Your taste in partners...high or low standards?

...thought of this on the 'how good looking is your partner' thread.

Anyway, I'm no Bradd Pitt, but worse still I was born with pretty high standards. It meant that I spent much of my teens pretty much single. I always think that if I could do it again I should have tried anything with a pulse, but peer pressure and all that. It's fine now that I married a fine thing, but there was a lot of slow sets and cheek to cheek at the teen disco missed along the way.

Meanwhile, I have a great friend who has had women throwing themselves at him for the past 20 years. And better still he has the standards of a sewer rat. Anything at all, young, old, pretty, ugly, small, tall, sane, certified bonkers - absolutely anything going. And I always thought that it was the best way to be.

So what were you. A stud with no standards? A geek with high standards? Or some other amalgam?

petes

I go for females. Preferably with a heartbeat.

LadyJ

I guess I'm quite picky when it comes to partners. All my boyfs have been "bleedin' roides" as far as I'm concerned.

I do like a man with a perfect bone structure. The sort of gaunt Johnny Depp style cheek bones I mean. My last boyfriend had them and that was enough for me!

Flings etc. I'm not as picky about but I do have some standards!

Generally though,I'm quite hard to please. I like my men to be sexy,funny and intelligent,with an air of charisma.

Sleepy

Way too high for my own good tbh. Been single for over three years at this stage!

For an FB or a one-night stand, my standards drop quite a bit but in fairness, I think that's true of most people!

Paddy_Irishman

LadyJ wrote:

Generally though,I'm quite hard to please. I like my men to be sexy,funny and intelligent,with an air of charisma.

I hope your stunning looking, 6ft without heels, blonde, tight assed, able to take a joke and not in mental aslyum .

Lots of people tend to try to box at a few divisions above their belt. Makes sense to. If you get knocked out in the heavy weight competition then you wont feel bad at all when your Middleweight champion .

I tend to get snared by a woman who appears to be impossible to chase. Then when I catch her I just get bored and wander off .

I also find it alot more fun to go chat to the absolute best looking girl in the room who doesnt have a 6ft 6" Boyfriend beside her of course. They are usually delighted to have somebody come talk to them because most guys were put off by how good she looks they think she will slap em away. I sneak in there and give em what they crave, attention .

marcphisto

I was something similar when I was younger. I was so stupid that I missed women that made it quite clear that all i had to do was say the word an we could have any amount of fun together :eek: (what I tool I was)

I'm with a right hottie now tho :cool:

I'd agree with you though, if I was to do it all again I'd be of the anything female with a heartbeat variety.

DanteMancino

When it comes to one nighters, not all that picky but if Im going to spend time with someone Ill know within 10min if its a go or not. Looks mean nothing to me if the character isn't there. If they share no interests with me or have no interest in a new point of view, Im not seeing any point. Conversation is a big one for me. Looks aren't as big a hang up for me as whether a person can maintain an interesting conversation. An interest in art and music that differs frmo the mainstream crap is a big plus.

That being said I do ahave a penchant for redheads. Have my entire life. Pale skin, copper hair - perfect....and theres the reduced sexual inhibitions that redheads invariably posses.

But then Ive black hair and dark skin so it might be the contrast I like.
hmmmm.........I'll have to think about that

LadyJ

Paddy_Irishman wrote:

I hope your stunning looking, 6ft without heels, blonde, tight assed, able to take a joke and not in mental aslyum .

Not blonde but the rest is about right. Well, 5'10...

Feel free to ejaculate over your keyboard....

Interceptor

LadyJ wrote:

Not blonde but the rest is about right. Well, 5'10...

Feel free to ejaculate over your keyboard....

I thought I told you to stop teasing me.

Danmn, kybard iss all ssttticckyy nowe...

'cptr

Paddy_Irishman

LadyJ wrote:

Not blonde but the rest is about right. Well, 5'10...

Feel free to ejaculate over your keyboard....

Well Im gonna revert to what guys do when a 'girl' over the internet says she's hot. It goes like this.... Send naked pictures .

Im sure your lovely and as tempting as the offer is I think I'll pass. I only quoted her message and she's already trying to get me to take my pants off.

Also it's a perfectly good keyboard, could be an awkward moment when I try to return it because it keeps 'jamming' keys on me.

LadyJ

Lol,they think I'm flirting!

Silly boys! I'm mocking you! Mwahahahahahahaha!

biko

I have too high demands for my own good. But then, I'd rather be be single than be with someone "just to be with someone" - it wouldn't be fair on my partner.
I've tried that it always ends in tears (hers) and blood (mine).:D

Laslo

As I've gotten older my standards in terms of looks have lowered in that I won't go out with a total babe just because she's a babe. My standards have risen considerably in terms of the type of woman I'll go for personality-wise. Emotional maturity and friendly confidence (not shi*ty, Jewish princess arrogance) makes a woman very, very, very sexy even if she doesn't look like a trophy girlfriend.

blocparty

ive got high standards as well. When i went to teeny discos i did score alot of girls and never took any relationship seriously until my last which has recently ended and i think my standards will be higher this time cause the next girl will have to be better than my last gf.

i love all the internet flirting by the way! very funny to read

Laslo

Laslo wrote:

not shi*ty, Jewish princess arrogance

Forgive my ignorance, maybe there is an innocent explanation, but could you clarify what the Jewish reference is meant to mean?

Paddy_Irishman

LadyJ wrote:

Lol,they think I'm flirting!

Silly boys! I'm mocking you! Mwahahahahahahaha!

You think thats flirting?

I think if you actually read the message it is you who is being mocked miss 5ft 10" gorgeous babe with a tight ass who is just so much fun to be around and takes jokes so well .

Then again its all in the name of fun thou .

Nightwish

I spent my entire teenage years and part of my early 20's with the same guy, so I had no chance to go out and see what I could pull. But I'll say this, both my guys I've been involved with seriously, I was close friends with them before we got together, and thats what attracted me to them.

stipey

as the Sundance Kid put it

I'm not picky. As long as she's smart........pretty..... and sweet..... and gentle...... and tender, and refined, and lovely, and carefree...

but please not somebody from the glass stomach brigade (i.e. somebody with their head so far up their own arse they would need a glass stomach to see where they are going!)

LadyJ

Deleted User wrote:

Forgive my ignorance, maybe there is an innocent explanation, but could you clarify what the Jewish reference is meant to mean?

I think he must mean "JAP" or "Jewish American Princess".

Heard it referrenced in a film once. Not sure but I think it's the (sort of) equivilant to the stereotypical "Mount Anneville" type girl.

cork-langer

petes wrote:

I go for females. Preferably with a heartbeat.

Not even nessessary. a hole will do.

Femelade

i dont have high standards really, i suppose looks comes into it, but my man makes me laugh sooo much, when i met him first, i just thought he was a nice guy , but didnt fancy him. The more i knew him the more i thought he was simply handsome and had to have him. Now i do, and he still makes me laugh like a school girl when we meet..

SimpleSam06

cork-langer wrote:

Not even nessessary. a hole will do.

Ah, a microwaved watermelon fan...

*nods head sagely*

Good taste, good taste...

cordelia

There's never been a single physical type with any guy I've been with. Ever, now that I think about it. The only common denominators I can think of is that they were all the type of guys who sit, quietly, and come out with the deadly wit at just the right moments. Funny enough that I end up bursting with laughter. But they don't sit there trying to be the life of the party,even if they are hilarious. It just seems to build from there, after I've known them a while. Builds up from a slow burn, like. So, I suppose, high standards, but not overtly physical ones.

metaoblivia

I've got high standards, I suppose. I decided a long time ago that I didn't want to be one of those girls who're in a relationship just for the sake of it, ya know? I'm interested in finding someone who I'm attracted to physically and has the qualities of a good partner (intelligence, humor and the like).

CathyMoran

I have high standards, most of them would have made great husbands (though it has take me almost 9 years to finally want to marry the man that I love), looks are not an issue, though most of them would be classified as good looking, every one of them was very intelligent, every one of them (bar one) was around 6ft plus with a great sense of humour and kind.

pbsuxok1znja4r

Deleted User wrote:

Forgive my ignorance, maybe there is an innocent explanation, but could you clarify what the Jewish reference is meant to mean?

Lol, pretty much what LadyJ said; it's kind of..american slang. Jewish American Princess. Lol, don't worry, you needn't actually be Jewish to be "JAP". Probably the Irish equivalent of the stereotypical D4 oompa loompa or something.

The fact that I've been single for 3 years tells me I must have unrealistically high standards or something. But I'm cool with that. Although I think my standards are not high physically. The girl I most adore would probably not ever be thought of as 'beautiful' by my friends.

Time Magazine

scouser.tommy wrote:

The girl I most adore would probably not ever be thought of as 'beautiful' by my friends.

I thought most of your friends fancied your sister, Ronan?




:<

shane86

Im a vacous, vain bastard that will only settle for the best tbh. Couldnt see myself going with a bird that my mates/family/people on the street didnt rate at all.

Pigman II

I have hardly any standards. As long as she doesn't have a Dublin scumbag accent or a family of idiots then she's in with a chance.

Laslo

Deleted User wrote:

Forgive my ignorance

No.

Deleted User wrote:

maybe there is an innocent explanation

There is.

Deleted User wrote:

but could you clarify what the Jewish reference is meant to mean?

No.

Jesus. The only thing that annoys me more than racists/bigots/anti-semites are rabid anti-racists. Seriously man... look it up.

Laslo

shane86 wrote:

Im a vacous, vain bastard that will only settle for the best tbh. Couldnt see myself going with a bird that my mates/family/people on the street didnt rate at all.

At least you're honest.

Black Swan

My "taste in partners?" Looks at partner and licks lips.

melekalikimaka

mine are pretty damn low... ya dont look at the mantle piece when your pokin the fire. i have this talk alot with my friends, my theory is may as well go through as many girls as possible, eventually i'll find one whom is perfect...but their arguement is if your always in a relationship you'll miss out if the one comes by and your attached...so unless your a bheater your pretty screwed...either get cosy with leftie for a few years waiting for the one...or go out their and slap the fat and ride the wave til ya meet the one

Laslo

Laslo wrote:

The only thing that annoys me more than racists/bigots/anti-semites are rabid anti-racists.

Strange.

That you would, for example, prefer a Klansman to someone just posing a pretty straightforward question.

It's a free world I guess.

Tar.Aldarion

Ridiculousy picky and that will never change. I have to be blown away by their personality and think they are good looking, both are very rare for me, let alone in one person.

Heyes

I have been informed that my taste in men is not the best, but then again a lot of my friends go for pretty boys, were as i go for "real" men... looks aside if someone can make me laugh, i dont give how they look a second thought.

abetarrush

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ThrownAway

I have hardly any standards when I'm sober. I have none when drunk... NONE I say :eek: Definitely not a picky person though.

high standard's regarding personality not so much look's but they go hand in hand
if i dont click with the person in a certain way when talking to them, then they cease to hold my interest for too long
I have faked interest in the past rarely pays off to be honest

Tar.Aldarion

Are you saying personality is directly proportional to sexual talent?

in my eyes no, but the latter help's

one can always be taught a few lessons but you cant do anything if you dont spark off someones personality

Talliesin

Life's too short to have low standards. The only thing worse though are the sad people who worry about what other people think about one's partner. Sure, it's nice when a friend comments favourably on liking my partner (whether on a physical level or not) in terms of "yay, glad to see you happy" etc. and it would certainly be a source of concern if they seemed to think someone was bad for me, but if they just don't happen to fancy him or her, then why the hell should I give a damn (unless I'd had hopes for a threesome or something I suppose).

Paddy_Irishman wrote:

I hope your stunning looking, 6ft without heels, blonde

Now here's a funny one. This was in reply to someone who for anybody's money is quite strikingly pretty. I haven't talked to her enough to get a sense of whether I'd find her sexy on a personality and energy level or not, but she's definitely pretty.

She's also not blonde and not 6ft tall. Now fair enough Paddy_Irishman presumably has a thing for tall blondes. We all have our preferences (personally, there are more redheads amongst my lovers current and former than would be statistically expected if I dated at random - even more so in the cases of just the women I've been with [and well, that dark-haired ex-boyfriend was during a period were I did set my standards low, we really weren't at all suited for each other]), but to state this as if there's some sort of absolute measure for sexiness is bizarre.

For one thing you're not even on the money as far as averages go, since it would seem that most men prefer women to be a little bit shorter than them, not all men - that's my point after all - but it has been shown to be true of most.

That aside. Are you really saying that if you met someone, thought she was hot, found that when talking to each other the conversation would turn flirty even when you didn't intend for it too and you found yourself thinking about her sexually from time to time you'd think you were "settling" in dating her if she wasn't blonde?

FFS, blonde you can get out of a bottle (though if it doesn't suit one's colouring doing so will make one less attractive rather than more).

There is a phenomenon that goes further than this where some people seem to judge attractiveness on a tickbox system (e.g. they've come to the conclusion that large breasts are attractive but rather than react organically to a woman whose breasts do something for them they mentally tick the "big breasts" box as part of some sort of tally). I'm not talking about people whose "type" fits a certain stereotype - again, we all have things that push our buttons - but who seem to actually react to a particular stereotype of sexiness precisely because it is a stereotype and they feel safer acknowledging someone's sexiness in such a case. The only plausible explanations I can think of for this is that they either don't actually have that much of a sexual response to people, or are very alientated from the responses they do have.

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

Are you saying personality is directly proportional to sexual talent?

I'd certainly say sexual talent is directly proportional to some aspects of personality. Though what aspects of someone's sexuality I found sexy would vary to what someone else did. Also, different personalities are going to be sexy in different ways (one couldn't have a permanently timid person top one in D/s play, as an obvious example).

timmy69

I feel that as long as the female is pretty presentable and with a cool personality an we hit it off, theres not much you can ask for...obviously if i were too choose id go for a hot girl, but unfortunately all the stunners are usually so dumb that it gets to be real boring after a while, for me anyway...so every girl deserves a fair chance and see what magic can happen..

Delilah

so choosy i am...if the heart doesn't get a wild beating and the mind doesn't drive me that crazy, don't have time for him even if he's a goog looking man. that streams my counting down to two.;)

darkflower

high.

and if it doesn't suit a guy..:rolleyes: next one please!:D

Demetrius

My standards seem to need oxygen at the moment.

DilbertPartII

high

would you set a standard which is low? craziness.:cool:

molypiper

have tried both. it failed. so this time i'd go in between high and low.:cool:

magnum69

high!

:cool: what's the use of having standards if you set it low?