Am I exaggerating??

Irachka

Hello all,

Here is the thing,

I went away on holidays for 5 days asked my boyfriend to come with me but he couldn't get the time off so I went with my friends.

I really missed him and couldn't wait to see him. Today he picked me up from the airport- hungover. That along annoyed me,cause he looked pretty bad. Then on the way home his car run out of diesel so we had to sit on the side of motorway for about 40 minutes and wait for his mate to drive over with fuel-how hard is it to fill up the car before driving to airport?? Then it doesn't get any better when we finally got home the state of the kitchen was just unreal. Spilled drink all over the floor bottles all over the room and just a general mess!!! I was so looking forward to coming home, cause home is home, no matter how great is the holiday. I got really upset and I'm not talking to him now. He doesn't see anything wrong with this and instead of cleaning the mess just went to sleep. So am I exaggerating or is it normal???

AARRRGH

He obviously let his hair down while you were away...

I'm guessing the running out of petrol and the lack of cleaning are related, i.e. he's hungover and isn't quite with it today.

I'd let him away with it... they're minor issues really.

ballroom blitz

Have to say there is nothing better than your own place when you've been away its great to come home!! I personally would be hugely irritated if I came home and the place was a state although I am a bit of a clean freak. I don't think the hangover and the fuel issues would bug me as much. You are probably right to be a bit p*ssed but don't let it ruin your home coming. Try talking to him about it rather than ignoring him that won't solve anything.

Fatloss08

op

u sound like a ball buster

so what if he was hungover he's allowed a drink or a few

ur over reacting , so what the kitchens dirty , 10 mins and its brandnew

people out there with real issues and u go over board with petty ****

grow up

Collie D

The guy has obvioulsy had a few mates over for beers and got a bit rat-arsed. Probably woke up on couch and hadn't got time to clean up because he was running late to pick up you. Cut him some slack - you had a holiday with your mates and you're pissed off because he had one night with his?

In short, in answer to your question - yes you are over-reacting (I assume that's what you meant when you said exaggerating)

Trapattoni

Unless this is something he does on a regular basis I have to say I feel sorry for your boyfriend !!

He CAME OUT TO PICK YOU UP ( Thank you ) - He ran out of petrol (COuld happen to anyone and must have been annoying as hell for him) and then he got his mate to come help (thank you again)

Seriously the kitchen can be cleaned ,we've all done it and you say he was hungover so let it lie!

Id say he was kicking himself he didnt clean the kitchen but Id also say he could have done with another couple of days at home alone.

Now p:Dlease go make up!:D

MagicMarker

Irachka wrote: »

Hello all,

Here is the thing,

I went away on holidays for 5 days asked my boyfriend to come with me but he couldn't get the time off so I went with my friends.

I really missed him and couldn't wait to see him. Today he picked me up from the airport- hungover. That along annoyed me,cause he looked pretty bad. Then on the way home his car run out of diesel so we had to sit on the side of motorway for about 40 minutes and wait for his mate to drive over with fuel-how hard is it to fill up the car before driving to airport?? Then it doesn't get any better when we finally got home the state of the kitchen was just unreal. Spilled drink all over the floor bottles all over the room and just a general mess!!! I was so looking forward to coming home, cause home is home, no matter how great is the holiday. I got really upset and I'm not talking to him now. He doesn't see anything wrong with this and instead of cleaning the mess just went to sleep. So am I exaggerating or is it normal???

Poor guy, the girlfriend goes on holiday without him and then he has to get up early just to pick her up from the airport.

jdivision

so you went away and enjoyed yourself for five months and he enjoyed himself the night before you came home and you're giving out. Grow up

Fatloss08

ur annoyed he was hungover collecting u

that bugs me

he isnt there to taxi u everywhere , whats wrong with a taxi ??? count urself lucky he even collected u

i wouldnt expect my gf to collect me , its easier to get taxi etc

doubt he'd want to sit in car for 40 mins hungover so that was an obvious mistake

Collie D

No sympathy for you here. I'd suggest that you stop behaving like a little Princess. Did you thank him for the lify by the way? Or his mate for coming out with petrol? Or did you expect him to be there? Are you generally this spoilt? Because this a really, really minor thing to get annoyed about.

Irachka

Fatloss08 wrote: »

op

u sound like a ball buster

so what if he was hungover he's allowed a drink or a few

ur over reacting , so what the kitchens dirty , 10 mins and its brandnew

people out there with real issues and u go over board with petty ****

grow up

Who can I ask you is gonna clean the kitchen in 10 mins??? Me??? Don't think so! Him??? Don't think so either, he's no intention of this whats so ever, a little sorry for the state of the house would have been nice and I wouldn't say a word. I live in this house and I'm entitled to come home and be able to relax not look at the filth

AARRRGH

Another thing, OP:

For the five days you were away, he had a bit of peace and quiet and was able to do whatever he wanted.

As soon as you arrive home you're already making his life difficult and giving him the silent treatment. If I were him I'd be thinking: do I really need this bitch in my life?

/No offence

Collie D

Irachka wrote: »

I live in this house and I'm entitled to come home and be able to relax not look at the filth

And your boyfriend is entitled to get drunk when he's got a night off. Did you expect him to be sitting at home counting down the days until he has the privilege of picking you up from the airport? Fair enough, leave the kitchen for him to clean but get off the guy's cas ffs

I bet you never got him any duty free either

Fatloss08

Irachka wrote: »

Who can I ask you is gonna clean the kitchen in 10 mins??? Me??? Don't think so! Him??? Don't think so either, he's no intention of this whats so ever, a little sorry for the state of the house would have been nice and I wouldn't say a word. I live in this house and I'm entitled to come home and be able to relax not look at the filth

well if he's that lazy and such a let down why the hell are you with him ???

he's entitled to not collect u as ur a big girl now make ur own way home

but he cant win either way can he

Irachka

Fatloss08 wrote: »

ur annoyed he was hungover collecting u

that bugs me

he isnt there to taxi u everywhere , whats wrong with a taxi ??? count urself lucky he even collected u

i wouldnt expect my gf to collect me , its easier to get taxi etc

doubt he'd want to sit in car for 40 mins hungover so that was an obvious mistake

I wouldnt collect you either if i was your girlfriend

Fatloss08

first things first

id never be with such a cow

Collie D

Irachka wrote: »

I wouldnt collect you either if i was your girlfriend

And I honestly thought you couldn't get any more immature. You're entertaingin I'll give you that much

Fatloss08

collie i feel sad for the poor bloke

god knows what she did wth other blokes

Sparky

jdivision wrote: »

so you went away and enjoyed yourself for five months and he enjoyed himself the night before you came home and you're giving out. Grow up

5 days

OP, atleast he went out and collected you from the airport even with a hangover. Running out of petrol, **** happens.

You are exaggerating.

RedXIV

Sorry lass but as it goes, i think you have gone a bit over the top. whether you like it or not, he's not as obsessed with the condition of the house as you are and to him, the condition is not bad enough to merit immediate attention. You have to remember, you've had 5 days off, he's been working. weekend is his break, he's entitled to be that more lazy on these days off. And considering he went to pick you up, thats def counting in his favour. You're not coming across great lass, and i reckon you need to suck it in and admit you overreacted

Irachka

Ok,

Lets just say one thing,

If that was him coming home I'd make sure the place is spotless, so he actually feels I wanted him to come home and he is welcome. Again the mess is not just a once off thing it happens constantly, I just ignore it, but coming home I'm expecting the place to be in a decent state

MagicMarker

Irachka wrote: »

I wouldnt collect you either if i was your girlfriend

You know, any sane rational person would read these replies and think they may be over reacting slightly.

No wonder your boyfriend drank himself silly, he probably had to in preperation of your return.

Loopy

A lot of males giving their opinions here and some are right especially Collie D. But Im female and understand where your coming from.

Its lovely to get home to your place clean and tidy the way you left it. But realistically he had a few beers with the lads, and went to bed. I know most wimmins tend to clean up after themselves but lads tend to worry about shit like that the next day..

Go easy on him, he did collect you after all. Let him clean up though;)

Quality

Irachka, Your getting a bit of a tough time here off the lads which is a bit unfair,

But they probably still live at home with their mammies so dont be worrying about it.

Go up to bed beside him, and snuggle, Let him know tomorrow that you wer pissed off about x y and z.


Just tell him that you missed him and love him very much...

And dont read anymore of the posts from the children... They will only piss you off and put you in worse form.


And welcome home!

Collie D

RedXIV wrote: »

You have to remember, you've had 5 days off, he's been working. weekend is his break, he's entitled to be that more lazy on these days off. And considering he went to pick you up, thats def counting in his favour.

A big +1 to that.

Fatloss08

Irachka wrote: »

Ok,

Lets just say one thing,

If that was him coming home I'd make sure the place is spotless, so he actually feels I wanted him to come home and he is welcome. Again the mess is not just a once off thing it happens constantly, I just ignore it, but coming home I'm expecting the place to be in a decent state

why think it would be any diff ?????

women are known to be more cleaner than men in regards the house

if u aint happy leave him , poor chap hasnt a hope with you

ur one of these girls i bet he's found in bed with another man naked and u say " dont know what happened , i just woke up in bed with him " u just cant accept ur in the wrong

davyjose

Irachka wrote: »

Ok,

Lets just say one thing,

If that was him coming home I'd make sure the place is spotless, so he actually feels I wanted him to come home and he is welcome. Again the mess is not just a once off thing it happens constantly, I just ignore it, but coming home I'm expecting the place to be in a decent state

But lets say you didn't .... would he act like a complete a$$hole over it? I think you got a better deal than he did OP. Boo Hoo, the house wasn't clean when you got back. So what?
You complained that he was hungover, well answer this: were you hungover at all over the past 5 days?

MagicMarker

Quality wrote: »

But they probably still live at home with their mammies so dont be worrying about it.

Generalise much?

davyjose

Quality wrote: »

Irachka, Your getting a bit of a tough time here off the lads which is a bit unfair,

But they probably still live at home with their mammies so dont be worrying about it.

Go up to bed beside him, and snuggle, Let him know tomorrow that you wer pissed off about x y and z.


Just tell him that you missed him and love him very much...

And dont read anymore of the posts from the children... They will only piss you off and put you in worse form.


And welcome home!

My favourite kind of post on PI - the "ignore everyone else except me because my opinion is rightest" post.:rolleyes:

Collie D

Quality wrote: »

Irachka, Your getting a bit of a tough time here off the lads which is a bit unfair,

But they probably still live at home with their mammies so dont be worrying about it.

Go up to bed beside him, and snuggle, Let him know tomorrow that you wer pissed off about x y and z.


Just tell him that you missed him and love him very much...

And dont read anymore of the posts from the children... They will only piss you off and put you in worse form.


And welcome home!

Are you trying to turn this into a battle of the sexes? She is in the wrong, regardless of her gender. Immature and spoiled. As I said, the bf should clean up his mess but it's not as if he's been having hookers over every night while she was awwy. I stand by my spoiled Princess comment

Fatloss08

quality is prob her under her diff personality

jeckl and hyde mean anything ???????????/

posters , why are we even replying to this ???

AARRRGH

Quality wrote: »

And dont read anymore of the posts from the children... They will only piss you off and put you in worse form.

That's great advice. Dismiss male opinion as childish. :rolleyes:

/I agree people are being a bit harsh, but the general message is correct: give the guy a break

Fatloss08

Collie D wrote: »

Are you trying to turn this into a battle of the sexes? She is in the wrong, regardless of her gender. Immature and spoiled. As I said, the bf should clean up his mess but it's not as if he's been having hookers over every night while she was awwy. I stand by my spoiled Princess comment

if he had i wouldnt blame him having norah batty to come home

dot branning

RedXIV

Fatloss08, i think your starting to take some of this to heart. Lets be fair here, she's asking for opinions which means she's obviously not sure if she was in the right. this does not deserve immediate bashing.

Quality, come on now lass, be fair we're not ALL horrible people, us men
But you can't dismiss the obvious consensis of male opinion here. This is how we think, we're not that bothered by things such as dirty houses. women see it different but thats the facts.

OP, i glad to see you'd have the house spotless for your fella coming back. but a clean house isn't the best way to welcome a guy home. I'd prefer a warm welcome in a dump to a spotless house with "why aren't you shaven?!!" as a greeting. Guys and girls arent the same, this you need to accept

Quality

Ahh lads in fairness, some of your posts are out of order... Dot Branning Nora Batty?

Mena

I think the slob could have had the common decency to clean up after himself. There's no problem going a bit mental while she's away, but the last thing you want to come home to is a pig sty.

I understand the OP's reaction.

Jack B. Badd

Tbh, I'd be a bit annoyed if I came home after a week and the kitchen was in a right state but I reckon you're probably over-reacting about the rest if what you're saying is accurate. I'd be very happy if my boyfriend collected me from the airport especially if he was feeling rough after heading out the night before (he is entitled to a bit of down time too). However, it's a bit difficult to have an informed opinion if you are exaggerating the situation as your thread title implies.

castie

RedXIV wrote: »

...she's asking for opinions which means she's obviously not sure if she was in the right. this does not deserve immediate bashing.

It doesnt appear to me that shes asking for opinions at all.
In fact it appears that she is searching for approval for her actions, she hasnt got it here yet she still proceeds with her original action.

Also seems to me that you care more about a clean house then coming back to your boyfriend after 5 days away. My advice would be to sort your priorities, theres more important things in life than a clean kitchen.

AARRRGH

Mena wrote: »

I understand the OP's reaction.

You think he should be given the silent treatment?!

WTF...

Quality

RedXIV wrote: »

Quality, come on now lass, be fair we're not ALL horrible people, us men
But you can't dismiss the obvious consensis of male opinion here. This is how we think, we're not that bothered by things such as dirty houses. women see it different but thats the facts.

OP, i glad to see you'd have the house spotless for your fella coming back. but a clean house isn't the best way to welcome a guy home. I'd prefer a warm welcome in a dump to a spotless house with "why aren't you shaven?!!" as a greeting. Guys and girls arent the same, this you need to accept

I completely agree, your not all horrible, but obviously this girl is a bit pissed off with him... I am sure the last thing she wants to hear is that she is a spoilt bitch or a nora batty.

I just advised her not to listen to the bad comments and to go up and cuddle the oh. Talk about the issues tomorrow.

I dont see how having to read through a load of posts about how wrong she s is going to help her immediate situation.

In future Irachka, post in the rant about your relationships thread in the ladies lounge...;)

Anyhow, sorry for the smart comments boys, wasn't meant personally. Just trying to cheer up the lil lady.:)

Irachka

dublindude wrote: »

That's great advice. Dismiss male opinion as childish. :rolleyes:

/I agree people are being a bit harsh, but the general message is correct: give the guy a break

Give guy a break??? His all life with me is all one big break!! Sit down and relax. So at least once when I'm coming home could he not get the finger out and do something nice for me???

Also cant believe so many people making such such a big deal over a lift from the airport!!! I always give him a lift wherever he needs, I got a day off work to drive him to Belfast for his work interview, so what??? Thats what g/fs and b/fs are for to do things for each other

AARRRGH

Irachka wrote: »

Give guy a break??? His all life with me is all one big break!! Sit down and relax. So at least once when I'm coming home could he not get the finger out and do something nice for me???

Are you his mother? Do you smack him on the arse when he does something wrong?

You sound like a total pain in the hole.

I refer you to my earlier post:

dublindude wrote:

Another thing, OP:

For the five days you were away, he had a bit of peace and quiet and was able to do whatever he wanted.

As soon as you arrive home you're already making his life difficult and giving him the silent treatment. If I were him I'd be thinking: do I really need this bitch in my life?

MagicMarker

Irachka wrote: »

Give guy a break??? His all life with me is all one big break!! Sit down and relax. So at least once when I'm coming home could he not get the finger out and do something nice for me???

Also cant believe so many people making such such a big deal over a lift from the airport!!! I always give him a lift wherever he needs, I got a day off work to drive him to Belfast for his work interview, so what??? Thats what g/fs and b/fs are for to do things for each other

Where does it say in the ''book of relationships'' that you're responsible for giving each other lifts?

He did something nice for you before you even got home, that was collecting you from the airport.

Seriously, cop on to yourself. I'm beginning to think he lied about not getting time off work just so he'd have 5 days of peace!!

RedXIV

Irachka wrote: »

Give guy a break??? His all life with me is all one big break!!

Can't say that anymore lass, look over your original post

Irachka wrote: »

Sit down and relax. So at least once when I'm coming home could he not get the finger out and do something nice for me???

Yeah coz the holiday must have really taken it out of you. he was in work all week in case you forgot?

Irachka wrote: »

Also cant believe so many people making such such a big deal over a lift from the airport!!!

Then why the big deal over the petrol "crisis"?

Irachka wrote: »

I always give him a lift wherever he needs, I got a day off work to drive him to Belfast for his work interview, so what??? Thats what g/fs and b/fs are for to do things for each other

g/fs and b/fs also look past individual faults and treasure the person for who they are. if you don't like him, leave him.

I hate to say it lass because i try to keep as unbiased as possible here but your last post has sent me straight in favour of your fella. if he was my mate, i'd be talking about burning bridges and getting out of there

Sparky

But he's not a woman.

You obviously expected everything to be spick and span, a certain item to be still in its place and generally the place like the way you left it (probably unused), but when you came home it wasnt what you expected.

Tbh he probably enjoyed the time without you to his fullest and now when you have come back, he is living in fear.

So what we men make a mess sometimes. We do clean it up, but I'm sure if he was late to collect you and his excuse was he was cleaning the house, would you be pissed off?

DublinWriter

Sorry OP - I'd have to agree with the braying mob on this one.

Obviously much hair was let down in your absence. If I were you I'd worry more about the underlying problems than the symptoms.

Collie D

Irachka wrote: »

His all life with me is all one big break!!

This I doubt

How old are you?

Irachka

Collie D wrote: »

This I doubt

How old are you?

Why is that???

yermandan

Irachka wrote: »

Give guy a break??? His all life with me is all one big break!! Sit down and relax. So at least once when I'm coming home could he not get the finger out and do something nice for me???

Also cant believe so many people making such such a big deal over a lift from the airport!!! I always give him a lift wherever he needs, I got a day off work to drive him to Belfast for his work interview, so what??? Thats what g/fs and b/fs are for to do things for each other

Hi OP,

It sounds to me from the tone and content of your post that there are bigger issues at hand here. Are you happy with this guy at all or is this a once in a while slight lack of respect from him (in your eyes).

Sorry if this question offends you but I'm calling it as I see it I'm afraid

Dan

herya

I understand OP's feelings too - there are ways & ways of doing things and even her bf was partying with the lads for the whole 5 days and left everything in a mess behind him I think she would be fine with it if only he said "hon I didn't have time to clean up after the night with lads so don't be shocked, I'll take care of it after I have my nap, don't worry, we'll have a takeaway dinner" or something like that.

It's one thing to be hungover and not very capable to clean up the "crime scene" but another to drop her in the middle of the pig sty without a word. Myself I wouldn't care at all in the first case but would be really annoyed in the second.

RedXIV

Irachka wrote: »

Why is that???

simple quote: "making a mountain out of a molehill"

if you give out over an untidy kitchen, chances are you're a difficult person to keep happy