how do i get this bloke?

LegacyUser

About 3 months ago I moved into a new apartment in a new town. I ordered a bed off ebay that was meant to be delivered but never arrived. Just as I was fretting and wondering what had happened to it, my doorbell rang. At my door were 2 blokes and a girl. One bloke (who was really cute!) asked if I had ordered a bed as one had been delivered to his house by mistake but had my address on it. I followed them round the corner to their house. This gorgeous big strong bloke lifted up the whole bed, put it on his head and carried it for me. We chatted while we walked, he said he was from poland and worked in a factory nearby. That explained his delicious accent. Anyway, even though we live 10 seconds walk from each other we hardly ever see each other. When we do, he smiles and says hi. I fancy him so much I'm going nuts. I don't know how to get talking to him without seeming like a crazy stalker. I mean, only about once a fortnight do we pass in the street and just say hi. what shall I do? I know this sounds really juvenile but I can't help it, he's the only sexy bloke in this town!

Creamy Goodness

next time you see him, say hey as usual but after that say that you'd like to repay him for carrying your bed into your apartment. suggest a quiet drink/coffee or something and take it from there.

Victor

Oh, how about having a party and inviting him?

The_Conductor

Yes- you're going to have to bite the bullet and go and ask him. Its great admiring someone from a distance- but seriously guys are atrocious (I know I am!) at reading signs that women try to say without being hit over the head with a sledgehammer...... Go to his house- knock on the door, bring a small present with you- a little cake or something (not flowers....), apologise to the guy for not thanking him properly for bringing your bed over- and suggest that you'd like to sit down and help eat the cake you've just brought over with a cup of tea. Before you leave- invite him to the cinema (or the zoo- or anything that might be suitable as a first date- perhaps not the cinema as English is not his first language). There are so many different ways you might do this. You are going to have to get over your shyness and bite the bullet though......

seahorse

Victor wrote:

Oh, how about having a party and inviting him?

This sounds like a really good idea; if you managed to pull it off he'd have a few drinks in him too and we all know where that can lead!;)

It'd be a big time sickener if you threw a party secretly for his benefit and he was the only person not to turn up:eek: (people would wonder why you'd thrown a party in the first place what with the sulky puss on you all night! lol) but you'll never know till you try.

If he's so sexy and he's the only male eye-candy in town I'd advise you to get in there fast as you're sure not to be the only woman to have noticed the only good looking bloke in the place!

What about the girl who was there the first time you met though? Could she have been his girlfriend? Maybe this would explain why he's never initiated any further conversation? I suppose you wont know till you start digging... Good luck with it!:)

LegacyUser

I'm SO shy though! And as for knocking on his door, his whole family seems to live there so it would be too upfront, I don't even know if hes single. I need to stop him in the street I guess but how? I am ridiculously shy. I can't have a party, my apartment is way too small. Hmmm, isn't there some way to let him know I like him and get him to ask me out?

CathyMoran

Men can be blind to reading signs. I know that my husband was. In the end I got him to invite me on a date by not meeting him for coffee one day and suggesting that he ring me (I "gave" him my number by ringing home and innocently suggesting that he take down the number), that was ten years ago on November 14th and I have a gorgeous husband now. As Shane suggested go over with a cake and start from there. Good luck. Let us know how you get on.

JohnnyStones

Dig a big hole just outside his front door and when he goes to leave he'll fall into the hole; once he's in the hole hit him on the head with a blunt instrument (being careful not to kill him)pull him out off the hole and drag him home, Once you make it home tie him to your brand new bed ;Job done!!

no need to thank me, can't believe you haven't tried this yet!!

:cool: :cool: :cool:

dudara

Men can be very oblivious. So the next time you pass him in the street, stop him and thank him for his help with the bed. Offer him a drink as a way of saying thank you. At least then, you'll have tried.

00112984

Pop over with a bottle of wine as a "thank you" for helping with the bed (just don't wait too much longer) and drop it over when you know he's likely to be there. At least you'll have an excuse to get chatting!

MagicMarker

What about sticking a thank you card in his post box and put your number inside? Ball's in his court then.

The_Conductor

MagicMarker wrote:

What about sticking a thank you card in his post box and put your number inside? Ball's in his court then.

Its way too subtle?
Plus the bed was weeks ago- and she has been nodding at him in the street since- if I was in the guys position- I'd be thinking she a bit strange if I received a card like that out of the blue, I think it needs to be more emmm- obvious?

MagicMarker

smccarrick wrote:

Its way too subtle?
Plus the bed was weeks ago- and she has been nodding at him in the street since- if I was in the guys position- I'd be thinking she a bit strange if I received a card like that out of the blue, I think it needs to be more emmm- obvious?

neked picture in the card of course!

Cheeky_gal

Simple, ask him if he's gay!?

Victor

MagicMarker wrote:

What about sticking a thank you card in his post box and put your number inside? Ball's in his court then.

Extremely chicken option. He still might not get the clue.

LegacyUser

So blokes, if you were him, would would work for you?

echosound

Next time you see him in the street, stop when you say hi, then tell him you were so busy with sorting stuff out with deliveries and moving in, you never thought to say thank you properly for bringing the bed round and helping you out, and you'd like to buy him a drink or dinner or something to say thanks. Problem solved!

If you're too shy to be offer to buy him a drink/take him out, ask him if he'd like to pop into you for a coffee to say thanks, and maybe mention that you're trying to get to know your new neighbours as you're new to the area. Any regular person will pop in for a coffee and a chat if someone says they are new and trying to get to know the neighbours! Take it from there - get chatting, get to know him, and see what happens!

Dave!

I like echosound's idea...

It will require alot of courage and nobody likes doing it, but you just gotta bite the bullet

Easy for me to say, but I wouldn't have the balls to ask someone out out of the blue

macshadow

A bit sneaky but maybe you could come across a polish website that you need translating:D

biko

shygirl000 wrote:

I'm SO shy though! ... Hmmm, isn't there some way to let him know I like him and get him to ask me out?

I don't think it's shyness, it's fear of rejection isn't it?
Here's your chance now to pluck up the courage to ask someone out instead of fluttering your eyeslashes and waiting for him to do all the chasing. Sorry for being blunt but this is such a common theme/excuse in PI and frankly people need to put themselves out there more.

Next time you see him ask if he could help you do some shopping in the Polish store or similar. A bad excuse is better than a good one, it'll let him know (hopefully, don't count on it) that you don't really need him for shopping but made it up.

LegacyUser

unfortunately there is no polish store anywhere near here, nor can I think of any websites i could possibly need translating. Oh god, how can I pluck up the courage to ask him?

LegacyUser

There is another problem too, I hardly ever see him! The last time I saw him was at least 2 weeks ago. From my back window I can see his front door, and there is zero activity there! I don't know whether he just works alot or what, but I only see him every 2 or 3 weeks which makes it even harder!

biko

How about you go over and ask if he would like to come out some time for coffee? Say you are planning to inter-rail though Europe next summer and want to see stuff in Poland? Perhaps he would be so kind as to give you a few good locations, what to do etc?
If he starts to tell you things then and there, pretend you're busy and would Thursday after work be good?

justsomebloke

you could always call around when he is there and ask him, cause you are by yourself that you need help moving the bed to another room and would he mind helping you move it. This works best in a one bed aparment;) .

That or you could just ask him would he like to go out for a drink as your way of saying thanks for bringing the bed over?

Dragan

If I'm reading this right this chap performed a casual feat of strength for no particular reason.

Quite simply the only time I have ever done that outside of the gym is to impress a lass. I get the feeling your Strongman might have eyes for you anyway.

Ask him out, whats the worst that could happen?

LegacyUser

Sadly it wasn't for no particular reason. The only way to get the bed up several flights of stairs to my apartment was to carry it.

AngryBadger

dudara wrote:

Men can be very oblivious. So the next time you pass him in the street, stop him and thank him for his help with the bed. Offer him a drink as a way of saying thank you. At least then, you'll have tried.

Brilliant idea! FTW!!!

Gekko

if you don't see him very often then leave a note for him in his letterbox with your number on as someone else suggested

lol say thank you for helping you with the bed, now if you could just call round later and we'll christen it... sorry couldnt resist, on a more serious note i think this advice from dudara is the soundest

So the next time you pass him in the street, stop him and thank him for his help with the bed. Offer him a drink as a way of saying thank you. At least then, you'll have tried.

bostonian

it's pretty hard for a woman to be a stalker early on. put the pedal to the metal.

Manic Moran

Men can be very oblivious. So the next time you pass him in the street, stop him and thank him for his help with the bed. Offer him a drink as a way of saying thank you. At least then, you'll have tried

+1, with two caveats.

1) We're not oblivious. We're focused on whatever issue pre-occupies us. Nothing related to that issue passes us by. Nothing unrelated to that issue enters our thought processes!

2) I prefer the 'knock on the door' approach especially if, as you say, you rarely see him. Ring the doorbell. Once you've done that, it's too late to turn back, then offer him the thank-you drinkie.

NTM

LegacyUser

The thing is, I didn't get his name. There are 2 lads the same age living there so what can I say, "er, can I speak to your son please, the cute one, not the ugly one." Or leave a note saying "To the sexy bloke who helped with my bed." Also, the bed moving incident was 3 months ago. Won't I seem weird for bringing it up now? I think stopping him in the street will be my best chance, but still, I feel weird.

MrMojoRising

Get something delivered to his house with your name on it. If he drops it around to you, bingo! you'll have ur chance to ask him out

moco

I think the next time you see him ask him for a coffee to say thanks. If he likes you he'll jump at the chance and if he doesn't he'll decline. At least you won't have lost face by actually asking him out and him saying no.

Latchy

=shygirl000 So blokes, if you were him, would would work for you?

Well shy girl ,you could learn a bit of basic polish like 'Hi ,Hello , how are you ' ? (you sexy beast) and try the old hollywood stunt were you accidently bump into him with a coffee (make sure the coffees cold ,dont want no compensation claim) ) apologies, and offer to wash his tee-shirt .
He of course will refuse the offer but will remember you (he better have ) from delievering the bed, then take it from there

Dave147

shygirl000 wrote:

The thing is, I didn't get his name. There are 2 lads the same age living there so what can I say, "er, can I speak to your son please, the cute one, not the ugly one." Or leave a note saying "To the sexy bloke who helped with my bed." Also, the bed moving incident was 3 months ago. Won't I seem weird for bringing it up now? I think stopping him in the street will be my best chance, but still, I feel weird.

Haha, made me laugh out loud.. I think next time you see him just stop him and ask him out. You only see him every now and again so if he declines it's not like you'll have to see him every day after.. Let us know how you get on! I'm seeing a polish girl at the moment, they're beautiful people.

LegacyUser

MrMojoRising wrote:

Get something delivered to his house with your name on it. If he drops it around to you, bingo! you'll have ur chance to ask him out

Now this idea could work.......

LegacyUser

Actually, I was getting all excited with that idea, thinking I could get a friend to post a letter addressed to me into his letterbox, then he might bring it round. But I've just thought, it wouldn't be like the bed, where he had to get me to come and get it, a letter he could just pop through my letterbox. Trying to get something official in a box wouldn't work either, the postman is unlikely to make another mistake.

LegacyUser

I just thought of something that may help though, my gas meter is right outside his house so I have to go there when I put credit on it. Although, like I said, he's not often in the street.

CathyMoran

shygirl000 wrote:

Actually, I was getting all excited with that idea, thinking I could get a friend to post a letter addressed to me into his letterbox, then he might bring it round. But I've just thought, it wouldn't be like the bed, where he had to get me to come and get it, a letter he could just pop through my letterbox. Trying to get something official in a box wouldn't work either, the postman is unlikely to make another mistake.

You could always get that friend to deliver a large heavy box to you and "accidentally" deliver it to the wrong address! I still think that calling round and asking to see the guy to thank him for delivering the bed might work, I know that it is 3 months but you could say that you were busy. We are married over 9 months now and we still have not sent out thank you letters so it is possible.

LegacyUser

CathyMoran wrote:

You could always get that friend to deliver a large heavy box to you and "accidentally" deliver it to the wrong address! I still think that calling round and asking to see the guy to thank him for delivering the bed might work, I know that it is 3 months but you could say that you were busy. We are married over 9 months now and we still have not sent out thank you letters so it is possible.

But as it must be something that won't fir through a letterbox someone must be in to take it, and maybe they'll just say this time, "not here, it s round the corner."

Dave147

Tell him your having a problem with your shower and wonder if he could do some plumbing for you :P

moco

shygirl000 wrote:

Actually, I was getting all excited with that idea, thinking I could get a friend to post a letter addressed to me into his letterbox, then he might bring it round. But I've just thought, it wouldn't be like the bed, where he had to get me to come and get it, a letter he could just pop through my letterbox. Trying to get something official in a box wouldn't work either, the postman is unlikely to make another mistake.

I think this could work. If he likes you he wouldn't just put the letter in the letterbox, he's knock the door to deliver it in person.

LegacyUser

I guess I could try this, though what if I'm not in or his mum or someone drops it round. Still could try it.

MzFusspot

Is he living with the Mammy? Could you do it by stealth by dropping in to her with a cake or something for him to say thanks and charm her by telling her how wonderful her son is for helping you out, and describe him to her so you can find out his name? She might then pass on the story of the lovely girl who dropped round to say thanks, and isn't it time he was getting himself a girlfriend.

LegacyUser

I just feel too forward doing something like that. I don't have enough guts!

demanufactured

hes polish , there not interested in irish women, plus they are very agressive, id watch yourself if ya get to close.

ErinGoBrath

shygirl000, I think all these crazy delivery schemes are overcomplicated and bordering on stalking.

The aforementioned 'stopping him and asking him for a coffee to thank him' method is defo a winner. Bite the bullet and ask him, if he's interested he'll go, if not he'll politely decline. Don't be shy, just do it. Us blokes are harmless creatures really

ferdi

just ask him for a hand with your bed again. that should be a pretty international hint

LegacyUser

But I'm shy, and the bed thing was 3 months ago.

MrMojoRising

at the risk of sounding cliched shygirl000, "its better to regret doing something, than not doing something". ask him out. imagine how horrible you'd feel if you saw him with some other girl. seize the day!! ok, no more cliches