What's going wrong?!

gaeilgegrinds

Am so so so sick of my friends ona bout how they can NOT find a man in Galway. They go out, look great, are intersting, funny and kind. What's going wrong?! Any tips cos I'm getting sick of it! I'm taken but they miss me coming out & helping them out, not going to happen til well after the baby though. Any ideas? Particularly from the gentlemen cos I'm baffled!

skelliser

are they ugly?

biko

Girls I know are always going on about this, even though the fellas are tripping over themselves to talk to them.


Oh, and pix pls

CrowdedHouse

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Am so so so sick of my friends ona bout how they can NOT find a man in Galway. They go out, look great, are intersting, funny and kind. What's going wrong?!

Your Opinion - Photographic evidence required

the_syco

skelliser wrote:

are they ugly?

Are they ugly, loud, boring, or desperate? Some guys will run a mile when they find out something bad, so it could all be going along grand, they say something stupid, and the man dissappears.

Drift

As a single man in Galway I can assure you that no matter how tough your friends find it its MUCH worse from the male pov ....... I won't bore you all with my tales of woe but lets just say if I was to write my kiss and tell memoirs for the past few years eason's would be able to stock it on the same shelf as the post-it notes.

The BLANK post it notes :rolleyes:

Caliden

Women are crazy.
That's why.

Black Swan

Geeeeeez, never had a problem in Galway. Not only that, since gone overseas, I continue to meet Galway lads online.:cool:

Drift

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

Geeeeeez, never had a problem in Galway. Not only that, since gone overseas, I continue to meet Galway lads online.:cool:

You mean on internet message boards?

A/S/L ???

PopeBuckfastXVI

1. How old are they?
2. Introduce them to me.

Shinto

I fear that you are asking the wrong question: "what's going wrong?"

That question implies that things used to go right. Is that the case? Were things easier for them in the past?

If yes.......then how have they changed? What are they doing now that they once didn't? What are they NOT doing now that they once did?

(Have men changed since their more successful days?.....unlikely, so its probably something your friends are doing / not doing.....in other words, it's your friends' fault)

If no...then they've never learned how to do it in the first place. Take them out on the town oh wise one, and teach them your wicked ways.

majiktripp

Yeah! ^^ What he said! ^^ Tell yer mates quit 'der bitchin' and step their game up! Shorten the skirts a few inches and show some boob!

Proxy

Jaysus, can't find a man in Galway? This must be a spam thread. Or your friends are blind/deaf/loud/boring/overly shallow/at home. No offence

Zzippy

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Am so so so sick of my friends ona bout how they can NOT find a man in Galway. They go out, look great, are intersting, funny and kind. What's going wrong?! Any tips cos I'm getting sick of it! I'm taken but they miss me coming out & helping them out, not going to happen til well after the baby though. Any ideas? Particularly from the gentlemen cos I'm baffled!

Are they not getting chatted up at all? To be honest, if they're good looking and hanging out in places lots of young single people go and they're not being chatted up then they're either ugly or doing something wrong. If they are being chatted up but no further then they must be saying the wrong things - maybe they're asking the guy how much he earns or what he drives!
I've no problem chatting girls up or getting phone numbers, but its meeting the right girls thats the problem :rolleyes:
Tell them I'll meet them in the front door next Saturday!

gaeilgegrinds

I'm going to get slatted for saying this but I might aswell be honest.
A group of 6 of us used to go out a lot & never had any difficulties when we were in college & shortly afterward but is seems to me from 23 onwards lasd change. It's no longer about a chat & a kiss & a number but now it's come home with me or you're not worth it!

As for being ugly, well two of them modelled, as did I, for quite a while & we're grand like. I mean none of us are size 8 but we're all in good shape & take pride in our appearance without being too done up. Ended up with them in Halo lastnight but to no avail. I got chatted up at 5 months pregnant & they didn't. Men seem to like the bump, much to my partner's dismay!

In truth I don't get what's going wrong! So far this has been an interesting thread though...

gaeilgegrinds

Tell them I'll meet them in the front door next Saturday! [/QUOTE]

Up until a few months ago that was out local but now it's Buskers. Front Door is a sweat box, too packed!

Zzippy

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Tell them I'll meet them in the front door next Saturday!

Up until a few months ago that was out local but now it's Buskers. Front Door is a sweat box, too packed![/QUOTE]

Right so, Buskers it is

Agree with you on things changing - when I'm out and I ask a girl for her number often they're surprised thats all I'm asking for. They're usually happy enough to give me the number and meet up another time, not the usual "your place or mine" attitude from a guy who prob won't ring them ever again

When you have it, you don’t need it.

When you need it you don’t have it.

If you have it, you need more of it.

If you have more of it, you don’t need less of it.

You need it, to get it.

And you certainly need it to get more of it.

But if you already have it to begin with, you can’t get any of it to get started, which means you really

don’t have any idea how to get it in the first place. Do you?

You can share it,sure.

You can even stockpile it if you’d like.

But you can’t fake it.

Wanting it….

Needing it…

Wishing for it…

The point is, if you have never had any of it….

Ever….

People just seem to know.

MattKid

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

I'm going to get slatted for saying this but I might aswell be honest.
A group of 6 of us used to go out a lot & never had any difficulties when we were in college & shortly afterward but is seems to me from 23 onwards lasd change. It's no longer about a chat & a kiss & a number but now it's come home with me or you're not worth it!

As for being ugly, well two of them modelled, as did I, for quite a while & we're grand like. I mean none of us are size 8 but we're all in good shape & take pride in our appearance without being too done up. Ended up with them in Halo lastnight but to no avail. I got chatted up at 5 months pregnant & they didn't. Men seem to like the bump, much to my partner's dismay!

In truth I don't get what's going wrong! So far this has been an interesting thread though...

I can't see what they're doing wrong. There's nothing worse than a girl tooo tarted up. Maybe they intimidate the boys.

Karl Hungus

They've not met me yet, that's what's wrong.

Seriously though, maybe they're just going to the wrong places? I find trendy places are awful for shallow dickheads who just want a quick shag. Try going out on a different night of the week, and striking up conversations with some lads. They'll probably get a far better result than from the weekend crowds.

padi89

Karl Hungus wrote:

I find trendy places are awful for shallow dickheads who just want a quick shag.

Thats terrible Karl maybe you should stop going to Stranos.;)

OP your mates are going to a nightclub to meet men for something more than a one night stand??? I think there lies your problem.
I agree with Karl go out different nights,different places.

PopeBuckfastXVI

I dunno...

I go to nightclubs every now and again... I generally only go out at the weekends... I'd be quite happy to start a relationship etc etc.

Just because you go out at the weekends it doesn't mean you are only after a one night stand, some of us have jobs during the week you know!

the-furbo

Its a fact! It truely is impossible to find men in galway!Where do they hide??

gaeilgegrinds

One of the girls set this up on Bebo, seems to think it will catch on...not convinced but who knows! Basically leave messages & meet people. She is also planning many nights out with singles who want to meet up with each other. I said I'd post this here for her, it's private but add her if you are interested.
GalwaySinglesOnline <GalwayG7>

Karl Hungus

Why don't you ladies come out to the Galway Boards beer on Friday? At least I think it's Friday. Check this thread for details.

Bring your friends, and see if they'll find anyone they might like. It's worth a try, no?

gaeilgegrinds

I'll do my best but Saturday always seems the night of choice! As for those suggesting during the week...none of us have the kind of jobs that you can go in to drunk! Of the six we're all teachers, doctors or solicitors...any of them hungover, not good! But thanks for the suggestion!

Karl Hungus

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

I'll do my best but Saturday always seems the night of choice! As for those suggesting during the week...none of us have the kind of jobs that you can go in to drunk! Of the six we're all teachers, doctors or solicitors...any of them hungover, not good! But thanks for the suggestion!

Do you need to get drunk to meet someone? Being social doesn't mean you have to get pissed.

gaeilgegrinds

Good point I suppose but it's tough getting up for work even not hungover, weekends were always our fun time so I suppose that's why we don't go out during the week.

Karl Hungus

You can also try different methods of socialising, such as joining a club or class of some sort. I know I've met a lot more people who are now long term friends while doing classes and such, than I've ever met going out getting boozed up.

gaeilgegrinds

I met my partner in a bank! I dropped my pen & he picked it up! But in fairness we never had any problem meeting lads out when we were younger, something has changed, think there are too many people having just random sex (not judging or saying I haven't done that :.) ) for most people to be bothered with relationships. I'm probably wrong but I've seen some awful ass-holes/pricks out & the way they treat my friends is just plain wrong. I'm lucky & I know it but I just wish they were all as happy as I am & they wish the same. Queues out the banks tomorrow morning with women everywhere dropping pens left, right and centre!!!

Mike...

maybe it's because they're looking....
I head out on the pull and thats exactly it "don't pull"

I head out for the craic usually pull and have a great night

gaeilgegrinds

The other way doesn't work, this does, just tested it there!http://www.bebo.com/a/invite/4701276985a475122467b65

Mono, that's all well & good but by pull what do you mean?

Karl Hungus

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Mono, that's all well & good but by pull what do you mean?

"Pull" means to hook up with someone.

gaeilgegrinds

That's the easy part, getting someone a second time isn't quite so easy! I know what it means but they don't want that...

PopeBuckfastXVI

I just joined your bebo thingy... sure we'll see what the crack is

gaeilgegrinds

It's not mine, I'm not single. But it is one of my friends...she's gas craic!

JohnCleary

Unless they're geeks, don't resort them to a feckin Internet forum meet!

We need pics tbh before anyone can conclude as to why they can't score

DRakE

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

I mean none of us are size 8 but

Pass.

biko

Pic

MattKid

If they don't get guys approaching it could be down to body language and a big 'fcuk off don't even think about it' look on their faces

MattKid

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

That's the easy part, getting someone a second time isn't quite so easy! I know what it means but they don't want that...

They shouldn't put out so quickly, not all of us are into ONS

Drift

MattKid wrote:

not all of us are into ONS

I'm the same, looking for a relationship and not a one night thing but it's not the easiest thing in the world because it appears that the women who respond well to being approached in pubs/clubs are the ones who only want a bit of fun for the night (there's nothing wrong with it, just not what I'm looking for). I wonder do the girls who are looking for a relationship somehow see themselves as above being chatted up in a pub/club. Some girls who you'd think are probably nice in life outside the pub give off a very condescending "holier than thou" attitude when guys work up some balls to go and chat to them. :mad:

Also I agree with the poster who said the "trendy" spots are more likely to have guys looking for one-nighters. My friends who are looking for this always frequent these spots. The ones looking for relationships are there too but tend to get outnumbered by those after other pursuits

Finally, is it just me that HATES halo or do other guys feel this way too? It seems to be full of the type of girl who wants to know what your job is, how much you make and what are you doing with your SSIA. (btw - the answers are: a good one, quite a lot and invested it but I would NEVER tell them that )

DRakE

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Good point I suppose but it's tough getting up for work even not hungover, weekends were always our fun time so I suppose that's why we don't go out during the week.

Friday's not a weekend?

Kanney

Maybe you should ask the guys if they'd maybe like a drink, some sex, you know see what happens.

the-furbo

Kanney wrote:

Maybe you should ask the guys if they'd maybe like a drink, some sex, you know see what happens.

What a great idea!! Next time Im out thats deffo going to be my chat up line of choice!!

JohnCleary

the-furbo wrote:

What a great idea!! Next time Im out thats deffo going to be my chat up line of choice!!

Duhrt-Burd!

fish fingers

Theyl never meet anyone in Halo or any other nightclub. Ya cant hear yourself think in those places. How many people here can honestly say they met their partner in a nightclub.

DRakE

Ask them if they're wearing Sex Panther too.

padi89

fish fingers wrote:

How many people here can honestly say they met their partner in a nightclub.

I ended up going out with a couple of girls i met in clubs.........so there...ha!

the-furbo

JohnCleary wrote:

Duhrt-Burd!

How rude!!!

gaeilgegrinds

I never said we put out on the first date by the way...just to clarify!