Is 31 Old?

LegacyUser

Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

Wibbs

No it's not basically.

LouOB

Hell no

....unless you are my bf, then we have to talk!
(as bf is 31)

Beruthiel

is31old wrote: »

Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

31 is the absolute best time to do all of the above.
You are old enough to have some sense, cop on and knowledge of what you want, yet young enough to still have all your life in front of you.
It's a perfect age to make all kinds of changes. Go for it!

Karen_*

How do you mean 'bite the bullet'?

You're never too old to make changes for the better. Life is all about learning.changing, taking chances, taking risks. People have had to start all over again at alot older than 31.

dr.bollocko

Hell by 31 I hope to have my life sorted out enough to think that I might be able to plan something like that and do it right.
I'd say 41 is the perfect time.
But at 31 thats some good training for a young fella like ya.

MJOR

no way.. come off the stage i am looking forward to being 31

LegacyUser

......at 31 I returned from travelling for a year and set up my own business.....

5 years later I still don't feel old, well, only when chatting to 18 year olds.

So no, it's not old. Think about it - you'll probably live til you're 80 so that's another 50 years to get things done.

It's all to do with priorities - figure out what they are and then work towards those goals.

newestUser

Beruthiel wrote: »

31 is the absolute best time to do all of the above.
You are old enough to have some sense, cop on and knowledge of what you want, yet young enough to still have all your life in front of you.
It's a perfect age to make all kinds of changes. Go for it!

Too bloody right.

I'm 30 tomorrow, and have just moved to the UK, where I know absolutely no-one, to start a new job.

I'm looking forward to the experience, because as Beruthiel says, I'm mature enough and copped-on enough now to make the most of it, whereas when I was younger, it would have been much more of a struggle (I did the living abroad thing as a 22/23 year old, and while it was a great experience, I was on a harsh learning curve at times).

When you're younger, you and all your friends, generally speaking, are at the same stage of life, doing the same things, school, college, etc. This isn't really true at 30, so people might question your decision, or you may feel like you 'stick out' because you're not doing the 2.4-kids-house-in-the-burbs thing like everyone else.

31 isn't too old to do any of the things you've mentioned. Not by a long shot.

MJOR

the can't get out of bed guy?

pwd

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.
if you're a man then you're fine. You've just reached the stage where you should be starting to act responsibly.

Gillie

pwd wrote: »

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.

Oh dear!

MJOR

Gillie wrote: »

Oh dear!

+1

Tigger

Gillie wrote: »

Oh dear!

oh dear what?
oh dear men mature women age ?

its a fact
i'm wealthier than i ever was and have more free time to deal with the needs of a highly attractive 24 year old woman just out of college

when i was 24 i was a skinny lad spending all my time in non productive ways so as ia chatch for young interesting women i'm better than i ever aws

if i was a woman....this would not be true now would it?

Beruthiel

pwd wrote: »

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.

Really?
I must have missed the memo on that one.

Dizzyblonde

No, 31 is not old and as others have said it's actually a great age to start over.

Go for it and have a blast

Maggie Simpson

pwd wrote: »

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.
if you're a man then you're fine. You've just reached the stage where you should be starting to act responsibly.

Charming.

Anyway, I'm 31. Some of my friends are older, some of them are younger. About half are married, half not. A few have kids, most don't. Some own their own home, some don't.

My point is that if you measure your life by your age and therefore against what other people your age have done/achieved - you're on a road to nowhere.

A friend of mine (36) just moved to Sweden. He doesn't know anyone there - just thought he'd try it as it's a life-long ambition (he likes Swedish women!)

Do what suits you!

newestUser

Good god people. There's more to life than getting your rocks off and making babies.

Dizzyblonde

pwd wrote: »

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.

I'm sorry but that's all in the mind.

Marksie

is31old wrote: »

Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

simple answer no

I did all that at 33.
Then some of that at 40,
then some of that at 44.
looking forward to seeing what aspects change at 45, 46, 47..etc

The best time to change is whatever age you are when you feel like changing.

Look if you need some affirmation on that, look at the reports on 70 year olds shagging like crazy... and reporting better orgasms.

Phht stop thining your past it or else you will be past it

Marksie

pwd wrote: »

only if you're a woman. You're getting towards your best before date.
if you're a man then you're fine. You've just reached the stage where you should be starting to act responsibly.

OMG lol.

Well thats it then, sorry OP, but its cocoa and stern talks to the youth of today from now on for you lol.

silvine

PWD must be talking about having kids

Nevyn

silvine wrote: »

PWD must be talking about having kids

Yes cos other then that women have no function or purpose :rolleyes:

John Mason

31 is as old as YOU want it to be.

as someone who is 33, i dont think its old or that i am old.

there are certain people on this site who think once you hit 30 your life is over but not mine

funk-you

is31old wrote: »

Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again.

No.

-Funk

Karen_*

Tigger wrote: »

oh dear what?
oh dear men mature women age ?

its a fact
i'm wealthier than i ever was and have more free time to deal with the needs of a highly attractive 24 year old woman just out of college

when i was 24 i was a skinny lad spending all my time in non productive ways so as ia chatch for young interesting women i'm better than i ever aws

if i was a woman....this would not be true now would it?

At what age do you plan to mature? doesn't sound like you've come very far except materially.

CraggyIslander

deffo not old

Am 37 now, moved here 10 years ago knowing nobody.
Just started a masters course and probably will be upping sticks and moving to another place where I wont know anyone again after that.

Take life by the horns and go for it! :pac:

DenMan

No way dude, you should be asking yourself, why not 31.

Aurora Borealis

is31old wrote: »

Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

Quite simply, no it isn't too old. I've started afresh in many ways this year.
Go for it!!
It's never too late to do any of the things you've mentioned imo.

Heyes

Never too old

Mena

I did it at 28. Dropped everything, moved countries, started over. I loved it. I'm now 33 and guess what, I'm about to do it again :P

Old is simply a state of mind, nothing else.

Oryx

There is never an age at which you cannot do something. You get your three score and ten, why waste over half of it because by your own reckoning you shouldnt do what you want to do? Life is a challenge all the way, not just for the young.

Im more crazy and taking more chances now than I ever did in my life. And its great, I could write myself off as an ageing mammy, but I choose not to. Do whatever it is you want, or youll look back and see you werent old at all, and regret the loss of opportunities you didnt take.

Age is irrellevant, attitude is everything.

Heyes

Oryx wrote: »

There is never an age at which you cannot do something. You get your three score and ten, why waste over half of it because by your own reckoning you shouldnt do what you want to do? Life is a challenge all the way, not just for the young.

Im more crazy and taking more chances now than I ever did in my life. And its great, I could write myself off as an ageing mammy, but I choose not to. Do whatever it is you want, or youll look back and see you werent old at all, and regret the loss of opportunities you didnt take.

Age is irrellevant, attitude is everything.

Inspirational way of looking at things for us all.

Tigger

Karen_* wrote: »

At what age do you plan to mature? doesn't sound like you've come very far except materially.

thats personal abuse


if you have something to say its should be constructive , the op was asking about breaking up and starting again
perhaps running away
he also said bite the bullet which would suggest that he has found that he is scared to do what he should do
my point was that i am more attractive to young women now than i was 10 years ago

i don't feel any need to comment on my maturity

HouseHippo

No way. Life is short make the most of it while you can. My mate is 33 and he is pissing off to Sweden and quitting his job to make music.
In another 20 or 30 years you will look back and say....shoulda,woulda,coulda.So do it now is the best advice I can give ya

pwd

Karen_* wrote: »

At what age do you plan to mature? doesn't sound like you've come very far except materially.

ffs. That's not very nice is it? See - they go bitter when they've gone off.

Beruthiel

pwd wrote: »

ffs. That's not very nice is it? See - they go bitter when they've gone off.

Quit trolling this forum pwd.
B

Marksie

pwd wrote: »

ffs. That's not very nice is it? See - they go bitter when they've gone off.

or when immature like yourself, they are small, sour and not worth the effort

Karen_*

Tigger wrote: »

thats personal abuse


if you have something to say its should be constructive , the op was asking about breaking up and starting again
perhaps running away
he also said bite the bullet which would suggest that he has found that he is scared to do what he should do
my point was that i am more attractive to young women now than i was 10 years ago

i don't feel any need to comment on my maturity

Sorry you feel that was abuse. Your post was very encouraging to the OP, pity you had to detract from it by agreeing with an obvious troll and making a negative comparison between men and women. If the OP was a woman would you have jumped onto the thread to tell her her life is over and so not to bother making any changed.

Its great that as you got older your life changed for the better. A great example of how age shouldn't hold anyone back! Sorry the message was just a bit clouded.

Johannes Scotus

31 - too old?? shouldn't think so.

I'm 31, this year and next I hope to move back to Ireland, get married and go to university.

This will be the third time I uprooted and hit off. I also hope it won't be the last.

Is it scary? Yes, if this was your question about biting the bullet. It's not easy, either. Also, the people around you may not understand what you're doing.

But, I can think of nothing as sad or pathetic as looking back on your life when you are old and realising you didn't live because you were scared or incapable or whatever,

bite the bullet

LegacyUser

I am the can't get out of bed guy?

Tigger

Karen_* wrote: »

Sorry you feel that was abuse. Your post was very encouraging to the OP, pity you had to detract from it by agreeing with an obvious troll and making a negative comparison between men and women. If the OP was a woman would you have jumped onto the thread to tell her her life is over and so not to bother making any changed.

Its great that as you got older your life changed for the better. A great example of how age shouldn't hold anyone back! Sorry the message was just a bit clouded.

it is better to be single and 30 odd when male than when female

women are running against time where men are just starting to cop on and reach good points in their carears

it the op was a woman i'd have left the thread alone i don't give advice to women unless they are looking for advice on men as i only give my opinion where it was needed, helpful and where i acually know what i'm talking about

you questioned my maturity and made some comment re my own personal development well thats personal abuse in my book but don't worry
i reported it; complaining that it was abuse and that you should have attacked what i was saying rather than who i am but nobody cares so work away its obviously ok.

Overheal

You're only as old as the women you feel.

30 is your prime. Its definitely got to be one of the best times to make a move. Hell my Dads in his 50s, had the rug pulled from under him and he is still managing to start again.

Karen_*

Tigger wrote: »

it is better to be single and 30 odd when male than when female

women are running against time where men are just starting to cop on and reach good points in their carears

it the op was a woman i'd have left the thread alone i don't give advice to women unless they are looking for advice on men as i only give my opinion where it was needed, helpful and where i acually know what i'm talking about

you questioned my maturity and made some comment re my own personal development well thats personal abuse in my book but don't worry
i reported it; complaining that it was abuse and that you should have attacked what i was saying rather than who i am but nobody cares so work away its obviously ok.

Your post was really encouraging for the OP. I most certainly didn't attack you but maybe your not as thickskinned as you expected your readers to be. I don't question your maturity at all by the way. I can see how mature you are.

nocal

I have to agree with other posters - 31 is the perfect age to do it. If it does not work out as you hoped it would then at least you can come back in a few years and you will still be in your early 30's. Better to try it now than wondering in 10 years time why you never pursued the option. Go for it OP. You only live once, make the most of it and try to have no regrets!

seahorse

Tigger wrote: »

it is better to be single and 30 odd when male than when female

Why?

Dudess

Tigger wrote: »

oh dear what?
oh dear men mature women age ?

its a fact

If you're brainwashed by sexist, ageist notions I suppose it is.

if i was a woman....this would not be true now would it?

Why not?

Tigger wrote: »

it is better to be single and 30 odd when male than when female

Yes, to echo seahorse: why?

women are running against time where men are just starting to cop on and reach good points in their carears

"Women"? "Men"? You're making awfully big generalisations about entire genders. And why are women running against time? Time for what?

No OP, 31 is not too old. Again, don't be brainwashed like Tigger and pwd - think outside the box. 31 is young, it may not be in your 20s but you need to get past the general consensus that the 20s is the only decade in which one is young. Age is about perspective - you're not 18... so what? You're a lot closer to 18 than you are to 70. You're in your prime, healthy and have loads of time.

Sprouts

Live your life and forget your age

Tigger

Dudess wrote: »

If you're brainwashed by sexist, ageist notions I suppose it is.

Why not?

Yes, to echo seahorse: why?

"Women"? "Men"? You're making awfully big generalisations about entire genders. And why are women running against time? Time for what?

No OP, 31 is not too old. Again, don't be brainwashed like Tigger and pwd - think outside the box. 31 is young, it may not be in your 20s but you need to get past the general consensus that the 20s is the only decade in which one is young. Age is about perspective - you're not 18... so what? You're a lot closer to 18 than you are to 70. You're in your prime, healthy and have loads of time.

thanks for acually taking on what i posted Dudess
i'm not brainwashed soceity is and i was giving that pov. but it is out there and just because something is noit correct dosent mean its not accepted as correct

when i say that women are running out of time i'm sure anyone can see that as opposed to men there is a perception and therefore a reality in getting a partner etc, an idea that all the best men are married or gay etc.

please look at the original post again

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Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

break up and bite the bullet suggest to me that the is unhappy in his realationship
i'm sure that he will be able to start again

pwd suggests that its easier for men to do this

i agree in general but not in spefic

i realise that this annoys some people but without both sides advice can circumvent the feelings of the op

i've just realised that i don't have evidence that the op is male

seems to be tho

LegacyUser

is31old wrote: »

Hi. Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Is 31 too old? Too old to start out again. Break up. Move country. Get a new job. Get new flat mates. Get a new life. Or should I just bite the bullet.
Any thoughts

Jeez.. I`m 47 and have to start all over again!

StormWarrior

At the age of 34 a friend of mine got divorced, moved to a different country and began a university course. He now has a new girlfriend, a whole bunch of new friends and has completed his degree. So no, 31 is not too old!