It was unbelievably embarrasing.

challengemaster · 08-09-2008 8:34pm

animan wrote: »

It was unbelievably embarrasing.

You'll be grateful later!

animan · 08-09-2008 8:39pm

challengemaster wrote: »

You'll be grateful later!

Not anytime soon with this girl. I was her first kiss. I really like her though as you can probably tell from my 'problem.'

Dardania · 08-09-2008 8:40pm

animan wrote: »

It was unbelievably embarrasing.

that situation is no matter what at that age...although now (I'm 23) we can joke about that whole topic naturally...good to have that now

Did he give you "the talk" whilst driving? ideal way to talk without the shameful eye-contact ;-)

Enjoy it all!

animan · 08-09-2008 8:45pm

Dardania wrote: »

that situation is no matter what at that age...although now (I'm 23) we can joke about that whole topic naturally...good to have that now

Did he give you "the talk" whilst driving? ideal way to talk without the shameful eye-contact ;-)

Enjoy it all!

He actually gave me the box and said 'I know you're probably having sex and I'm not happy about it but at least use these and don't get anyone pregnant.'
And that was my 'talk'

sam34 · 08-09-2008 8:46pm

i remember years ago when i was 12 or 13 i asked my mother what condoms were... i genuinely didnt know (v innocent!) i knew they had *something* to do with sex, but thats all i knew. and tbh my grasp of what sex was was pretty basic also...

anyway, i'll always remember the answer i got from my (prudish, catholic)) mother-
"condoms are something the daddy wears when he and the mammy are trying to make a baby so that the baby cant be made"

clear as mud!!

op- you ahve nothing to worry about. your body is doing what it is supposed to do. enjoy it!

Piste · 08-09-2008 9:03pm

Have sex with her, that will get rid of it pretty sharpish!

Also if she realises you have a hardon it might prompt her to take the initiative.

animan · 08-09-2008 9:09pm

Piste wrote: »

Have sex with her, that will get rid of it pretty sharpish!

Also if she realises you have a hardon it might prompt her to take the initiative.

Trust me that's not going to happen soon. Like I said I was her first kiss and she's 16.

Piste · 08-09-2008 9:14pm

...So? Have you even tried asking her nicely or did she make it clear from the start that nothing but kissing was going to happen?

mikemac · 08-09-2008 9:18pm

Waiting until she is 17?
Age of consent and all that?

Dardania · 08-09-2008 9:20pm

Piste wrote: »

Have sex with her, that will get rid of it pretty sharpish!

Also if she realises you have a hardon it might prompt her to take the initiative.

Piste wrote: »

...So? Have you even tried asking her nicely or did she make it clear from the start that nothing but kissing was going to happen?

Whoa there - there's one thing being physically ready but being emotionally ready is completely different...

zoos · 08-09-2008 9:20pm

god dont pressurise the guy.:eek:
I'm sure he'll do it when he and his girlfriend is ready.

Marksie · 08-09-2008 9:22pm

Piste: Read the thread and respond accordingly don't drag it further off topic.

animan · 08-09-2008 9:28pm

Piste wrote: »

...So? Have you even tried asking her nicely or did she make it clear from the start that nothing but kissing was going to happen?

Tbh no I haven't asked her that. But I do know that she isn't "broken in"

So basicaly having a hard on around your gf is normal and she wont be freaked out.

Ok next problem. My hands are always cold and that could cause some problems.

Phototoxin · 08-09-2008 9:28pm

Most females would find it as a compliment.

as i say to my GF 'I'd be worried if it didn't happen' (coz shes HOT!)

animan · 08-09-2008 9:34pm

Phototoxin wrote: »

as i say to my GF 'I'd be worried if it didn't happen' (coz shes HOT!)

I'll try that one if she notices.

Agent Smith · 08-09-2008 9:34pm

challengemaster wrote: »

(keep a condom or two in your wallet or something - never hurts to be prepared incase..)

Never store condoms in your wallet or glove compartment. Heat can damage condoms. Carrying a condom in a hip-style wallet for long periods shortens the shelf life.

if you keep a shoulder bag/backpack. its a Much better place.

animan · 08-09-2008 9:35pm

Agent Smith wrote: »

if you keep a shoulder bag/backpack. its a Much better place.

Ok will do.

Piste · 08-09-2008 9:39pm

Dardania wrote: »

Whoa there - there's one thing being physically ready but being emotionally ready is completely different...

I know, I was only trying to get him to think about various possibilities of how he could deal with it.

micmclo wrote: »

Waiting until she is 17?
Age of consent and all that?

Forgot about that actually >.< good point

zoos wrote: »

god dont pressurise the guy.:eek:
I'm sure he'll do it when he and his girlfriend is ready.

Aw I'm not trying to put any pressure on him, just getting him to look at his options.

animan wrote: »

Tbh no I haven't asked her that. But I do know that she isn't "broken in"

So basicaly having a hard on around your gf is normal and she wont be freaked out.

Ok next problem. My hands are always cold and that could cause some problems.

Ok so sex is off the cards for now. Now do you want to hide the hardon or do you mind her knowing? If she's a bit shy about sex she might be a little weirded out by it, so if she notices just assure her it's because you find her attractive.

animan · 08-09-2008 9:44pm

Piste wrote: »

Ok so sex is off the cards for now. Now do you want to hide the hardon or do you mind her knowing? If she's a bit shy about sex she might be a little weirded out by it, so if she notices just assure her it's because you find her attractive.

I don't think she's shy about it like I can joke about it and all it's just I wouldn't think she's ready but who knows I might be pleasantly surprised. Well I don't mind her knowing it's just I'm worried about her being wierded out as you said.

Agent Smith · 08-09-2008 9:45pm

animan wrote: »

Tbh no I haven't asked her that. But I do know that she isn't "broken in"

So basicaly having a hard on around your gf is normal and she wont be freaked out.

she probable has noticed by now. Just relax, and Things will happen in good time. dont let it bother you too much. if she hasnt said anything, i wouldnt worry too much about it. if you had an erection 24/7. i'd go to see a doctor if i were you. but for you to have an erection, in mid-puberty, when kissing your girlfriend, its normal. serriously.

animan wrote: »

Ok next problem. My hands are always cold and that could cause some problems.

wear gloves?

Dardania · 08-09-2008 9:54pm

animan wrote: »

I don't think she's shy about it like I can joke about it and all it's just I wouldn't think she's ready but who knows I might be pleasantly surprised. Well I don't mind her knowing it's just I'm worried about her being wierded out as you said.

Well that sounds positive...but just ask yourself - whatever about her being ready or not, would you be ready? It's okay not to be... and there are ALOT of fun things up to sex that you can explore with your gf to look forward to! One bit of advice...talk to her about this stuff...and respect her if you guys are exploring

Victor · 08-09-2008 9:55pm

Also - if you expect to be in such a situation, make sure you aren't entangled in your boxers. :eek:

Dardania · 08-09-2008 9:57pm

Victor wrote: »

Also - if you expect to be in such a situation, make sure you aren't entangled in your boxers. :eek:

top gear top tip: go commando!

button flys can be the work of the devil at times...

animan · 08-09-2008 9:57pm

Dardania wrote: »

Well that sounds positive...but just ask yourself - whatever about her being ready or not, would you be ready? It's okay not to be... and there are ALOT of fun things up to sex that you can explore with your gf to look forward to! One bit of advice...talk to her about this stuff...and respect her if you guys are exploring

Tbh yeah I think I would be ready. And I'm willing to go only as far as she wants.

Also I'd be more worried about getting caught in my zip if I was in that situation.

Toots · 08-09-2008 10:09pm

animan wrote: »

Tbh yeah I think I would be ready. And I'm willing to go only as far as she wants.

Also I'd be more worried about getting caught in my zip if I was in that situation.

:eek::(:(:eek:

That's where boxers are your friend

Honestly, I think that might only happen if you're trying to zip up with a boner, but I'm open to correction on this. TBH, if you start worrying about all the things that can go wrong you'll just get really nervous. If the situation arises (no pun intended) just relax, and enjoy! In all likelihood she'll be as nervous as you, so if there are any little mishaps, don't dwell on it, just move on

animan · 08-09-2008 10:12pm

Toots85 wrote: »

:eek::(:(:eek:

That's where boxers are your friend Honestly, I think that might only happen if you're trying to zip up with a boner, but I'm open to correction on this. TBH, if you start worrying about all the things that can go wrong you'll just get really nervous. If the situation arises (no pun intended) just relax, and enjoy! In all likelihood she'll be as nervous as you, so if there are any little mishaps, don't dwell on it, just move on

Judging by how nervous she was about kissing she will be more nervous than me. As long as I don't get anyone pregnant I'll be happy.

mad m · 08-09-2008 10:19pm

Hard on,used to get them just as I was getting on or off the bus....Oh the memories....

Ode to be young again....Take your time OP and enjoy it...

I was in Lidl one night with my kids (11,8) at the time spotted condoms on the shelf....My son said "Hey dad (really loudly) whats COMBOMS" exit stage left...

Haha......

Oh btw,remember parents can just be as embarressed when talking to kids about the birds&bees......

cuckoo · 08-09-2008 10:31pm

OP, if your girlf is nervous about kissing it's actually quite likely that she hasn't noticed that you have an erection - she's probable focused on her own feelings, the 'am i doing this right?' thoughts, etc.

Seriously, unless you are lying on top of her she probably hasn't noticed.

Relax, have fun spending time together - and don't feel you should be rushing into anything further. Have fun, be considerate of each others feelings and keep the lines of communication open. Tbh, if you don't feel comfortable yet asking her if she has noticed your erection, then sex is something you probably shouldn't be considering with each other just yet.

But, you don't need to let those condoms your Dad gave you go to waste - a bit of solo practice in opening the packs and getting used to putting them on and off is a good idea.

animan · 08-09-2008 10:37pm

cuckoo wrote: »

Relax, have fun spending time together - and don't feel you should be rushing into anything further. Have fun, be considerate of each others feelings and keep the lines of communication open. Tbh, if you don't feel comfortable yet asking her if she has noticed your erection, then sex is something you probably shouldn't be considering with each other just yet.

But, you don't need to let those condoms your Dad gave you go to waste - a bit of solo practice in opening the packs and getting used to putting them on and off is a good idea.

I'm willing to go at her pace as she's the first girl I've really liked. And as for the solo practice I'll give it a try. Might be a bit embarrasing if I couldn't get one open/on.

Toots · 08-09-2008 10:38pm

animan wrote: »

Judging by how nervous she was about kissing she will be more nervous than me. As long as I don't get anyone pregnant I'll be happy.

One step at a time!! Condoms are your friend! If you start putting one on and make a mistake (put it on inside out etc), or if it comes off at any point during the proceedings, throw it out and put a new one on. If you're going to see her and you feel sex is a possibility, bring a couple of condoms just in case. They can be tricky at first. Cuckoo had a good suggestion of practicing putting one on yourself. Have a read of the instruction leaflet. You might feel a bit silly doing it but that's what it's there for!! TBH, I still have trouble opening the damn things! If you can't get one open, try another one. Don't use your teeth, cos you can damage the condom.

Also if you're touching yourself, don't touch her down there without washing your hands (even if you don't cum, pre cum can contain enough sperm to do the job). And vice versa, if she touches you, don't let her touch herself without washing her hands. It might seem unlikely/very unlucky, but a penis isn't the only thing that can put semen/sperm into a girl's vagina.

animan · 08-09-2008 10:53pm

Ok guys most of this probably isn't even on the cards yet but thanks.

Peleus · 08-09-2008 11:04pm

Piste wrote: »

...So? Have you even tried asking her nicely or did she make it clear from the start that nothing but kissing was going to happen?

woooa... theres sex and then there's statutory rape

randylonghorn · 09-09-2008 12:24am

animan wrote: »

So basicaly having a hard on around your gf is normal and she wont be freaked out.

Dude, it still happens me and I'm a bit past 16. Can't say any girl has ever been any more weirded out than maybe going slightly red.

And consider yourself lucky if it only really happens to you around her. I spent most of my last 3 years in secondary school walking around with my jacket / bag held in front of me!! :rolleyes:

animan wrote: »

My hands are always cold and that could cause some problems.

Well, normally I'd suggest just sticking them between your thighs to warm up ... but in this case, maybe under your armpits ?

Victor wrote: »

Also - if you expect to be in such a situation, make sure you aren't entangled in your boxers. :eek:

SOMEONE has bad memories .................. >_>

animan wrote: »

And as for the solo practice I'll give it a try. Might be a bit embarrasing if I couldn't get one open/on.

Would be very embarassing!!

And while "the chat" / condoms gift may have been embarassing dude, still fair play to your Da!!

kmart6 · 09-09-2008 12:58am

randylonghorn wrote: »

Dude, it still happens me and I'm a bit past 16.

Your user name has made all of us aware of that!!!:cool:

SnowMonkey · 09-09-2008 1:45am

hey man im 26 and i get it when i kiss a girl

.........

and when i was a little ant all i had to do was look at a woman cheast and boing:o lol that was the way i was...

so dont worry about it .....

Cinful · 09-09-2008 2:26am

You're normal. Enjoy!

girl_friday · 09-09-2008 7:14am

Peleus wrote: »

woooa... theres sex and then there's statutory rape

Please do remember that the age of consent in ireland is 17 for both males and females... Don't rush into things!!

not yet · 09-09-2008 7:26am

Piste wrote: »

Have sex with her, that will get rid of it pretty sharpish!

Also if she realises you have a hardon it might prompt her to take the initiative.

Are you for fcuking real...............What kind of advice is that knowing that the girl is maybe 15-16. what a stupid, moronic fcuking thing to say.

JOL · 09-09-2008 7:43am

The solution lies in your own hands my good man.

When the evil one eye starts to look up, grab him by the neck with one of your cold hands, the coldness will shrink him back down to size pretty quickly.

This hand will warm up and you can use to pet your girlfriend.

rotate hands with mr one eye to keep him cool and your hands warm. Ditto.

Ensure one eye is clean at all times.

BTW: You are a normal teenage boy/man, enjoy every minute, and don't feel pressurised to have sex, the stuff that happens before the intercourse can be as much fun as the doing the business.

Victor · 09-09-2008 7:53am

not yet - Chill out.

not yet wrote: »

What kind of advice is that

The type of advice that might come from a teenager?

not yet · 09-09-2008 7:57am

Victor wrote: »

not yet - Chill out.

The type of advice that might come from a teenager?

True..............

Uncontrollable hard on

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