I need the Ladies help!

FlexiLexi

ok girls....
i have been with my boyfriend a year and a half, and i love him, but lately i feel a little bored with him. i find myself wanting to spend more time with my friends!
i get on so well with him most times, but other times he irritates me.
ive been accepted into his family which makes it so muchmore confusing.
has anyone else been through something like this???is it just a phase that will pass??

omb0wyn5ehpij9

FlexiLexi wrote: »

is it just a phase that will pass??

Nobody can answer that for you. That is just something you need to work out for yourself i'm afraid!

Splinter

FlexiLexi wrote: »

ok girls....
i have been with my boyfriend a year and a half, and i love him, but lately i feel a little bored with him. i find myself wanting to spend more time with my friends!
i get on so well with him most times, but other times he irritates me.
ive been accepted into his family which makes it so muchmore confusing.
has anyone else been through something like this???is it just a phase that will pass??

in the middle of this myself, me and the lady spending time apart cause of it. just go with whatever you feel is right is all i can say

forestfruits

its fairly normal to be irritated by your boyfriend! you cannot spend loads of time with one person and never find they are getting on your nerves (as you may be on theirs!).
Point is you cannot live in anyone elses pockets and expect to be contented all the time- spend time with your friends its normal- dont worry about it! Im sure your irritating him too!;)( I mean that in the nicest way possible!)

FlexiLexi

thanks guys. we are thinkin of going on hols together, i guess thatll be the true test!

MJOR

Oh Flexi Holliers are the true test!

FlexiLexi

i know im kinda scared about it. like maybe it will work out for the better, if not, you can expect a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge thread from me when i return!!!!!!

MJOR

Ah you may rekindle the passion!

FlexiLexi

i should hope so, otherwise i fear it may be over. i cant keep going on with a relationship if im barely content you know?

MJOR

Yeah I know what you mean.. I have been there.. Not with my current guy but with others....

Its like a feeling of total boredom and just feel like you're in a rut!

FlexiLexi

i feel really guilty about it, like i love him, but its becoming a little mundane!

minxie

variety is the spice of life!!!!!:D:D:D:D
do something together on your holliers that none of you have ever done before:cool::cool:

MJOR

I know you'd be nearly praying for a fight to liven things up!

FlexiLexi

minxie1 wrote: »

variety is the spice of life!!!!!:D:D:D:D
do something together on your holliers that none of you have ever done before:cool::cool:

thats good advice!!

minxie

quiet true......everything in this life needs to be worked at.
love makes the world go around after all
hope you both have a great time;);)

FlexiLexi

thanks for all the support guys!

omb0wyn5ehpij9

forestfruits wrote: »

its fairly normal to be irritated by your boyfriend! you cannot spend loads of time with one person and never find they are getting on your nerves (as you may be on theirs!).
Point is you cannot live in anyone elses pockets and expect to be contented all the time- spend time with your friends its normal- dont worry about it! Im sure your irritating him too!;)( I mean that in the nicest way possible!)

Agreed, good post

G86

Hey,

God you could be me last year, I was feeling the same way with my then boyf. I don't know about going on hols though, we did that and it ruined the holiday for me to be honest, the atmosphere was horrible because I think we both knew it was over. Then your stuck there and you can't bring it up!

What is it that irriates you about him? Is it something new or something that never bothered you before? Because if its never bothered you until now then it could be that you just need an excuse to get out of the relationship and you could find yourself nitpicking things that annoy you. If its a new thing then maybe sitting down and talking about it would help?

I'm sorry I don't have the best advice for you, but I really don't think a hol is that way to go.
I hope it works out ok though x

FlexiLexi

we had a chat about it last night. i feel alot better about it now.
has anyone ever heard of the year and a half freak out???
i know alot of people that have broken up at this stage in a relationship, and its always the girl thinking "omg, im only young, i have so much left in life that i want to do!" and "this cant be it for me".
there are so many girls who feel this way!
i think its working through this phase thats important.i think!!!

Black Swan

Sounds like you're settling in and the excitement has worn off? Like one poster suggested, try something different and a bit daring, and maybe that will rekindle the spark?

MJOR

FlexiLexi wrote: »

we had a chat about it last night. i feel alot better about it now.
has anyone ever heard of the year and a half freak out???
i know alot of people that have broken up at this stage in a relationship, and its always the girl thinking "omg, im only young, i have so much left in life that i want to do!" and "this cant be it for me".
there are so many girls who feel this way!
i think its working through this phase thats important.i think!!!

Yeah I don't think its dead in the water yet flexi

Splinter

FlexiLexi wrote: »

we had a chat about it last night. i feel alot better about it now.
has anyone ever heard of the year and a half freak out???
i know alot of people that have broken up at this stage in a relationship, and its always the girl thinking "omg, im only young, i have so much left in life that i want to do!" and "this cant be it for me".
there are so many girls who feel this way!
i think its working through this phase thats important.i think!!!

im in the middle of a 2 year freak out at the moment, still head over heels for her but we were both getting stuck in ruts we needed to get out of. we tried to holiday thing, didnt work for us but it may work for you i wish you all the best of luck and if you need an ear, we're all here

Wibbs

It's the honeymoon period to long term transition. Usual time for people to split. Little irritations creep in. Sometimes they're obvious reasons, sometimes there are no obvious reasons and the person's still the same, just "the spark" leaves. It can go either way. If the reasons have not been worked on or changed by either person, then splitsville beckons.

I've noticed the things that worry you or are noted at the start of a relationship, are usually the things that will split you up, if not dealt with. We all tend to ignore parts of lovers when the first flush of love is in full swing. When that eases up, then they come into focus. I know I've done that.

It can also simply be that two people aren't compatible or at least aren't compatible beyond the exiting lovers part. Again I've been there. Had girlfriends that were great as lovers and were great to be in love with, but really long term companions? It wouldn't have worked out. Doesn't mean I didn't love the time together though.

I dunno about the holiday being much of a test though. If you can't spend two weeks with someone in an exiting environment, then I wouldn't hold out much hope of being able to spend years together during mundane times.

LolaDub

Big difference between being unhappy and being bored. Good Luck with it all OP