Speed Dating

CaroleLynch

Right, need to do some serious work about finding myself a fella.... Myself and a few friends were talking about different ways to meet guys and one of them suggested speed dating...... I've always thought of this as something that desperate or not very attractive people do.... I don't mean this in a bad way but............

Does anyone have experience of speed dating.......?? Is it worth a try???

monkeyfudge

I did it twice many years ago...

I found that most of the women there just go along in a huge group for a laugh and don't seem to take the thing too seriously...

Maybe it's improved these days though.

Sony

Never tried is Carole, dont think my girlfriend would be too happy with me if I did:D

Gof for it , youre gauranteed a bit of excitement and once youre aware that you will meet the the bad and the ugly aswell as the good then Im sure youll find it worthwhile.......nothing desperate about it-can be hard meeting people these days;)

Best of luck!

CaroleLynch

It's getting SO hard to meet anyone especially on a night out.... I don't go out in large gangs of cackling women and always make an effort to talk to guys..... God I even approach them myself.... Myself and my friends are a good looking bunch so I really don't know where we're going wrong...

Why don't you guys call or text...???

BrandonBlock

Never tried, it. I met my girlfriend on a night out so did most of my friends. Depends on how old you are though. I'd say the age group for speed dating is a good bit older, like 28+ , early thirties.. etc..

irelandsown

Where are you from OP? There is a speed dating event coming up in Limerick soon.

See this thread http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055110553

I'm a single male in late 20s, 30 next week ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

I find going to night clubs these days that most of the women are in their early 20s and have no interest in a conversation.

I wouldn't be one to approach a girl in a pub either.

MrMojoRising

i've been to it twice before. went to events that these guys organised http://www.speeddatingireland.com/
it can be good fun, but tbh, i found it quite tedious. u end up having the same conversation again and again. having said that, i have met girls at it that i ended up going out with so it was worth it i guess!
go along to one of the events. you'll have a great time, esp if u go with a few of ur mates! sure u have nothing to lose

LegacyUser

Yes,
i was wondering about this as well, Im in Dublin, am 34, and have been single for 18 months since breaking up with my long term girlfriend.
I havnt met anyone in this time, it seems to be really tricky and Im not good at the old chatting up!, friends tell me i look good, i have a good job, own house and stuff and would love to meet somebody, i think it would be very nerve racking, but could be worth a shot, dont really have any single friends to go along with, a female friend of mine was talking about it, maybe i should ask her to go along

LegacyUser

Speed dating is something i have thought about. mainly because night clubs and stuff are not the kind of place a guy like me prospers.

i'm in my mid twenties but i look older. i just want to have a bit of craic with the opposite sex. maybe i'm going to the wrong places.

i'd feel like an eejit goin to a speed date, unless i was with mates who had the same agendas.

monkeyfudge

MrMojoRising wrote:

it can be good fun, but tbh, i found it quite tedious. u end up having the same conversation again and again.

Yep... and if you try vary it a little bit and ask some different and unusual questions to break the monotony they think you're a wierdo.

Although in my case that would a correct assumption.

Collie D

CaroleLynch wrote:

Right, need to do some serious work about finding myself a fella.... Myself and a few friends were talking about different ways to meet guys and one of them suggested speed dating......

May I suggest coming on to Boards and announcing you're single and looking.? Bet you've got ten PMs already

MrMojoRising

patrick123 wrote:

Yes,
i was wondering about this as well, Im in Dublin, am 34, and have been single for 18 months since breaking up with my long term girlfriend.
I havnt met anyone in this time, it seems to be really tricky and Im not good at the old chatting up!, friends tell me i look good, i have a good job, own house and stuff and would love to meet somebody, i think it would be very nerve racking, but could be worth a shot, dont really have any single friends to go along with, a female friend of mine was talking about it, maybe i should ask her to go along

when i was there i noticed quite a few guys that were on their own. the girls really admired it as well. they thought it showed a lot of bottle. go along to it patrick, you'll get snapped up!

LegacyUser

Yeah MrMojoRising, could be worth a shot, i tend to get very nervous in those type of situations, which is very annoying of course, Im sure ill spend all summer debating it.. I am on long holidays from work these days so Im just hanging out thinking about all this stuff! Hav nt been on a date since i became a single man, would do me the world of good.

CaroleLynch

Thanks for the replies everyone.. I think I'll give it a go - what have I got to lose???? There seems to be a lot of singles on boards.ie - we should organise our own singles night out......????

qz

CaroleLynch wrote:

Thanks for the replies everyone.. I think I'll give it a go - what have I got to lose???? There seems to be a lot of singles on boards.ie - we should organise our own singles night out......????

Boards Beers! August is the next one I think. Ask the veterans.

CaroleLynch

qz wrote:

Boards Beers! August is the next one I think. Ask the veterans.

Boards Beers..... What a great idea.... Where do I find out about the next one in Dublin......??

Petey2006

CaroleLynch wrote:

God I even approach them myself....

That's refreshingly different. Lord knows it's freakin' difficult having to do it as a man.

mkdon05

You should be grand if you go along with a group of friends. Id be a bit more self concious if i was going along on my own however.

funloving

i think speed dating is a bit pathetic and you shouldn't go out looking desperately for a guy...if you meet him that's fine but if you don't there is no problem at all!

I find strange that some women have difficulties in finding a guy... I never had this problem and tbh It also happens to me that boys stop me in the streets and start chatting with me...

but maybe it's just me....:p

CaroleLynch

Why thank you Petey2006......... If the mountain won't come to Mohammed then Mohammed will take the trip to the mountain....... :-)

bandit*baby

funloving wrote:

i think speed dating is a bit pathetic and you shouldn't go out looking desperately for a guy...if you meet him that's fine but if you don't there is no problem at all!

I find strange that some women have difficulties in finding a guy... I never had this problem and tbh It also happens to me that boys stop me in the streets and start chatting with me...

but maybe it's just me....:p

there are 4 women to every 1 man in dub the odds aren't in our favour

funloving

bandit*baby wrote:

there are 4 women to every 1 man in dub the odds aren't in our favour

..I was talking about Dublin...a lot of guys started flirting with me in the streets,park, etc when they were sober (no offence!)...

maybe is the sex appeal of a foreigner!

Partizan

bandit*baby wrote:

there are 4 women to every 1 man in dub the odds aren't in our favour

since when did you hear this one?

muppetkiller

We've been saying it for ages WE NEED A SINGLES NIGHT OUT !!!!!
Mods can we get a thread for this ? Or where should we put it ?

jimbling

bandit*baby wrote:

there are 4 women to every 1 man in dub the odds aren't in our favour

DAMN :eek: ..... <- Should move to Dublin me thinks

monkeyfudge

funloving wrote:

maybe is the sex appeal of a foreigner!

Yep... that certainly does weigh in your favour.

There's a girl from overseas working in my office at the moment and the men are all over her like flies on sh*t.

CaroleLynch

funloving wrote:

i think speed dating is a bit pathetic and you shouldn't go out looking desperately for a guy...if you meet him that's fine but if you don't there is no problem at all!

I find strange that some women have difficulties in finding a guy... I never had this problem and tbh It also happens to me that boys stop me in the streets and start chatting with me...

but maybe it's just me....:p

Well funloving, I'm sorry you find it so strange, I guess we're not all as lucky in love as you........ I never said I went out "desperately" looking for a guy I'm just looking at different ways of meeting them.... I go out with my friends to have a good time and if I meet someone great, if I don't I'm not at home crying myself to sleep....

I find it very hard to believe that it's a regular occurence for guys to stop you on the street. Please tell me your secret....

j4vier

depends also on what type of guys stop u to chat

Petey2006

funloving wrote:

i think speed dating is a bit pathetic and you shouldn't go out looking desperately for a guy...

That's a bit harsh, isn't it?! Why's it pathetic? I've never been myself, but I cant see what's so pathetic about it.

The Corinthian

I did it once a few years back. First observation is that it is quite exhausting to essentially chat up 20+ people in quick succession and it may not suit all people as some are simply bad at first impressions (and some are very good at first impressions, but terrible thereafter).

Secondly people are often grouped by age, which may not appeal to everyone as people will have preferences for potential dates that are outside their designated age group.

Finally there's typically a social event organized after the speed dating itself and many people hook up at that point.

Speed dating works for some people and not for others. My own opinion is to give it a try at least once and not take it too seriously.

hanni1234

Myself and my mates were talking about speed dating. Where is it? Carole i have a big bunch of sound lads to meet up with your group if youre in Dublin this weekend

CaroleLynch

hanni1234 wrote:

Myself and my mates were talking about speed dating. Where is it? Carole i have a big bunch of sound lads to meet up with your group if youre in Dublin this weekend

Hey, this could work, who needs to pay for speed dating when we can organise it ourselves......!!! What age would this big bunch of sound lads be Hanni???

Blackpitts

CaroleLynch wrote:

It's getting SO hard to meet anyone especially on a night out.... I don't go out in large gangs of cackling women and always make an effort to talk to guys..... God I even approach them myself.... Myself and my friends are a good looking bunch so I really don't know where we're going wrong...

Why don't you guys call or text...???

I’d like that you girls put yourselves in our shoes for a second, this would be helpful to realize that boys/girls all in a loop and we cannot get out from it.
Imagine being a guy like me, you are decent, you have honorable intentions,you are looking for the right girl, possibly sweet, nice and down to earth. What would you do? Bear in mind that you are supposed to do the first move.
So you have to pick a place first… if your friends cannot introduce you to someone or if there isn’t any party that night, you are forced to go to a pub or a club. So you give a look around, there are many girls, you skip the slappers and at the end you spot one very nice with something interesting. You go to her just to know her name and play your card, if you are lucky, the conversation goes well and there is the spark, maybe she will give you her mobile number, then you will call her the day after asking her out for a drink and a laugh…
BUT… she thinks 're just out for the one thing, so she ignores you and the only thing you get is a dirty look, but why? What have you done wrong? Nothing! So you pay the fee of what some arsehole has done to her in the past.

Btw, about speeddating, I'd say, give it a go and have fun!

Petey2006

Blackpitts wrote:

BUT… she thinks 're just out for the one thing, so she ignores you and the only thing you get is a dirty look, but why? What have you done wrong? Nothing! So you pay the fee of what some arsehole has done to her in the past.

Nail on the head.

Blackpitts

Petey2006 wrote:

Nail on the head.

not really...
because at the same time the same girls complain about the fact that it's very hard to meet a decent guy these days...

but how do they know if a guy is "decent" or not if they don't give at least once chance for talking?

CaroleLynch

Hang on a second guys - not all girls are like that....!! As previously said, I approach guys and always chat to anyone who approaches me politely. If i'm not interested, after a while I'll make my excuses and say "it was nice to meet you".....

I don't think that every guy is out for one thing...... if I give my number to a guy it's because I'd like him to ring me...... And in fairness you can't really blame some girls for being so cynical - how many times have you said you'll call a girl and didn't.......??

pickarooney

CaroleLynch wrote:

I find it very hard to believe that it's a regular occurence for guys to stop you on the street. Please tell me your secret....

Ever heard of chuggers?

CaroleLynch

pickarooney wrote:

Ever heard of chuggers?

No................

hanni1234

Hey Carole,

Were all 25 or therebouts... How about yourselves?

muppetkiller

CaroleLynch wrote:

No................

Charity Muggers ...the type that harrass people on Grafton street or any major city street around the country looking to sign you up for their charity of the week :mad: Hate them !!!!!

Petey2006

CaroleLynch wrote:

Hang on a second guys - not all girls are like that....!! As previously said, I approach guys and always chat to anyone who approaches me politely. If i'm not interested, after a while I'll make my excuses and say "it was nice to meet you".....

I don't think that every guy is out for one thing...... if I give my number to a guy it's because I'd like him to ring me...... And in fairness you can't really blame some girls for being so cynical - how many times have you said you'll call a girl and didn't.......??

Once. But that's because my phone was knicked!

Blackpitts

hold on a sec, i was not blaming you, you sound pretty friendly and i'd like to meet more girls like you.
I was talking in general because I understand your frustration and I just wanted to point out that many guys feel the same from the other side (I should have mentioned it in my post, sorry).
Personally, I have always called a girl after I got her number, I even think that a txt is not enough to show that you are interested..
And I have always called because I made the first move to know the girl, why I shouldn't call her then?
Don't ask me why other boys are not doing the same, because I can't understand this behaviour either (unless they are already attached and they were looking just for fun)

funloving

I don't know why guys stop me in the streets or start chatting and flirting to me...for sure it's not because i go out half naked or I look like a slut but maybe coz they see something different in me...it can be for my look,my sweetness,my curves or maybe coz i am outgoing!:D

I don't like the speed dating thing as I wouldn't like sitting there with a number talking to everybody on the list untill i find a decent one...

I love when things happen spontaneously (what a long word...did I spell it right?:D ) and that can happen everywhere...even in Tesco while you're looking for some tomatos!

SORRY FOR MY ENGLISH...NEED SOME MORE PRACTISE!!!

Petey2006

To be honest, texting someone after you get their number is pretty lame. It's kids' stuff. If you're saying 'had a good night' or whatever, grand. But if you're actually trying to make something of it, you're better off ringing.

hanni1234

Chuggers, yeah they do my nut. Think i got stung years ago by a fake charity too. Never stop for them. Theyre too smiley look like theyre in a cult!

hanni1234

Id never chat up a woman in Tesco!

ntlbell

hanni1234 wrote:

Id never chat up a woman in Tesco!

Your right too, much better quality women in Superquinn!!!

funloving

I was joking about Tesco...oh my GOD!!

CaroleLynch

funloving wrote:

for my look,my sweetness,my curves or maybe coz i am outgoing!:D

Funloving they have no idea if you are sweet or outgoing just by looking at you.. I reckon you are in your early 20s, first time living away from home and you probably (subconsciously) start the conversations yourself over the tomatos in Tesco.... keep it up.....:)

Right guys, You meet a girl out in a bar or club, there's an obvious attraction, you're getting on very well, you kiss and end up going back to hers would you think any less of her for inviting you back to her place??? Even if she never had the intention of sleeping with you.... Would this make you think twice about contacting her again......??

funloving

CaroleLynch wrote:

Funloving they have no idea if you are sweet or outgoing just by looking at you.. I reckon you are in your early 20s, first time living away from home and you probably (subconsciously) start the conversations yourself over the tomatos in Tesco.... keep it up.....:)

It's not the first time living away from home and people understand I am very sweet looking at me because of my facial expressions!
Anyway,looking for tomatos in Tesco was just a stupid joke and I meant people can meet everywhere and start talking about everything...

Petey2006

CaroleLynch wrote:

Right guys, You meet a girl out in a bar or club, there's an obvious attraction, you're getting on very well, you kiss and end up going back to hers would you think any less of her for inviting you back to her place??? Even if she never had the intention of sleeping with you.... Would this make you think twice about contacting her again......??

No, not at all. And I don't understand guys who think otherwise. If it's such a problem, why go back in the first place.