Friends with benefits...do they work??

starlight07

Mates with the added bonus... do they, or have they worked?...

Neamhshuntasach

None at the moment cause she moved to New Zealand. But any ones i had in the past have worked without problems.

The Real B-man

Doesn't work you endup becoming attached.

eclectictrek

Does not work!!!!!

sidneykidney

The Real B-man wrote: »

Doesn't work you endup becoming attached.

+1

stovelid

Better to find someone with a job.

aviendha

works in the short-term, but have yet to see a symbiotic success story (wahey on the alliteration) lasting longer than 6 months....

Dudess

Lol stovelid

No, of course friends with benefits don't work. They're on benefits - why would they bother working? Although some of them might work part-time.

Overheal

That depends. If youre looking to fill the gap with sex its going to catch up with you.

starlight07

Jus as I thought so... anyone had anyone got some success stories?

The Real B-man

Dudess wrote: »

Lol stovelid

No, of course friends with benefits don't work. They're on benefits - why would they bother working? Although some of them might work part-time.

Dole Scum!

Miss Fluff

Of course it works. You can be fond of the person (and that's nice too) but it's usually a fabulous set-up imo.

Dinkie

Yep it works brilliantly, although I think it helps if you live in different towns!

Gary ITR

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Of course it works. You can be fond of the person (and that's nice too) but it's usually a fabulous set-up imo.

Hey, How you doin'?

pearlygate

it works very well!

Overheal

starlight07 wrote: »

Jus as I thought so... anyone had anyone got some success stories?

.................so are you gonna tell us your story or not?

starlight07

well Im jus kinda curious as to if anyone has ever ended up having a relationship with a f*ck buddy or if it has ever gone awfully wrong....

Schism

I had a relationship like that once, didn't work out at all. She got jealous, then I got jealous, we had it out and that was that.

I don't think it feels very natural to have a relationship like that.

chuci

just doesn't work.

Dragan

They work just fine. It's just most people are too emotionally retarded to seperate sex and love.

It's perfectly fine to have a friend, have sex with them and stay friends with them.

I've had that type of thing with a friend for anywhere up to 2 years or so and we still get on fine to this day.

RxQueen

i had one , until i got a boyfriend!, was going on for about a year it was great, just got to learn not to grow attached..

still friends now just without the benefits!

Hippo

Dragan wrote: »

It's just most people are too emotionally retarded to seperate sex and love.

I'm not saying the friends with benefits idea doesn't work, because it clearly does for some people. But I think it's a little simplistic to dismiss people as 'emotionally retarded' because they can't make it work. It could easily be argued that people who can so easily separate sex and love are 'emotionally retarded'.
However, this is After Hours and not Personal Issues so best not have a serious discussion

PeadarofAodh

Used to think it didn't work after getting too attached about a year and a half ago but last 3 weeks have had 2 and so far so good...zero attachment!

Slutmonkey57b

I like sex.

That is all.

johnnyskeleton

stovelid wrote: »

Better to find someone with a job.

+1

Dragan

Hippo wrote: »

It could easily be argued that people who can so easily separate sex and love are 'emotionally retarded'.
However, this is After Hours and not Personal Issues so best not have a serious discussion

Very Catholic Church imo.

The_B_Man

It can work, but ppl usually get attached out of lazyness. ie they have all they need so why bother goin out and chattin someone up!! u have zero-effort sex on tap!

Hippo

Dragan wrote: »

Very Catholic Church imo.

Sorry, but I've been an atheist since my mid teens, and I'm ancient now! This is nothing to do with any religious creed/belief/philosophy.

Drift

Never had one so I feel obliged to ask:

A/S/L OP?

kittensoft1984

never works.

you just end up wanting more than just sex.

Tigger

starlight07 wrote: »

well Im jus kinda curious as to if anyone has ever ended up having a relationship with a f*ck buddy or if it has ever gone awfully wrong....

me

in collage and it was far away from home where i kept my regular girlfriend
became great friends with this girl and everyone even my girlfriend thought she was great craic,

then we sorta started shagging all the time but both had other stuff going on and didn't mind at all

we started thinking it should be more but that only lasted about 3 months because she loved the male chicken too much

it was great tho i highly recomend it even though it screwed me up for a while

Tigger

Dragan wrote: »

They work just fine. It's just most people are too emotionally retarded to seperate sex and love.

It's perfectly fine to have a friend, have sex with them and stay friends with them.

I've had that type of thing with a friend for anywhere up to 2 years or so and we still get on fine to this day.

iots because of the chemical love/lust thing where fellas love sex not the person

if you have lots of partners the difference becomes clear then when you do fall in love its more true

therefore young men should have lots of sex

fcuk buddies are and excellent way to achieve this

Dragan

Hippo wrote: »

Sorry, but I've been an atheist since my mid teens, and I'm ancient now! This is nothing to do with any religious creed/belief/philosophy.

Sorry, didn't mean to imply that YOUR belief was very Catholic Church....just that the whole idea of "sex and love not being a seperate entity" is something that they have ran with for a while now is all.

Apologies.

Hippo

Fair enough Dragan

FunkZ

starlight07 wrote: »

Mates with the added bonus... do they, or have they worked?...

It worked with me and your ma.

/I hope I'm not the tenth person saying this

Naos

Your poll is skewed. I cannot vote - I think they don't work, yet I wasn't the one who ended up feeling more...

How ever for the polls sake, I will vote no, that they do not work.

Slutmonkey57b

kittensoft1984 wrote: »

never works.

you just end up wanting more than just sex.

Like "more sex" for example.

Jay D

I don't think you could put it down to just two options, it all depends.

If someone is really nice, looks, intelligence etc then I would feel more where as average or below and stupid would be different.