Kissing on the lips?

anonymous69 · 24-09-2007 12:58pm #1

Do people consider this cheating? Now I mean a good few kisses for a few minutes, not just a hello kiss.

With no tongue

kaimera · 24-09-2007 12:59pm

Of course.

Dizzyblonde · 24-09-2007 1:01pm

Definitely

John Mason · 24-09-2007 1:02pm

No

Time Magazine · 24-09-2007 1:02pm

anonymous69 wrote:

With no tongue

Lol, like this makes a difference.

TheDriver · 24-09-2007 1:02pm

I concur

Mountjoy Mugger · 24-09-2007 1:04pm

No. Not at all. Cheating is more than kissing for goodness sake. It's getting "involved" I think you'd need to have more intimacy than just a few kisses with or without tongues.

How Strange · 24-09-2007 1:07pm

anonymous69 Do people consider this cheating? Now I mean a good few kisses for a few minutes, not just a hello kiss. With no tongue

Oh yes, this is cheating.

Nevyn · 24-09-2007 1:09pm

It would depend on the context, I may kiss my friends ehllo adn good bye on the lips but that is different from several kisses with one of them while getting aroused.

I would agree with french kissing as having crossed a line but would not consider it to bad as bad as having sex or an orgasm with someone else.

If my partner was to have a a snog ( with tountes) with someone who wasnt' me it may bother me depending on who it was but I would not consider it a huge betrayal.

6th · 24-09-2007 1:09pm

Mountjoy Mugger wrote:

No. Not at all. Cheating is more than kissing for goodness sake. It's getting "involved" I think you'd need to have more intimacy than just a few kisses with or without tongues.

I agree with this ..... mostly.

Tar.Aldarion · 24-09-2007 1:11pm

No, I do this all the time.

arbeitsscheuer · 24-09-2007 1:14pm

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

No, I do this all the time.

CHEATER!!!!!:p

Seriously tho, I reckon this is cheating tbh. Altho it depends on your own personality; if you're introverted and slightly puritanical (i.e. me) then this would be cheating, but if you're extroverted and overtly-affectionate then it isn't. Simple as, tbh.

However, I'd posit the view that, since you're asking this question OP, you feel guilty about doing it. Which means you already know the answer to your question.

Anti · 24-09-2007 1:16pm

6th wrote:

I agree with this ..... mostly.

lol

24-09-2007 1:17pm

Unless it's the greeting friends kind which your partner is fine with, then yes it's cheating. Not as bad as sex etc, but still.

bronte · 24-09-2007 1:22pm

Yep..unless it's a greeting thing..it'd be considered cheating.
I think you'd have to ask yourself would I be comfortable with my partner doing this with someone else?

NextSteps · 24-09-2007 1:26pm

Thaedydal wrote:

If my partner was to have a a snog ( with tountes) with someone who wasnt' me it may bother me depending on who it was but I would not consider it a huge betrayal.

I would. If my boyfriend kissed someone except me (apart from pecks on the cheek) there'd be hell to pay. But I suppose all relationships have stated (or unstated) rules. Check with your other half!

red_ice · 24-09-2007 1:33pm

It depends on the context of the kiss. Tongues = yes, without a doubt.

If its hello/goodbye with a peck on the lips followed by a quick hug... thats iffy but i wouldnt really brand it cheating. If its a kiss on the lips followed by a 'MMMWWHHAAAHH' noise, no its not cheating.

A kiss on the cheek... no chance, thats expected among friends of opposite sexes... or same sex depending on your circle of friends.

Overheal · 24-09-2007 2:04pm

sounds more like fleeting curiosity to me.

biko · 24-09-2007 2:13pm

Is cheating in my book, not the worst kind but I'd get very upset if my gf did this

~Rebel~ · 24-09-2007 2:19pm

same as above, would be cheating in my relationship anyway. I know id be pissed if she did it, and she'd definately be pissed if i did.

Aura · 24-09-2007 2:26pm

I'd be very upset to be honest if it was not meant in a platonic way and if it was early days in the relationship it'd be end of but I think if the relationship was anything more than that I'd try my best to work through it. I'd find it infinitely harder if it had been anything more than just a kiss. I do believe though these things can be worked out but it'd be a hard slog and pride has to take a back seat. It depends what's at stake really doesn't it and where you see the relationship going.

BronX-Bunny · 24-09-2007 2:26pm

Yeah I gotta aggree with Rebel. I know if I was in your shoes (have been once or twice

) i'd be feeling guilty!
guilty = bad!

CathyMoran · 24-09-2007 2:26pm

It is something that you need to confess to your other half but as long as there is no emotional attachment it is not a breakup-able offense.

meglome · 24-09-2007 2:27pm

I have female friends who I kiss on the lips but it's not a snog or anything. I would draw the line if you are doing the kissing for sexual arousal, and possibly knowing your gf wouldn't like it. Although that said if the girlfriend arrived home and admitted to kissing someone else I wouldn't exactly put her out on the street.

Papillon87 · 24-09-2007 2:29pm

biko wrote:

Is cheating in my book, not the worst kind but I'd get very upset if my gf did this

I echo this sentiment, it's not the worst variety but I'd be hurt if my bf did this. I hope I'm not going too off topic, apologies if I am, but do people consider alcohol consumption in these things? I don't believe it excuses the behaviour, but I would certainly take it into consideration if it was my bf who had cheated on me...(but only the kissing variety of cheating)

LegacyUser · 24-09-2007 2:31pm

I would consider this to be cheating if my girlfriend did it.. but if i did it, i think it's just abit of fun.

What the hell is up with that?

meglome · 24-09-2007 2:32pm

Papillon87 wrote:

I echo this sentiment, it's not the worst variety but I'd be hurt if my bf did this. I hope I'm not going too off topic, apologies if I am, but do people consider alcohol consumption in these things? I don't believe it excuses the behaviour, but I would certainly take it into consideration if it was my bf who had cheated on me...(but only the kissing variety of cheating)

I would say that in Ireland alcohol has an awful lot to do with many a quick snog (and the rest) with someone other than your gf/bf.

anonymous69 · 24-09-2007 2:45pm

Lol its gas the way everyone assumes I did it. My gf did it on me, with a mutual friend of our's, and yeah they had both been drinking

TerrorFirmer · 24-09-2007 2:47pm

I'm surprised at the number of people who are unsure about it or what stance they'd take. That is, assuming that by kiss, you mean to kiss someone in a sexual way. It doesn't matter tongue or not, I don't see how thats relevant. A kiss, of a sexual kind, behind your partners back, regardless of how long it is, is most definitely cheating. In, my opinion.

Papillon87 · 24-09-2007 2:48pm

anonymous69 wrote:

Lol its gas the way everyone assumes I did it. My gf did it on me, with a mutual friend of our's, and yeah they had both been drinking

Woops, hope I didn't come across like I thought you did...I actually didn't based on the fact that it was phrased in a believably hypothetical way! haha!

bronte · 24-09-2007 2:49pm

How do you feel op? have you talked to her about it?

How Strange · 24-09-2007 3:07pm

OP, I think if you asked the question here then you know that it isn't cool and your gf wouldn't be too happy about it.

Why else do people post these type of questions here other than seek validation for their actions.

Storm_rages · 24-09-2007 3:14pm

Na you (she) can't go around kissing people on the lips.. that just not good!!

Loomis · 24-09-2007 3:21pm

Ye it's fine. Once there's no tongues.
Like it's ok to put the head in too. So long as you don't go in all the way then that's not cheating either.
:rolleyes:

Slow day or what?

meglome · 24-09-2007 3:37pm

Storm_rages wrote:

Na you (she) can't go around kissing people on the lips.. that just not good!!

No it's not good but not the end of the world either. I should add that I personally have never cheated on my gf but we're not robots and at the end of the day people can make mistakes.

aidan24326 · 24-09-2007 3:58pm

The OP obviously means kissing on the lips in a sexual way, so I don't know why people are talking about friendly pecks and the like. Of course that's not cheating, but kissing someone on the lips 'a good few times' and 'for a few minutes' is going to be a betrayal in most people's eyes, given that the context of it is likely to be more than just 'friendly'. Not the end of the world but not something most people would be comfortable with either. In thinking about whether it's acceptable or not you have to think of how you'd view it if your other half did the same thing. That should answer it straight away one way or the other.

LegacyUser · 24-09-2007 3:59pm

'op, funny how you never gave your own opinion on it ? I personally would not consider it cheating but the real question is if you consider it cheating.

From your posts you don't seem overly annoyed. Would that be right ?'

Vegeta · 24-09-2007 4:10pm

your gf kissed another man on the lips.

she had to go through some sort of decision making process to do this. She made a choice to do this. It wasn't an accident. Her lips didn't bump into his.

Your gf wanted to kiss another man and acted on it. Personally I wouldn't be ok with this. If you are that's great for you. If not, then you have to question why you are with a girl who would do this?

Talliesin · 24-09-2007 4:16pm

No way would I go out with someone who considered kissing on the lips to be cheating. Apart from no longer being able to greet friends naturally, goodness knows what else they'd consider cheating - it'd be like constantly negotiating a minefield.

How Strange · 24-09-2007 4:17pm

anonymous69.... Lol its gas the way everyone assumes I did it. My gf did it on me, with a mutual friend of our's, and yeah they had both been drinking

OP, apologies for assuming it was you.

I def wouldn't be cool about this and to make it worse she did it with a friend.

Vegeta · 24-09-2007 4:20pm

Talliesin wrote:

No way would I go out with someone who considered kissing on the lips to be cheating. Apart from no longer being able to greet friends naturally, goodness knows what else they'd consider cheating - it'd be like constantly negotiating a minefield.

do your greetings last for several minutes and get you aroused?

there is a very large difference between kissing a member of the opposite sex on the lips as a greeting and what the OP describes.

aidan24326 · 24-09-2007 4:27pm

Vegeta wrote:

do your greetings last for several minutes and get you aroused?

there is a very large difference between kissing a member of the opposite sex on the lips as a greeting and what the OP describes.

That's it exactly. It all depends on the situation and the intent behind it. Kissing someone on the lips for several minutes is hardly a greeting!

LegacyUser · 24-09-2007 4:29pm

Anything along those lines that you wouldn't do if you knew your boyfriend/girlfriend was watching you is cheating.

strawberrybox · 24-09-2007 4:43pm

defo cheating- for some people kissing is a more intimate act then sex

~Rebel~ · 24-09-2007 4:54pm

anonymous69 wrote:

My gf did it on me, with a mutual friend of our's, and yeah they had both been drinking

To be honest, that would probably be it for me. Especially that its a mutual friend. I dont think id be able to look at either of them the same way, especially if yee were all together someplace.

axer · 24-09-2007 5:06pm

anonymous69 wrote:

Do people consider this cheating? Now I mean a good few kisses for a few minutes, not just a hello kiss.

With no tongue

Its not about the physical act it is about the intent. Only those involved know that. Why would someone give someone a few kisses for a few minutes?

MagicMarker · 24-09-2007 5:21pm

axer wrote:

Its not about the physical act it is about the intent. Only those involved know that. Why would someone give someone a few kisses for a few minutes?

OP: You're gf did this to you? How do you know there was no tongue? If she told you maybe she only said it to lessen the blow so to speak?

My point is, why should you trust her? How can you trust her from now on?

muboop1 · 24-09-2007 7:23pm

anonymous69 wrote:

Lol its gas the way everyone assumes I did it. My gf did it on me, with a mutual friend of our's, and yeah they had both been drinking

do u consider it cheating??

*Angel* · 24-09-2007 7:43pm

Yes it is cheating imo.

pretty-in-pink · 24-09-2007 7:50pm

Kissing another person, without permission, and with some romantic/sexual intent is cheating.

Teasing someone, or with permission,or with you there, or purely platonic isn't cheating.

You might find friends who can fool around without it affecting their friendship, but when one of those friends is in a relationship, its different.

DD · 25-09-2007 6:26am

anonymous69 wrote:

Do people consider this cheating? Now I mean a good few kisses for a few minutes, not just a hello kiss.
With no tongue

few kisses ---- for a few minutes

not just a hello kiss

I think you have answered yourself to your question!!!
Are you trying to convince yourself u did not cheat

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Kissing on the lips?

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