Anyone dating a Nigerian?

Jessiegirl · 31-05-2008 9:04am #1

I've recently starting dabbling in online dating which is proving interesting, including the odd conman, would make a good book. I have a fairly healthy level of caution even after a short period.

Was wondering if any girls out there were dating or had dated a Nigerian man. I don't have any issues with inter-racial relationshiops, my sister is married to a lovely black men. However, have to be honest Nigerian's have a bad reputation and you would have be 100% certain of their motives.
This guy seems fine so far but after my last experience I'm certainly not going to even bother having a coffee with someone unless I think they are at least in the game for genuine reasons. Any advice bar sounding him out well. I am treating this as a bit of fun initially, yet hoping to find someone special of course, but just wondering do I need to look out fior something specific.

Degsy · 31-05-2008 9:09am

Jessiegirl wrote: »

I've recently starting dabbling in online dating which is proving interesting, including the odd conman, would make a good book. I have a fairly healthy level of caution even after a short period.

Was wondering if any girls out there were dating or had dated a Nigerian man. I don't have any issues with inter-racial relationshiops, my sister is married to a lovely black men. However, have to be honest Nigerian's have a bad reputation and you would have be 100% certain of their motives.
This guy seems fine so far but after my last experience I'm certainly not going to even bother having a coffee with someone unless I think they are at least in the game for genuine reasons. Any advice bar sounding him out well. I am treating this as a bit of fun initially, yet hoping to find someone special of course, but just wondering do I need to look out fior something specific.

Its up to you.If it was a female friend of mine i would say avoid like the plague they have a terrible reputation for dishonesty.I wouldnt call it racism,more a suspision based on actions of certain of thier countrymen.

Huggles · 31-05-2008 9:09am

Probably better suited to PI.

In my experience any Nigerian man that has crossed my path, so far, has been a total chancer, I am sure there are good ones out there but its not something I would be into exploring tt be honest. How boring am I.

I would treat it like any online relationship, just be cautious.

biko · 31-05-2008 9:12am

I am currently dating a Nigerian man I met online 5 weeks ago. He is very warm and a real gentleman. He says he will share the money that was left by the old king but he just needs my bank details first.

Caoimhín · 31-05-2008 9:12am

Degsy wrote: »

Its up to you.If it was a female friend of mine i would say avoid like the plague they have a terrible reputation for dishonesty.I wouldnt call it racism,more a suspision based on actions of certain of thier countrymen.

Thats sooooo racist.

OP, you should have sex with this poor man in case i decide you are a racist like Degsy.

Jessiegirl · 31-05-2008 9:16am

Was wondering when the wise cracks would start! I don't post but I read some of the threads a lot and some of you guys are gas at times.
So should I move this to Personal issues (can I move it or do I have to start it up again).

Listen I went out with a guy from the town here for 2 dates ....how could a Nigerian be any worse??

TwoShedsJackson · 31-05-2008 9:17am

Jessiegirl wrote: »

Was wondering if any girls out there were dating or had dated a Nigerian man. I don't have any issues with inter-racial relationshiops, my sister is married to a lovely black men.

Some of my best friends are race traitors...

Oswald Osbourne · 31-05-2008 9:20am

It's only 90% of Nigerians who give the rest a bad name. I say give him a chance.

Degsy · 31-05-2008 9:27am

I see a lot of fat-arsed tracksuit-wearing white slappers up round my way pushing prams with black kids in them.I've never seen them with the father.

Kintarō Hattori · 31-05-2008 9:43am

Degsy wrote: »

I see a lot of fat-arsed tracksuit-wearing white slappers up round my way pushing prams with black kids in them.I've never seen them with the father.

You see that alot here in Dublin too. I've NEVER seen the father when they're out pushing the pram.

Setun · 31-05-2008 9:45am

Degsy wrote: »

I see a lot of fat-arsed tracksuit-wearing white slappers up round my way pushing prams with black kids in them.I've never seen them with the father.

If you got a fat-arsed tracksuit wearing white slapper pregnant would you stick around?

Jessiegirl · 31-05-2008 9:46am

Yes and you see a lot of white babies been pushed around too by mums without a father.
God I even see my own sister pushing her baby around without her father too....OMG....imagine that...

Anything constructive to post bar stupid comments...?

Oswald Osbourne · 31-05-2008 9:48am

Jessiegirl wrote: »

Anything constructive to post bar stupid comments...?

Possibly the most redundant question ever asked on this board.

Jessiegirl · 31-05-2008 9:49am

Yes, I'd say that's true Oswald... I'll stick her in PI as well... or are ye over there too

RedXIV · 31-05-2008 9:50am

In contrast, i met a very nice, genuine nigerian girl for a night of drinks recently, will more than likely do it again

Degsy · 31-05-2008 10:05am

Daddio wrote: »

If you got a fat-arsed tracksuit wearing white slapper pregnant would you stick around?

Once i got my citizenship i'd be GONE!:pac:

DanGerMus · 31-05-2008 10:21am

Kintarō Hattori wrote: »

You see that alot here in Dublin too. I've NEVER seen the father when they're out pushing the pram.

Maybe he's at work?

Catari Jaguar · 31-05-2008 10:25am

The Nigerian dudes dressed up like Fiddy, hitting on 14r year old knack girls outside Dr. Quirkeys is enough to turn me off.

Oswald Osbourne · 31-05-2008 10:28am

DanGerMus wrote: »

Maybe he's at work?

lol.

Maybe they saw this event on a Thursday morning.

Canis Lupus · 31-05-2008 10:37am

Well spoke to a Nigerian once who owned a business in Nigeria. He does everything money related himself. He said he wouldn't even trust his own mother with money which says something and working in a certain money transfer company allows me to back up my claim that a mahooosive number of Nigerians are thieving bastards.

What exactly is it about Nigerians that make them so likely to be dodgy considering there are poorer African countries?

Lirange · 31-05-2008 10:40am

Jessie you're a wise one to come here asking for advice on dating. As you can see from the responses you've done the right thing.

MooseJam · 31-05-2008 10:46am

forget it he's just in it to fleece you

KBarry · 31-05-2008 10:52am

Canis Lupus wrote: »

What exactly is it about Nigerians that make them so likely to be dodgy considering there are poorer African countries?

Good question. I've met loads of Africans... Zimbabwe, Kenya, Ghana etc... all sound enough. Nigerians though always seem like they are up to something.

Caoimhín · 31-05-2008 10:57am

KBarry wrote: »

Good question. I've met loads of Africans... Zimbabwe, Kenya, Ghana etc... all sound enough. Nigerians though always seem like they are up to something.

They are the Jews of Africa.;)

towel401 · 31-05-2008 10:59am

biko wrote: »

I am currently dating a Nigerian man I met online 5 weeks ago. He is very warm and a real gentleman. He says he will share the money that was left by the old king but he just needs my bank details first.

lmao

BJC · 31-05-2008 11:00am

caoibhin wrote: »

They are the Jews of Africa.;)

Brilliant!

Raekwon · 31-05-2008 12:07pm

Lil Kitten wrote: »

The Nigerian dudes dressed up like Fiddy, hitting on 14r year old knack girls outside Dr. Quirkeys is enough to turn me off.

lol

that is the exact image that I had in my head when I read the first post.

axer · 31-05-2008 12:23pm

Oswald Osbourne wrote: »

It's only 90% of Nigerians who give the rest a bad name. I say give him a chance.

There is a great 10% chance that he is not one of the bad ones! :pac: It could be worse - he could be Roma in which there would probably be a 0.0001% chance he is not one of the bad ones.

Caoimhín · 31-05-2008 12:38pm

Where are the PC cops? I thought they would be in here by now with accusations of racism and calling us all Nazis.

AckwelFoley · 31-05-2008 12:49pm

I know many nigerians personally... and to be fair about it now all of them are "bad" but, im not sure if its a cultural thing with them but they have a certain way about them. But to be honest no matter what a reputation one may have associated with their nationality, i will always treat the individual with the same respect as anyone else..

.. if and when the fcuk up.. good luck..

Id give the guy a chance. I'd hold back on exchanging bank details for now

The guy · 31-05-2008 12:51pm

Nigeria is one of the most corrupt countries in the world.

AckwelFoley · 31-05-2008 12:53pm

The guy wrote: »

Nigeria is one of the most corrupt countries in the world.

..second after colombia...

but, ireland was the hotspot in europe for terrorism.. but not all of us had traces of semtex on our hands

chopperbyrne · 31-05-2008 1:07pm

Not all Nigerian people are scammers and there are thousands of hard working Nigerians in Ireland.

I say go for it, although beware of how religious Nigerian people are!

Caoimhín · 31-05-2008 1:09pm

snyper wrote: »

..second after colombia...

but, ireland was the hotspot in europe for terrorism.. but not all of us had traces of semtex on our hands

I have.

Caoimhín · 31-05-2008 1:10pm

chopperbyrne wrote: »

I say go for it, although beware of how religious Nigerian people are!

Thats right, a lot of them are god botherers.

pvt.joker · 31-05-2008 1:10pm

Daddio wrote: »

If you got a fat-arsed tracksuit wearing white slapper pregnant would you stick around?

ahhahahahahah

JangoFett · 31-05-2008 1:21pm

There is that reputation out there, but don't most men have that reputation of just being out for a ride? But Nigerian men seem to have their reputations overblown more than the rest of us

Meet him for a coffee, in a neutral environment, during the day. You will be able to get a read of him that way, if it was a late night beer then the situation could be harder to read, too many distractions

Degsy · 31-05-2008 1:24pm

JangoFett wrote: »

There is that reputation out there, but don't most men have that reputation of just being out for a ride? But Nigerian men seem to have their reputations overblown more than the rest of us

Meet him for a coffee, in a neutral environment, during the day. You will be able to get a read of him that way, if it was a late night beer then the situation could be harder to read, too many distractions

They're not great drinkers either for some reason

JangoFett · 31-05-2008 1:44pm

I always see them drinking Guinness, I can dig that

The Al Lad · 31-05-2008 1:49pm

I knew a girl who was dating a nigerian...

her and sister chopped him up and chucked him him in the canal

Dudess · 31-05-2008 1:51pm

I was talking to a super leftie feminist campaigner once and even she said there is a scamming culture endemic in Nigeria. But not all of them are gonna be scammers so give this guy the benefit of the doubt.

Jessiegirl · 31-05-2008 2:02pm

Mmm - interesting, didn't expect the levels of negativity to be this high.
Wondering how many of ye who have nothing good to say actually KNOW any Nigerians as per the thread title - only one person has ever been out with one I see....ye're gas..

Anyway, I know I would be more likely to meet up with an Irishman first and that is for cultural reasons, I'm very independent & feel my sense of humour might be lost elsewhere etc. and so on. I'm getting mails from Irish guys now elsewhere and would be more inclined to see one of them first, nothing to do with prejudice just feels easier. Also lean towards men with kids too etc.
This online dating is fascinating - yet another addictive laptop pastime for me

Terry · 31-05-2008 2:05pm

Oh sweet jesus.

Anyone dating a Nigerian?

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