Phone number from lapdancer

Pachanga

I've been frequenting a lapdancing club over the last few months with a few mates after a few beers. We mainly just go in a have a few drinks and have a bit of a buzz with the women.

Neither the lads nor myself spend alot of money in there but enjoy going.

There’s one woman there who always comes over to me when I come in, smiling and is very chatty (I'm not naive, this is what she’s there for, to get money/dances off the lads), however she never asks me to go for dances, she says she really enjoys chatting to me and often compliments the clothes I’m wearing or my hair, saying she likes my look etc.

I ended up there on Tuesday night and she immediately came over to me and we spent about an hour chatting.

The lads and I moved onto another pub and as I was leaving she came back to me with her number on a piece of paper and asked me to phone her, that she would like to meet me for a drink sometime.

I txt her last night to say hello and have not received any txts/phonecalls back.

Do you think I should phone her?? Or am I wasting my time?

Am I deluding myself into thinking that she might like me ?

Has anyone every been out with a lapdancer?? Is it possible to have a relationship with one ?

Should I phone her ??

LundiMardi

no, don't phone her...

You've already made contact, the ball is in her court... Just act normal, head in again as normal with your mates and just see what happens.

As for the lap dancer thing, well that all depends on you.. Personally, i don't think i could.

easyontheeye

play it cool man! you did your bit now let her do her bit!

LegacyUser

'How much does she cost ?
Forget it, boss !'

justsomebloke

Pachanga wrote:

Is it possible to have a relationship with one ?

no it is not possible to have a relationship with one as they are like the preying mantis and will only kill you once they have used you for their own ends.

but seriously,of course you can have a relationship with a stripper they are only human after all, it is only her occupation. That said some people would have a problem dating a stripper for a varity of reason but that would be for you decided. I would say give it another couple of days and if you don't hear anything back you could always ring her on monday just to wish her a happy christmas;)

Owen

Been there, done it, great fun while it lasted. But don't expect it to last and you'll be fine.

dvega

Well its a bit too soon to be talking about going out!
You have done your bit now its her turn.
Next time you go in and she comes over say to her you sent her a text
See what she says

Aoife-FM104

What did your text say?

Is it possible (because she doesn't have your number) that she doesn't realise it's from you?

Hagar

Pachanga wrote:

Has anyone every been out with a lapdancer?? Is it possible to have a relationship with one ?

Suppose she goes out with you next Friday, would you be happy with her lapdancing for several other men next Saturday?

If the answer is no, get your coat.
If the answer is yes, when will you start wondering if she is coming on to another guy the way she came on to you?

Black Swan

Pachanga wrote:

Do you think I should phone her?? Or am I wasting my time?

Is she a "lady of the night?"

jimmycrackcorm

Op probably looks rather well to do. Maybe she is thinking about getting herself a sugar-daddy.

Aoife-FM104

A lot of lap dancers do double as prostitutes (I know this for a fact, it's not speculation.) Maybe she gave you get number for business reasons, and by you thinking it's about "getting free stuff" she's thinking wtf?

frobisher

I had a bit of a thing with a lapdancer for a while and know a few other from thht scene a little. Many are aslo on the game on the side but many aren't. The western European ones less so. What time did you text her? Those girls do some b*tch ass crazy hours and she probably didn't have your number in her phone. I'd be careful about getting your hopes up though. But then again, better to have shagged and lost than never shagged at all. (PS Wear a johhny)

aidan24326

Pachanga, it could be intriguing, and it could be nothing. I guess right now it's hard to tell. A few possibilities.

1. She's on the game, and was giving you her number in the hope of luring
you into spending some more money on 'extras'.

2. She's like those crazy b1tches on nip/tuck that steal body organs and you could wake up in the morning minus a kidney. i.e there could be something sinister. (this one not terribly likely)

3. She actually does like you. Very possible. Perhaps she didn't see your text,
or didn't even realise who it was from. Text one more time, and be clear about who you are, if you weren't the first time. Then wait and see.

If you don't receive any replies, just play it cool when you go back in there next time. Say nothing unless/until she approaches you, then you can casually mention the texts. tbf she kinda caught you on the hop a bit last time giving you her number, which you weren't expecting.

You've nowt to lose really. If she is a hooker or whatever then so be it, no harm done.

If she does really like you I would take her for that drink and see what happens.

Keep an open mind, and don't concern yourself that she's a stripper/lapdancer, sure some of them double up as hookers but not all of them do, and it would be unfair to judge her on that. Best case scenario you're shagging a sexy lapdancer a couple of weeks from now. Worst case scenario? You're not.

Victor

Hang on. Hot, sexy Nadia (I have no idea where she is from) gives you her phone number and you text her?

Beruthiel

Pachanga wrote:

I txt her last night to say hello and have not received any txts/phonecalls back.

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

twanda

If you two did start going out, would you be able to take the fact that she is dancing for other guys most nites of the week? You might be thinking ''yeah, sure - it's only her job'' ....but you may feel differently when she is your g'friend...

If you think you can handle that then go for it - give her a buzz.
Best of luck.

BobTheBeat

Follow the text up with a call. If needs be leave her a message. If there are no replies at that point, just play it cool and have a chat with her about it next time your in the club. No harm done!

gandalf

FFS don't bloody text her, be a man and ring her.

dvega

Beruthiel wrote:

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
phoning is what grown ups do.

I wouldnt agree with you there,i have had plenty of mates who rang numbers
when they got em and it just rang out and when they met that person again they just said why didnt you text me!

Probably cause they didnt know the number,not everybody have 8-5 jobs and are free the wends especially strippers!

The United States are the only country that i know dont use text messages.

Even if they did leave a message on their answering machine,a lot of ppl dont even have one and most dont even listen to theirs.

the_syco

Like models, if you date a lapdancer, you must not be the poesssive type, etc, or you won't be able to handle the thought of your GF dancing for other guys.

As a dude (bf of a model) once said, they may all have seen her naked, but you're the one going back to her house:cool:

Steyr

Beruthiel wrote:

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

Very positive information there regarding your location as Location: 69 Slut Street, Slutsville, Slutsland.


Very grown up.................:rolleyes:

OP Just take it easy and go into the club and see whats up, see why she aint txt/rang you.

Nevyn

Steyr go grow a sense of humour, if you have an issue with a mod take it up via pm or feedback.

KTHKSBYE

Sangre

Beruthiel wrote:

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

Phoning is what teenagers do.
Writing letters is what grownups do.


When will these kids learn?

Pigman II

Sounds to me like she took a look at you and identified you as someone who's probably hard up and possibily willing to pay for it.

So I wouldn't take it an ego-boost buddy. Quite the opposite actually.

Húrin

Do nothing, just wait for her reply.

Of course it is possible to have a relationship with a lap-dancer. It's just a job. But take into account the fact that her job is at night and yours is, presumably, during the day. If you could never see her a relationship might be useless.

Jaysus, it's like ppl can't even think for themselves!

Owen

Beruthiel wrote:

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

Texting is what technically adept people do. Phoning, is what OAP's do.

j4vier

certain people like to text other like to phone, whats the big deal? it has nothing to do with bein an adult or a kid
and its not the point of the thread anyway

Odaise Gaelach

*ponders a moment*

Why don't you and your friends go down to the club again? Maybe you'll meet her, and you two can talk about it.

Lust4Life

Posted by ned78

Quote:
Originally Posted by Beruthiel
Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

Texting is what technically adept people do. Phoning, is what OAP's do.

Well, you may be on to something there. She's a stripper. Not a brain surgeon.
Maybe she doesn't know how to text back?

OP, call the woman and see where she stands. That's the only way to end your questions.

jesus_thats_gre

Beruthiel wrote:

Honest to god, when are you people going to learn!?
Texting is what teenagers do.
Phoning is what grown ups do.

Where did this rule come from? What makes it right?

Sangre

jesus_thats_gre wrote:

Where did this rule come from? What makes it right?

The fact that texting didn't appear until she was about 40 maybe?

jesus_thats_gre

Sangre wrote:

The fact that texting didn't appear until she was about 40 maybe?

Rofl

Hagar

Sangre wrote:

The fact that texting didn't appear until she was about 40 maybe?

Dead man walking...:D

Owen

Sangre wrote:

The fact that texting didn't appear until she was about 40 maybe?

PMSL. Well played Sir.

AnonoBoy

Phone the woman. Texting about something important can lend itself to annoyance because you're left wondering 'She hasn't texted me back.... does she not want to talk to me.... maybe I got her number wrong..... maybe she's out of credit...'

Whereas if you phone her then you'll pretty much know straight away.

It's easier to text but really if you're asking somebody out for a drink it's a bit of a pussy's way out - you should be man enough to just ring her and ask her straight. Honestly.

None of this texting is what modern, technically adept people do bull****. My grandad can text. It's not like it's a hard to master skill.

You want her to have a bit of respect for you? Be a man and ring her.

It's also easier to judger her reaction when you're actually speaking to her. Like if she says I can't do it on such a night but maybe another time. On text that seems like a 'please **** off' reply but when you're talking you will be able to tell whether she's genuine or not.

gandalf

Sangre wrote:

The fact that texting didn't appear until she was about 40 maybe?

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