Mum just died.

mike65

Not entirely sure why I'm telling the world this but I might feel a bit better after I do.

My mum (67) after a month of gradual decline in her health was taken into the WRH 3 weeks ago, the doctors ran the usual phalanx of tests and decided she had blocked bile ducts and hat she might have cancer. They could'nt rule it in or out the tests were'nt conclusive, she had an op which went well but due to her bad lungs (since childhood) she was very sick and recovery was very slow. Then overnight she took a turn for the worse and more tests were done, she went on oxygen. In the afternoon the consulant said she did have cancer in the walls of her internal organs, this evening about 20 mins after I left her she passed away quickly and quietly with my sister at her bedside.

Dr O'Conner had said she might'nt last more than a few days but it was hard to tell. In the event we're gald she went quickly, seeing her wired up and breathing so painfully was grim. The doc reckons she would have been host to the cancer for at least a year and had simply snuck-up on her.

Now I'm feeling a bit alone and thanking God that I have my sister and her partner and daughter for company right now.

Mike.

aidan_walsh

I'm so sorry, Mike.

projectmayhem

very sorry to hear that Mike...

kensutz

Sorry to hear that Mike my thoughts are with you.

Mrs. MacGyver

Very sorry to hear of your loss Mike.

r3nu4l

Ah that's awful Sorry to hear that Mike, I guess no matter how old we get we still feel like kids so long as our parents are there. I'll be thinking of you over the next few days.

Kojak

Sorry to hear of your loss, mike.

Nordie

You have the company of the board too, if thats any help. I lost my mother at 52 to cancer. You never miss your mother til she gone and I really miss her. My deepest sympathy to you.

Dirk Gently

very sorry to hear that mike. My thoughts are with you.

Silverfish

Condolences Mike. My thoughts are with you.

Trotter

Sorry to hear that Mike. I hope that you'll take some small comfort from the messages on this thread.

Aquos76

I am very sorry for your loss mike.

Ar dheis De go raibh siad.

johnny_ultimate

Echo the sentiments of everyone else here. Sorry to hear this.

koneko

So sorry to hear that mike

paconnors

sorry to hear about your loss

Limerick Dude

Really sorry about your loss Mike, I lost my mother a few years ago aswel, its going to be tough, but with the love of your family you will get through it.

Mr E

Sorry for your loss, Mike.

Dilbert75

Sorry to hear that Mike.

mikemac

Sorry for your loss Mike

ArthurDent

Sorry for your loss, may your mum rest in peace

mike65

I'm not the sort who 'does this sort of thing' I thought but it turns out I am,
thanks for your thoughts here and the PMs. When dad went I was 24 I reckoned it might be easier by the time my mother went but at 42 its not.

Mike.

dudara

My sympathies Mike. Our thoughts are with you tonight.

Remember the good times and treasure them. Say goodbye to her with a smile.

Call Me Jimmy

Can't imagine how hard that is at any age, sorry to hear it mike.

Zaph

My condolences to you and your sister Mike

Wishbone Ash

Sorry for your loss Mike. Thinking of you.

miju

sorry to hear that man my thoughts are with you and your sis

Drag00n79

Sorry for your troubles, Mike.

Rosita

Very sorry to hear your sad news. Best wishes to all of you.

Dave!

Terrible news, sorry to hear it. My condolences to you and your family.

kleefarr

Blessings, wishes and prayers Mike. Sorry for your loss.
Try to take comfort in those around you, for they will feel your pain but give you strength to cope. Take solace in your Friends.
Remember the good times and look forward to those that are yet to come.

Chin up.

Boston

Sorry to hear that mike

macshadow

Sorry for your loss Mike.My thoughts are with you and your family.

Lemming

My condolences to you and the rest of your family, Mike

darkskol

Sorry for your loss Mike. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

Alter-Ego

Sorry to hear of your loss, man. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Oriel

So sorry for your loss mike. YNWA.

Dasilva94

May God protect you, Mike. I'm sure your Mother is in a better place now

Firetrap

Sorry to hear about your loss Mike. You'll be surprised at how strong you are. Remember too that things will get better in time.

gandalf

Sorry for your loss Mike, if you want someone to talk to drop me a line I have a good idea what you are going through.

BeardyGit

May your mother and father rest in peace....

Hope you're all doing okay Mike.

70s

I'm very sorry to hear your bad news, Mike. In 2005, I lost my mother and father (aged 57 and 69) within 4 weeks of each other just 5 months after both being diagnosed with cancer.
The passage of time makes things a little easier, but you never forget them.
Look after yourselves

homerjay2005

Sincere condolences Mike.

Roddy23

Sorry for your loss Mike.

CathyMoran

Shane and I are extremely sorry for your loss.

Wibbs

My thoughts are with you and your family. Sorry for your loss.

mike65

I dunno if you've cheered me up with your thoughts but you've not made me any sadder. Tis a strange time between death and the sending off, mum reckined it was the worst thing when dad went - 5 days of suspended animation. I'm just doing 'normal' stuff this morning and we'll try to get everything in place with the Funeral Directors ASAP. You don't think about stuff like doctors death cert and stuff like that even though I've been though this once before. Cheers again.

Mike.

LadyJ

Sorry for your loss Mike. It's never easy to lose a parent. Just as painful at 12 as it is at 50. I don't think most people realise that.

I agree with you about the days before the funeral. It's like limbo. You want to move on in a way but it's impossible to know how you feel when things aren't final yet.

Anyway, it's a horrible time and I think in a way, after all the funeral hype it can feel even worse because it's quieter and there aren't hundreds of people around the house anymore. However, things will get easier.

My thoughts are with you.

Pherekydes

Condolences, Mike.

You can console yourself with the thought that her suffering is at an end.

My mother died of cancer quite quickly, too.

Dr. Dre

Very sorry Mike.

Nightwish

Condolences to you and your family Mike.

St Bill

I'm sorry to hear about your mother Mike. It's a hard thing to come to terms with, especially because your father is also gone. You're definitely not alone though, your parents are with you in everything you say and do. And I'm sure your parents gave you the strength and courage to deal with days such as these.
Take care