What do you think

oceansize

Hello all,

Met a french girl the weekend. didn't speak to her much but i thought she was lovely.

I managed to get her number and text her the next day. She remember who i was and we got talking and asked if she wanted to meet for a drink and she agreed.
We went to a small pub with a bit of music, was fairly nervous, we talked about this and that and had a good laugh. neither of us was drinking much though.

We went to a late bar and then left still had a good time. I walked her home and we talked for a minute and i said i was going home and thank you for a lovely evening, we hugged and i left.

I then txt her a while later saying i was home and i had a great night and would love to meet again. And i hoped she had a good night

She replied a bit later and said that she had a great time and said something like "i thought i'd be home by 11 but the night when so quick with you, thats a good thing" and she said if i want to meet for a drink next weekend that she'd love to meet up again.

I text her again and said it was fun and she said "im glad you did have a good night because you never said it!". and that was it.

So i was well happy with myself. Now should i leave it till next weekend to contact her again or should i text her tonight and ask her how work was or whatever?

Cheers

Talliesin

I don't know. Are you a chatty person or a quiet person?

How can anyone advise you as to how communicative you are?

Stop over-thinking.

free2fly

I don't see why not. It sounds like she likes you. It's silly to play games.

oceansize

No i'm chatty! but not over chatty, we seemed to like similar things etc, and she was talking alot.

I noticed when we went into the pub she was sitting with her legs facing away from me, but then after a while she relaxed and she was facing me directly and fiddling with her tasles on her hoody thing, thats looks good?

I just want to know would it give her the impression that i'm not that into her if i didn't contact her until nearer to the weekend? Whatever she may think could fade byt then if i weren't to keep in contact no? It's not a game, i just don't know how to approach foreign girls.

She's the kind of girl i go for, not to much makeup, very sensible etc

Talliesin

Foreign girls aren't a mutated variant on human beings. The general conduct that impresses human beings will tend to work on them (there can be cultural differences, but some people can't stand the culture of the country they come from - that's why the leave - so that only tells so much).

Sending a text to say you're looking forwards to seeing her again would probably be a reasonable move. But really, if you're a text-a-minute type text like crazy, if you're barely communicative, don't.

Play my someone else's rules and the girl will only be impressed if she's likely to be impressed by the sort of person you aren't. It'd be like Cyranno de Bergerac, but without the Anthony Burgess subtitles.

Black Swan

You seem to be acting the gentleman. Grand! Don't start texting daily, having just met. Wait a day, then invite her for that drink (for this coming weekend). Or better yet, a film and a bite to eat? Yes, some here will say don't play games, then again, you just met and don't want to appear desparate or smother her with texts either? Now if she starts texting you daily, then of course, respond so that she knows you are still interested. Be patient, chill out, and go with the flow.

LegacyUser

'Here is my advice

wait until tomorrow to text her. give it a couple of days, and write her a text just very briefly describing how her day was. im sure she likes you and she will appreciate the text. don't worry about these things, ( i know thats easy to say ). just let things go naturally. dont over analyse these things, i know thats easier said that done too...'

Kinetic^

I don't understand how you're not bouncing your balls of her chin as we speak She's interested, go for it!!!

oceansize

OK i text her last night again. She repllied back quite soon afterwards.
I kind of linked onto the last message about my boss not killing me and aske how she got on in work and hope she wasn't to tired.

She replied back saying she's great and she was busy and said some people were sick from work! like that. and asked how i was etc. so i replied saying i'll talk to her later in the week about the weekend and she said no problem and sleep well to.

So i think she's still ok? She seemed more enthusiastic the other night

Miss Fluff

oceansize wrote:

So i think she's still ok? She seemed more enthusiastic the other night

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I know it's a Piscean full moon and everything but STOP OVER ANALYSING. She likes you, she wants to see you again. PHONE HER on Thursday and ask her out.

Beruthiel

You didn't mention your age. But if you're over 20, then I'd suggest quit with the texting. Call her up and organise another date.
The one think I know about french women, most of them don't appreciate men who drink a lot.

Sleepy

oceansize - as Frankie says: Relax!

Just go with the flow, don't stress too much about things and let life happen to you rather than being something that happens while you're worrying about other stuff.

oceansize

OK want an update? Well im gonna give one.

Called her yesterday about 8 and we had achat, bit of messing around etc. I asked if she wanted to meet up Friday (today). She said yeah sure, but some of my friends might be out aswell. So i thought oh well, she jjts wants to be friends.

Then about 15mins later i get a text saying something along the lines of "i fancy a drink, would you like to join me?". So of course i said calmly, sure, what time were you thinking.

So we met up, had a great chat and a laugh, Ended up getting out of the place at about 2.30. not to much drink, just sensible, i said i'd walk her home. We talk outside her place for a while and i said i have to go i'll see you tomorrow. And she said ok... would you liketo see my place? So i went up and we had another chat and listened to some music. I didn't try anything with her i was just enjoying her company and didn't know if i was getting the right signs or not.

So i said i was leaving and i had alovely time. I gave her a hug and i left.
Got home and popped her a text saying i had a great time but i think she deserved a little kiss for such a good night and she text back saying somethign like "dont worry, theres plenty of time to think or even do it. (i presume thats the french accent thingy) and she said sleep well and see you tomorrow x.

Now am i readin it all wrong or does this girl actually like me and wants to kiss me or what? or is she thinking of me as just a friend?

Cheers

Miss Fluff

oceansize wrote:

We talk outside her place for a while and i said i have to go i'll see you tomorrow. And she said ok... would you liketo see my place?

Oceansize, sweetheart, sweetheart, sweetheart.:rolleyes: Will you PLEASE chillax, she is keen. Hurrah! Quit with the neuroses already and enjoy the ride, yes, she wants you to kiss her. Now go and do it, and enjoy

event

she couldnt make it any clearer if she wrote it on your head

vorbis

how old are you? I'm dying to know. She's sending you signals left and right. Kiss her for gods sake. I'd even be trying for more but I'm not quite a gentleman!

oceansize

More updates?

OK spoke to her on the phone yesterday, and arranged to meet again last night.
We went out and there was a few of us there, she invited me to her house with her friends for some wine first. We had wine and then went to the pub. she seemed a bit distracted, didn't talk to her a whole lot, i was having a good time with the lads though and making sure i kept smiling and waving to her.

We went back to the apt (a few of us for drinks). it was early this mornig. Eventually she didn't seem interested or something so i said ok i am reeeallly tired and she walked me to the door and i left. She then text me 2 mins later saying "how come you left? i was hoping you'd stay a bit longer, was i boring you" so i went back and we talked a bit more and went to bed. i didn't try anything untoward we just wrapped up in eachother and kissed a bit and i kept waking up ever while and she was giving me little kisses on the face when i was asleep!

So we got up at 4 today, a bit of boldness happened (no intercourse as i stopped it) because i'd rather wait a while to make us both want it more.

We she kept kissing me every now and then. Went for some food, and she said i'll text you to meet up with my friends later. And i gave her a quick kiss and left.

Now... Is it a result?

cornbb

Christ man, wake up and smell the coffee! You've met a lovely sounding girl who obviously likes you a lot. Stop seeking approval and go and have fun. You lucky bástard!

oceansize

See i'm not normally like this. But since i broke up with my ex about 8 months ago, i have basically been knocking around with allot of girls. Like allot.... me and my friends are basicall perverts lol - we get allot of attention when we're out. And i was in the pub and right across the place i spotted this girl was talking to a friend i was out with. She basically knocked me on my arse.

So i am really out of synch as i really like her.

One of the comments a mate of mine made when she came over and sat down was "Jesus....".

She's absolutely gorgeous, and she really genuinely seems to care about people etc...

wow listen to me.

cashback

oceansize wrote:

One of the comments a mate of mine made when she came over and sat down was "Jesus....".

She's absolutely gorgeous, and she really genuinely seems to care about people etc...

wow listen to me.

Yeah we're listening. Now stop boasting ya lucky f**ker.

louisecm

Wow, do all guys analyse things like this? Thought that was a girl thing... I don't understand why people can't just BE. Why does there have to be all this waiting x amount of time before making contact, and sending x number of texts before talking on the bloody phone etc. Pfft. Its irritating!

Beruthiel

oceansize wrote:

Now... Is it a result?

I presume this is a rhetorical question!?

oceansize

OK more updates for you all, just in case you're interested.
Went out Saturday night, met her for a drink, then met some friends and met her later in the night. Went back to hers, stayed with her and got up late yesterday. Went for some food, went to the pub and watched a few bands. Went home. She got some bad news yesterday and we were both tired so i left her about 12am. Said i had a great time and said i'd love to meet her again but if she's busy etc then it's no problem. She said she didn't understand what i meant by that and said see you soon x.

So 'm thinking she like me. As i do her. So i'm sure we'll meet up again really soon. She was talking about watching DVD's etc.

So i'm quite happy atm. !

Thanks for all the advice.

Beruthiel

oceansize wrote:

So 'm thinking she like me.

You're quick

oceansize

Beruthiel wrote:

You're quick

You may have noticed the fact that i'm a retard. I know girls i've been with over the last 8 months have really like me because i've heard from their friends etc. But i woiuldn't realise that sort of stuff at this stage if they actually told me to my face... Lets hope it all goes well from here on in.

Looks to be going swimmingly!

Beruthiel

I know a lot of french people living in ireland that miss certain foods.
For interesting prezzies, try Sheridans cheese shop off grafton street, they import french cheeses from various parts of france.

Chez Max restaurant near Dublin Castle is run by a french man and is reasonably priced.
For lunch, he does Croque Monsieur, very popular in france and I'd eat them for lunch every day given the chance!
I bet she'd appreciate stuff like that

oceansize

Beruthiel wrote:

I know a lot of french people living in ireland that miss certain foods.
For interesting prezzies, try Sheridans cheese shop off grafton street, they import french cheeses from various parts of france.

Chez Max restaurant near Dublin Castle is run by a french man and is reasonably priced.
For lunch, he does Croque Monsieur, very popular in france and I'd eat them for lunch every day given the chance!
I bet she'd appreciate stuff like that

Well i'm in the very south east of ireland. Near Waterford. So i suppose my local town would be waterford. Any ideas of some places to buy good imported Cheese there? She was telling me she loes french cheese! And buying her surprises after about 4-5 meetings? 3 sleep overs ;-D

Beruthiel

oceansize wrote:

Well i'm in the very south east of ireland. Near Waterford. So i suppose my local town would be waterford. Any ideas of some places to buy good imported Cheese there?

Nope.
I've lived in Dublin for too long.

And buying her surprises after about 4-5 meetings? 3 sleep overs ;-D

It's a lump of cheese, not an engagement ring, tis no biggie.
Could always order a french movie off the net.

cornbb

I went out with a French girl in Ireland. The only Irish food she could stand was hot chicken rolls. She loved them. Buy her a hot chicken roll*! You romantic ole dog you

*May or may not be good advice

Cateym

Don't you just love a happy outcome?!! Don't see it much on these boards.:p

oceansize

This little lady happens to be vergetarian!

Kell

oceansize wrote:

See i'm not normally like this.

Eh? Yea you are. This is a mirror image of a post you posted about two months ago where everyone told you the same thing.

Stop overfúckinganalysing! Damn script doesnt extend to mile hi concrete letters. Damnnit.

K-

ballsofire23

oceansize wrote:

Hello all,

Met a french girl the weekend. didn't speak to her much but i thought she was lovely.

I managed to get her number and text her the next day. She remember who i was and we got talking and asked if she wanted to meet for a drink and she agreed.
We went to a small pub with a bit of music, was fairly nervous, we talked about this and that and had a good laugh. neither of us was drinking much though.

We went to a late bar and then left still had a good time. I walked her home and we talked for a minute and i said i was going home and thank you for a lovely evening, we hugged and i left.

I then txt her a while later saying i was home and i had a great night and would love to meet again. And i hoped she had a good night

She replied a bit later and said that she had a great time and said something like "i thought i'd be home by 11 but the night when so quick with you, thats a good thing" and she said if i want to meet for a drink next weekend that she'd love to meet up again.

I text her again and said it was fun and she said "im glad you did have a good night because you never said it!". and that was it.

So i was well happy with myself. Now should i leave it till next weekend to contact her again or should i text her tonight and ask her how work was or whatever?

Cheers

Trust me she didn't like you. French women tend to lead you on, and then abrubplty blame you for the slightest mistake to justify "you wont get anothe call from me". You see they are convenience stores of texts. Meaning they are mating differnt than others.
you class all foreign as the same. Trust me, she didn't like you. She led you on. My brother maried a French woman; divorce we prayed for and got it answered. They are very rude in their way of letting you down never gently.

Don't feel embarraseed just learn to give light hearted compliments and comments on the dates. Remember that helps but if she liked you, she could also have adjusted to you cultural slange there's a compromise she failed to meet. Don't kill yourself over her, she sounds like vinegar to date. You are learning by that. So remember, the French are difficult to date.

Wibbs

ballsofire23 wrote:

Trust me she didn't like you. French women tend to lead you on, and then abrubplty blame you for the slightest mistake to justify "you wont get anothe call from me". You see they are convenience stores of texts. Meaning they are mating differnt than others.
you class all foreign as the same. Trust me, she didn't like you. She led you on. My brother maried a French woman; divorce we prayed for and got it answered. They are very rude in their way of letting you down never gently.

Prejudicial much? WTF? So your brother married a bad one? My cousin's happily married to a French woman for the last 15yrs. Would I say all French women are like his lovely wife. No that would be equally stupid. I'd love to see how long that post would last if you said the same nonsense about Black women or Asians? And "trust me she didn't like you"? What. How in God's name can you make such a statement?

Don't feel embarraseed just learn to give light hearted compliments and comments on the dates. Remember that helps but if she liked you, she could also have adjusted to you cultural slange there's a compromise she failed to meet. Don't kill yourself over her, she sounds like vinegar to date. You are learning by that. So remember, the French are difficult to date.

Have you even read what has happened with the OP?

OP ignore this nonsense. Enjoy your time with her and she with you, like us all you never know.

cornbb

ballsofire23 wrote:

French women tend to lead you on ... the French are difficult to date.

No they don't ... no they're not

ballsofire23

Wibbs wrote:

Prejudicial much? WTF? So your brother married a bad one? My cousin's happily married to a French woman for the last 15yrs. Would I say all French women are like his lovely wife. No that would be equally stupid. I'd love to see how long that post would last if you said the same nonsense about Black women or Asians? And "trust me she didn't like you"? What. How in God's name can you make such a statement?

Have you even read what has happened with the OP?

OP ignore this nonsense. Enjoy your time with her and she with you, like us all you never know.

I'm not replying to this anymore.

It's a sour life we all live in. might treat myself now to caffeine and nicotine high.

So if I'm the target for Wibbs and using me as a good reason...............

Confused.

Wibbs

Kell wrote:

Stop overfúckinganalysing! Damn script doesnt extend to mile hi concrete letters. Damnnit.

Best advice ever.:)

Marksie

ballsofire23 wrote:

So if I'm the target for Wibbs and using me as a good reason...............

Confused.

Ummm, actually, i was wondering where on earth that initial post of yours came from. It was pretty headscratching. I think wibbs was targeting the post it made some sweeping statements.

ballsofire23 wrote:

I'm not replying to this anymore.

hmmmmmmmm

ballsofire23 wrote:

It's a sour life we all live in.

No, its not. But that is for a different thread, if you feel like starting one


OP: Kells remembered as did I about your previous threads, all saying the same thing.So relax, and enjoy the moment

Beruthiel

ballsofire23
Please don't come in here and tar the whole french nation with one bad experience that your brother had.
My b/f of 7 years happens to be french, he was never in the slightest difficult to date and is in fact a dote.
In this life you should always judge a person on who they are, not what country they happen to come from.

oceansize

Yeah sorry, i'm just a bit worried as i really like her.

She asked me over for dinner the night before last, bottle of wine and some nice food, was really nice. Didn't talk to her at all yesterday, was pretty busy.

Wibbs

oceansize wrote:

Yeah sorry, i'm just a bit worried as i really like her.

and it looks like she likes you too. You can never be sure about anything like this so just go with the flow ya lucky muppet!

She asked me over for dinner the night before last, bottle of wine and some nice food, was really nice. Didn't talk to her at all yesterday, was pretty busy.

Don't overanalyse and enjoy it. Oh yea and good luck.

Jesus Wept

Kenny 5 wrote:

I don't understand how you're not bouncing your balls of her chin as we speak She's interested, go for it!!!

Romance is not dead.

oceansize

OK she likes me. Definitely.
I was testing myself by not texting her the day before yesterday, and i didn't text her yesterday, so she contacted me again and asked me to join her for dinner again We went to the pub after, had a really good time. I''m very happy

louisecm

oceansize wrote:

OK she likes me. Definitely.
I was testing myself by not texting her the day before yesterday, and i didn't text her yesterday, so she contacted me again and asked me to join her for dinner again We went to the pub after, had a really good time. I''m very happy

Good for you Oceansize.

LegacyUser

Wow, a personal issues thread with a happy ending. There's hope for us all!

oceansize

Well you can't blame her, i'm a handsome bastard

Beruthiel

Well, I think this thread is done.
Bon chance avec ta fille