boyfriends and porn

LegacyUser

going unreg for this!

Just wanted to get some advice off everyone, especially the lads out there with girlfriends. I have been with my OH for almost 5 years. He is wonderful. we are very happy and have a really good relationship apart form the odd silly argument etc. I know that he occasionally looks at porn online. He works nights and I am busy during the day so we don't have a lot of time for sex except his nights off or when I'm free etc. but it works out ok. I rarely see porn sites on the computers history, when I do, it gets me kinda pissed off but I cool down quickly enough now. ANyway I jst want to know other ppls opinions, if it annoys them if their bf/gf looks at it, and for those of u lads with girlfriends, would you say this is typical lad behavoiur. ETc. By the way it doesnt really annoy me that much - it USED to, but I still would be interested in other peoples opinions!!

Piste

Most guys do it, totally normal.


That said my boyfriend doesn't but if he did I wouldn't mind.

LegacyUser

You should not worry. As a man, and being completely hnest, my wife caught me masturbating the other day. Not in the act, but i didnt clean up properly, as horrible as that may sound. She got quite upset about it and thought it was a sign that I wasnt into her anymore, and all that. She actually thought that this may mean I did not find her attractive or a turn on, and that I must be always fantasising about other women and all that.

The fact is, that because I work nights, we miss eachother in bed about 3-4 night a week, and instead of trying to just get past the horniness, now and again you just need to release the tension, so to speak.

This is similaar to your case, in that you find a man doing something that is in polar opposite to what you may believe is a commitment to you and your attractivness/sexuality towards him.

It is my best knowledge that all men (in my job anyway) 'admire' any good looking woman that comes within the radar, they talk about it, oogle them and then mostly go on their way and do nothing about it. Every now and again, givent he oppertunity, any man will have a gawk at some naked women in emails or on the net or on TV and quite enjoy it without ever compromising their feelings for the woman they are with.

If it starts to become much more prevalent and it becomes obvious that he is stacking up on it, then it is becoming a problem, but now and then, that is normal in my book.

Just make sure its ladies he's looking at!

AARRRGH

Every single heterosexual male in the world likes to see naked women, and most like to see naked women having sex.

This is a fact of life and has nothing to do with you or your relationship, assuming it isn't affecting your sex life.

Chinafoot

Unless your boyfriend is expecting you to look and act like a porn star, you've nothing to worry or be annoyed about.

You should try watching some porn together. It could spice things up and you might see that theres no reason to be pissed off at all by his watching it.

LegacyUser

this makes me so angry

MEN they seem to be able to compartmentalise sex and love as too different things,

If im ever in the need, and hes not am "up" for the challenge then he always is invited to offer a helping hand, so why does he seem to need a quick fix and pretend to be looking up youtube, only for me to find in the history that he was on some damn porn site,

oh and its not that i havent offered to watch it with him, or indeed watched it with him, im not a prude, just insulted that im not,... i suppose needed at that time.

if any men have an explanation for your actions, please leave me know aswell, im completely bambuzled.

Call Me Jimmy

I doubt that any guy with access to a computer at home doesn't do it from time to time at the least and from time to time and inbetween those times at worst. And Piste, I think I'de know your boyfriend a bit better than you and I'm pretty sure he does :P

Adam

Completely normal, and not something that should worry or anger you imo.

Piste

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

I doubt that any guy with access to a computer at home doesn't do it from time to time at the least and from time to time and inbetween those times at worst. And Piste, I think I'de know your boyfriend a bit better than you and I'm pretty sure he does :P

He only does it to remind himself what a gorgeous girlfriend he has that no other girl can compare to actually. I have to remind him to look at it, keeps him on his toes.





/me preens.

And now back on topic! OP, you say it doesn't bother you...so why are you looking for opinions? Do you think it should bother you?

LegacyUser

GReat, I was expecting replies like this. I guess I really did know all along how normal it is...i mean I can be partial to it from time to time i suppose,. and its not affecting our sex life. feel loads better now thanks you guys!!

axer

Guys in general like porn. Those that don't are liars. As long as it is legal, doesn't effect your bedroom activities then what is the problem. Maybe he has a higher sex drive than you or would like more sex but since that is not possible he deals with the urges by watching porn. Thats much much better than him going out cheating instead.

Jack Sheehan

Every straight guy likes porn, it's not a weird thing.

castie

I Wouldnt be too worried about it. Maybe take it as a good sign that he tends to his needs with porn rather than straying.

Ruu_Old

As long as it doesn't get in the way of your relationship (ie. ignoring you and watching porn all the time), then it is nothing to worry about and quite normal. Have fun.

Mimikyu

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LegacyUser

woah lol i neatly posted logged in!
anyway no it doesnt bother me TOO much , esp after reading all this. i used to get ticked off about it but I don't mind anymore, but I was really interested in what others had to say, i guess just to confirm that it is that normal. I never was in a long relationship before this so I wasnt really sure and I dont think I would talk to my friends about it....

ZygOte

Totally totally normal,
wheter we are single or in a relationship we will all still look at porn ocassionally sorry, thats just how we are built. dont we suprised you find out hes having the odd w**k aswell, we do that to

abitlonely

Piste wrote: »

That said my boyfriend doesn't but if he did I wouldn't mind.

Ah he does

Chinafoot wrote: »

Unless your boyfriend is expecting you to look and act like a porn star, you've nothing to worry or be annoyed about.
You should try watching some porn together. It could spice things up and you might see that theres no reason to be pissed off at all by his watching it.

+1 esp.

Overheal

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Tridion

questiontime - first off, not EVERY guy watches porn, just as not every girl watches porn.

I am of the strong opinion that each relationship is totally individual & whatever works for those two people is the most important thing. People have different needs & expectations in a relationship. For example, some people are swingers, some people have a three-way relationship. Some people are totally happy when the other person goes to a strip club, others arent.

Similarly, I consider it a valid opinion, not to be happy if your partner is looking at porn. My boyf found out I was looking at porn on my own & wasn't too happy. I respected his opinion & now we look at porn together (occasionally).

Remember a lot of guys go around with the assumption in their head that they are the only ones looking at porn & their girlfriends are sitting at home waiting for them. I think a lot of them also don't even think twice about looking at porn because we as a society are so open about it. For example, my boyfriend had a bad habit of looking other girls up & down when I was right beside him. I told him to cut it out & he was surprised because where he's from, all the guys do it. My point is, he probably doesn't even know that it annoys/irks you. Best thing is to talk to him about it.

Marksie

menandporn wrote: »

this makes me so angry

MEN they seem to be able to compartmentalise sex and love as too different things,

If im ever in the need, and hes not am "up" for the challenge then he always is invited to offer a helping hand, so why does he seem to need a quick fix and pretend to be looking up youtube, only for me to find in the history that he was on some damn porn site,

oh and its not that i havent offered to watch it with him, or indeed watched it with him, im not a prude, just insulted that im not,... i suppose needed at that time.

if any men have an explanation for your actions, please leave me know aswell, im completely bambuzled.

I ummeed and ahhed as to whether to let this go through.
But in the end i did, because you have an issue here as regards a) checking histories and b) the fact that you feel rejected that he would want to watch streamed pictures of people getting it on.

One possible explanation would of course be that he may have fantasies of say group sex. Which he would not feel comfortable talking to you about or watching with you. (its an example so dont freak..its the idea behind it)
He is indulging his fantasy then.

Dave147

menandporn wrote: »

this makes me so angry

MEN they seem to be able to compartmentalise sex and love as too different things,

If im ever in the need, and hes not am "up" for the challenge then he always is invited to offer a helping hand, so why does he seem to need a quick fix and pretend to be looking up youtube, only for me to find in the history that he was on some damn porn site,

oh and its not that i havent offered to watch it with him, or indeed watched it with him, im not a prude, just insulted that im not,... i suppose needed at that time.

if any men have an explanation for your actions, please leave me know aswell, im completely bambuzled.

Sometimes a guy just wants to have a good ol' fashioned **** on his own.. No matter how good you are in bed, he might be too lazy to have sex but horny at the same time. Hard to explain.

More importantly, why are you checking the internet history?

GrumPy

It's perfectly normal OP. Us men usually have a far higher sex drive than women anyway.

Once it's not affecting your sex life then no need to worry.

Annie Bananie

As the others say, yes its normal, guys will watch porn. And even lots of girls do it as well. (I know cause I do). It has nothing to do with the relationship you are in and does not mean you love your partner any less. I would not be worried

anthony4335

Why is shock so many women that there guy watches porn shock me. I can some what understand the feelings attached with find this out , that they feel that they are not attractive enough ,and there guy has gone else where, but this is not true. In your guys eyes you could be the absolute ultimate ideal of a woman, but sometimes he just needs a ****. Porn = **** . **** relieves stress and all other tension. Yes guys do see sex and love as different things, it just makes it better if the person you are having sex with is the person you love, it means that you don't have to make excuses to get away after.
Also lads save yourself some bother learn to use you computer better, you have discovered its main feature (google search porn) now go that little further and find out how to cover your tracks, not that hard.
Another I personally don't care for the idea of watching porn with a partner , it is not like you watch them for the story, so only a few minutes should do (no self control)

Tridion

GrumPy wrote: »

It's perfectly normal OP. Us men usually have a far higher sex drive than women anyway.

Pffff. Don't flatter yourself. You mean you like to think you have higher sex drives than women. Oh yes and women are not turned on visually, blah blah. Total nonsense. Funny how all these ideas about women's sexuality are so convenient for men:

"Doesn't matter what I look like - she's not turned on visually. She'd better be hot though coz its really important for me. I can't help it -I'm a man, I have needs...etc etc..blah blah" I really wish these strange ideas would just go away.

anthony4335 - why do you think its a good idea to encourage guys to hide their use of porn? How does that solve anything? Really, really bad idea.

Marksie

I think grumpy you will find that womens sex drives are as high or just as high as mens .


In myview its societal conditioning that has stopped them expressing it.

But thats a little off topic

Carry on folks

Ghost Girl

Tridion wrote: »

You mean you like to think you have higher sex drives than women. Oh yes and women are not turned on visually, blah blah. Total nonsense. .

True. women can be as turned on as men or more so. And women can be turned on by porn aswell. And women actually watch porn aswell. For men and women it can be a curiousity thing aswell. If either the woman or the man watching the porn is substituting or taking over the relationship, then its a problem. Otherwise for both its quite normal, now and again. And if both in the relationship can have a laugh about it, and both talk openly about it, your just strengthening the relationship.

AARRRGH

menandporn wrote: »

MEN they seem to be able to compartmentalise sex and love as two different things

That's because sex and love are two different things.

Maybe you are only able to have sex with someone if you love them, but that's an issue specific to you, not the rest of the world.

LegacyUser

actually i think I have a higher sex drive than he does...it's just not always feasible for us to get it on when we want....he works nights, comes home when I'm asleep or getting up...when I go to bed he is already gone. Anyway I did talk to him in the past about it when I didn't really understand WHY he was doing it, I felt insecure/unsexy etc. thinkin he expected me to be like those girls. Now (and especially after all the replies - thanks!!) I realise that it is normal and as long as its not affecting our sex life or relationship, then I am happy for him to do it every now and then!

LegacyUser

Just to give a view from the other side, it does bother me when my bf looks at porn. I know he looks at it from time to time but try not to think about it and dont give him grief over it.

But the 'men have a higher sex drive' argument doesnt wash with me,because even if they do,why should they look at other women when they have a girlfriend/wife of their own?I get that a guy might need to **** but why cant he think about his gf when doing it or even look at pics of her, why does it have to be another woman?

I would never ever look at another man like that and it kills me to think of my boyfriend getting sexual satisfaction from looking at another woman or thinking about being with her rather than me. Do men not feel any guilt thinking about their girlfriends worrying about how they mustn't be pretty / sexy / adventurous enough for them? I know some people have said looking at porn doesnt compromise their feelings for their gf but do you not feel you are being unfair to her by getting off on another woman? I know I would feel like that if I went online to find a man with bigger muscles or a bigger penis, not that I would want to - I'm happy with my bf, but if we were in a situation where I wanted sex but he didnt, I wouldnt start thinking about other men. If I masturbated, I would be thinking of him and not another man, so I dont get how men can do this and not feel guilty. I understand the urge for men to do this because they are human and there are other sexy women in the world aside from their gf but why cant you be happy with your gf and get gratification by looking/thinking about her rather than some other woman?

LegacyUser

dave and marksie, firstly, i think alot of women in the back of there heads thinks there is something wrong about there partner watching porn instead of being with them,

and secondly i didnt say i was checking what he was up when i was going through the history,

im actually working full time and studying at home, so i use the internet history to save time to go back to study something that i was doing the other day, I think thats why someone decided to have the history icon on our computers!!

ive noticed alot on here people jumping down others necks re seeing something on history and i dont think it is an invasion of privacy or anything if you live together, share a computer and its there for all to see.

GrumPy

"Pffff. Don't flatter yourself."

I didn't.


"You mean you like to think you have higher sex drives than women."


What gave you this idea from my post?
I did use the word usually btw.

Tridion wrote: »

Oh yes and women are not turned on visually, blah blah. Total nonsense. Funny how all these ideas about women's sexuality are so convenient for men:

"Doesn't matter what I look like - she's not turned on visually. She'd better be hot though coz its really important for me. I can't help it -I'm a man, I have needs...etc etc..blah blah" I really wish these strange ideas would just go away.

Can't remember mentioning this in my post either. :rolleyes:

Your opinions are ironic tbh.

Just wanted to clear that up soz for off topic-ness.

LegacyUser

H8porn, I just don't think that when men look at porn they are fantasising about the women exactly, its more just watching people having sex or just the sexual nature that turns them on, its not real and they know that. I have watched it before and gotten turned on but I couldnt tell you really what any of the people looked like now. MEn might be more visually turned on but at the end of the day I really do just think it is normal and not any reflection on how your bf feels about you in the slightest

LegacyUser

menandporn wrote: »

this makes me so angry

MEN they seem to be able to compartmentalise sex and love as too different things,

If im ever in the need, and hes not am "up" for the challenge then he always is invited to offer a helping hand, so why does he seem to need a quick fix and pretend to be looking up youtube, only for me to find in the history that he was on some damn porn site,

oh and its not that i havent offered to watch it with him, or indeed watched it with him, im not a prude, just insulted that im not,... i suppose needed at that time.

if any men have an explanation for your actions, please leave me know aswell, im completely bambuzled.

Simple reason really, Men behave differently and hav a different mindset then women....

Men are turned on by visual things, while women are turned on by closeness and more aural things.

Ok if your boyfriend is going to the computer instead of you, I think theres a bigger problem...

I'm in a different country to my gf so i masturbate usually but not always using porn, my gf knows aboot it n doesnt mind and understands and doesnt take it personnally.

I'm afraid it is just the way men are. if i can see my gf often enuf i wont go near porn but otherwise i do. i'd always prefer my gf over porn always if this is not the case with ur bf it is a problem in your relationship otherwise i think you hav to live with it. I thought there would be a more divided opinion on this but it seems not the case...

LegacyUser

H8porn wrote: »

Just to give a view from the other side, it does bother me when my bf looks at porn. I know he looks at it from time to time but try not to think about it and dont give him grief over it.

But the 'men have a higher sex drive' argument doesnt wash with me,because even if they do,why should they look at other women when they have a girlfriend/wife of their own?I get that a guy might need to **** but why cant he think about his gf when doing it or even look at pics of her, why does it have to be another woman?

I would never ever look at another man like that and it kills me to think of my boyfriend getting sexual satisfaction from looking at another woman or thinking about being with her rather than me. Do men not feel any guilt thinking about their girlfriends worrying about how they mustn't be pretty / sexy / adventurous enough for them? I know some people have said looking at porn doesnt compromise their feelings for their gf but do you not feel you are being unfair to her by getting off on another woman? I know I would feel like that if I went online to find a man with bigger muscles or a bigger penis, not that I would want to - I'm happy with my bf, but if we were in a situation where I wanted sex but he didnt, I wouldnt start thinking about other men. If I masturbated, I would be thinking of him and not another man, so I dont get how men can do this and not feel guilty. I understand the urge for men to do this because they are human and there are other sexy women in the world aside from their gf but why cant you be happy with your gf and get gratification by looking/thinking about her rather than some other woman?

Think the answer is fairly straight forward. Men instinctively (due to nature) hav sex to spread their seed however current culture 'force' a man into a relationship solely with one woman.

Also men's and women's brains work completely different in terms in sex. Men see women as body parts, while are more emotional and sensual relating to sex. So no as a woman you would never want to look at other women if wanted to masturbate you wouldn't look for a random internet man. While a guy can cos he is looking at body parts so it doesnt make a difference who it is hes thinking about

Piste

H8porn wrote: »

Just to give a view from the other side, it does bother me when my bf looks at porn. I know he looks at it from time to time but try not to think about it and dont give him grief over it.

But the 'men have a higher sex drive' argument doesnt wash with me,because even if they do,why should they look at other women when they have a girlfriend/wife of their own?I get that a guy might need to **** but why cant he think about his gf when doing it or even look at pics of her, why does it have to be another woman?

I would never ever look at another man like that and it kills me to think of my boyfriend getting sexual satisfaction from looking at another woman or thinking about being with her rather than me. Do men not feel any guilt thinking about their girlfriends worrying about how they mustn't be pretty / sexy / adventurous enough for them? I know some people have said looking at porn doesnt compromise their feelings for their gf but do you not feel you are being unfair to her by getting off on another woman? I know I would feel like that if I went online to find a man with bigger muscles or a bigger penis, not that I would want to - I'm happy with my bf, but if we were in a situation where I wanted sex but he didnt, I wouldnt start thinking about other men. If I masturbated, I would be thinking of him and not another man, so I dont get how men can do this and not feel guilty. I understand the urge for men to do this because they are human and there are other sexy women in the world aside from their gf but why cant you be happy with your gf and get gratification by looking/thinking about her rather than some other woman?

I think it depends what the terms of your relationship are.

For me, I prefer very simple rules, "we will be best friends and kiss and stuff and not do that with anyone else".

And that works fine!

But your limits might be "we will only find each other attractive and no one else"

And that's ok if that's what you both want, but he has to know it and accept it too, and it might seem unreasonable to him.

Also because most guys watch porn if you treat it like it's this crazy thing that's insulting to you personally you'll only go and confuse the poor lad who thinks it's totally normal.

Tridion

GrumPy wrote: »

What gave you this idea from my post?
I did use the word usually btw.

Wow jeez I don't know...maybe the fact that you said that men "usually" (added it in for ya) have higher sex drives than women? really I don't know what else to say...

GrumPy wrote: »

Can't remember mentioning this in my post either. :rolleyes:

That's amazing, as I can't remember saying in my post that you mentioned it either. Just to explain it to you, I was making more general comments about stereotypes about male and female sexuality that seem to abound on Boards.

GrumPy wrote: »

Just wanted to clear that up soz for off topic-ness.

My dear, I'd worry about cleaning up your own posts before you start on others. Really PI is enough of a mess without people bludering around with their outdated stereotypes.

As for your pathetic searches through my past posts. Wow, go you. That was at a time when I was feeling really low & insecure & was starting to go back to my old ways of thinking. Thanks for throwing it back in my face. Feel like a big man now?

questiontime - do you just think looking at porn is normal because you read it on an internet website where 90% of the users are male?? You're not really getting it from an equal, unbiased audience here.

veryangryman

Wow jeez I don't know...maybe the fact that you said that men "usually" (added it in for ya) have higher sex drives than women? really I don't know what else to say...


questiontime - do you just think looking at porn is normal because you read it on an internet website where 90% of the users are male?? You're not really getting it from an equal, unbiased audience here.

A quick 2 cents on this...

90% of users on here male...probably true. Still, if most are of the one opinion that its normal then clearly the majority dont find it strange.

I think girls need to chill over such things. It is, as many say,just a "quick fix" in most cases - guys get major urges from time to time that block out everything else in the mind at times. The guy has a few choices...

- Be aggressive and irritable with people
- Hassle the gf (assuming same exists) for it when chances are shes away/busy
- Sort himself out (discreetly :pac: )

It is completely detached from how the guy feels about the girl he's seeing. The same way a girl might fill a bath with lavender, and buy scented candles to help relax. I certainly for one, would not associate the use of p0rn with relationshipsfeelings etc. I dont think many guys really do.

I should probably have put some rant tags on that... :pac:


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LegacyUser

Just to end this nonsense about straight men 'either watch porn or they're a liar', I'll go on record as saying I'm a straight man and have no interest in porn. It does absolutely nothing for me to watch strangers having sex or doing anything to themselves. Nothing whatsoever. My girlfriend, on the other hand, does the job wonderfully and we've a great sex life.

Because this is anonymous I've nothing to prove to my name or anything like that, so stop being so confident in saying all men get something from porn. I'd be of the belief that the majority of men love it though. Also, I don't see anything wrong with your boyfriend watching it if you're in a relationship as long as it's not replacing anything with you.

Kazobel

I'd agree with veryangryman here, normally I'd use a thread like this to take the micky out of men (no pun intended) in general but I won't this time, OP a lot of girls at times don't really understand the sheer intense effects testosterone has on a guy, while you'd be giving out to him about say not being affectionate enough he'd still be totally visualising you on all fours it's just a man thing as is porn, it's probably the only cultural media that's remained stagnant for as long as it has and still managed to survived, all the plots are the same, there's an endless list of blonde, big titted bimbos that are just clones and every scene ends in a fcuk but men know this too, ask any guy on here if he's ever watched a porn movie right to the end, I bet none of them ever have, it's function is primarly a quick fix. As long as it's normal (For your secific relationship) porn then there's very little to worry about, when you worry is when animals start getting introduced

GrumPy

Tridion wrote: »

Wow jeez I don't know...maybe the fact that you said that men "usually" (added it in for ya) have higher sex drives than women? really I don't know what else to say...

I did say usually and that's in context I believe.

That's amazing, as I can't remember saying in my post that you mentioned it either. Just to explain it to you, I was making more general comments about stereotypes about male and female sexuality that seem to abound on Boards.

Men usually having higher sex drives than women isn't a stereotype my dear :rolleyes:

My dear, I'd worry about cleaning up your own posts before you start on others. Really PI is enough of a mess without people bludering around with their outdated stereotypes.

Outdated stereotype?
I would have thought men usually having higher sex drives then women would have been a fact no?

Feel like a big man now?

Yes.

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the_syco

Us watching porn is like you watching Sex & the City.

[Jackass]

Couldn't be more normal OP and men have an urge for sexual activity simular to how people get hungry for food. We all enjoy eating, but primarily, it's an essential function we must perform to survive. It's written into the male instinct like that, so if you don't get much chance for sex, then be glad he's using the computer and not some other woman to satisfy his needs!!!

Macha

Seriously, I think all the guys here saying they have higher sex drives than women need a reality check. People are people. Some women have low (high) sex drives & some men have low (high) sex drives. I can say that a common moan among my girlfriends is that they're not getting enough from their respective partners.

Yes men and women are different but I think sex is the area we're both the same in one sense anyway-we both want it. Now we both grow up with different gender conditioning so girls are told that if they watch porn & have sex with lots of guys they're sluts (see "Is 13 too much?" thread as 1 example) & guys are told they have raging libidos & by nature want to shag everything that moves. I don't think these stereotypes do either sex any good.

asdwomanly - Your viewpoint is insane! There are so many stereotypes in there I don't even know where to start. I can use your exact logic to prove the same for women. Women want strong/intelligent/insert positive attribute here children. Therefore if they have sex with a lot of men, the stronger sperm will succeed. Therefore it is in women's nature to be promiscuous and are forced to just have one sexual partner through modern monogamy. See? Totally bogus.

Jackass - this may sound strange but women get that strong sexual urge as well..(shocking, I know). Really, if an alien came down & read this thread, they would start wondering how on earth people procreated at all because clearly one essential partner in the equation is extremely unwilling to take part.

And really, I don't think anyone should fall down & grovel at their partners feet and thank their lucky stars they're not cheating on them - it is a basic expectation in 99% of relationships. Funny, I only ever seen this written in relation to a girl being grateful for a guy not cheating - never the other way around.

jpm4

taconnol wrote: »

asdwomanly - Your viewpoint is insane! There are so many stereotypes in there I don't even know where to start. I can use your exact logic to prove the same for women. Women want strong/intelligent/insert positive attribute here children. Therefore if they have sex with a lot of men, the stronger sperm will succeed. Therefore it is in women's nature to be promiscuous and are forced to just have one sexual partner through modern monogamy. See? Totally bogus.

It's hardly the same thing. Good grief...so if you go out and bone a lot of men over say the next couple of weeks, you are confident that the best "strong/intelligent" ect. sperm will the one to hit the spot? Hmmmm.

pisslips

sti's though

anthony4335

So what I am getting from this thread is that men and women have equal sex drives (this might need a poll) but that women have more self control,( which is possibly due to the previously mentioned thread is 13 a lot, women giving into the urges leads to them getting a bad name).

Macha

jpm4-I'm sorry but this makes just as much sense as going out shagging as many women as possible. In addition, please explain why women are more likely to cheat on their partners & have sex when they are at the most fertile point in their menstrual cycle?

anthony4335 - I would suggest that women have been taught to have more self control than men. Firstly for the reason that they're the ones who get pregnant. Secondly, though, there is a definite stigma in our society against women who have sex with a lot of men. Think of all the words in our language to describe a female slut. Now try to think of a few for similar male behaviour.

jpm4

taconnol wrote:

jpm4-I'm sorry but this makes just as much sense as going out shagging as many women as possible. In addition, please explain why women are more likely to cheat on their partners & have sex when they are at the most fertile point in their menstrual cycle?

Hefty amounts of male shagging does make sense in a way - in theory a man can go out and shag 100 woman in a year and end up fathering 100 children. Good for the species. A woman can do the same in a year and she'll still only end up with 1 child. Not so good for the species. I'd guess that's where the old sluts n' studs stereotypes come from orginally.

As for your 2nd point - I have no idea if it's true or not. My original point was to suggest that just because a woman bones a wide variety of men hardly means that she will end up with the "best" mans child. She might have porked a complete loser who's only redeeming features was sperm that could have qualified for the swimming olympics!