Internet Dating... Is It Wierd?

tweety28

Open ended...

admiralofthefleet

dont know, yore ma should know

It's weird. Damnit. Not Wierd. Weird.

And no, it's not all that weird anymore. You hear stories about people falling in love over the internet and then getting hitched all the time.

BetsyGray

Lets face it, it really is for ugly and/or desperate people. Not that thats a bad thing.
In fact I think its a good way for the great mass of people who need to prove they're worthwhile human beings before other people will actually look at them. They aren't exactly going to be able to do that in a nightclub are they?

It's also worthwhile for people who are a bit past it and need to find someone quickly. Time's running out and all that.

Rob_l

modern world things change and all that, hectic pace of life makes it hard for the old ways of courting to apply.

Is it really all that different from any other way like talking to strangers in a bar

tweety28

I before E except after C...... no?

Davidius

Well...

I think it's strange.

tweety28

tweety28 wrote: »

I before E except after C...... no?

That should be the rule, but the word weird doesn't go by this. Check it up in a dictionary.

tweety28

Deleted User wrote: »

That should be the rule, but the word weird doesn't go by this. Check it up in a dictionary.

Its alright I believe you...

Rob_l

tweety28 wrote: »

I before E except after C...... no?

and in certain exceptions
weird is one

allabouteve

BetsyGray wrote: »

Lets face it, it really is for ugly and/or desperate people. Not that thats a bad thing.
In fact I think its a good way for the great mass of people who need to prove they're worthwhile human beings before other people will actually look at them. They aren't exactly going to be able to do that in a nightclub are they?

It's also worthwhile for people who are a bit past it and need to find someone quickly. Time's running out and all that.

Perhaps it's also for people with really busy careers etc, who don't have the chance to socialise much. Or people who find clubs and pubs boring. They do exist y'know. Some of them are even attractive.

Rb

I think it's becoming more accepted and the social stigma surrounding it is starting to disappear.

Pighead

allabouteve wrote: »

Perhaps it's also for people with really busy careers etc, who don't have the chance to socialise much. Or people who find clubs and pubs boring. They do exist y'know. Some of them are even attractive.

C'mon eve thats a cop out. Pigheads grandfather was a farmer who worked 169 hours a week yet he didn't need the internet to find himself a chick. Where there's a will there's a way.

If Grandaddy Pighead had to rely on the internet to bag himself a bird then Pighead wouldn't be here today. Its all about having the confidence of a Harlem Globetrotter, the heart of a lion and the todger of a stallion.

allabouteve

Pighead wrote: »

C'mon eve thats a cop out. Pigheads grandfather was a farmer who worked 169 hours a week yet he didn't need the internet to find himself a chick. Where there's a will there's a way.

If Grandaddy Pighead had to rely on the internet to bag himself a bird then Pighead wouldn't be here today. Its all about having the confidence of a Harlem Globetrotter, the heart of a lion and the todger of a stallion.

That description does indeed make grandpa pighead sound utterly irresistible...

Boom_Bap

I met my ball and chain over t'internet...not boards.ie

And I can say it is extremely weird.

Ruu_Old

Not at all, pub and club scene wasn't for me and t'internet worked out well here (not from a dating site though). Doesn't work for everyone though.

TomCo

Its pretty rubbish, very one sided.

Expecations soar a thousand fold on the interwebs.
A lot of women see the amount of men on these sites and think they've got huge prospects and choice so they have no motivation to reply to, or even send messages to men.

You've also got a lot of underage kids pretending to be older than they really are, and others who just want to set morons up for a fall.

Its very interesting from a sociological standpoint.

To this end I've actually set up a few dummy accounts with nothing but the required information and sex set to female, you wouldnt believe the sort of filth women on these site receive on a daily basis. It would be funny if it weren't so bloody creepy.

Edit: And yes, I am aware of the irony in calling other people creepy.

allabouteve

TomCo wrote: »

Its pretty rubbish, very one sided.

Expecations soar a thousand fold on the interwebs.
A lot of women see the amount of men on these sites and think they've got huge prospects and choice so they have no motivation to reply to, or even send messages to men.

You've also got a lot of underage kids pretending to be older than they really are, and others who just want to set morons up for a fall.

Its very interesting from a sociological standpoint.

To this end I've actually set up a few dummy accounts with nothing but the required information and sex set to female, you wouldnt believe the sort of filth women on these site receive on a daily basis. It would be funny if it weren't so bloody creepy.

Scary...

Sherifu

Nothing wrong with it really.

metaoblivia

Yeah, while I'm sure the internet dating has worked for some people, I've found it incredibly creepy the few times I've tried it. If you're even a mildly attractive female, you get bombarded with requests and some of the guys can get very aggressive. Some people may have the patience to sort all of that out, but it overwhelmed me.
Also, it's very easy for people to misrepresent themselves online. Obviously people do that in real life too, but in real life you have the luxury of body language and eye contact, which can say volumes about a person.
Again, it works for some people, but I'm not sold on it. I think it's kind of weird.

jester77

There are a lot of people who don't possess the social skills required to meet people in real life so it's a good way for them to meet someone. It's easier for them to hide behind a screen until they are more comfortable with the person they are talking to, but at the same time there's probably a lot of freaks online. I prefer to meet people in the real world, at least you know that the knockout blonde with a great set is genuine

Genghiz Cohen

jester77 wrote: »

at least you know that the knockout blonde with a great set is genuine

Oh you charmer....

KnifeWRENCH

I wouldn't trust internet dating coz there's a lot of freaks on those sites.
Having said that, I might give it a go sometime if I get fed up of being lonely, desparate, depressed and single.

kowloon

A lot of truth in what TomCo is saying, you aren't really getting to know someone and it's much easier to misrepresent yourself with a keyboard than in person.

I think, however, that a club where the volume is too high to talk and everyone is 12 steps beyond rat@rsed is an equally $hitty environment.

I don't think either way is very efficient as a way of finding someone you like.

BetsyGray

BetsyGray wrote: »

Lets face it, it really is for ugly and/or desperate people. Not that thats a bad thing.

Extremely attractive people can find it more difficult to met someone socially.
As courters tend to think that they are out of their league.

I don't think it is wierd.
I haven't done it, luckily I'm plain enough for anyone to think they are on a par with me.

queen of hearts

It would be nice if they worked. All the flirting when your out on a night gets really annoying when a few minutes later they're asking if you need to stay at their flat for the night.

God knows the night links far too dangerous, and all girls know its much safer to end up in a random flat. *rolls eyes* I attract chance-rs!

kowloon

Moonbaby wrote: »

I'm plain enough for anyone to think they are on a par with me.

A young vixen trying to seduce us with her humility no doubt.

queen of hearts

All the girls out there looking for a rich guy! I read about this in a magazine awhile ago..... its bizzare http://www.sugardaddie.com/

kowloon

kowloon wrote: »

A young vixen trying to seduce us with her humility no doubt.

Eh a sneaky vixen who knows how to work her assets more like.

kowloon

queen of hearts wrote: »

All the girls out there looking for a rich guy! I read about this in a magazine awhile ago..... its bizzare http://www.sugardaddie.com/

So if you are thinking of internet dating, you now know where to go for something with the depth of a paddling pool.

queen of hearts

kowloon wrote: »

So if you are thinking of internet dating, you now know where to go for something with the depth of a paddling pool.

Ah but think of the depth of there wallets.

Wouldn't be my cup of tea, there's something even more sinister about a man going online saying EXACTLY what he's looking for because he can afford it.

taidghbaby

hmmmm........and there was me under the impression that "internet dating" was a euphemism for prostitution

jester77

jester77 wrote: »

There are a lot of people who don't possess the social skills required to meet people in real life so it's a good way for them to meet someone.

Such as myself. I've tried the whole internet thing though and it's only been one bad experience after another.

On the other hand I don't drink so Ireland's only real way of meeting people is out the door for me.

jester77

Karsini wrote: »

Such as myself. I've tried the whole internet thing though and it's only been one bad experience after another.

On the other hand I don't drink so Ireland's only real way of meeting people is out the door for me.

That's the one thing that sucks about Ireland if you are not a drinker. I know a few Germans who are over in Dublin and this is something they always mention. They are not into the pub scene and they have tried to join sports and other types of groups but what happens is the people turn up, little to no sport is done and everyone goes to the pub for the evening.

BraziliaNZ

I can understand why blokes use it but not chicks. I mean a chick can just stand around somewhere were blokes are and if she's half-decent looking she'll be talked to etc.
I tried it once when I lived in Ireland and all the girls who would reply were either fat, ugly, or really f*cking weird or all 3. The 3 or 4 hot ones out of the 100s of girls don't seem to reply no matter what you look like.

BraziliaNZ

jester77 wrote: »

That's the one thing that sucks about Ireland if you are not a drinker. I know a few Germans who are over in Dublin and this is something they always mention. They are not into the pub scene and they have tried to join sports and other types of groups but what happens is the people turn up, little to no sport is done and everyone goes to the pub for the evening.

The Germans I knew in Dublin used to go to pubs more often than I did, they just didn't get as rat arsed as me. Incidentally, I met my ex (eine deutsche) when I was ratarsed on a nightlink, so strange things can happen...

QueenB

i dunno if this qualifies as internet dating or not but my boyfriend first 'poked' me on facebook, after a few good conversations we decided to meet up and we have been together since.. and i dont mean to be cocky but we are both pretty fit.

what happends-at least from my point of view right- is that nightclubs are full of chancers and those who arent just dont talk to you, at all..(well maybe they stare from a distance, but is not like you can do anything with that) and to be fair, right, is pretty hard for a girl to make the first move.. no matter if u are a stunner or not, cos the idea of rejection is always there.. you know what i mean?

BraziliaNZ

Yeah but the idea of rejection is just as bad for us if not worse. Women don't make the first move because someone will always try and chat them up if they're attractive. I'm a decent looking bloke and fit but I could stand around bars/nightclubs for years on end and never be approached by a bird, that couldn't possibly happen a girl.

QueenB

fair enough but truth be told if ive learn something about blokes is that they dont show interest unless you ignore them a bit, you know how hard it is for us to pretend we dont like you and try to make you lads notice us at the same time??? trust me is not that easy....

KBarry

Boom_Bap wrote: »

I met my ball and chain over t'internet...not boards.ie

And I can say it is extremely weird.

Me too. Working out alright so far (2 years married/3 years together/4 years since we 'met' online').
When I was doing loads of solo travelling I met lots of people on the web before I went. No romantic/sexual intentions. I just wanted somebody to show me around. All of them were sound.

QueenB

KBarry wrote: »

Me too. Working out alright so far (2 years married/3 years together/4 years since we 'met' online').
When I was doing loads of solo travelling I met lots of people on the web before I went. No romantic/sexual intentions. I just wanted somebody to show me around. All of them were sound.

couchsurfing, right?

BraziliaNZ

Ignore them a bit? Jesus, that would just convince me she has no interest at all.

QueenB

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

Ignore them a bit? Jesus, that would just convince me she has no interest at all.

oh come on thats the dating ritual right there like, if you dont do it, they take you as 'easy'/a one night stand, and no girl in her right mind wants that.. unless she is on the rebound, which is a totally different thing.
if a guy thinks you are totally gaggin for him, you are done like.. i think is like the cave man chasing his pray (subconciously) or something

BraziliaNZ

QueenB wrote: »

oh come on thats the dating ritual right there like, if you dont do it, they take you as 'easy'/a one night stand, and no girl in her right mind wants that.. unless she is on the rebound, which is a totally different thing.
if a guy thinks you are totally gaggin for him, you are done like.. i think is like the cave man chasing his pray (subconciously) or something

I have to say I've never experienced it myself, the last few girls I've let them do all the texting/arranging etc as i dont want to seem too keen at all, I've been told that freaks some girls out...

QueenB

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

I have to say I've never experienced it myself, the last few girls I've let them do all the texting/arranging etc as i dont want to seem too keen at all, I've been told that freaks some girls out...

yeah personally id take it as a crappy attitud, im not saying i prefer clingy guys, coz they are the worst.. but if you care, show it. theres a huge difference between being too keen and an orsehole.......

TomCo

QueenB wrote: »

oh come on thats the dating ritual right there like, if you dont do it, they take you as 'easy'/a one night stand, and no girl in her right mind wants that.. unless she is on the rebound, which is a totally different thing.
if a guy thinks you are totally gaggin for him, you are done like.. i think is like the cave man chasing his pray (subconciously) or something

I hate all that rubbish, its only going to work on people you dont want it to work on.
Normal guys are just going to think you're being an edjit and **** off.

At least thats what I do, I dont have the patience for it.

Somewhere along the lines things got way over complicated.

BraziliaNZ

QueenB wrote: »

yeah personally id take it as a crappy attitud, im not saying i prefer clingy guys, coz they are the worst.. but if you care, show it. theres a huge difference between being too keen and an orsehole.......

Well I mean there's a somewhere inbetween clingy and arsehole, I try to set up camp in there

QueenB

TomCo wrote: »

I hate all that rubbish, its only going to work on people you dont want it to work on.
Normal guys are just going to think you're being an edjit and **** off.

At least thats what I do, I dont have the patience for it.

Somewhere along the lines things got way over complicated.

im there with you, but it just doesnt work like that..
i have friends that were like totally inlove with different guys from different backgrounds and 'styles' and the result was always the same, they'd text them to meet up for a few weeks and it always reached a stage where the blokes new they really liked them so they lost interest.........

TomCo

Don't you think its better that way?
Who wants to be with someone who could lose interest with you in the space of a few weeks?

In the immortal words of some random loud black lady in the audience of a day time talk show,
"You gotta ditch that zero and you self a he-ro"


Edit: Another possibility is that they never really liked her from the beginning but didnt want to actually say it in order to avoid an awkward situation. I've done it myself

BraziliaNZ

TomCo wrote: »

In the immortal words of some random loud black lady in the audience of a day time talk show,
"You gotta ditch that zero and you self a he-ro"

Y'all don' know me... You need to SIT DOWN!

Cunny-Funt

QueenB wrote: »

oh come on thats the dating ritual right there like, if you dont do it, they take you as 'easy'/a one night stand, and no girl in her right mind wants that.. unless she is on the rebound, which is a totally different thing.
if a guy thinks you are totally gaggin for him, you are done like.. i think is like the cave man chasing his pray (subconciously) or something

jesus.

This is why I'm single right here, I just can't deal with the fkin mind games.

Ignoring me isnt gonna make me chase you even more, its gonna make me feel like **** and will probably take me 3 years to work up the guts to try it with someone again.

Chicks go out of their way to only attract the guys that don't take no for an answer and then wonder why they always end up with arseholes.


**edit**

In answer to the OP, internet dating is just as weird as and random as most other human mating rituals.