Buddy hugs Q?.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Ok, I'm uncomfortable with hugging another man - and so I don't do it.

But the lads (the younger one's) here in work think I'm old fashioned and thick for not hugging the lads.

Who does em' and who doesn't?.

A good firm handshake is good enough for me when someone has done well etc.

Chong

I agree, when its a mate, you seen a while maybe but not work peeps!

Eglinton

I've never heard of young (straight) guys actively hugging each other. There are a lot of young guys working here and that just woudn't happen. The only place for that sort of thing is players after football/other sport.

Steve_o

Handshake tbh, hugging mates is only for when you haven't seen them in ages, (and not a girly squeezy hug).... or when your p*ssed.

Tricity Bendix

Pffft. Its only a hug. Its not like you're going to get AIDS.

Also, Yore ma is uncomfortable when I hug her, but thats just because she can feel my enlarged member press against her midrift.

Pompey Magnus

I don't hug my mates, but I do wrestle with them. Wrestling is like a manly hug.

arybvtcw0eolkf

b.ie curious wrote: »

Also, Yore ma is uncomfortable when I hug her, but thats just because she can feel my enlarged member press against her midrift.

Your also B.ie Curious so 'me da probably provokes the same reaction :pac:

stovelid

Doing it in work is a bit team-bonding-synergy innit? Not for me.

Close mates, no problem with it, but it's more when I haven't seen them for a long time, or at football matches.

Adam

Mairt wrote: »

Ok, I'm uncomfortable with hugging another man - and so I don't do it.

But the lads (the younger one's) here in work think I'm old fashioned and thick for not hugging the lads.

Who does em' and who doesn't?.

A good firm handshake is good enough for me when someone has done well etc.

You would break people.

chin_grin

Should only be done when drunk and when maudlin. You both hug, hips don't touch and give each other the obligatory pat-on-back action. Then say nothing again for the next five minutes and start a whole new line of conversation.

tallaght01

I hug my closest male friends a lot. I hug my family if I haven't seen them in a while.

Never dropped the hand on any of the above though.

Epic Tissue

I'd go for a handshake but wouldn't really refuse a hug

JC 2K3

I hug my friends on occasion.

Don't see what the big deal is....

Hail 2 Da Chimp

tallaght01 wrote: »

Never dropped the hand on any of the above though.

Or at least if you did you "dont remember"...

I would hug my mates if I had a few pints on me, but we also end up kicking the shit out of each other too... It's a double edged swoard.
Also have hugged guys after fights / sporting events.
It's never a full on hug, it's more of a shake hands put your shoulder into their chest and pat their back kind of hug.

Irishcrx

We have drunken boxing match's to show our love...

Dyr

You do judo, that pretty much manhug central :pac:

Hugging a man is perfectly acceptable after you have both survived an air crash or repelled an alien invasion. Other than that, a firm handshake and possibly a clap on the shoulder/back will always suffice.

connundrum

Steve_o wrote: »

Handshake tbh, hugging mates is only for when you haven't seen them in ages, (and not a girly squeezy hug).... or when your p*ssed.

Pissed ftw. I'll hug anyone whence inebriated.

More often it'd be a handshake though.

WTF is with all the hi 5's recently though. I nearly had to punch a mate in the face recently when he raised his hand in an attempt to recreate that ill fated greeting from the dark early '90s.

Down with this sort of thing.

ssmith6287

bad when you go to give yer mate a hug, he goes to shake yer hand. ....... I feel violated

Wagon

Only when it's a good mate I haven't seen in a while or when we're drunk and need to support each other on the street while we sing Seven Drunken Nights.

fitz0

connundrum wrote: »

Down with this sort of thing.

Careful Now!

Wazdakka

JC 2K3 wrote: »

I hug my friends on occasion.

Don't see what the big deal is....

+1

They're you're friends ffs...

Then again my friends and I are probably closer than most peoples family's.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

There has been created especially for the oooh,-I-don't-wanna-do-the-ghey thing! insecurities like youselves, the 'man-hug'; instructions as follows.

1) Handshake, Make it firm.
2) Use handsake to pull parenter/mate/bethrothed towards you so that your right shoulders (ie arms of currently shaking hands) meet.
3) With your left arm reach around, pat him firmly on the back twice
4) Step back and release

Optional:
5) Very quickly start conversation about recent football match. For those in need of a little extra security.

not yet

Get the boat..............A good firm handshake is your only man.

kmick

Next you will be asking us to kiss each other like the frogs. A firm handshake and a playful punch in the arm (not too softh neither) is all that is needed.

arybvtcw0eolkf

kmick wrote: »

Next you will be asking us to kiss each other like the frogs.

Now feck that, if a mate ever goes to kiss me I'll drop him dead in his tracks.

Man kisses - not a snowballs chance in hell.

not yet

But you must look them in the mincers while you do it, otherwise its seen as sly, I would slightly go along with the idea if you walked away from an air crash maybe in shock you may hug but it needs to be never spoken about again.

Captain Ginger

Only hugged another guy once, and that was at his father's funeral and the guy is a good friend of mine.

I think there is a time and a place and I think the above is a decent enough example for when you should hug another guy, would not do it normally though, not because I think it's "gay", but I just don't see the need.

6th

Mairt wrote: »

Now feck that, if a mate ever goes to kiss me I'll drop him dead in his tracks.

Man kisses - not a snowballs chance in hell.

Google "snowballing" and then read your post again.

Btw, hugging is grad with very close friends and family but always make sure you pat on the back.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Captain Ginger wrote: »

.... would not do it normally though, not because I think it's "gay", but I just don't see the need.

Awww..... somebody needs a hug.... c'mere big guy

Captain Ginger

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

Awww..... somebody needs a hug.... c'mere big guy

You calling me fat? You son of a... :P

Dyr

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

There has been created especially for the oooh,-I-don't-wanna-do-the-ghey thing! insecurities like youselves, the 'man-hug'; instructions as follows.

1) Handshake, Make it firm.
2) Use handsake to pull parenter/mate/bethrothed towards you so that your right shoulders (ie arms of currently shaking hands) meet.
3) With your left arm reach around, pat him firmly on the back twice
4) Step back and release

Optional:
5) Very quickly start conversation about recent football match. For those in need of a little extra security.

Step 1 is wrong, it's more of clasp like you'd use to commence arm wrestling, a handshake leaves both parties hands at waist level which causes teh ghey levels to rise uncomfortably during step three

fitz0

Mairt wrote: »

Now feck that, if a mate ever goes to kiss me I'll drop him dead in his tracks.

Man kisses - not a snowballs chance in hell.

woah woah! dont bring that into this! Hugs are one thing but snowballing...

arybvtcw0eolkf

Captain Ginger wrote: »

You calling me fat? You son of a... :P

I think he's saying its ok WITH HIM that your gay.

Tricity Bendix

Captain Ginger wrote: »

Only hugged another guy once, and that was at his father's funeral and the guy is a good friend of mine.

I think there is a time and a place and I think the above is a decent enough example for when you should hug another guy, would not do it normally though, not because I think it's "gay", but I just don't see the need.

This makes me sad. I hug people all the time, sober or drunk. I also kiss my dad whenever I see him, regardless of whether we are in public or not. I've always been a very 'tactile' person, tho.

taidghbaby

a handshake is enough!!

i'll stretch to a pat on the back if a mate has done something spectacular for me, like i dunno.........saved my life or something!

chin_grin

taidghbaby wrote: »

a handshake is enough!!

i'll stretch to a pat on the back if a mate has done something spectacular for me, like i dunno.........saved my life or something!

What if he needs to save your life by heimlich? The most degrading rescue to the male psyche of all. Eugh, the thrusting...........get that image out of my head now!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Captain Ginger wrote: »

You calling me fat? You son of a... :P

No, no, I said big... it's ok... there there....

Bambi wrote: »

Step 1 is wrong, it's more of clasp like you'd use to commence arm wrestling, a handshake leaves both parties hands at waist level which causes teh ghey levels to rise uncomfortably during step three

Point taken, will noticed.

Mairt wrote: »

Ok, I'm uncomfortable with hugging another man - and so I don't do it..

Hang on.... this from a guy linking to the Irish Judo Assosciation in his sig?!!And don't give me that we-only-grab-the-shirt-to lift-our-'opponent'/it's-not-a-real-embrace crap!!

taidghbaby

chin_grin wrote: »

What if he needs to save your life by heimlich? The most degrading rescue to the male psyche of all. Eugh, the thrusting...........get that image out of my head now!

probably wouldnt do much good.......

the act of a man almost mounting me from behind would be enough to give me a heart attack!! :eek:

Adam

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

Hang on.... this from a guy linking to the Irish Judo Assosciation in his sig?!!And don't give me that we-only-grab-the-shirt-to lift-our-'opponent'/it's-not-a-real-embrace crap!!

Forget about all the lapel grabbing, there's holds in Judo! Like legs wrapped around your oponents head kind of holds...

fitz0

What about a hip throw Mairt? You have to thrust your hip to do it dontya? that much more than a hug! :pac:

As for the hugging Ill hug someone if its called for. And not some little womanly hug, a MANLY hug! With a squeeze! ... I make people uncomfortable with my inappropriate hugs.

Dave147

I've no problem hugging another man, I don't do it for the sake of it though.. there's usually some reason for it.. But regardless of the reason I don't feel in the least uncomfortable - I just go home and have sex with 4 women afterwards to wash off the ghey

Adam

Dave147 wrote: »

I've no problem hugging another man, I don't do it for the sake of it though.. there's usually some reason for it.. But regardless of the reason I don't feel in the least uncomfortable - I just go home and have sex with 4 women afterwards to wash off the ghey

Bathe in their juices. Nyom nyom nyom.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

The Wrath of CuLT wrote: »

Forget about all the lapel grabbing, there's holds in Judo! Like legs wrapped around your oponents head kind of holds...

*rasies eyebrow Hedley Lemar style*

Kinky!

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

The Wrath of CuLT wrote: »

Bathe in their juices. Nyom nyom nyom.

Is THAT weaht's going on in your sig?

Manliness is defined by your honour, and your abilty to lift heavy objects.
Hugs do not affect your machismo.

I hugs.

arybvtcw0eolkf

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

Hang on.... this from a guy linking to the Irish Judo Assosciation in his sig?!!And don't give me that we-only-grab-the-shirt-to lift-our-'opponent'/it's-not-a-real-embrace crap!!

Does it make a difference that the jacket is called a 'Gi' pronounced 'Gee'?.

So all night I pull out of someone's Gee, sometimes they're loose and sweaty, others a tight & hard to get a finger inside..

Any difference now?.

Adam

Mairt wrote: »

Any difference now?.

My erection?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Mairt wrote: »

Does it make a difference that the jacket is called a 'Gi' pronounced 'Gee'?.

So all night I pull out of someone's Gee, sometimes they're loose and sweaty, others a tight & hard to get a finger inside..

Any difference now?.

You pull (can I say lift?) someone's shirt to get a finger inside? This does not help your case.

MIN2511

I want a hug!

(((((((((MIN)))))))))

Dragan

I like hugs, no issues with being hugged by a dude.

The important thing is to respect other peoples wishes and not go in for hug rape.