Would you ever

Puddleduck

Approach a guy on a night out. Im just curious as to whether women view it as a mans 'job' to approach the girl. Personally I approach guys.

Niamho!

wasn't sure what to vote in the poll. the title of the poll is "Do you approach guys?" but the thread title is would you ever?

I dont do it on a regular basis but i have. and i would again.

jellie

probably depends on how much alcohol has been consumed. i dont know if id ever see a guy & consciously decide "right im gonna go talk to him", but if i was standing beside someone at a bar or something, why not.

Crazy Catlady

I have in the past. Not in a leeary way but I'd think nothing of starting a conversation with someone if I wanted to get to know them.
Nothing ventured nothing gained an' all that!

Maple

Crazy Catlady wrote: »

I have in the past. Not in a leeary way but I'd think nothing of starting a conversation with someone if I wanted to get to know them.
Nothing ventured nothing gained an' all that!

+1.

Lux23

I have a couple of times but I have noticed men generally don't like it, maybe they aren't single but alot get really nervous. Maybe im scary.

Lola123

Lux23 wrote: »

I have a couple of times but I have noticed men generally don't like it, maybe they aren't single but alot get really nervous. Maybe im scary.

+1. I would still approach a bloke again, but I'd be more cautious about it.

chuci

its how i met my OH as above said nothing ventured nothing gained.

If I approached someone it would be because I am not interested in them romantically.
I have had a few bad reactions to friendly conversation, where the other party mistook me for a scary maneater. Some people definitely have a problem with it.
I think Irish men might be open to it though.


A couple of weeks ago I was clubbing, and this well dressed, attractive, bright looking guy, maybe 25/26. Sent his mate up to me to tell me that he fancied me.
I honestly didn't think that kind of thing went on anymore. I feel sorry for anyone that shy

LouOB

How I met BF

When single
I want
I like
I take - only if single girls, married is a no go area

Nightwish

Since I've been a seriel monogamist for the past 10 years I wouldnt know how to approach a guy in a bar etc. I met my other half in work and I did make the 1st move, but it was easier as I knew him, but I wouldnt have the confidence to approach a stranger.

Piste

No, I don't really like talknig to strangers...I mean total strangers, not people at parties or friends of friends, but talking to a complete stranger just seems, well, strange to me!

Balmed Out

Even if ye dont talk first ye may as well, i reckon ye tend to instigate everything anyhow. I normally dont approach a girl unless i notice certain signals shes sending my way first otherwise youll normally crash.

Black Swan

Not in a pub or club, cause sometimes it sends the wrong message, but in other places social (coffeehouse or at university for example), why not?

april2007

I have done it in the past it may scare some men but others find it attractive and like a lady with confidence and who can make the first move!

Crumble Froo

if i was single... yeah... someone i found approachable, might have something in common with... odds are, we're in the same bar cos we have something in common with each other...

AckwelFoley

Yes, women do it abit.

Ive found half the time they approach me it .. "hey can i intriduce you to my friend .. she thinks you're lovely" That i diont like because im not at a kiddie Disco. Im not 16 anymore.. let her come over herself if she wants a chat. It happened a fw weeks back a woman came up to me and asked me to cht her friend.. after she persisted i finally went over... the girl went completely redfaced..

Ive had on a rare few occasions have a woman come up to me point blank and say "I just wanted to say that i think you're gorgeous"

Its at that point i check to se what they are drinking... as i;d expect thm to be drunk!

But what i do like about the latter approach is that it shows confidence in a woman to do somthing like that, and essentially im attracted to confident independant woman.. so, although the latter is a little "forward" its better. But then again.. it takes the fun out of chatting somone up..

Tragedy

Never happened to me when out, but have had girls chase me at work/with friends. Think its a lot easier/less scary for them that way!

Balmed Out

I dont know a guy who isnt well impressed with a girl that chats to him first so long as its not like her throwing herself on u, which i personally think is great fun when it does happen. Fair deuce to girls that do.

Ginny

I would approach someone, if he looked approachable, ie: didn't have 15 drunken mates around him, honestly I think blokes are as bad, I can count on one hand how many times I've been approached, and I'm not a minger, I promise..:D

MIN2511

Million dollar question, i would love to but then i think guys are intimidated...
Once i saw a guy, i thought he was cute. My friend walks up to him and tells himi fancy him and guess what the eejit says "So what do you want to do to me?"
Since then, i have been cautious...Would love to though... so many good looking meat out there:D

Lockstep

most of my relationships started with the girl making the firstmove.

I love it, as it shows shes gutsy.

Piste

Normally I don't talk to strangers...but then tonight at a gig three guys started talking to my friend and I, by the end of the night of of them had convinced me to play piano and do backing vocals on album he's recording!



I really can't say no to people

Weidii

Mm, personally I'd only do it if I knew they liked me.

One of my good friends is extremely repelled by girls who do the chasing. Even if he likes someone, he'll run from her as soon as she starts after him. Bit strange.

Dragan

From a male point of view there is nothing hotter than when i confident girl starts chatting you up.......sober.

Confidence is key.

cobweb

married now but when i was single never had a problem approaching a guy i liked the look of and did pretty well
also asked a few out never felt it was just up to them
got the impression they used to enjoy it as it was simething different

lizann

I wouldn't have the confidence to do it when i'm sober and if i do it when i'm pissed thats not a pretty sight

mollybird

no can't say i have ever done it. im too shy and even when out on a night out with mates i still wouldn't do it. im an old romantic so i have to leave the guy do all the work.

Ickle Magoo

I wouldn't approach someone I didn't know. It's not that I think it's the guys "job" to do the approaching, I just wouldn't be comfortable approaching anyone based on aesthetics only. I have always met partners through friends & got to know them in a social circle before deciding I wanted to get to know them better.

Sangre

I find it very rare for women to do this. Both from my own experience and that of my friends. We'd be in the under 25 bracket. Found in America that they are so much more open and forward.

Then again maybe me and my friends are just ugly bastards.

metaoblivia

I've approached and initiated a conversation with a guy a rare few times. Usually, I stick with making eye contact and smiling coyly.

seraphimvc

opinion from a not-so-foreign foreigner?yup,this happens when the very late night in club,ladies with quite amount of alcohol!

i think this is apart of the culture thingy.I get used to it after awhile.nothing like open country like US,japan,taiwan,thailand,singapore etc,oh i miss my country:( walk up the street with your confident you might (lucky day) get someone ask for wanna know you!needless to say in pub scene

Dragan

mollybird wrote: »

im an old romantic so i have to leave the guy do all the work.

Thats hardly being an old romantic.

Someday you'll see a guy who, for whatever reason, makes you go up and talk to him.

Well, i hope.

justsomebloke

mollybird wrote: »

no can't say i have ever done it. im too shy and even when out on a night out with mates i still wouldn't do it. im an old romantic so i have to leave the guy do all the work.

I'm actually an old romantic aswell however "apparently" hitting a girl over the head with a club and dragging her home by the hair is frowned upon these days:rolleyes:

missingyou

Im an old romantic! But my boyfriend was incredibly shy and i kinda had to be the one to go up to him well worth it though! because he turned out to be the nicest person in the world, dont know if youse believe in love at first sight, but it was

DirkVoodoo

Well, I'm a guy, shy by nature and even worse at gauging interest levels. On the (very) few occasions a girl has approached me I have been quite chuffed, can't say I mind it at all. Kind of makes it easier to talk to them knowing you can be more yourself and not try and impress them with some phony lines.

I say more power to ya ladies!

Aurora Borealis

No, don't tend to. Am pretty confident but not in that way. Wish I was. I find it very easy to chat to guys alright but I always leave myself in the friend zone. Wish I was better at it but I yam who I yam....

I'm generally a confident person and in relationships I am independant and low maintenance.
I make it easy to neglect me if the person is so inclined.
I want to know that a man is capable of doing a little running before I get caught up in something.
I forgive shyness in the very young, but If I was dating it would likely be in the 23+ age bracket and I don't see a decent reason to be painfully shy at that point.
I don't want to be with someone who is incapable of socialising.