Using a prostitute

LegacyUser

I am in my late 20's. I have never kissed a girl. While other posters here in lheir late teens & early 20's talk about their woes being a virgin, I have never even kissed a girl!

This is too old to have absolutely 0 sexual experience. Thats why I am thinking of using a prostitute, Not for sex. Just for kissing. But I have doubts about how right it is . Unfortunately, it seems I have morals. If I was to use one, I would choose somebody in their 30's from somewhere like England so that there is a good chance they are in the sex trade because of their own choice. But I am so torn... I dont think it is right. But then again, is it right that I have missed out on so much?

Sherifu

Hmmmm. I'm gonna say don't do it. Try to find a nice girl instead.

pvt.joker

ah for f*ck sake lad. You dont want your first kiss to be with a whore


You ever been to Copper Face Jacks?

Talliesin

So you'll change from being someone who hasn't kissed anyone to someone who has only kissed a prostitute.

What is this meant to do?

dr.bollocko

I think you are confusing your desperation for physical affection with your genuine need for female approval and someone to share with. While a considerate callgirl might help you out for an hour, the root need and cause of your desperation will never be fulfilled by a woman you have paid to give you that affection you desire, regardless of whether it's sex or kissing.

If you do proceed with a prostitute, try and keep it emotionally detached so that you don't confuse your physical needs with emotional ones. Even if it is a one-off it could have a knock-on effect with women you see in the future.
Keep your wits about you and don't fall in love too easy because right now you are emotionally vulnerable is all I'm saying.

Dude, go out and flirt with every girl all night and you'll get a girl to kiss you. U may come across desperate but itd be monkey off your back. Jesus u could even use it as a line FFS. Its not rocket science. Jesus, why oh why would u want to KISS a hooker? Think about that from a hygiene perspective alone, feck thats disgusting!

Dathai

Just out of curiosity, is there any particular reason why you haven't "gotten any" (as it were), or haven't had the chance to be with a woman? Is it a confidence issue? Surely if you're in your late 20's you've had lots of chances.. I assume your friends have kissed girls, and done more..

But regarding the prostitue route - I wouldn't do it. You put yourself at risk of STDs, STIs and more than likely emotional consequences due to having your first sexual experience with a prostitute.

Have you tried going out with friends to the pub, clubs, and trying to flirt / chat up women?
I know it seems daunting, and is very difficult for some people to do, but if I was in your position I'd go down that route before I ever got a prostitute.

Caoimhín

Dont mind the kissing. If you pay good money, go straight for the good stuff. Loads of time for kissing.

It may be a good boast too. That you had sex before you even kissed a girl.

Karen_*

And the vast majority of them don't kiss, OP.

Is there any reason why you haven't kissed a girl? Are you very shy or feel intimidated by women? Because I've said this once and I'll say it again, don't measure yourself on what everyone else is doing. I know a few guys who never had a girlfriend until in their thirties and are now happily married.

A prositute isn't a good idea because you won't feel any better about yourself and it won't solve your problem or how you're feeling. Don't pay someone to kiss you. I'm sure you don't need to.

Can you elaborate a bit as to why you think you haven't had a snog?

pvt.joker

Deleted User wrote: »

Think about that from a hygiene perspective alone, feck thats disgusting!

Jesus I didn't think of that. Sick!:eek::eek::eek:

dr.bollocko

Dathai wrote: »

Just out of curiosity, is there any particular reason why you haven't "gotten any" (as it were), or haven't had the chance to be with a woman? Is it a confidence issue? Surely if you're in your late 20's you've had lots of chances.. I assume your friends have kissed girls, and done more..

There could be a million reasons I can think of off of the top of my head.

Dathai wrote:

But regarding the prostitue route - I wouldn't do it. You put yourself at risk of STDs, STIs and more than likely emotional consequences due to having your first sexual experience with a prostitute.

If you are having sex with anyone there is always a risk of these things. Dont assume that its a greater risk just because it's with a hooker. You dont know the history of any of your sexual partners and unless you demand a test before you do have sex, you will never know.

johnnyq

Op wrote:

But I have doubts about how right it is . Unfortunately, it seems I have morals.
But I am so torn... I dont think it is right. But then again, is it right that I have missed out on so much?

You don't think that using a prostitute is right. I think you've answered your own question here. Tbh, I think it's something you would regret.

So about 'missing out' and how to help that.
If you're into the pub scene then keep trying!
Otherwise, internet dating is very popular amongst the 30's age group so that would be an option too.
Again other options - weddings, social occasions, misiltoe/spin the bottle at staff christmas party etc...

When you do meet your life partner would you tell them that your first kiss was with a prostitute? If it is something you're going to be ashamed of don't do it.

MIN2511

Whats wrong with sleeping with a prostitute?

Dathai

dr.bollocko wrote: »

There could be a million reasons I can think of off of the top of my head..

Yes, that'd be why I'm asking him. Everyone has their reasons..

Karen_*

MIN2511 wrote: »

Whats wrong with sleeping with a prostitute?

Nothing at all. Its a personal choice. But I don't think it would be a good idea for that to be the OPs fisrt experience of sex or kissing.

Caoimhín

I sort of wish my Da had brought me to a prostitute when i was 12 or 13. It would have gotten rid of a lot of stress about getting laid for the following 4 years.

Monkey61

Definitely must tell us why you haven't kissed anyone OP. That's either a chronic lack of confidence or a hell of a lot of social scene avoiding.

Anyone can kiss anyone, it's really true - no matter how much you think you can't.

How do you get on with girls in general? Do you have female friends?

It would definitely be worth while just going out to a complete meat market and hitting on everyone - it may not be pretty, but once you break past that mental block it will get a lot easier. (Coppers coppers coppers!)Much better idea than a prostitute too. I shudder at the thought.

It would also be a fantastic line to use on all your prospective ladies!!

LegacyUser

Monkey61 wrote: »

Definitely must tell us why you haven't kissed anyone OP. That's either a chronic lack of confidence or a hell of a lot of social scene avoiding.

Anyone can kiss anyone, it's really true - no matter how much you think you can't.

How do you get on with girls in general? Do you have female friends?

It would definitely be worth while just going out to a complete meat market and hitting on everyone - it may not be pretty, but once you break past that mental block it will get a lot easier. (Coppers coppers coppers!)Much better idea than a prostitute too. I shudder at the thought.

It would also be a fantastic line to use on all your prospective ladies!!

i love coppers and the thought of you comparing it to a whore house just isnt really on to be honest! i have great nights there, mind you i wouldnt bring a hand bag out of there cause all the guys are after one thing in there and thats what gives the place its reputation!!

Op it will happen when it is meant to happen! dont you be getting worried about it! Make sure its for all the right reasons and make sure you make it a kiss to remember!!

Good luck to you!

lee1234

Monkey61 wrote: »

Definitely must tell us why you haven't kissed anyone OP.
Anyone can kiss anyone, it's really true - no matter how much you think you can't.

It would definitely be worth while just going out to a complete meat market and hitting on everyone - it may not be pretty, but once you break past that mental block it will get a lot easier.

God if it were only that simple

I think late 20's is long enough to wait. Prostitute is not ideal but its progress, and by way of confidence it may help you to get closer to engaging with the meat market method monkey61 is so fond of.

Refresh

as part of your problem is that you have little confidence with women, how do you think that you have the ability to ring a prostitute and visit her at her place or have her visit you at your place?

to me, that is a far bigger issue or at least a far scarier and more intimidating thing to do that to go out to a night club and start talking to random women about any topic under the sun and kiss them when the time comes.

Overheal

Dr. Bollocko is right here I think. Going to a prostitute is only going to satisfy a temporary physical need. Kissing is all well and fine but its only a prelude to the actual emotional gratification of the whole experience; I don't see how you are going to get that from hiring a hooker.

You have to keep the outlook that it will happen when it happen. If you stop worrying about it, it stops being a problem; you'll no longer come of as desperate, and then one day it will just happen.

I don't imagine you will be any more confident after a prostitution experience; in fact I think at the end of the day you will only feel worse about yourself

Rb

MIN2511 wrote: »

Whats wrong with sleeping with a prostitute?

Nothing really, it's just a sign of a man at the very bottom of the pit of desperation.

itchy&scratchy

Rb wrote: »

Nothing really, it's just a sign of a man at the very bottom of the pit of desperation.

you have obvioubsly never seen the ones in amsterdam so...................................:eek: hot hot hot

Bottle_of_Smoke

itchy&scratchy wrote: »

you have obvioubsly never seen the ones in amsterdam so...................................:eek: hot hot hot

This is true. I'm eternally glad I ran out of money by the time I thought it might be a good idea.

OP, I'd see this as a no-brainer, a prostitute will just make you feel weird. Every kiss seems really different the first few times so it won't even be preparing you for anything.

Maybe try online dating, if you're not meeting success with current methods I'd see this as much better plan B

Best of luck.

RealistSpy

Oi lad if you still have no luck I will huck you up with couple of girls . Am serious like.

yummycake

Op you should be cherishing what you have now. Not many people can say what you've just told us. Cherish it because you will meet someone.

Please not a hooker

I firmly believe you will feel worse when you're done because for the rest of your life you'll always have to remember that you had to pay for you're first kiss. No-one wants that.

needhelpguy

I think its a great idea. But go the whole way with the "escort" since you might as well.

Remember you're getting too caught up in this "relationship" "kissing" "girl" thing. It really is only a small part of life and there are many people perfectly happy with being single for their whole life because they are happy in themselves. Despite what society tells you, you don't need a girl to make you happy. Remember that.

Anyway go for it if you want!

MJOR

I think that paying someone to have your first kiss with them would be pretty sad if i am honest. There is nothing wrong with not having kissed or been physical with someone... It'll happen but the more you sit an think about it the less likely it is to happen!

DAVE_K

nowt wrong with sleeping with a prostitute - i'd go escort though as opposed to prostitute - a mate of mine had his first sh@g with one and had only fond memories of it - or you could try selling your virginity on e-bay "buy it now for............................0 euros"

For a lot of guys it's not the pit of desperation it's a no-strings chance to bed a seriously fine sexually experienced woman.......you know the phrase "there's women you pay for and women you don't and the women you pay for are a hell of a lot cheaper in the end"

[Jackass]

You don't know where those lips have been fella. I wouldn't stick me todger near those lips, never mind my own lips!!

Try internet dating, speed dating, dating agency or night clubs...not a hooker though fella!!

Monkey61

lottowinner234 wrote: »

i love coppers and the thought of you comparing it to a whore house just isnt really on to be honest! i have great nights there, mind you i wouldnt bring a hand bag out of there cause all the guys are after one thing in there and thats what gives the place its reputation!!

What??? I never said you can't have a great night there. It does in fairness have the reputation of somewhere people go to score members of the opposite sex. I'm not quite sure why you find me saying that offensive. I'm not implying that everyone who goes there is a whore, if that is what you thought. It would be very unfair to as its not true.

It's equally not fair to suggest that "all the guys there are after one thing."

Anyway, my point being that it would be much easier for the OP to kiss someone in a place that's more reminiscent of a school disco than in Whelans or somewhere like that.


Unfortunately, as a lot of us probably learned when we were teenagers, sometimes things just don't happen, you have to actually go out there and do something about it. First kisses are rarely magical anyway and in this case I think any first kiss will do wonders for the OP's confidence. He just needs to get out there and put himself in situations where it might happen. He's not going to get his first kiss sitting at home in front of the tv at night. It would be unfair to peddle the myth that one day when the time is right it will just occur, because it may never unless he gets out there and does something about it!

PS: If you havn't already read it, I would definitely advise reading Neil Strauss' "The Game". It gives a lot of useful tips on how to talk to girls and get past the awkwardness. Obviously I'm not suggesting that you turn into some sort of monster, going round picking up girls for sport, but if you ignore the madness it does explain how attraction works and is perfect if your'e just looking to chat someone up rather than find the love of your life!