What are your best flirting tips??

SarahSassy

I am useless at flirting so I would appeciate if all you flirters could pass on some tips

Balmed Out

Im a guy so ill say how i know when a girl is flirting with me.
Always looking at me and smiling.
Very touchy touchy.
Compliments me
Laughs at all my jokes
Doesnt do the same with every other guy in the vicinity
Oh talking to me without any space between us

That being said apparently im very bad at noticing. U could ask me to take my clothes off and the immediate thought in my head would be why whats wrong with my clothes!

metaoblivia

It's all in the eyes, smile, and body language. Coy but affectionate has always worked well for me.

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Eye contact, smiling, using their name a lot, just generally paying more attention to them than other people in the room? Body language seems pretty important too, as in staying physically close to them, playing with your hair, sh*t like that

Quality

Lip Gloss and licking of lips..(seductively of course)

Playing with your hair.

Plenty of contact, touch him while your talking to him.

Look at him from under your eyelids, ie tilt head and flutter eyelashes.

Lots of eye contact especially when your talking to someone else, and then look down and look back at him if he catches you.

If you are wearing a long chain, rub your hand up and down it, It will bring his eyes down to your chest neck area, the sexier you are rubbing it the more turned on he will be.

Oh jesus I could go on all night...

St Bill

Well if I know men like I think I do (and I do), drop something on the ground and pick it up suggestively....

No I'm only joking.

If you're flirting from a distance, keep making eye contact (a bit nerve-wracking at first, but once you get used to it, you'll get a great kick out of it!). Then, on the way to/from the loo, talk to him, ask him if he's having a good night blah de blah. Go back to your seat. Hopefully he'll be so impressed with your bravery (and looks, which of course, goes without saying ) , he'll come and talk to you!

If you're flirting at close quarters, be touchy feely. Leave a hand on his arm for that little bit longer. Don't laugh at his jokes if they're not funny to you, because it'll be forced and you want to be comfortable. Hold his gaze and smile.

If the above doesn't work, go down the 'dropping something on the floor' route

Dudess

Just chat, relax, be yourself - don't bother with a "technique", that's just forced and will be spotted easily.

Dragan

From a guys point of view just be yourself. No point in pretending to be something your not, or that we are something we're not.

Chat, ask questions, answer question, find a common interest and just run with it. Personally i tend to flirt back a lot more when talking about something we both like. If your being genuine and the mood is good then you know that a decent connection exists.

Don't wait for us to make the first move, remember, boys are allowed to be shy if they want to be so if you feel like a kiss is a good idea then by all means go for it. Invariably us shy guys will find a confident woman highly attractive.

Dragan the point of leaving it up to men is to weed out the cowardly ones.

tallaght01

So, on the (admittedly uncommon) occasion that a girl fancies me, she'll nearly always do the same thing......Anytime I make a cheeky comment, she'll laugh and slap me on the arm at the same time. it's virtually always a sign that she likes me.

It's a recurring theme. Or is it just me?

Does this move have a name, or an official title?

Dragan

Moonbaby wrote: »

Dragan the point of leaving it up to men is to weed out the cowardly ones.

Thats funny, most of the time i delay making a move just to see if the girl will have the nuts to do it.

It won't lessen my interest in her at all if she doesn't, but if she is willing to make a move it will definitely tell me she is the type of girl i want to be with.

Dudess

I'd also assume that acting overly sexy (in a really cock-teasing way) is not gonna be attractive...?

Xavi6

Quality wrote: »

Lip Gloss and licking of lips..(seductively of course)

Playing with your hair.

Plenty of contact, touch him while your talking to him.

Look at him from under your eyelids, ie tilt head and flutter eyelashes.

Lots of eye contact especially when your talking to someone else, and then look down and look back at him if he catches you.

If you are wearing a long chain, rub your hand up and down it, It will bring his eyes down to your chest neck area, the sexier you are rubbing it the more turned on he will be.

Oh jesus I could go on all night...

None of that would interest me tbh. It just screams 'try hard'.

tribulus

Dudess wrote: »

I'd also assume that acting overly sexy (in a really cock-teasing way) is not gonna be attractive...?

I think it would get very annoying, very quickly.

Quality

tallaght01 wrote: »

So, on the (admittedly uncommon) occasion that a girl fancies me, she'll nearly always do the same thing......Anytime I make a cheeky comment, she'll laugh and slap me on the arm at the same time. it's virtually always a sign that she likes me.

It's a recurring theme. Or is it just me?

Does this move have a name, or an official title?

The slap and giggle!!

Ahh flirting is a bit of fun...

Gordon

Women actually have tricks and tips for flirting? I thought it happened naturally and in the moment

Oh, wait, the trick is to try and replicate the true moment, correct? All seems a bit like acting to me. Or is that method acting, I can never remember.

Dudess

Gordon wrote: »

Women actually have tricks and tips for flirting? I thought it happened naturally and in the moment

It does with me. I think the whole concept of "flirting" is repugnant.

Hagar

The main thing is sincerity, when you can fake that you've got it cracked.

Sherifu

Nevyn

SarahSassy wrote: »

I am useless at flirting so I would appeciate if all you flirters could pass on some tips

Make eye contact, smile, walk up to him and stick a condom in his pocket.

St Bill

The OP is asking for flirting tips, she's not asking whether flirting is a good idea or not.
To say 'Just be yourself' is all well and good, but sometimes when in a situation with a guy/girl you fancy, being yourself goes out the window. So I think it's no harm to have a few tricks to fall back on. Then, with time, you're adding to your confidence and the day will come when you CAN just be yourself

Dudess

St Bill wrote: »

The OP is asking for flirting tips, she's not asking whether flirting is a good idea or not.

But isn't that still a tip? To tell a girl not to bother using all these contrived methods and instead just relax and chat? It's always worked for me.

Crumble Froo

even when not intended? cos i have no idea how to go about flirting, i just end up chatting to people and they decide that they're totally in there... and ... well, no... i thought it was just a chat

god, im naive at the best of times...

Crumble Froo

Crumble Froo wrote: »

even when not intended? cos i have no idea how to go about flirting, i just end up chatting to people and they decide that they're totally in there... and ... well, no... i thought it was just a chat

god, im naive at the best of times...

That happens to me all the time too, some people just can't contemplate agendaless social interaction between the sexes.

ntlbell

Dudess wrote: »

It does with me. I think the whole concept of "flirting" is repugnant.

Most avergae looking people do tbh.

WindSock

Careful now.

Dudess

ntlbell wrote: »

Most avergae looking people do tbh.

Do they? Interesting. Where did you pull that statistic from? Oh, and obviously you're speaking in general rather than addressing it to me since you don't actually know what I look like.
Anyhoo, you'll also notice I said the reason I find flirting - as in, following set "practices" - repugnant is because it puts some people under pressure, rather than just feeling comfortable with being relaxed and natural. As I said, that works for me.

OP, just chat to a guy - a girl who isn't all giggly and "sexy" acting is far more attractive in the long run. Definitely do yourself up to look your best and already that will make you feel good about yourself and give you confidence. But you shouldn't feel the need to rely on "tricks" that aren't sincere.

WindSock

As you said in another thread Dudess -Don't feed the troll.
Ntlbell, tread more carefully.

St Bill

Dudess wrote: »

Definitely do yourself up to look your best and already that will make you feel good about yourself and give you confidence.

I'd put this in the 'tricks' category

Dudess

Well fair enough, but at least it's not fake and forced to make yourself look good.

DetectivFoxtrot

tallaght01 wrote: »

So, on the (admittedly uncommon) occasion that a girl fancies me, she'll nearly always do the same thing......Anytime I make a cheeky comment, she'll laugh and slap me on the arm at the same time. it's virtually always a sign that she likes me.

It's a recurring theme. Or is it just me?

Does this move have a name, or an official title?

That's a lighter form of play fighting and is very common amongst both sexes. It's not a contrived act though. imo there are strong evolutionary forces at work behind that one! and it's definitely how I flirt but it's not put on. Its like your body spots a potential mate and pyhsically wants to give out signals of desire even though your brain might be saying "play it cool you idiot!"

Weidii

Thaedydal wrote: »

Make eye contact, smile, walk up to him and stick a condom in his pocket.

Haha, now that's direct. Wouldn't pull that one if you wanted some sorta "meaningdul relationship" though... whatever the heck they are :rolleyes:

Nevyn

Hey the op said flirting they never said to what end

Time Magazine

Dudess wrote: »

OP, just chat to a guy - a girl who isn't all giggly and "sexy" acting is far more attractive in the long run. Definitely do yourself up to look your best and already that will make you feel good about yourself and give you confidence. But you shouldn't feel the need to rely on "tricks" that aren't sincere.

To an extent, you're right. Being genuine is far more attractive in the long-run. But you have to get to the long-run first. If I see a girl I like and approach, I simply won't make a "move" unless there's some hint that it's going to be reciprocated. There's too much risk involved otherwise. That's usually how these things work. Usually the girl drops a hint and waits for the guy to move on that hint. This is a far safer that way than the non-flirting way of things.

Let me give an example. A while ago I was out with a bunch of friends and some friends of friends. One of said friends of friends is very cute and caught my eye. Then she repeatedly made eye-contact with me and smiled each time it happened. Three times was more than enough of a hint for me. So I made my move, took her hand to dance, danced a little closer to her than people usually do, took stock that she wasn't exactly complaining at the physicality and things went from there. Had that eye-contact not been made, things simply wouldn't have progressed. Not because I don't have the balls to make a move, just because I'd think it was a lost cause. Crucially, the "cost" of her dropping the hint is far less than me straight off asking her to dance because eye-contact can be passed off as coincidence or whatever. Asking someone to dance is more explicit, so it's more embarrassing and awkward if the attraction's not mutual.

OP, I guess it depends how receptive the guy is. I think I'm good at picking up hints (it's always possible I've missed some though?) and usually the good old eye-contact and smile approach is enough for me to notice. If that doesn't work, grabbing my hand on the dancefloor and not ceasing eye-contact for a good five minutes has also been known to work . But don't overdo it. Putting your hand in my pocket and/or deciding you should try wipe up that drink you just spilled on me definitely constitutes overkill.

St Bill

Dudess wrote: »

Well fair enough, but at least it's not fake and forced to make yourself look good.

That's a matter of personal opinion....one person's sincere is another person's fake

Tragedy

Tonight: Pretty girl made "accidental" eye contact three times, held it for a heartbeat before breaking it. Dropped her bag in front of me and again, more eye contact and gorgeous smile when I picked it up for her.

Nice innocuous flirting(alas I just didnt have the heart) that works.

Dudess

She dropped her bag for you to pick up? Eh... ok. God forbid she'd just go over and talk to you... I can totally understand when guys get annoyed by crap like that.

Dudess

St Bill wrote: »

That's a matter of personal opinion....one person's sincere is another person's fake

St Bill

St Bill

:eek:

St Bill

Yay this is fun!!!

steve staunton

grab him by the balls.... i wouldnt refuse ne bird with that one.

The Sweeper

I must remember that if I ever meet you.

/me flexes leather gloved hand.

Dudess

steve staunton wrote: »

grab him by the balls.... i wouldnt refuse ne bird with that one.

Heh, it's better than all that "sexy yet innocent yet mischievous" cock-teasing sh1te. At least a guy would know where he stands...

Dudess

Dudess wrote: »

Heh, it's better than all that "sexy yet innocent yet mischievous" cock-teasing sh1te. At least a guy would know where he stands...

Who says anyone is automatically interested in knowing where they stand.
Suspense is thrilling.

mollybird

im not very good at talking to guys so i tend to do some saucy dance moves. it has always worked once their eyes went back into their sockets:eek:

SarahSassy

The reason I wanted tips was so I could let a guy know if he was chatting to me that I am interested... Not at all for cock-teasinbg purposes but a couple of friends of mine have said they would not know if I were interested in the guy I was talking to... If they dont then I guess the guy doesnt either....

Nevyn

Well then if you have been staring intently at his eyes and hanging on his every word and he still doesn't get it break eye contact, stare at his crotch, count to 4, then lick your lips and go back to making eye contact as if nothing has happened and watch for a reaction.

Crumble Froo

i cant help but thinking that 'a night out on the pull' would be infinitely more interesting if you were involved...

Dragan

Dudess wrote: »

Heh, it's better than all that "sexy yet innocent yet mischievous" cock-teasing sh1te. At least a guy would know where he stands...

yeah......on his tippy toes.