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Idiot starting on me

  • 04-12-2007 9:02am
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,778 ✭✭✭✭


    Story, I borrowed a DVD off a mate which apparently belonged to one of his mates and leant it on to a friend of mine. I'm in the wrong at this point I know but no more than our common mate. The person I leant it to took the DVD to Meath on holidays and hasn't been back to bring it back in months. I understand up to this point that this is also bollocks on my part, I'm pretty responsible.

    To be honest, my problem is with the owners response. A couple of times he's seen me out and demanded to know the story with it. I've told him that unfortunately it's out of my hands and I'll get it back to him as soon as possible. Unfortunately he's a big angry c*nt and was trying to intimidate me in a pub where a lot of people know me. I smiled pleasantly and told him to remove his f*cking hand from me. He told me he'd follow me home and beat the sh*t out of me. In turn, I told him kindly if that's what he felt he had to do then so be it but he should remember it's a f*cking DVD. Last night, I was out with a couple of ladyfriends and was going to walk them home. I'd nabbed a bottle and was drinking it on the walk when he came out following us. TBH I'd had a few and was considering bottling him for being such an arrogant, ignorant tool but the girls were getting between us. I'm in no hurry to start up on the housemate of an actually decent enough friend of mine but I can't understand this guy.

    I'm in 2 minds, let the f*cker start on me again and go to work on him in a pub where a lot of people would have my back and I figure I'd be in the right anyway seeing as I'm not the antagonistic type or going in to buy a copy of Crank today and posting it into his door with a note saying "No need to thank me, infact no need to ever talk to me again. Hope you get cancer. Enjoy."


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,828 ✭✭✭bullvine


    Could you not just have bought him another DVD and apologised for lending it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,931 ✭✭✭togster


    Or you could just actually get the DVD? Replace it? You should have given it back to him.:rolleyes:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,155 ✭✭✭the dee


    Why does it need to get violent? I'd say just buy another copy of the dvd and give it to him. You don't have to talk to him again after that.

    It's just a dvd, there's no need for anyone to get beaten up over it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Buy a replacement DVD from him and then when your mate returns the one he has to you, keep it.

    The guy is an idiot for causing trouble over a DVD but for a quite life this is the easist option.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,126 ✭✭✭homah_7ft


    Why don't you tell the person you gave the DVD to all this? I'm sure he would be delighted to return the DVD immediately under the circumstances.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,793 ✭✭✭✭Hagar


    Join a club, a video club.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,828 ✭✭✭bullvine


    or for 9.49 euro you can by Crank on Play.com, he probably thinks your taking the piss out of him by not offering to replace it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 57 ✭✭bogman44


    The guy sounds like a lunatic. Or he really doesn't like you and this is his opportunity. Replace the DVD. here http://www.dvd.co.uk/.
    Simple really


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,778 ✭✭✭✭Kold


    I understand how I'm in the wrong and I wouldn't have dreamt of reacting violently if he wasn't being such a c*nt about it.


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    If I lend something to a friend, I expect to get it back, not have it given to someone else in turn.
    He is acting like an ass but your reaction is also ott - if you borrow something give it back.
    Buy the dvd today and give it back to him.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    What age are ye? 10? Buy him a replacement, tell him to shove it up his arse and strike him off your list of mates.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 577 ✭✭✭K_P


    Kold wrote: »
    I understand how I'm in the wrong and I wouldn't have dreamt of reacting violently if he wasn't being such a c*nt about it.

    Well don't be a c*nt back to him. Replace the DVD. End of story. Jesus, is this really such a dilemma?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,400 ✭✭✭✭r3nu4l


    Don't they have An Post offices in the wilds of Meath? Why can't your so-called friend post this DVD to you considering you have a madman after you?

    I know some people consider Meath to be the sticks but this situation is ridiculous. Yes, the guys response is out of proportion but even still you should have made some sort of amends by now! As far as he knows you are laughing at him and not bothered doing anything to get his DVD back!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,820 ✭✭✭Femelade


    Kold wrote: »
    or going in to buy a copy of Crank today and posting it into his door with a note saying "No need to thank me, infact no need to ever talk to me again. Hope you get cancer. Enjoy."

    Oh for god's sake, and you say HE is over reacting..that may be true, but seriously what age are you??... "hope you get cancer"...what an idiotic thing to even think of saying , over a bloody dvd.
    Replace the dvd ffs.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Age: 21 Shouldn't you be acting more mature by now?
    Replace DVD - don't lend out what is not yours.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 901 ✭✭✭Drummerboy2


    While the guy is over reacting, you basically have been irresponsible by lending something that doesn't belong to you to someone else. To make matters worse you don't seem to be bothered rectifying the situation. If you can't get it back from the wilds of Meath then buy the guy a new one. Your behaviour is bordering on arrogance.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 252 ✭✭plissken


    Take it from his point of view, The guy sees you in the pub drinkin so you obviously can afford drink but you couldnt be arsed to replace a dvd that you can get for less than 15euro in hmv that you lost, grow up man you shouldnt need strangers advice as to what is the right thing to do here


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 742 ✭✭✭easyontheeye


    Kold wrote: »
    I understand how I'm in the wrong and I wouldn't have dreamt of reacting violently if he wasn't being such a c*nt about it.

    i think your the ignorant cnut here. why dont you stop being a baby and buy the man the dvd?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,673 ✭✭✭celt262


    Is it a porno?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,695 ✭✭✭King of Kings


    you have made no amends for losing the dvd - ok i know you haven't lost it as such.

    you could have easily bought him a replacement but you didn't you kept procrastinating and fobbing him of with a "friend" has it. I say "friend" cos he doesn't know this guy and for all he know you've lost it and are lying to him.

    I would be pissed off with you big style and maybe his way of dealing with this is to give you a beating. Who knows after multiple attempts to retrieve my property i might do the same.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,417 ✭✭✭griffdaddy


    jesus, it'd want to some dvd to warrant glassing someone, do you have any idea what a judge would say to you if you were up for glassing someone over this shít?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 621 ✭✭✭Magic Pips


    crank is one of the worst movies of all time, perhaps you should beat yourself up?

    *edit*(ooops, thought i was on AH, lol)

    OP buy a new DVD, and give it to your mate. Ignore this guy as he obviously has something against you. don't ever think about putting a bottle to anyones face - if it comes to it defend yourself like with like or if possible walk away.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 916 ✭✭✭MicraBoy


    Sh1t flows downwards. This guy is putting serious pressure on you for the return of the DVD. You should in turn be putting serious pressure on the person you lent it to to get it back. Even if he has to travel specially to Meath to get it. You flapping your hands and saying there is nothing you can do is a pure cop out.

    Pragmatically speaking buying a replacement is the easiest option and then hassling your friend to get the original back.

    The guy is a tool by the sounds of it, but probably feels he is being made a fool of in the first place. I'd be pretty pissed if I lent something to somebody and discovered it was lent on three times.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,244 ✭✭✭drdre


    What dvd is it?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 972 ✭✭✭moco


    Whatever about him making a big deal out if the dvd, you're the one thinking about bottling him and starting a pub brawl over it!

    Buy him a new one, it wasn't yours to lend in the first place.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,375 ✭✭✭kmick


    Happened to me before. I lent a DVD to someone who lent it to someone else who lost it. You are an idiot for lending a DVD you did not own to some other idiot who did not give it back.

    I hope he gives you what you deserve. Otherwise buy him a new dvd and problem solved.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 987 ✭✭✭keen


    moco wrote: »
    Buy him a new one, it wasn't yours to lend in the first place.

    The OP already knows this as he has stated it more then once.

    OP, how long of a time frame are we talking about here between the time your friend lost the DVD and the time the owner of DVD asked for it back?

    Was he wating months for it? Asking you regualrly for it back, or did he start acting mad as soon as he found out you lent it out?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 972 ✭✭✭moco


    keen wrote: »
    The OP already knows this as he has stated it more then once.

    OP, how long of a time frame are we talking about here between the time your friend lost the DVD and the time the owner of DVD asked for it back?

    Was he wating months for it? Asking you regualrly for it back, or did he start acting mad as soon as he found out you lent it out?

    I know he knows, but it obviously hasn't sunk in it means he should have replaced it long ago.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,311 ✭✭✭Procasinator


    Buy the DVD in the shop.* Take out the DVD, and discard it. Know, record this guy a message saying how much of a prick he is and do a porno with his ma. Put it on a DVD, print a high quality label, seal it up and give it to him.

    Just remember to only borrow his ma, return her undamaged, otherwise you are nothing but scum.

    * This is assuming you can't print the cover and make your own cover. You could, but this would be the hardest part of the operation. That and convincing his dad to hold the camera.

    That or you could just give him the DVD back, and don't talk to him again. Also consider giving the friend who borrowed the DVD off you a earful. Non-issue really, you could have fixed the situation really quickly if you just used your noggin.


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  • Posts: 2,874 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I cant believe some of the posters' responses here. The OP admitted he was in the wrong and the rest of ye are coming down on him like a ton of bricks. Theres no need to get stroppy over a bloody DVD.

    Kold - It was a bit of a cock up on your behalf, but theres no need to get yer block knocked off over a DVD. Tell the arsehole what happened and that he'll get his precious (useless) movie back when your mate comes back. If he's not happy then turn the other cheek. No point in getting into a fight.
    What a complete retard.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,695 ✭✭✭King of Kings


    Theres no need to get stroppy over a bloody DVD.
    .

    yes there is.


    ever been owed money by somebody who keeps fobbing you off
    it's annoying and this is the same situation.

    this has gone beyond a dvd anymore and is a matter of principle
    and the owner of the dvd seeing the OP as some prick - and dislikes him
    to the point of wanting to beat him


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,893 ✭✭✭Canis Lupus


    yes there is.


    ever been owed money by somebody who keeps fobbing you off
    it's annoying and this is the same situation.

    this like its gone beyond a dvd anymore and is a matter of principle
    and the owner of the dvd seeing the OP as some prick - and dislikes him
    to the point of wanting to beat him


    What he said ^^

    If you think someones disrespecting you like the OP is to the owner of the dvd then it has nothing to do with the cost of the item.

    I couldn't care what I was owed I'd get stroppy as well if I lent something that was in turn lent to someone else and I was effectively been told to sit and swivel to get my own property back.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    celt262, Procasinator,
    Off topic and unhelpful posts will get you banned from this forum.
    Read the charter and abide by the rules while posting.
    Have a nice day
    Thaedydal.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 124 ✭✭CrazyNoob


    OP I can see why this guy wants to kill you ( not that this is the best course of action)

    You freely acknowledge you did wrong by lending it out to others and now dont want to take responsibility for that action.

    OP you are the selfish one here, and given your attitude I doubt it will be the last time you rub people up the wrong way.

    Give the idiot (who speaks with his fists) back his DVD or replace it and stop being a Pr*ck yourself


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Kold wrote: »
    I'm in 2 minds, let the f*cker start on me again and go to work on him in a pub where a lot of people would have my back and I figure I'd be in the right anyway seeing as I'm not the antagonistic type or going in to buy a copy of Crank today and posting it into his door with a note saying "No need to thank me, infact no need to ever talk to me again. Hope you get cancer. Enjoy."

    Are you for real? Buy him a replacement DVD, give it back to him minus deeply disturbing twisted sentiments in proposed note and move on.

    And think about getting anger management while you're at it.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 757 ✭✭✭milod


    OP, get the guy's address, and get your stupid mate to post it to him. ScreenClick manage to send thousands of DVDs back and forth by post every week!

    I don't see any problem here other than YOUR reaction and inability to think of the obvious...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 890 ✭✭✭l3LoWnA


    Kold wrote: »
    Story, I borrowed a DVD off a mate which apparently belonged to one of his mates and leant it on to a friend of mine.

    Lesson # 1 - Don't lend thing sto people when you are not the rightful owner in the first place. How dare you!
    I'm in the wrong at this point

    Yes you absolutely are, AND you are aware that the owner is not happy, so replace the DVD that YOU have misplaced!!!
    I know but no more than our common mate.

    He gave you the loan of the DVD in good faith, expecting it to be returned. He may have even asked original DVD owner guy if that was ok? But did you?
    The person I leant it to took the DVD to Meath on holidays and hasn't been back to bring it back in months.

    Didn't realise people went on such long holidays in Meath, didnt realise there was so much to do over there! :rolleyes: Admit it, you haven't been ar$ed to try and get the DVD back.
    To be honest, my problem is with the owners response. A couple of times he's seen me out and demanded to know the story with it.

    He has every right - he fkn owns it!!!!
    I've told him that unfortunately it's out of my hands and I'll get it back to him as soon as possible.

    Why didn't you give him your friends (in Meaths) phone number!!?? If I owned something and leant it in good faith and got asmart-ar$e response like "it's out of my hands" when I asked for it back I'm be fairly annoyed!!
    Unfortunately he's a big angry c*nt and was trying to intimidate me in a pub where a lot of people know me.

    Well then get his DVD back - it isn't rocket science - or at least, but him another copy (what is the DVD by the way? Anything interesting?) :)
    I smiled pleasantly and told him to remove his f*cking hand from me.

    Why didn't you just tell him you'd get the bloody thing back instead of angering him more? Seems like you're looking for trouble.
    He told me he'd follow me home and beat the sh*t out of me.

    Return or replace the DVD
    In turn, I told him kindly if that's what he felt he had to do then so be it but he should remember it's a f*cking DVD.

    Yes, but it's HIS DVD! Not yours or your friends, his!!
    Last night, I was out with a couple of ladyfriends and was going to walk them home. I'd nabbed a bottle and was drinking it on the walk when he came out following us.

    You mean, you keep going back for more when you haven't even replaced the DVD yet? Completely your own fault - no sympathy for you whatsoever, he has no right to get violent but I can understand completely his anger! (even though I wouldn't care about such a small thing as DVD, it's the principle of the thing)
    TBH I'd had a few and was considering bottling him for being such an arrogant, ignorant tool but the girls were getting between us.

    Jesus, just give him back the DVD, he hasn't committed any crimes, yet here you are, almost thieving off this guy and then saying y'd like to bottle him! What sort of person are you?
    I'm in no hurry to start up on the housemate of an actually decent enough friend of mine but I can't understand this guy.

    Why would YOU be starting on HIM when you're the one who won't return his DVD?
    I'm in 2 minds, let the f*cker start on me again and go to work on him in a pub where a lot of people would have my back and I figure I'd be in the right anyway seeing as I'm not the antagonistic type

    Of course you're not.
    going in to buy a copy of Crank today and posting it into his door with a note saying "No need to thank me, infact no need to ever talk to me again. Hope you get cancer

    You need to grow up and realise that all could have been avoided if you'd ben mature and respectful to start off with!! :rolleyes: Did I already say I think you should return this guys DVD, or else replace it?! :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    OP, you're in the wrong here.

    I have lost someones DVD in the past, and just replaced it. Simple as.

    Likewise, if someone kept fobbing me off saying "friend has it down the country", I'd soon see that talking means nothing, and try threatening the person, as with some people, they don't get the fact that if they loose something that I own, they have to replace it.

    Moral of my rant: replace it, as he wants his stuff back which you lost.

    Or, if he wants that which you lost, give the friends number from Meath.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,827 ✭✭✭ex_infantry man


    you could have his legs broke if ya want i,ll do it for a tenner lol just kidding he seems like an immature eejit to be honest and it seems sad that he,s starting on you over a dvd jesus whats the world coming to at all???? either get the one he owns back or buy a new one and have the pleasure of walkin up to him and politely tell him to shove the dvd where the sun don,t shine!!!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,375 ✭✭✭padser


    l3LoWnA wrote: »
    You need to grow up

    +1

    So does he - but that's not really your problem.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,089 ✭✭✭fuzzywiggle


    seamus wrote: »
    What age are ye? 10? Buy him a replacement, tell him to shove it up his arse and strike him off your list of mates.

    Oh i laughed. What an irish response if there ever was one. Priceless.


    Yeah just but a replacement dvd..why havent you thought of it already..makes me wonder what dvd it is?!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 773 ✭✭✭echosound


    He's already said it was "crank".

    OP,do yourself a favour and buy a replacement and get this guy off your back. For the sake of ten of fifteen euro, jeez just do it and be done with the aggro.

    Also learn a lesson from this -don't lend anything to anyone that you don't mind not getting back (including stuff that doesn't even belong to you). If I ever give a "loan" of a dvd to someone, it's one I don't mind not getting back, as it seems a lot of people are as casual as you are with other people's property.

    get your mate in Meath to give you back the dvd too while you're at it. Problem solved!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,070 ✭✭✭Placebo


    what if its some limited edition yoke?

    -pay him
    -drive to meath?

    dont bottle the chap cause it will boil down to the dvd ,
    criminal record : assault, reason:dvd


    edit: oh jesus crank, what an awful film.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,199 ✭✭✭✭Sangre


    I cant believe some of the posters' responses here. The OP admitted he was in the wrong and the rest of ye are coming down on him like a ton of bricks. Theres no need to get stroppy over a bloody DVD.

    Kold - It was a bit of a cock up on your behalf, but theres no need to get yer block knocked off over a DVD. Tell the arsehole what happened and that he'll get his precious (useless) movie back when your mate comes back. If he's not happy then turn the other cheek. No point in getting into a fight.
    What a complete retard.
    Or, here is an idea..

    He could offer to replace the DVD as its his fault its gone. Tbh, I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy lent a borrowed DVD to his friends months ago and was making no offers to replace it or get it any quicker. No wonder he's getting aggressive towards you, you are completely fobbing him off. Its not that its a DVD, its your attitude towards someone elses possession.


  • Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 9,658 Mod ✭✭✭✭mayordenis


    im with the OP on this one anyone who makes a threat based on a dvd is a complete tool, you missed a golden oppurtunity by not bottling him, at least deck him.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,799 ✭✭✭Tha Gopher


    Who goes on a many months long holiday to Meath? It isnt Australia or south east Asia :confused:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    bullvine wrote: »
    Could you not just have bought him another DVD and apologised for lending it.

    +1 end of story.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,057 ✭✭✭Wacker


    I have a substantial DVD collection, and I'm totally neurotic about them. If I lend a DVD to (for instance) a colleague, it will be under strict instructions that it is to be returned the next day, with the person having watched it. Failure to do either will mean that this person will never be lent another one. I rarely lend DVDs to people because I get so furious when people fail to return them/lose them/whatever. I know it is totally irrational, so I avoid the situation when I can
    If the OP had lent a DVD of mine to someone else who subsequently didn't return it, I would be furious beyond measure. I'm not a violenmt person at all, but I still think I would act just like the guy in his story did.

    My advice? Buy him a replacement immediately, and apologize to him for the whole mess. Hopefully he'll apologize right back for threatening you, but if he doesn't, what of it? You started this whole thing - end it. Be a gent about it while doing so.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭wasper


    I think the 2 of you deserve each other.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,458 ✭✭✭✭gandalf


    Jaysus OP buy a replacement and grow up!


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