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I want to be skinny!!!

  • 26-02-2008 10:35am
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    Ok i desperately want to be skinny, I am 5.9 and 10 and a half stone, I know i know, thats ok but I cant get it out of my head i want to be skinny, the more i think ok im going on a diet the more i eat coz im constantly thinking about food, then i binge and feel horrible, i think about it last thing at night and first in morning, im becomming obbsessed.....i exercise 3 times a week, i have no other time. Iv tried making myself sick but i hate it, I dont want nagging like your ridiculous, i know this, but i cant help how i feel.what can i do to be skinny?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Beign skinny is unhealthy as being fat.

    I suggest that you get help.

    www.bodywhys.ie


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40,919 ✭✭✭✭Xavi6


    Why do you want to be 'skinny'? Is it purely for yourself or is it for other people?

    First thing to do is stop making yourself sick.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 139 ✭✭macbarbie


    Xavi6 wrote: »
    Why do you want to be 'skinny'? Is it purely for yourself or is it for other people?

    First thing to do is stop making yourself sick.


    i dont know i think both really, more so for me, i would be happier


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Eat healthily and exercise - if you want to be healthily slim. There really is no other way. If you mean "thin" when you say "skinny", don't do it. Really, really don't do it. It's not actually attractive, and I presume that's your main reason for wanting to be skinny. You seem to have certain food issues, and you majorly remind me of me when I was a teenager. I used to starve myself and do ridiculous amount of exercise - then go on binges in the evening. I strived for the perfect body (and what I thought was perfect was actually grossly underweight). I'd look at pictures of perfectly slim girls and think they were fat. I had a terribly distorted self-image and image of others. My nickname at primary school was "bag of bones" and I couldn't understand where they were getting this from - I thought there was no way I was thin. In secondary school I thought I was fat. I used to wear baggy clothes - it was an absolute fukking joke. I was actually skinny. Words cannot express how much I regret those years. Don't do that to yourself. Appreciate what you have or you will look back when you're a lot older and it's not as easy to lose weight and wonder why you didn't appreciate your fab figure back then.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 317 ✭✭sonners


    You dont want to be skinny you want to be HAPPY, there's a very big difference. I think you need to figure out WHY you want to be skinny. Why are'nt you happy as you are? What will you gain from being skinny? These may seem like stupid, useless questions but I think by answering them honestly you may be able to see the real reason your unhappy.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,122 ✭✭✭LadyJ


    OP, stop making yourself sick. Go to a counsellor and sort yourself out. I am 5'10 and the same weight as you. I have put on a lot of weight in the past couple of years. I don't look fat but would love to tone up a bit and lose some of the squishy bits (that only I notice tbh) but the key to doing that is healthy eating and exercise.

    You will not get anywhere by starving yourself or by vomitting after a binge. It will destroy your body. Your teeth will rot, you'll become constipated, leading to piles and other unpleasant things. You will not end up looking good, you'll look terrible.

    Eat lots of greens and balance your diet. Take up aerobics or something but if you keep going the way you're going you'll end up a right mess.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 193 ✭✭whatsgoinon


    Hi OP,
    I am 5'10" and just over 11stone. We are fairly tall and so can carry our weight. I used to always freak out about being too skinny, as I was literally a bag of bones growing up, not through bad eating, it was just the way I was. It was disgusting. I have now started to put on weight and it suits me, I love my figure. I love my food.

    I would recommend that you talk to a professional about your issues with weight. You sound to be a perfectly natural weight to me. And as Dudess said, you don't want to be wasting your life worrying about what you look like.

    One of my many little mottos is, 'take me as I am, or don't take me at all'
    I have had boyfriends telling me to lose weight or not to eat so much at a restaurant. Easier to lose a boyfriend than weight.

    you have to learn to embrace you figure, but before going on crash diet after crash diet or binge after binge, talk to somebody who can advise you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    you need to set it as a longer term goal, it's not going to happen in a few days, and making yourself sick isn't going to help.

    decent diet, exercise, and you should see your weight going in the right direction.

    it shouldn't take much either, at your height you're close enough to getting to a *healthy* slimmer size.

    plenty of evidence to support the fact that weight lost gradually stays off, unlike crash diets etc.

    lastly, people have more going for them than the size of the clothes they put on, so don't let it get to this crazy, self harming level. :-x


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,579 ✭✭✭Webmonkey


    Are you doing it to please other people because I can gaurantee you most guys don't find skinny girls anymore attractive than normal proper weighed girls. If anything, its more putting off to be skinny - for me at least and most other guys Id imagine.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,091 ✭✭✭carbsy


    I'm a guy and skinny women turn me right off.I like a woman to have a shapely figure! :)


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,977 ✭✭✭GhostInTheRuins


    Same here, skinny girls are a turn off.

    Op you're more or less at the perfect weight for your height.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,122 ✭✭✭LadyJ


    OP, you can be slim and toned, without being "skinny" (which has connotations of protruding bones) and still have an hour glass figure tbh. All it takes is exercise and healthy eating. It can be done if you want it but don't go down the wrong road because you want to end up healthy, not rotting away.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,019 ✭✭✭SexyD4Lady


    OP, I completely understand how you feel. Being uncomfortable and insecure in your size and the way you look is a horrible way to be. You feel angry at yourself for being selfish and obsessed but you also feel like others just cannot understand what you're going through... I've had, and continue to have this problem.

    The best thing I ever did was Weight Watchers. I joined at 10st 7lbs and went down to 9st in 12 weeks. Think about that- twelve meetings, twelve weigh ins and badaboom, you feel great. The good thing is with Weight Watchers, you're not restricting yourself to certain foods. Eat what you want, when you want, as long as you keep within your daily points allowance, which is worked out according to your heighth, current weight, aspects of your lifestyle, etc. That feeling every week of stepping on the scale and your leader telling you "Well done, another loss!" is the most amazing one. The support in weight loss clubs is insane. The other people are all in completely the same situation as you and feel the same way as well. They all want to look good and regain confidence. They look out for each other. Exercise together. The support is a massive part of losing the weight. You'll make friends, too :)

    When you do lose the weight, nothing will stop you. My confidence soared. I was happy to go out at night again and didn't feel so self conscious any more- I would sit down, no longer afraid of my "huge rolls" being on show, I could wear what I liked, and not have to think "flowy" every time I went shopping.

    OP, realistically, your weight is healthy. Slightly overweight, but you are by no means fat at 5ft 9in and 10st 7lbs. Start eating a bit more healthily if Weight Watchers isn't your thing. Write down what you eat, record how many calories you consume. A healthy amount for a woman (daily) is 2000cals. That amount will maintain your weight- you won't lose or gain. Try to eat 1600-1850: lower than recommended, but a healthy and safe amount to lose weight. Join a fun exercise class. Water aerobics, salsa dancing with a friend, boyfriend, pilates, kick boxing... kill two bids with one stone and sign yourself up for self defence classes.

    I know how you feel, OP. I've unfortunately gained part of the weight I lost at Weight Watchers due to laziness- binging, not exercising. Every time I look in the mirror, the "wobbly bits" jump out at me. Yes, it's horrible looking at yourself and feeling hugely insecure, but look at other parts of you, too. You might have lovely shiny hair, or sparkly eyes, or slims legs, or lovely long fingers or a nice smile. You're beautiful in one way or another, and your beautiful parts will stand out when you meet strangers, not the ones you consider to be ugly.

    Best of luck, OP, success is just a step away. But remember- DON'T OVERDO IT. The best bit is to ask a friend/or family member who needs to lose a wee bit of weight as well to do it with you. You can reign eachother in.

    X


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,593 ✭✭✭Sea Sharp


    You should redefine your predicament.
    As opposed to wanting to be skinny. You should want to be well-toned. Or lack there of, of fat. Being skinny is over-rated


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,770 ✭✭✭✭fits


    Honestly... life is too short to waste energy on hating your body. You need to learn to accept yourself as you are. At the same time you can take steps to ensure you are healthy and toned and lose weight if you really need to (and I doubt you do). You're in a bit of a vicious cycle at the moment, starving yourself, hating your body, needing comfort and then binging.... back to start. You may need help to break this cycle, do seek it out.

    Like many others here, I had terribly low self image around my teens and early twenties.
    Life has gotten much better since I've realised that its the only body I'll ever have, and really, its actually quite a nice one. Self confidence and esteem are far more attractive qualities than protruding bones.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    I would suggest you lok at yourself and your reasons for wanting this.
    This is a far cry from wanting to get fit and lose a few pounds.

    You have the beginnings of an obsession here as you are recognising. I knew someone like that and it was down to self esteem issues (well her mother really).

    in teh end if this goes on you will never be happy with what you look like and have a distorted self image.

    Have a look at the charter sticky above and the addresses there.

    Get help for this now and dont leave it til later as it will be muhc more difficult to treat.

    If youe learn to accept and love yourself as who you are then you will be muhc happier.

    But do go and get help


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,099 ✭✭✭RealJohn


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Beign skinny is unhealthy as being fat.
    I'd love to know how people can justify claims like this, given how many people in this country die every year from heart-disease, strokes and other conditions brought on by being overweight.

    OP, if being skinny is what you want then that's what you should go for but do it the right way. Making yourself sick is never the right way to do it. Eat properly (doesn't even necessarily mean cutting down that much) and exercise (what kind of exercise are you doing at the moment?).

    Most importantly, don't expect results overnight. If you're going to lose weight in a healthy way, there is no quick fix. It takes time.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 111 ✭✭williambonney


    macbarbie wrote: »
    Ok i desperately want to be skinny, I am 5.9 and 10 and a half stone, I know i know, thats ok but I cant get it out of my head i want to be skinny, the more i think ok im going on a diet the more i eat coz im constantly thinking about food, then i binge and feel horrible, i think about it last thing at night and first in morning, im becomming obbsessed.....i exercise 3 times a week, i have no other time. Iv tried making myself sick but i hate it, I dont want nagging like your ridiculous, i know this, but i cant help how i feel.what can i do to be skinny?

    You should say a prayer to saint Repunzel- Immaculata. The patron saint of thinking outside the box. “Please saint Repunzel-Immaculata, if you can’t make me skinny at least make my friends fat.” seriously, get over it, guys like a woman with a bit of condition.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    macbarbie wrote: »
    i desperately want to be skinny
    macbarbie wrote: »
    im constantly thinking about food, then i binge and feel horrible, i think about it last thing at night and first in morning
    macbarbie wrote: »
    Iv tried making myself sick but i hate it
    macbarbie wrote: »
    what can i do to be skinny?

    You have a very unhealthy attitude to food and your body. This is a mental health issue, not a body issue.

    You'll never be happy or have a healthy body if you don't figure out what the root issue is.

    Diets do not work.

    If you can learn to like yourself, you'll be a lot happier and you'll stop binging/punishing yourself.

    Counselling would definitely help.


  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 13,425 ✭✭✭✭Ginny


    RealJohn wrote: »
    I'd love to know how people can justify claims like this, given how many people in this country die every year from heart-disease, strokes and other conditions brought on by being overweight.

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1032467.stm

    People justify claims like this because they're true.
    Anorexics can also have severe heart disease from the wasting away of heart muscle, plus there are the risks of organ failure from potassium depletion.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    RealJohn wrote: »
    I'd love to know how people can justify claims like this, given how many people in this country die every year from heart-disease, strokes and other conditions brought on by being overweight.


    http://ndt.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/abstract/19/2/427

    http://jama.ama-assn.org/cgi/content/abstract/293/15/1861


    http://www.mayoclinic.org/news2005-mchi/2796.html


    That was a 1 minute google, and there were loads of others. Does that explain where such statements come from?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,497 ✭✭✭✭Dragan


    First of all, stating in your post that there are certain answers you don't want to here doesn't really help you.

    If anything it indicates that there is something that you really want to here, and will sit around until you hear that and go on your merry way.

    Personally, i don't much care WHAT or WHY people have certain goals. The simple fact is that there are two basic truths when it comes to changing your body.

    1) Eat right.
    2) Be active.

    Both take a bit of self education and effort and you need to find that foods your body responds to and the activites you like to do. After that it's will power and sticking to a plan and you can make dramatic , healthy and impressive changes over time.

    Alternately you can stay making yourself sick and enter a nice downward spiral.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,099 ✭✭✭RealJohn


    Results Relative to the normal weight category (BMI 18.5 to <25), obesity (BMI ≥30) was associated with 111 909 excess deaths (95% confidence interval [CI], 53 754-170 064) and underweight with 33 746 excess deaths (95% CI, 15 726-51 766).
    From one of the links posted above.
    I'm not saying being underweight isn't dangerous but much more seems to be made of the danger of being underweight when far more people die every year as a result of being overweight.

    All of this is off-topic however. Apologies.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    RealJohn wrote: »
    I'd love to know how people can justify claims like this, given how many people in this country die every year from heart-disease, strokes and other conditions brought on by being overweight.

    OP, if being skinny is what you want then that's what you should go for but do it the right way. Making yourself sick is never the right way to do it. Eat properly (doesn't even necessarily mean cutting down that much) and exercise (what kind of exercise are you doing at the moment?).

    Most importantly, don't expect results overnight. If you're going to lose weight in a healthy way, there is no quick fix. It takes time.
    She doesn't have much weight (if any at all) to lose. Eating healthily without starving herself and exercising (but not overdoing it) won't lead to any massive weight loss when it's not needed. It will lead to some weight loss and it will maintain it, but it won't lead her to being like Victoria Beckham, which is, I suspect, her aim unfortunately.

    I agree with Dragan. OP, when you say "what can I do to make myself skinny?" do you honestly believe it would be allowed for someone to say "oh you should make yourself sick, starve yourself" or other stuff which I won't actually mention for fear you'd go ahead and do it.

    Again, just exercise and eat healthily (but do NOT starve yourself as that will just cause the body to cling to the fat for energy, rather than burning it). What answer do you expect other than eat healthily and exercise? It's not the easy option but there really is no other. Make that your lifestyle rather than simply a means to lose weight, and it will happen for you. And you'll have a fantastic slim, lean figure.

    Bulimia and anorexia are cruel, vicious diseases that kill girls and lads and destroy families. For god's sake, don't go anywhere near that dark world.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    If your 5'9 and 10 1/2 stone I can imagine you are quite slim anyway. If you gained another stone your BMI would still be under 25 so I don't see why you want to do this. But then again I don't think skinny is attractive in everyone, suits some people but some look better with more weight.

    If you really do, then try Unislim or Weight Watchers, i have lost over 4 stone doing this and it really works far better than faddy diets and trains you to make healthy food choices. They will set you a target weight, even 7 lbs would probably make a huge difference for you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Can I make the honest suggestion of quit watching fasionTV and reading glamor magazines? They do nothing but make women feel substandard. I like em a little squishy to be honest. Nothing is more of a turn off than feeling up ribcage.

    Who have you spoken about this to OP? Does your family know you are worried about this?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,407 ✭✭✭✭justsomebloke


    OP have you tried liposuction. Usually I would only suggest it in jest but in your case undergoing elective surgery may actually less risky then your current diet.

    I would post up some decent advise but you have already said you are going to ignore it so why should I waste my time as chances are you already know that you have a problem and you don't need me to clarify that point for you.

    However if you do want to try the healthy route post in the fitness forum and we will try and activily help you as much as possible


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Jsb, I suspect the OP is only a kid (sorry OP, but teenager = kid when you're older!) I think that's a bit harsh. I was very like her when I was a teenager and you need to get into her mind to understand what she's going through.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    jsb wrote: »
    OP have you tried liposuction. Usually I would only suggest it in jest but in your case undergoing elective surgery may actually less risky then your current diet.

    I would post up some decent advise but you have already said you are going to ignore it so why should I waste my time as chances are you already know that you have a problem and you don't need me to clarify that point for you.

    However if you do want to try the healthy route post in the fitness forum and we will try and activily help you as much as possible

    Being seriously underweight or overweight will automatically disqualify you for the procedure in 99% of cases.

    The problem jsb is the OP is not overweight, and losing any more weight will only result in further health complications.

    At the same time OP, go to your GP anyway if only to see what treatments are available for eating disorders.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Jsb wasn't being serious about the liposuction thing - he/she was using it to make a point.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,407 ✭✭✭✭justsomebloke


    Dudess wrote: »
    Jsb wasn't being serious about the liposuction thing - he/she was using it to make a point.

    actually I was only half messing. Truthfully I don't think the OP is actually to young to have it done and being of a healthy weight I can't see any doctor rejecting her based on that fact. That and at least the procedure would be supervised by a medial expert who would probably be able to offer support during the process. where as currently chances are she is putting great stress on her body (both mental and physical) in the pursuit of trying to reduce her weight.

    That said I don't think the OP is mature enough or of sound enough mind to actually make the decision to have surgery and I also think the OP getting down to the size she actually wants will solve her problem of wanting to lose weight. However until the OP actually realizes that she has a problem this isn't going to change and truthfully I don't think anything said on this thread is going to change your mind either.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,577 ✭✭✭StormWarrior


    OP, if you starve yourself, you will end up putting on even more weight in the long run. If you're not eating enough, your muscles waste away, which causes your metabolism to lower. Your body will go into starvation mode and hang onto every calorie it can. To keep your meatbolism high you should eat six small meals a day, and take up weightlifting. It won't make you bulky or too muscular but it will keep you toned and your metabolism high.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    It should also be pointed out that once a fat cell is created, only surgery can get rid of it. Dieting just temporarily "empties" the cell, which is a waste of time in the long run if you binge.

    A lifestyle change (better food, more excercise, accepting you're just as special as anyone else, being kind to yourself, etc.) will have much better results.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 274 ✭✭Featherl


    I am skinny and I would love to be heavier in weight - I am being serious, I have always been thin and I have never dieted. I try to eat extra food to put on weight but never goes on..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,449 ✭✭✭Call Me Jimmy


    As has been said, eating lots a small healthy meals/ portions is a million times better than eating less of the stuff you're eating atm.

    And I'de like to add that someone who has a bit of meat on their bones but looks healthy, is much more attractive than someone who is skinny but looks unhealthy.

    OP, I would also recommend that you see a psychologist because your state of mind isn't right (no offense lol), and if you don't sort it out it will spiral out of control. You're entering dangerous territory imo.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 396 ✭✭funloving


    macbarbie wrote: »
    Ok i desperately want to be skinny, I am 5.9 and 10 and a half stone, I know i know, thats ok but I cant get it out of my head i want to be skinny, the more i think ok im going on a diet the more i eat coz im constantly thinking about food, then i binge and feel horrible, i think about it last thing at night and first in morning, im becomming obbsessed.....i exercise 3 times a week, i have no other time. Iv tried making myself sick but i hate it, I dont want nagging like your ridiculous, i know this, but i cant help how i feel.what can i do to be skinny?

    Go to a GP..your obsession can be dangerous and lead you to anorexia...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,070 ✭✭✭Placebo


    special K+ apples + 3 miles a day = thin


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,838 ✭✭✭DapperGent


    Nobody wants to plough skinny chicks. Fact.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    macbarbie wrote: »
    Ok i desperately want to be skinny, I am 5.9 and 10 and a half stone, I know i know, thats ok but I cant get it out of my head i want to be skinny, the more i think ok im going on a diet the more i eat coz im constantly thinking about food, then i binge and feel horrible, i think about it last thing at night and first in morning, im becomming obbsessed.....i exercise 3 times a week, i have no other time. Iv tried making myself sick but i hate it, I dont want nagging like your ridiculous, i know this, but i cant help how i feel.what can i do to be skinny?

    can you tell me the reason you feel the need to be 'skinny' and at what weight would you be happy with. At what point will you say 'now i'm skinny i'll be okay'?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    alsomind my asking what age-bracket you fit into : under20 ... 20-24 ... 24-30 ... 30+

    Just that i know real close to me who went through this exactly 3years this week and TBH still not fully recovered...she was also 5'9 and weighed 10st but she was 21 at the time


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 301 ✭✭marie_85


    OP, you sound like you're at a perfectly healthy weight, to be honest. It comes across like your problems are more down to a lack of self esteem. I suspect that even if you reached the 'perfect' weight as you see it, you'd only become fixated on another aspect of yourself that you felt you had to 'fix.'

    Is there anything else going on in your life at the moment that is causing you stress or any areas in which you feel out of control? In my own experience, my own problems with food and diets come about when I feel that food is the only aspect of my life that I have complete control over.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 15 nurburgking


    Good for you if you want to be skinny and are doing something about it.
    My only concern is that you need to approach it in a healthy manner. Throwing up is not the best idea and leads to all sorts of mental and physical problems.

    Eat well, eat healthy and keep active and you should be keep a nice weight. Ignore the tub-buckets advising you that fat is sexy/healthy etc. they are just projecting their own problems onto you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Good for you if you want to be skinny and are doing something about it.
    Well there's slim and being unhealthily thin and the OP is slim so no, it's not that great really. Have you chosen to ignore the part where she says she knows she's a healthy size but she doesn't want to hear about it? Or what about the part where she says she's got a problematic relationship with food?
    Throwing up is not the best idea and leads to all sorts of mental and physical problems.
    "Not the best idea" - one way of putting something that will seriously endanger your health, I suppose.
    Ignore the tub-buckets advising you that fat is sexy/healthy etc. they are just projecting their own problems onto you.
    True. But of course, as you know yourself, there's a big difference between the above and simply advising her that it's dangerous to be underweight.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 315 ✭✭Full.Duck


    5'9 and 10 1/2 stone and you want to be skinny. FFS get a grip, you are skinny.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Full.Duck wrote: »
    5'9 and 10 1/2 stone and you want to be skinny. FFS get a grip, you are skinny.

    No, she's not skinny. She could also have all the weight in the wrong places.

    Her problem is a mental one though, and won't be solved by diet.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,658 ✭✭✭✭The Sweeper


    SexyD4Lady wrote: »
    OP, realistically, your weight is healthy. Slightly overweight, but you are by no means fat at 5ft 9in and 10st 7lbs. Start eating a bit more healthily if Weight Watchers isn't your thing. Write down what you eat, record how many calories you consume. A healthy amount for a woman (daily) is 2000cals. That amount will maintain your weight- you won't lose or gain. Try to eat 1600-1850: lower than recommended, but a healthy and safe amount to lose weight.

    SexyD4Lady, I don't want to look like I'm picking on you, but:

    The OP is NOT SLIGHTLY OVERWEIGHT. The OP's BMI is just under 22, so smack in the middle of the healthy weight range for her height. She's probably extremely slim, especially if she is a younger woman and has never been overweight - she's most probably proportional and slender.

    Telling someone who is obsessing about food to count calories, write down what they eat and record what they consume is completely disastrous advice.

    Recommended calorie intake is recommended for a reason, and advising someone who appears to have massive issues with their eating to eat less than the recommended daily amount is also very bad advice.

    I had a best friend for years who was a US size zero, had been anorexic since the age of 12 and is now a hopeless bulimic. In her mid thirties now, she is trying to keep her cardiovascular system fit because she is at serious risk of heart problems from starving herself for decades. All of her teeth are porcelain veneers because she's rotted them to stumps puking her stomach acid past them daily. And you have no idea how soul destroying it is to try and socialise with someone who visits the toilet to puke after every meal out, every few drinks, you have a dinner party and spend the afternoon slaving over the stove and they come around, eat, and puke it into your toilet an hour later.

    My sister in law has an eating disorder. At 5ft 10 she has a BMI of 18.5. She's a doctor and she still can't see the damage she's doing to herself. She needs to sleep whenever she isn't working. She thinks it's because she works hard - it's because she has no energy because she doesn't eat. She was pregnant in 2005 and the hospital told her to eat because her BMI at five months pregnant was STILL less than 19. It was a smack in the face for her, because eating disorders are mental illnesses and she really did not realise there was anything wrong.

    They told her she risked damage to the child but a far greater risk of serious damage to herself, because her foetus would take every nutrient it needed from her body and leave her nothing. She could start to lose her hair, and she would not have enough calcium in her system to keep her teeth and nails healthy and her bone density was at risk.

    Underweight is not healthy. Being underweight does not rescue you from the risk of weight-related illnesses, it just exposes you to a whole other set of weight-related illnesses. Living with someone who has an eating disorder is a hugely stressful, upsetting task for the people who love that person - it's in your face all the time, because usually people eat a number of times a day. You're watching someone starve themselves into ill health and the issue comes up literally at breakfast, lunch and dinner.

    If the OP wants to be skinny, they should visit the nutrition and diet forums and see precisely what a reception they get when they outline the steps they've taken towards that so far.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 193 ✭✭whatsgoinon


    OP, is your desire to become skinny a fashion thing? I know that when i try on jeans i can be anything from a 12 to a 16 depending on what brand, store i go to. I have big bones and an athletic figure. I don't know where clothes manufacturers get their standards for sizes, but they are all over the place, I don't even bother going to zara, mango fits me well, when i was at my heaviest (13 stone due to illness) I was shopping in marks and sparks, for comfortable clothing.
    Sometimes I see girls/boys wandering down the street in those skinny jeans, and I wonder how they are able to walk at all, their legs look like chopsticks.
    you can buy clothes that make you look slim, without you actually having to starve yourself to death, get a good cut and you can look a million dollars


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 801 ✭✭✭estar


    you need to re-assess your life and find some
    worthy goals to occupy your energy in my opinion

    career dieting should not be the focus of any persons life
    most models that have long lasting careers watch what they
    eat but are naturally long and lean.

    its good to acknowledge that being thin is
    preoccupying you

    next you need to question how valid that is as a goal
    that you should be desperate to achieve?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 801 ✭✭✭estar


    the more you obsess about it the more focused you
    become on food, the more

    a) boring you become as you think about points and food all
    the time. there is NOTHING more boring than a diet obsessed
    woman. well im sure there is but it bores the t*ts off me.

    b) tempted to eat.

    rather fill your life with interesting pursuits and forget about
    the diet. eat well, dont buy diet foods, prepare your
    food where you can and watch your portions and when
    you eat - eat more during the day

    and then - (sorry)- but get a life.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 801 ✭✭✭estar


    Placebo wrote: »
    special K+ apples + 3 miles a day = thin


    special k + apples + 3 miles a day = ruining your health

    no balanced diet, no proper protein, no variety

    thats a big binge in the making.

    when you go out at night you will be practically chewing
    into people next to you, you will be so hungry. mood
    swings, inability to concentrate, snappiness.

    ridiculous idea.


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