broken condom

LegacyUser

Condom broke last night...
he'd come earlier that night but not that time...
however plentya precome...
i cant afford to go to the doc for the morining after what the hell do i do?!

dudara

I don't think that you've much choice. If you want to do all that you can to prevent pregnancy, then you need to get yourself to a doctor and get that prescription.

If anyone knows of free/cheap locations, please advise, as I don't.

LegacyUser

sorry don't know how to get back in and kep the username the same...

I dont have a clue of cheap service i live with my parents who are middleincome so don't qualify for ANYTHING!

What i did try straight after was putting alcohol up there cos it apparently kills sperm...does that work?!

LundiMardi

stupid condoms! wrote:

Condom broke last night...
he'd come earlier that night but not that time...
however plentya precome...
i cant afford to go to the doc for the morining after what the hell do i do?!

In all fairness that's a pretty lame excuse... Ask someone for the money or something. It's either the small price to pay now, or hundreds of thousands to pay over the next 18 years..

Think about it.

josephine20

Fifty euros plus whatever for the pill versus paying for a baby or having an abortion. You can't be serious! Getting the morning after pill in the long run is far cheaper and will give you peace of mind. Find the money somewhere, get him to pay or borrow from a friend. It just isn't worth taking the risk. If you're having long term sex, condoms are not the way to go. Try getting on the pill.

Eggonaspoon

Yes Josephine, cause the pill protects against sexual transmitted diseases… Best thing is to take the pill and use condoms. Why risk getting infected with something nasty (and yes that can happen in long term relationships too).

LundiMardi

Eggonaspoon wrote:

Yes Josephine, cause the pill protects against sexual transmitted diseases… Best thing is to take the pill and use condoms. Why risk getting infected with something nasty (and yes that can happen in long term relationships too).

I think she meant condoms are not the way to go long term, hence use both condoms AND the pill.

GuanYin

Don't put alcohol up there - don't put any liquids up there that aren't specifically meant to go up there.

There are free clinics in all major towns and cities that deal with these situations. Open a phonebook or google for your local one (delete the search histoery afterwards).

Talliesin

€50 is €25 each.

If you were on a medical card then you could get that to cover the insertion of an IUCD, but you say you aren't.

If it comes to it you can probably think of some excuse to bum €50 from your middle-income parents over the Christmas period.

Don't douche with alcohol. Mucus membranes don't take well to alcohol (why alcoholics get ulcers, but at least that's a membrane in a part of your body designed to deal with all sorts of organic material put in it, your vagina expects a lot less variety than your stomach).

Lenny

Eggonaspoon wrote:

Yes Josephine, cause the pill protects against sexual transmitted diseases… Best thing is to take the pill and use condoms. Why risk getting infected with something nasty (and yes that can happen in long term relationships too).

Emm, quick question on that.. if two people are in a long term relationship.. both of them don't haven't catched anything... and they don't go off on other people.. how do they catch something then??

Aoife-FM104

Do you have a regular cycle? Do you know when you ovulate?

faceman

If you go to the A&E department of a hospital they will give you the morning after pill for free.

MojoMaker

After you pay the €60 A&E charge.

Nevyn

You can be billed by A&E and you have to pay it later.

faceman

Thaedydal wrote:

You can be billed by A&E and you have to pay it later.

exactly, giving the OP time to get the money together

LegacyUser

thanks guys but i have NO WAY of getting the money- parents dont give me money at all and dont even talk bout paying 50/50 not that kinda arrangement! Hence i can't really tell my frinds to bum cash off them cos they dont exactly approve of casual arrangements!

Is there ANYWAY to get it free?!

Steyr

Lenny wrote:

Emm, quick question on that.. if two people are in a long term relationship.. both of them don't haven't catched anything... and they don't go off on other people.. how do they catch something then??

Anal sex would be the answer there, along with thrush etc all transferrable even fungal infections.

Faith

stupid condoms1 wrote:

What i did try straight after was putting alcohol up there cos it apparently kills sperm...does that work?!

Oh, please tell me you're joking. You cannot actually have put alcohol into your vagina? Not only do you risk pregnancy, you have now also put yourself at risk for thrush and all sorts of unpleasant infections. You'll have to go to the doctor simply to get that sorted out.

Nevyn

stupid condoms2 wrote:

thanks guys but i have NO WAY of getting the money- parents dont give me money at all and dont even talk bout paying 50/50 not that kinda arrangement! Hence i can't really tell my frinds to bum cash off them cos they dont exactly approve of casual arrangements!

Is there ANYWAY to get it free?!

No there is not,
I would suggest that you either go to A&E and sort out money to pay the bill when it arrives after the xmas or to the gp and explain you will pay the cost after the xmas or that you talk to your friends,true firends will help you out of such a jam.

If you are a minor and not likely to get money or a wage then I suggest you think about finding an adult you can talk to or a family member that will help.

Honestly as bad as talking to your parents and getting money off them might be how much worse will the converstaion go if it turns out you are pregant.

Remember you only have 72 hours in which to take it.

Faith

stupid condoms2 wrote:

thanks guys but i have NO WAY of getting the money- parents dont give me money at all and dont even talk bout paying 50/50 not that kinda arrangement! Hence i can't really tell my frinds to bum cash off them cos they dont exactly approve of casual arrangements!

Is there ANYWAY to get it free?!

If I were you then, I'd start thinking outside of the box. Otherwise, you'll have a child for the next 18 years, and that'll cost a lot more than the €50 for a GP visit.

LegacyUser

isnt there like a wellwoman clinic in town, im sure they could help

RainyDay

Faith wrote:

If I were you then, I'd start thinking outside of the box.

Pun intended?

twanda

Firstly, I cannot believe that you have no way of getting the money - if your friends are any kind of good friends at all, they will help you.

Maybe you can explain to the people in the doctors surgery/ well woman clinic that you really need it but don't have the money. A long shot, but I'm sure they wouldn't like to send someone away knowing that they'd most likely be pregnant.

Fact is- time is ticking away and you need the emergency pill ASAP.

josephine20

Eggonaspoon wrote:

Yes Josephine, cause the pill protects against sexual transmitted diseases… Best thing is to take the pill and use condoms. Why risk getting infected with something nasty (and yes that can happen in long term relationships too).

Get off your high horse! This topic is not about STDS and I'm not going to start lecturing someone stating the obvious. I'm merely giving advice on the topic asked... that the pill is less likely to fail (once taken properly of course all you smartie pants) than condoms and perhaps the poster should think about using this.

Nevyn

josephine20 this forum advocates the use of barrier protection unless both parties have been tested.
If you are likely to become preganant then you are likely with that same window of oppertunity to contract and sti or become hiv positive.

josephine20

Thaedydal wrote:

josephine20 this forum advocates the use of barrier protection unless both parties have been tested.
If you are likely to become preganant then you are likely with that same window of oppertunity to contract and sti or become hiv positive.

And your point is what exactly? I am well aware of the risks of STDS and am quite educated about them. I'm not telling anyone to stop using condoms :-)

Nevyn

josephine20, unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

semifinalist

Steyr wrote:

Anal sex would be the answer there, along with thrush etc all transferrable even fungal infections.

I don't get this. What sti/disease can you catch from your partner if neither of you had one coming into the relationship and neither of you were unfaithful?

Nevyn

there are differing natural occuring baceria in the anus then there is in the vagina and not using a condom can cause cross infections.

josephine20

Thaedydal wrote:

josephine20, unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

Is that you're response everytime someone has an opinion you don't agree with? I was merely replying to a comment made :-) Of course I don't agree with unprotected sex and STDs but advising someone to use the contraceptive pill is not neccessarily telling them to stop using condoms. Reading between the lines and all of that... :rolleyes:

I keep forgetting message boards are full of ignorant people who quote "rules" and such every time an argument doesn't go their way. To be honest I'd be quoting the same advice to you but I don't expect you to understand that comment either. Don't bother banning me, I'll press the button myself. I will go find a good message board that allows discussion and debate without jumping down people's throats.

besty

@OP --> Go to A&E, it's your best bet. You won't have to pay straight up and will get billed giving you time to get the money together. Good luck, but don't mess around with this.

Botswana

Thaedydal wrote:

If you are likely to become preganant then you are likely with that same window of oppertunity to contract and sti or become hiv positive.

Not quite true. The odds of getting pregnant v the odds of getting a bacterial infection v the odds of getting a viral infection (such as HIV) are very different.

If you can't scrape together the money for the morning after pill, you aren't trying hard enough. A compassionate auntie?

Either way, it's too late at this stage.

InFront

It isn't too late, the OP only posted on the 23rd, so emergency contraception is still very much an option.
OP maybe you should visit the IFPA on (I think) Cathal Brugha Street. they are a charity and provide emergency contraception free of charge. And will probably tell you to be more careful in future.

And like the previous poster says, yes statistically you are in a very different boat with regards to HIV/ AIDS, there is certainly not the same contraction probability.

Botswana

Yeah but where will be open on Christmas Day/St. Stephen's Day ??

The condom broke on the 22nd, so it's pretty much too late now...

InFront

She'll be time enough on Thursday, and yes I'm sure there will be a service available tomorrow.
Besides, OP if you dont want a baby just borrow the money from someone and go to a and e, or as someone already said, ask them to bill you. I dont think anyone has ever been refused medical treatment of this kind for reasons of money or lack of

Nevyn

josephine20 if you have an issue with a moderators comment or action take it up with the moderator vian pm or in the feedback forum stop dragging threads off topic.

That warning is just that a warning which I don'thave to give put do so to new users.