Do you still talk to your exes?

Dord

This is just something I was wondering lately.

Do you still talk to them, if you bump into them on the street etc. do you stop and say hello. Do you even acknowledge them?

Are you friends?


For myself, this might sound strange but I just don't talk to them. If I see them on the street or in a pub I don't acknowledge them. I'd probably say something stupid or do something stupid if I did.

Ruu_Old

Talk to one of them every once in a while but the other I would be happier if I never laid eyes on them again (has been the case for a few years now so I'm happy, playing stupid mind games with ol' Ruu).

John Mason

yeah, i talk to some of mine, one was actually in the house last night for coffee


and another one came over from england to visit for the weekend.

i would chat to them every day through email and text

Love2love

Nope, I've never had an amicble split before. Thank **** for that, I see my friends try to be friends with their ex's and the majority just look uncomfortable. Plus there is also the chance that one could still get hurt, holding out for something to be rekindled.

rusalka

There's only one gobshíte I would actively avoid. :rolleyes: Two of my ex-bfs remain very good friends of mine (and my husband's!), and we see them regularly.

I don't see any need to avoid people if you've parted on good terms.

meglome

In the main I do. I have no issue with any of them, can't swear they'll say the same though

Cake Fiend

I've a few who I have lost touch with, but would still get on with and would be happy to bump into, and a few who I'd rather not see again (but wouldn't be so petty as not to acknowledge them).

Time heals most wounds, and I'd say it would be unusual not to get on with the majority of your exes eventually. Plus age/maturity is a factor.

Wacker

I'm still friends with one. The others I kind of lost contact with. There are two that I would go out of my way to avoid.

I ran on to a DART in Tara Street once, and there were two seats available, both facing each other. I took one of them and looked at my paper. I then heard someone running onto the same carriage, just as the doors were closing. It was an ex of mine, who I went out with about six years previously.
This girl is a total b*tch, who treated me like dirt and I put up with it as I had little self confidence back then. I doubt she had improved, and I didn't want to find out.
Now, there was only one seat on the train, opposite me! I knew that she would be on the dart for about the 24 minutes it would take to get to her stop, every second of which would be agony for me. I knew exactly what was about to happen, so I just stared at my newspaper as she sat down directly in front of me, and never looked at her. Once the dart pulled into Pearse, I got off the train.
It was 16 minutes until the next one. I did not regret my decision in any way.

Doctor DooM

Of the four exes, (exii?) I still talk to three. the other one seems to be in hiding from me, and I didn't think I was THAT bad

Anto McC

One of my ex's is my best friend.

Schism

I dont specifically avoid ex'es. I know one avoids me though .
I still talk to some of them now and again but they wouldnt be friends or anything.

monkeyfudge

nah...

It's hard to talk to them... what with them being buried underneath my patio and everything...

Dord

hmmm...this girl i've been seeing for a few weeks just took a u-turn and decided she's not ready (still not over her ex or something along those lines).

Wants to be friends....she's very confused that I don't.

Schism

joe robot wrote:

hmmm...this girl i've been seeing for a few weeks just took a u-turn and decided she's not ready (still not over her ex or something along those lines).

Wants to be friends....she's very confused that I don't.

You need to get away from her man, sounds like you were the rebound...

Exit

Tried to. We met up a few times mainly for me to pick up mail from the house and once for coffee. I had dumped her, and while we left on decent terms, she'd make little jabs here and there in the conversation. I don't think she was consciously doing it, but I said it would be best not to try to be friends.

If I saw her on the street, sure I'd probably stop to say hello, but otherwise I have no interest in meeting up with her. My ma still keeps in contact with her which is kind of awkward.

I don't know why anybody would try to stay friends with an ex. There's always gonna be some ill-feelings and jealousy there.

connundrum

I used to talk to my ex on and off, till I went back home with my current gf about a year ago and met her in the local niteclub. My gf walked in ahead of me and as I was following her my ex collared me for a 'chat'. Her words:

Her: Hey, do you remember when you broke up with me and you said that you still cared for me and wouldn't stop thinking about me?

Me: Er.. that was like 3 years ago??

Her: Yeah, well I still feel the same way and was wondering if you might wanna get back together.

Me: lol, I think its time for me to go home.

So we haven't really talked since then, the psycho.

Dord

Earthworm Jim! wrote:

You need to get away from her man, sounds like you were the rebound...

Thats exactly what I was thinkin', not very nice.

Schism

joe robot wrote:

Thats exactly what I was thinkin', not very nice.

I know, but it probably happened to us all at some point. chin up

Dord

haha yep. I'm fine. She's just buggin' me....


There's only so many times you can change your number. I seem to have to do it after each one....hahaha

CathyMoran

Close email friends only with one (he knows EVERYTHING about me) but we have not met up in 10 years, even when I was seriously ill, would love to meet up with him (we are both happily married so it is cool, even if he was my first love). One guy I just lost contact with, would have no problems talking to him now if I saw him even if it was a very bad break up. Another other guy I wanted to stay friends with but he had this primative idea that when you get married you can not stay friends. The other guy (my first boyfriend) am friends with, as is my husband.

dame

I'd stop and chat for a minute or two if I met them but wouldn't be great friends ringing up for chin-wags or heart-to-hearts or anything.

stcatherine

I have two best friends in the world (other than hubby of course), one female who I met at school when I moved to UK 20 years ago we've been best mates through thick and thin since, and the other male, the guy I dated a college (15 years ago now ....Gulp), our relationship just kinda turned into friendship due to us living in different counties and we've stayed close through the years. He finally met Miss right last year and got married !! Woo Hoo !

watna

I'm still good friends with one but I'm not with my other long term relationship. We were together for two and half years and he cheated on me with his ex-gf for about 2 months. Then he broke up with me and started going out with her. i think they're still together (2 years later). i don't think that's a good person to be friends with.... I did accidently invite him to be my friend on facebook. His email address was in my gmail account so it found his facebook account and i clicked yes, add before I really thought about it. Haven't got a message though, thank god. For anyone going out there going through a bad break up, two years later and I know he did me a big favour. If it ends in any way badly it's nearly impossible to be friends... why be friends with someone that treats you like shít.... friends don't do that!

Clare Bear

We've added eachother on Bebo and that's as far as it goes...don't communicate...I don't look at their pages either, I don't see the point. Tried very hard to be friends with the one that really mattered but it was too hard, even now 2 years on I don't want to think about him and his girlfriend...I just can't see how you can be friends with someone that you once loved....maybe in time....a long time but in general I'd keep well away.

mickrourke

Talk to my exes! sure I hardly even talk to my current girlfriend.
Talking is over-rated anyway, interpretive dance is a much better form of communication

_Kaiser_

No I don't (unless you counted the occasional row by txt ). My last ex wanted to stay friends - women always do in my experience! - but given how it ended I'd had enough of her at that stage anyway.

angelbaby

still talk to mine..wouldnt say id be friends with them but we acknowledge eachother and still chat. although id prefer not to talk to my most recent one because hes full time trying to get back with me. Its actually really annoying because ive told him countless times its over for good, guess hel get the piture eventually...soon i hope!!!

wyk

I'm too busy having fun with gals on the rebound to deal with my own rebounders.

And yes, all my Ex's do live in Texas.

Wez

pretty-in-pink

Talk to a good few of them. The ones that count anyway, couldn't begin to track down some of the ones from when I was 14. From about 16 on, there is only 1 I would never talk to, and 2 I don't see, but would chat to. The rest I'm pretty friendly with.

Collie D

Seriouos amount of exes for some people here? We talking people we've just snogged/shagged/etc a couple of times or proper relationships?

Just the two exes for me. One I was in contact with every once in a while up until a couple of years, then just drifted apart..think she moved back to her own country, haven't heard from her in years and haven't tried to make any contact either.

Second one, not really any contact but got a call from her out of the blue a few months ago. Apparently she was moving and found an old address book with my number and called to see how I was doing. Married with kids now (her not me).

So, in answer to OP, don't really go out of my way to contact them but no hard feelings there. Wouldn't blank them if I met on the street but wouldn't do the whole "Oh, we should meet up again" thing either.

Just realised, the current gf is gonna kill me if she reads about that phone call.

ansionnachclist

joe robot wrote:

hmmm...this girl i've been seeing for a few weeks just took a u-turn and decided she's not ready (still not over her ex or something along those lines).

Wants to be friends....she's very confused that I don't.

Thats what happened to me over a year ago, haven't spoken to her since. Am glad I avoid her too.

dade

CathyMoran wrote:

Close email friends only with one (he knows EVERYTHING about me) but we have not met up in 10 years,

you sound almost the flip side to me LOL. I have one in Florida lost contact 10 years ago until we stumbled on each other online, now we email back and forth regularly, both of us happily married. all the others I'd probably walk by coz of how it ended

digitally-yours

Anto McC wrote:

One of my ex's is my best friend.

"Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never." -- Charles Caleb Colton

You have proven him wrong ?

Or may be she was not ur love

Sleepy

Of the three exes I wanted to stay friends with, I've stayed friends with all three. One I'd still be in almost daily contact with.

The other one I'd have no interest in staying friends with. We were in first year when we were going out and I was too naieve to realise that she wasn't a very nice person. Add the face I've changed quite significantly over the last 9 years and I wouldn't have a rashers what to say to her beyond the 'how are you keeping?' stuff.

Dord

digitally-yours wrote:

"Friendship often ends in love; but love in friendship - never." -- Charles Caleb Colton

You have proven him wrong ?

Or may be she was not ur love

Excellent quote, I must remember that. I have to say, I'm kind of surprised by the results of the poll.

cold_filter

Would talk to most of my serious ex gfs now and again including 2 that ended really bad, were not buddies but every now and again ill email them or they'll mail me for an email chat thats about as far as it goes with them. With a couple of others i would chat to at least once a week

panda100

Of my 5 ex's none of them will speak to me and Im not fussed about speaking to any of them.
One of them I dumped by text so he just hates me
Two of them I was completly in love with and it was a messy break up so theres a lot of angst and no foundations to build a friendship.
The other two became a bit stalkerish after the break up so It was best for everyone to cut ties completly.

I would love to be friends with an ex though so I could ask them questions like
'Was I a good kisser','was I a good girlfriend', etc etc

azezil

Yeah I can chat to most of them, it'd be a pretty casual chat, one of them still texts me occasionally saying he loves me, which can be really annoying at times, depending on when it comes it can be distracting and interferes with other relationships. I almost bought it the last time and was all up for 'giving it another go', but then he showed me why I'd split up with him in the first place, started telling me what he thought I wanted to hear, despite the fact it was completely impossible, he left out certain minor details, like he's living with his current BF! there was no mention of that before, he had told me they were breaking up soon and they weren't that serious, it was practically over... then he explained why he couldn't move out any time soon, I was like, oh fúck off, go use someone else for emotional support when you're having a little lovers tiff.

I really hate people who do that, I just want people to be up front and honest with me, no matter how much it may hurt, and alas I will most likely talk to him again and may very well get sucked in again in a few months once I've forgotten *sigh*.

I'm friends with one... sure my bf is friends with him too
It's not a big deal...
Another couple of exes I would avoid, rest I'd be ok with if I saw em, but they're not friends as such

prendy

wouldnt call myself friends with any of them although i chat to 1or 2 of them every so often
i think its hard to be friends with ex's as you must have broke up for some reason!!!!

Rozabeez

Ah yeah, still good friends with my most recent ex, long distance is handy cos you're not going to bump into them in the street

Don't talk to another one though, nasty stuff.

Exit

Let me hijack this thread a little...

Do people have problems with their current partner keeping in touch with their exes?

I know I'd be pretty pissed if my GF was still in contact with her exes (she still is with one of them. She would rather not be, but there are kids involved, so unfortunately it can't be helped) and one of the reasons I don't keep in contact with my ex is because I just feel it's wrong to do it and isn't fair to my girlfriend.

Does anybody else feel this way? Or am I all on my own?

Exit

Exit wrote:

Let me hijack this thread a little...

Do people have problems with their current partner keeping in touch with their exes?

I know I'd be pretty pissed if my GF was still in contact with her exes (she still is with one of them. She would rather not be, but there are kids involved, so unfortunately it can't be helped) and one of the reasons I don't keep in contact with my ex is because I just feel it's wrong to do it and isn't fair to my girlfriend.

Does anybody else feel this way? Or am I all on my own?

Why do you care who she's in contact with? Why is it "just wrong"?

digitally-yours

Exit wrote:

Let me hijack this thread a little...

Do people have problems with their current partner keeping in touch with their exes?

I know I'd be pretty pissed if my GF was still in contact with her exes (she still is with one of them. She would rather not be, but there are kids involved, so unfortunately it can't be helped) and one of the reasons I don't keep in contact with my ex is because I just feel it's wrong to do it and isn't fair to my girlfriend.

Does anybody else feel this way? Or am I all on my own?

I am not in similar situation but i agree with you in principal


When you finish with someone u finish it for good.unless you are a politician
You never know when u might need her u know who i am talking about

Sleepy

Exit wrote:

Do people have problems with their current partner keeping in touch with their exes?

This really pisses me off tbh. Why would you expect a partner to ditch their friends for you?

A friend of mine that I dated for about 4 months over 6 years ago is caught in that position with her clearly insecure twat of a boyfriend giving her grief every time she meets me or is even in contact with me. It's just childish.

So, no, I've absolute no problem with an ex being mates with her exes. Never have had. I can remember dropping an ex into town to meet an ex of hers while she was my girlfriend at the time and the only thing irking me about the situation was that he could afford to bring her to a posh restaurant and I couldn't. I knew she was my girlfriend at the time and trusted her so I didn't give a **** about them being friends, I just felt bad that I couldn't do the nice things for her that I wanted to...

Wormking2002

Check this story out...I was with this chick for 5 years broke up cause i was a party animal...fair enough i moved out...turned out she moved 10 mins away from me..(She could have moved anywhere else.)..i thought fair enough...met each other over a year and a half for "tea and a movie" on a regular basis...i went to aussie 4 a holiday and when i came back she said that she wanted to get back with me but when she found out i had an affair 2 years earlier it was a no...i laughed but she still wanted me to apologise...i still laughed...not the full story but what a cheek...i just couldnt be arsed keeping in contact after that...advice is, clean break....

Peared

That was worth waiting 3 months for.

Wormking2002

ah it was gas stuff....i know the ex is on that wayn thread...also i dont know anyone on that on...whats it about anyway?

Terry

What?
wayn?

Lands Leaving

No, I'd rather gouge my own eyes out with a starfish.

Peared

*sniggers*