Need some help from the laydees!

Dave147

Morning ladies, I require some help from you! Got back from America yesterday and was out last night, plucked up the courage to ask out a girl that works in an establishment I frequent, we were already friends and I had her number so decided to take the plunge.

She was really happy to see me and didn't hide the fact, unfortunately her boss was around so she told me she couldn't 'talk' so I told her I'd text her later, we flirted away for another while and then I went home.

Texted her and asked her out, she replied this morning when she finished and she said she was going out next saturday with her friend for her birthday and she asked me to come along too.. I reckon I'm in unless I completely f*** it up which is why I need your help.

I want to get her something for her birthday, nothing that would declare anything, just something nice that isn't tacky or inappropriate. Any serious suggestions welcome, also if I have been vague about where I stand with her please tell me and I'll clarify it!

Thanks in advance!

Edit: The girl that worked with her kept giving her 'those' looks when there's a guy around the other girl likes, we all know that look! Then when my girl wasn't there the other girl told me I should 'talk' to her..

Ghost Train

flowers maybe

Dave147

Yeah I thought about that but I am meeting her next weekend to go out, so what's she going to do with a bunch of flowers? Unless I bought her a single flower or something. I don't really know what to give her that wouldn't be seen as a big deal. I am mad about her but I don't wanna be bloody scaring her off.

mollybird

a voucher for somewhere she likes to shop or a beauty salon treatment to put in a card??

Chinafoot

You should ask the other girl that works with her. She may be in a good position to advise something that won't be too over the top and that the girl will actually like.

englishe

Hey i think you have the right idea with a single flower - it's just enough to make the right impression, without coming across overly-eager to impress. Then suggest the dinner the following night (sunday). You never know, if you're a proper item by christmas ( not that far away!), you can impress her then!

LolaLuv

Yeah, definitely flowers. If you're unsure how she'll carry them around you could always have them delivered to her. That might be a bit OTT, but she also might really like it.

Jemmy

englishe wrote: »

Hey i think you have the right idea with a single flower - it's just enough to make the right impression, without coming across overly-eager to impress. Then suggest the dinner the following night (sunday). You never know, if you're a proper item by christmas ( not that far away!), you can impress her then!

A single flower is a great idea, says your interested without being to pushy! But maybe when you give her the gift that night whisper maybe i can take you for a birthday dinner during the wk. The next night would be a bit soon. Then asking her friend in work is a good idea she'd know what to get her. Beauty voucher is a bit much in my opinion.

Good luck ket us know how you get on.

Black Swan

Flowers, but not roses.

LolaLuv

Blue_Lagoon wrote: »

Flowers, but not roses.

+1 million! Waaaaay too cheesy, plus they're unimaginative, plus women who do like them (not me, obviously) like to get them from a serious romantic relationship, not a first date sort of thing.

Dave147

Thanks for all the responses, I was going to call into my local flower shop (yes, I have one, way too many debs, mothers days etc!) and ask what she thought.. I don't really fancy the idea of her carrying around flowers for the night!

Birthday card?

Dave147

So date is saturday night, was thinking of a voucher for brown thomas because I know her for so long, some flowers and not sure about a card Haven't a clue what to get to be honest Still need more advice as this is the first date I've cared about for a long long time!!

LolaLuv

Ok, Google said it's a clothing store. I think that's overkill, tbh. Flowers and a card are very sweet and appropriate, you really can't go wrong. But find out what the other women say.

Futurecrook

Dave147 wrote: »

So date is saturday night, was thinking of a voucher for brown thomas because I know her for so long, some flowers and not sure about a card Haven't a clue what to get to be honest Still need more advice as this is the first date I've cared about for a long long time!!

Is she loaded? Coz Brown Thomas is expensive. So unless you know she shops there on a regular basis I'd say avoid avoid avoid. Also, flowers at the start of a night out will just get in the way.

Something small and fun. Like a card and a voucher for a less expensive shop even?

Dave147

No she wouldn't be loaded, if I was meeting her at her place I'd bring flowers, probably meeting her in town so flowers aren't much good.. I was thinking a card and 50e voucher, fifty quid really isn't a big deal these days.. Just don't wanna screw it up tbh, if not BT then where??

Drift

A fifty quid voucher in BT would have as much effect as a fart in a hurricane. I'd suggest somewhere where 50 quid would cover the majority of a purchase. I'm not sure where but I'm sure the ladies will have some suggestions.

Dave147

Lol yeah that's why I'm here I haven't a clue like! Still I'd like to get her a voucher for somewhere nice.. Not river island etc though.

Dave147

Right, I got her a voucher for a spa in town, when I was texting her a few weeks ago she mentioned she was very tired from work, so at least there's a bit of thought put into this. Got 100e voucher as you get **** all for 50.. Hopefully she'll like that anyway

LolaLuv

Let us know how she likes it!

brianthebard

Dave147 wrote: »

No she wouldn't be loaded, if I was meeting her at her place I'd bring flowers, probably meeting her in town so flowers aren't much good.. I was thinking a card and 50e voucher, fifty quid really isn't a big deal these days.. Just don't wanna screw it up tbh, if not BT then where??

If someone handed you fifty quid do you not think it would be a bit much, if you weren't going out with them or didn't know them that long? Stick with a present that can't be easily converted into cash in the head.

Dave147

brianthebard wrote: »

If someone handed you fifty quid do you not think it would be a bit much, if you weren't going out with them or didn't know them that long? Stick with a present that can't be easily converted into cash in the head.

Know her really well, and know her about a year, just happens that it's our first actual 'date'... I thought of an idea and a spa for 50 euro wouldn't really do (you can't get much for it), 100 is good without being ridiculous. There was a time when it was OTT but those days are long gone. One night out nowadays is 100 euro, gotta put things into perspective, she deserves to be treated well and this is no declaration it's just a nice thought I know her enough to know she'll take this for what it is.

LadyE

How about a ticket to somewhere? Something you know she'd like...and get yourself one. Instant date then

LolaLuv

Problem is he's already purchased the gift card!

Dave147

Lol, I also work 60+ hours a week and she only has 1/2 days off a week. Also at least with this spa it is the kind of thing a friend can get someone too, so won't be taken TOO romantic. She knows I care about her and I just want to get her something decent and show her a good time for her birthday Sure I suppose there is no right or wrong gift, must admit though I'm a little nervous :P

bellapip

Ok, thank god you didn't go with the flower idea, it just screams puke, no matter how long you know her.
To be honest I think what you chose is OK, but it gives a value. . .

That is always kind of dangerous territory, but as it's done it's done.
I would suggest that you don't go doing the whole man thing and telling her you were going to get her this, or this, or whatever.

Get a well thought out card, honest to god, women read more into cards then Hallmark could exploit.
The card is your winner.
Hope it goes really well for you, sounds like you like her, and sometimes good things happen to good people.

Enjoy.

Bell:D

LolaLuv

Dave147 wrote: »

Lol, I also work 60+ hours a week and she only has 1/2 days off a week. Also at least with this spa it is the kind of thing a friend can get someone too, so won't be taken TOO romantic. She knows I care about her and I just want to get her something decent and show her a good time for her birthday Sure I suppose there is no right or wrong gift, must admit though I'm a little nervous :P

Here's the bottom line, as far as I can tell from reading what you've said: Sure, the 100 E card is a little OTT, but based on her friend's reaction to you entering her workplace, she's probably crazy about you, just as you are about her. You're going to have one of the best first dates ever, because you usually don't know on a first date that you definitely like the other person. She'll adore the gift, probably would have enjoyed anything you had given her, whether it was lame as or waaaaaaay OTT to the max. Enjoy it and report back all the juicy deets!

Dave147

Thanks alot for all the support, it's weird that I actually care so much cos normally I couldn't care less! Pillypen if that's what happens I would be absolutely delighted. I know she likes me, just don't know to what extent etc, I'm not shy of confidence I suppose I don't want to build myself up for a big disappointment either. If you don't hear from me you can assume it didn't go to plan

Bluetonic

Dave147 wrote: »

So date is saturday night

Dave147 wrote: »

just happens that it's our first actual 'date'...

Really doesn't sound like a first date to me, more of a casual get together. Be careful.

Dave147 wrote: »

Texted her and asked her out, she replied this morning when she finished and she said she was going out next saturday with her friend for her birthday and she asked me to come along too.

Dave147

I know where you're coming from and if there were other guys going out I'd be worried, it's just me, her and her friend, not sure if she'll [her friend]even be there. As I said, if things don't work out the present is still one I could've gotten her without making any declaration other than friendship.

As for casual get together, it's not. They don't do casual get togethers with customers from where they work, firing offence.

Jemmy

I love hearing what happens at the end of these threads!

So dont forget to let us know!

sdevine89

Dave147 wrote: »

They don't do casual get togethers with customers from where they work, firing offence.

makes her sound like a lapdancer

Twee.

Jemmy wrote: »

I love hearing what happens at the end of these threads!

So dont forget to let us know!

I just read the thread and now I'm mad curious!

Dave147

sdevine89 wrote: »

makes her sound like a lapdancer

Haha jesus I didn't realise that! It's not however, I just can't name the place or give any hints because it wouldn't be hard to figure out.

Right, I just got back, to say the date went well is a huge understatement, I am absolutely elated.. Her friend came along with another guy, we started off with drinks in a cocktail bar. I gave her the gift, with a card saying happy birthday in her native language (she is always teasing me about not being able to speak it) I got a thumbs-up so to speak

Won't go too much in detail because a gentleman never asks, lady never tells etc. but I've just arrived home from walking her home and she definitely reached her quota of 21 kisses tonight! :D:D We will be meeting up again very soon and I am over the moon to be honest!

Thanks alot for all the kind words, not every day I get a break like this

LolaLuv

Dave147 wrote: »

Haha jesus I didn't realise that! It's not however, I just can't name the place or give any hints because it wouldn't be hard to figure out.

Right, I just got back, to say the date went well is a huge understatement, I am absolutely elated.. Her friend came along with another guy, we started off with drinks in a cocktail bar. I gave her the gift, with a card saying happy birthday in her native language (she is always teasing me about not being able to speak it) I got a thumbs-up so to speak

Won't go too much in detail because a gentleman never asks, lady never tells etc. but I've just arrived home from walking her home and she definitely reached her quota of 21 kisses tonight! :D:D We will be meeting up again very soon and I am over the moon to be honest!

Thanks alot for all the kind words, not every day I get a break like this

That's so sweet! It's about time we get some happy endings around here. (Or happy beginnings, as it were.) Really, really happy for you!

Dave147

PillyPen wrote: »

That's so sweet! It's about time we get some happy endings around here. (Or happy beginnings, as it were.) Really, really happy for you!

Thanks a million! I'm actually finding it hard to believe, I mean I'm mad after her for almost 9 months and I finally get her, nothing wrong with me or anything but just never thought I had a 'real' chance! I know I'm sounding like a soppy loser but I honestly don't give a damn!

LolaLuv

Dave147 wrote: »

Thanks a million! I'm actually finding it hard to believe, I mean I'm mad after her for almost 9 months and I finally get her, nothing wrong with me or anything but just never thought I had a 'real' chance! I know I'm sounding like a soppy loser but I honestly don't give a damn!

No, you don't sound like a soppy loser at all, you sound like you're falling in love! I've been single for so long that I forgot that things can happen this sweetly. It's a beautiful reminder.:)

pseudonym1

Yeah !
What a lovely thread!
Hope you live happily ever after . .

Zaph

Thank god things worked out well for you Dave, I don't know if I could have handled all the emotional outpurings here if it hadn't.

Best of luck to you both.

Dave147

Zaph wrote: »

Thank god things worked out well for you Dave, I don't know if I could have handled all the emotional outpurings here if it hadn't.

Best of luck to you both.

Heh, I know sure, I would have become a hermit so you wouldn't have seen me trawling these boards again! I'm glad for once I really went after something I really wanted, definitely worth all the nervousness now Thanks for the well wishes!

Clare Bear

Aww now that's great! Go you!

sweet-rasmus

Woohoo! That sounds like it was a wonderful evening. Well planned on your part indeed
So far so good

Jemmy

Dave man im delighted for ya!
Love i when a plan comes together! lol

No seriously hope you two are really happy.x