bf wont answer my calls after time of the month/sex incident (WARNING ITS GRAPHIC)

LegacyUser

me and my new bf were messing around the other night and basicaly he started fingering me- afterwards i noticed blood on the sheets and reliased id gotten my period - he saw this too and went crazy at me started screaming and me calling me dirty and sick and stormed off out

That was a week ago and he wont answer my calls- i told him i wasnt due it for another week and it was beyond my control but he wont listen

what can i do?

Placebo

what an idiot. Dont ring him.

dudara

Some men like period sex, some men don't care and others dislike it. Whatever his viewpoint, his reaction is no reflection on you. He has an issue and he should be mature enough to discuss it with you. If he isn't, then it does not bode well for the relationship.

Menstrual blood is a fact of life. He can have whatever opinion he likes on it, but he should not be immature or take it out on you.

6th

Ok he freaked and thats fair enough but if he still wont take your calls after a week then its probably time to forget him and not waste any more time.

LegacyUser

'How old is he 9 maybe 10? If he cant realise that women have periods and may just arrive at anytime (i'm sure you kind of know when but not exactly) well then he needs to grow up.'

Ruu_Old

Don't waste your time, he needs to cop on.

MagicMarker

SHEILAS wrote:

me and my new bf were messing around the other night and basicaly he started fingering me- afterwards i noticed blood on the sheets and reliased id gotten my period - he saw this too and went crazy at me started screaming and me calling me dirty and sick and stormed off out

That was a week ago and he wont answer my calls- i told him i wasnt due it for another week and it was beyond my control but he wont listen

what can i do?

How old is he?

I'd say forget about him to be honest, looks like he has.

Mena

SHEILAS wrote:

he saw this too and went crazy at me started screaming and me calling me dirty and sick and stormed off out

Leave him, run, and never look back. A waste of oxygen he seams to be. It's a natural process for god's sake.

purpledragon677

ignore him and move on you are not to blame it is natural and you shouldnt feel bad he should not have been so immature so jus forget him!

Doctor DooM

The mans an idiot. You are better off without him.

Dalfiatach

What age is he, 12?

He's an immature moron who seems to have some very odd notions about natural bodily processes. Move on, forget about him, find a fella with a bit more cop on.

Ickle Magoo

With a reaction that extreme, I'd be delighted to see the back of him. Honestly, is that the kind of guy you can imagine being in a lovely relaxed open-minded, relationship with? Wherever he picked up the OTT attitude from, it's not your problem. Forget about him & find a guy who's a bit less dramatic!

Talliesin

SHEILAS wrote:

That was a week ago and he wont answer my calls

WTF are you calling him for?

He's a pathetic little runt who's afraid of women's bodies. You're well shot.

Now, if he kept trying to call you, then you'd have an on-going problem.

As it is your problem has solved itself.

tman

I'd be fairly pissed off if someone didn't mention that it was that time of the month, but he's definitely being a complete dick about it and should've let you explain...
Don't waste your time waiting for him to come to his senses

Silverfish

tman wrote:

I'd be fairly pissed off if someone didn't mention that it was that time of the month, but he's definitely being a complete dick about it and should've let you explain...
Don't waste your time waiting for him to come to his senses

She didn't know, she thought she wasn't due it for another week.


Better off without OP, sounds like a drama queen.

tinkerbell

tman, it could have happened that her period came early so she wasn't expecting it to arrive at that point in time!

Anyway, I think the OP's bf is a total idiot and immature and better off without him!

bronte

That's ridiculous...it could happen to anyone...he sounds about twelve op, i'd advise that you find someone who's aware of what it is to be a woman.

God help him if he ever has kids

DemonOfTheFall

Pfff, forget about him. What a kid.

macroman

Ignore him, he sounds like a right self obsessed arsehole - most men would understand this, although he probably had never encountered it before and was a little taken back by it. If he ain't answering your calls, don't waste your time (or credit!)

Sinfonia

Placebo wrote:

what an idiot. Dont ring him.

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Jigsaw

Yeah he seems to be a bit of an arse. I'd say you best kick him into the long grass. Don't get upset because of him.

Talliesin

Hopefully he'll soon realise he's actually gay, because he's going to have serious trouble in life if he's straight.

Phantron

Forget him. If he's unable to cope with that, he ain't a real man! However, are you definitely sure it was your period? It's not rare for 'adverse fiddling' to cause bleeding in the area. I'm not saying it's common either. Just keep it in mind and see your doctor if you have any concerns.

spinandscribble

oh please please dont contact him he's such a loser.

spinandscribble

Talliesin wrote:

Hopefully he'll soon realise he's actually gay, because he's going to have serious trouble in life if he's straight.

QFT

Zen 2nd

SHEILAS wrote:

me and my new bf were messing around the other night and basicaly he started fingering me- afterwards i noticed blood on the sheets and reliased id gotten my period - he saw this too and went crazy at me started screaming and me calling me dirty and sick and stormed off out

That was a week ago and he wont answer my calls- i told him i wasnt due it for another week and it was beyond my control but he wont listen

what can i do?

Very over-the-top reaction and not very understanding at all.

Don't cry over spilt milk comes to mind whereas he freaked out.

I'd forget him give him a few more years to grow up.

Dave!

Sounds like a childish b*stard to me. Ignore him and move on (and realise that you did nothing wrong and it's just an inconvenient time to have what is completely natural).

Dalfiatach

Rarely has there been such overwhelming consensus on a PI thread

Hope the OP feels better now and especially isn't thinking she did anything wrong or is "dirty and sick" in any way. And there was me thinking we got rid of all those mad puritanical sex hangups from Irish society in the late 80s/early 90s...

tman

Silverfish wrote:

She didn't know, she thought she wasn't due it for another week.


Better off without OP, sounds like a drama queen.

I know. They were merely my thoughts on his initial reaction.

meglome

Roughly half the population of the planet are going to have periods for a considerable part of their lives. To get this shocked by discovering a woman is having a period makes this guy a serious moron. What decade is he living in? I was fairly sure the 50's had passed.

Personally I love sex waay too much to be put off so stupidly.

Oh and your post isn't graphic at all.

HAPPYGIRL

Op glad he was a 'new boyfriend' walk away he doesn't deserve another second of your thoughts. He does not represent a normal guy, just look at all positive responses from men here. Do not feel embarrased, or try to explain anything to him, he has serious issues and hasn't a clue. Move on and find a grown up male.

milkerman

Yep, hes a gobshiite.

LegacyUser

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SHEILAS wrote:

me and my new bf were messing around the other night and basicaly he started fingering me- afterwards i noticed blood on the sheets and reliased id gotten my period - he saw this too and went crazy at me started screaming and me calling me dirty and sick and stormed off out

That was a week ago and he wont answer my calls- i told him i wasnt due it for another week and it was beyond my control but he wont listen

what can i do?

no expert but, you sound young and you mentioned a new boyfriend....

are you still a virgin???

if so are you not meant to bleed the first time ya get a bit of activity down there'

LegacyUser

'He gets put off by the sight of a little blood he is in for a rough life. Makes me very sad that there are people in this world like this. Forget the wimp, and I do mean wimp. If that is all it takes to scare him off can you imagine what would happen with a baby in his life, nappy change? Would not worry about the guy and move on.'

yawnstretch

Be funny if he saw this thread.

What a fool.

_blank_

no expert wrote:

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no expert but, you sound young and you mentioned a new boyfriend....

are you still a virgin???

if so are you not meant to bleed the first time ya get a bit of activity down there'

This really has nothing to do with it tbh.

Menstrual blood is nothing like 'bleeding' blood. Girls would know the difference.


OP, this guy is an idiot, stop wasting your time ringing him.

misswex

I agree with everyone here, you definitely should stop wasting your time trying to contact this guy. What happened wasn't your fault and he should be old enough to realise that, getting your period isn't an exact science and in fairness you weren't expecting them for a week.He shouldn't have made you feel dirty etc. You can see from all the guys here that they think he is a moron and immature so don't keep beating yourself up over it. Most guys would not have freaked out by this.

txt_mess

Sounds like he has the maturity of a 10 year I could understand him being a bit freaked out and wanting to get his hands washed ( especially if something like that has never happened to him ) , but seriously don't waste your time chasing him move on to better things.

Mr. Incognito

See above.

Anti

lol. Yore well rid of him tbh.

Oryx

You are doing a disservice to most 10-12 year olds by comparing this guy to them. He was a twit to freak out, and by not realising he overreacted and apologising, he is a double twit. I wish him luck in his life, cos if this upsets him, boy is he in for a shock the first time something really icky happens, like childbirth or appendicitis.

OP, I hope your next boyfriend is a real man who can take a bit of normality.

Agent J

Where was the graphic part?

1) You are not sick and dirty.
2) Same as everyone else on the thread. You are well shot of this guy.

muppetkiller

Nothing graphic about what happened OP..it's perfectly natural..except your mans reaction.
I'm surprised you didn't laugh at him as he ran out the door.

As everyone has mentioned before never contact this idiot again.

On a side note It's nice to to see everyone on the boards agreeing for once

Jumpy

Wow, overreaction from everyone here.

Judging by what the OP wrote, they seem very young. Some people take longer than others to mature. This guys reaction could be expected from someone never taught about "the ways of women" and most likely under eighteen.
Lack of sex education is VERY common in parts of Ireland.

patrickolee

Talliesin wrote:

Hopefully he'll soon realise he's actually gay, because he's going to have serious trouble in life if he's straight.

He's a fool who didn't pay attention in his biology classes. Nothing to do with his sexuality. Indicating that because he has a problem that 'he's actually gay' is quite insulting. OP's bf is a gob****e, please don't call him gay.

Talliesin

Jumpy wrote:

Judging by what the OP wrote, they seem very young.

If he's younger than 10 years old then they shouldn't be doing something like that anyway.

She was his girlfriend, not his biology teacher.

A freak-out response is one thing, after all the guy could simply have haemophobia and it's hardly blameworthy for a haemophobiac to freak out at the site of blood.

Insulting her though is way beyond the line of acceptable behaviour; his psychiatric issues are not her responsibility especially if he didn't warn her about them.

Not returning her calls moves him well into the realm of "asshole".

Asshole + seriously deranged view of women = very very bad person to have any dealings with.

Talliesin

patrickolee wrote:

Indicating that because he has a problem that 'he's actually gay' is quite insulting. OP's bf is a gob****e, please don't call him gay.

I didn't say that. I said that someone with such messed up ideas about women is pretty much screwed if they are attracted to women, being gay is his only hope.

I certainly didn't mean that such weird reactions were at all normal for gay men. The average gay man is just as capable of dealing with the real world as the average straight man.

Of course, if he does turn out to be gay he'll probably have weird issues there too. It's unlikely that this single departure from reality is the only issue in an otherwise sane person.

Marksie

OK we have established that he needs remedial biology 101, unless there is a blood phobia. There is no excuse for name calling.

Make him your EX.

Follwing on from talleisins post a little:

You yourself do not get hung up or worried about this. It is a natural process and there is nothing for you to get ashamed over.

seamus

Marksie wrote:

You yourself do not get hung up or worried about this. It is a natural process and there is nothing for you to get ashamed over.

Indeed. Many women can be quite conscious of feminine hygiene to the point of paranoia, when most men aren't really all that bothered by how hairy she is, or the fact that the period started a bit earlier than normal, and so on. It's a pity that this guy's extreme overreaction may have given her the impression that in future she has to be ultra-careful and that men get freaked out by these things.

Generally, we don't. Though some forewarning is appreciated (when possible) so we can plan properly

hullaballoo

Well-rid.

ErinGoBrath

Totally natural, can't understand men that have issues with it.

Don't bother with the guy, sounds like an idiot.