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05-09-2006 10:21am#1Hello there,
just a quick question. I don't know if i'm able to read women right or not but here goes anyway. I know i can't
I met a girl the other night. Very good looking girl, she is in college and is a part time model, very straighforward from what i thought. I was in a pub with some friends and at the bar she just turned around, looked at me for a second then started chatting to me. Telling me this and that, i told her i had noticed her earlier in the night and she was impressed. She was very forward and said give me your phone. So she took a picture of herself with my phone, added her number to it, and then rang her own phone from mine. She asked if i wanted to move on to the next place with them but i declined as i was with friends.
So i text her the next day, and she replied later that evening, the texts were ok, but some where kinda long and others were like 2 words and stuff, only questions in some of the texts and others with just a couple of words.
The texts were basically ones you would send your friend, where do you live, i live here you? and that was the last one, i replied back last night saying where i lived and there was no reply.
I'm not panicking or anything i just want to know how to proceed. I know alot of you will say "don't play games da da", but if someone thinks you are nice and cool and calm about things then it just looks better. So what would you do next?
Bit long! sorry0
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you should of rang her man , give it a few days if you hear nothing cool , then give it a week and then ring her and have a direct aproach , dont small talk her etc , just say do you want to meet up for a coffee and such and such a day , and if she says yeah dont panic pic a day and just go for a coffe no extravagant dinners just a coffee and ask her loads of questions and saty really quite
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Dub_Ster wrote:you should of rang her man , give it a few days if you hear nothing cool , then give it a week and then ring her and have a direct aproach , dont small talk her etc , just say do you want to meet up for a coffee and such and such a day , and if she says yeah dont panic pic a day and just go for a coffe no extravagant dinners just a coffee and ask her loads of questions and saty really quite...
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Heres a thing. What if you ring them, and they don't asnwer. What then? you look like a stalker or something because theres a missed call on the phone and then you have to text them to say you tried ringing! scary stuff.
I didn't reply to her with a question. So maybe she thinks thats the end of the conversation!0 -
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oceansize wrote:Heres a thing. What if you ring them, and they don't asnwer. What then? you look like a stalker or something because theres a missed call on the phone and then you have to text them to say you tried ringing! scary stuff.
I didn't reply to her with a question. So maybe she thinks thats the end of the conversation!
no not nesscerely just leave a curt message and leave it at that , why would you look like a sico , after uve wrong her up i wouldnt text or nothing i never text women i ring them ! it shows to thing confidance plus texting is so tedous .
your playing to much of your heart touch it under the sleave for a few more months.... and make it none that your not bothered if she talk's to you or not .
Oh and heres the thing , she gave you her number .
she made contact with you ,but dont be so self conous which your doing, have the confidance to ring the girl its not hard its not scarey 9 times out of ten theyle answer . women love to talk on the phone fact .. exploit it ...
but set your self some guide lines to what your going to talk about on the phone , and avoid like the pluage small talk .
and make shore you allway's hang up first .
and no bye bye bye bye bye ..blah blah blah
just , see ya .
oh and reading women is stupid they dont **** with your head you do , and no man can understand women .0 -
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oceansize wrote:To answer the girl above, yeah she's quite hot. And you say she may be sick of fellas cracking onto her, she started talking to me. So thats ok in that respect i suppose. I love this whole phone call thing. I think you all might be onto something!
I sent her the last text, saying where i lived as she asked me, it was late so she didn't reply after that. Now she is quite nice so i'd hate to see an opportunity missed like that, she's not the typical girl i meet, where i need to start chatting bull to them to try and get them talking about themselves.
So i'll leave it for now. When do you think i should call her so? Maybe Friday or something? Ask her if she wants to go for a coupla sneaky pints
there you go mate see phone calls work , texts just show your shy . its not hard well it is but ule get over it
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oceansize wrote:. Dub_Ster. I am quite shy and i'd say coffee would be great but i need a bit of dutch courage. Maybe ask her for a coffee and take about 32mg of Codein before i meet her!
We do have stuff to talk about though, as i'm in a band and huge into music, and she is apparently as well... i'm Sh*tting myself even thinking about it!
ok so your shy who aint ? but there two ways you can go down this road , one is you can go oh im shy this is going to be really embarising blah blah blah .
or You can say right im shy only i can fix it , not only will you be fine regardless of alcahol, but ule gain more from it self confidance , self worth , and shel respect you more .
and beisdes your forgettung the big picture .
she wants to get to no you . she gave you her number .
adn why do us dudes me included say were shy when where meeting women , when women find shyness uterly repulsive so ive been told .
so quite that she sound like a cool girl and letting all your emotion's get oin front of you wont help at all , just kep your composher trust me .. 0 -
Ye i'll forget about it now till later! I suppose she wouldn't have started talking to me and putting her number in my phone and ringing her own phone etc if she didn't want it to go any further then that conversation. If she is a pr*ck tease then it's better that i find out now eh!Dub_Ster wrote:ok so your shy who aint ? but there two ways you can go down this road , one is you can go oh im shy this is going to be really embarising blah blah blah .
or You can say right im shy only i can fix it , not only will you be fine regardless of alcahol, but ule gain more from it self confidance , self worth , and shel respect you more .
and beisdes your forgettung the big picture .
she wants to get to no you . she gave you her number .
adn why do us dudes me included say were shy when where meeting women , when women find shyness uterly repulsive so ive been told .
so quite that she sound like a cool girl and letting all your emotion's get oin front of you wont help at all , just kep your composher trust me ..
Thanks for the advice, i'll let you know how i get on tomorrow0 -
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You haven't fvcked it up. Like Beruthiel said, she was giving you an in with that line. The "don't know yet" was an invitation for you to reply with something along the lines of "Well, do you want to?"...
Don't give up hope yet, sounds to me like you're just losing context on some of the text messages.0 -
Holy sweet mother of suffering divine Jeebus..??! Are you serious Oceansize... a very hot, confident, seemingly well adjusted girl approaches you at a bar, photo's herself with your fon, saves her number for you, then rings herself to ensure she has your number too. Quite an elaborate ordeal for someone who is not interested in you wouldnt you say? :rolleyes: I'd be checking over my shoulder for Jake Stevens and his camera crew!!
The way I see it, she did alllll of this for one of three reasons;
1. She is a sycophantic attention seeker low on esteem and enjoying the giddy thrill of the attention she was getting from you and others watching. Probability: Very low
2. It was a staged incident to rankle someone else who may have been watching on... like an unattentive bf or something of that ilk. Priobability: Not beyond the realms of possibility but unlikely in this case given she asked you to move to the next bar with her.
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3. She digged your action and was straightforward enough to make that patently obvious.
Originally Posted by oceansize
I asked her if she was meetin any good looking guys the weekend...
10/10 for glib witticism I thought - a clever way of saying "Do you fancy meeting up" without having to say it... but clearly not when she replied...
"don't know yet" - the answer you were waitng for surely - and you didnt close the deal there and then..? I'm stunned. How do you normally score women? Do they show up naked at your house? With beer?
Sorry, dont mean to be facetious, just cant believe you are making such hard work of this for yourself. Her dodging your first invitation by asking where you work is just her way of playing a little hard to get I suppose, I mean she had basically thrown her self at you up til then and maybe she wanted to realign the dynamic before you met..?
Either way, ring her up. Be very friendly but brisk. Tell her youve thought about her a bit since you met (do not tell her just how much though!
) and tell her you would like to know when she's free for you both to hook up for a coffee or drink. Arrange a venue, time, place. Great see you then Bye. End of.
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Sp@rtacus wrote:Holy sweet mother of suffering divine Jeebus..??! Are you serious Oceansize... a very hot, confident, seemingly well adjusted girl approaches you at a bar, photo's herself with your fon, saves her number for you, then rings herself to ensure she has your number too. Quite an elaborate ordeal for someone who is not interested in you wouldnt you say? :rolleyes: I'd be checking over my shoulder for Jake Stevens and his camera crew!!
The way I see it, she did alllll of this for one of three reasons;
1. She is a sycophantic attention seeker low on esteem and enjoying the giddy thrill of the attention she was getting from you and others watching. Probability: Very low
2. It was a staged incident to rankle someone else who may have been watching on... like an unattentive bf or something of that ilk. Priobability: Not beyond the realms of possibility but unlikely in this case given she asked you to move to the next bar with her.
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3. She digged your action and was straightforward enough to make that patently obvious.
Originally Posted by oceansize
I asked her if she was meetin any good looking guys the weekend...
10/10 for glib witticism I thought - a clever way of saying "Do you fancy meeting up" without having to say it... but clearly not when she replied...
"don't know yet" - the answer you were waitng for surely - and you didnt close the deal there and then..? I'm stunned. How do you normally score women? Do they show up naked at your house? With beer?
Sorry, dont mean to be facetious, just cant believe you are making such hard work of this for yourself. Her dodging your first invitation by asking where you work is just her way of playing a little hard to get I suppose, I mean she had basically thrown her self at you up til then and maybe she wanted to realign the dynamic before you met..?
Either way, ring her up. Be very friendly but brisk. Tell her youve thought about her a bit since you met (do not tell her just how much though! ) and tell her you would like to know when she's free for you both to hook up for a coffee or drink. Arrange a venue, time, place. Great see you then Bye. End of.
Good luck.
10/10 post, i was laughing readin it! brilliant.
Well usually i score women by knowing them. I'm not hot on talking to people i don't know when there is no reason to!
She didn't dig my action! I was standing behind her at the bar talking, she turned around, looked at me for a second, then started yapping.
I'll just leave it, she's beautiful and i suppose acts the way someone would want them to act, but i've got myself in a fluster over it now and i'll just end up being nervous!.0 -
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Kell wrote::rolleyes:
S'no wonder women feel like they can never get chatted up and blokes moan about getting girls.
Ruthie- you and I should write a book "The Dummy's Guide to Fulfilling Relationships and how to Start Them", quickly followed by another best selling "Dummy's Guide to Surviving the Perfect Relationship that went pear shaped".
Pfft.
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Not to mention the dummies guide for posters replying to threads where the OP doesnt have an issue in the first place 0 -
marksuttonie wrote:Not to mention the dummies guide for posters replying to threads where the OP doesnt have an issue in the first place
It is an issue, self confidence? Interpersonal skills?0 -
marksuttonie wrote:Not to mention the dummies guide for posters replying to threads where the OP doesnt have an issue in the first place
All I can see, looking at PI, looking at my own life also, is that God must be drunk.0 -
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