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Gay brother??

LegacyUser · 2006-04-20 11:08:53

My brother might be gay, what should I do?? I'm not asking how can this be changed haha no I not homophobic in anyway just wondering what I should do to help him he's 18 and basically I caught him looking at some porn that would suggest he was gay. having confronting him about it later which I know wasn't the best move he…

20-04-2006 11:08am

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My brother might be gay, what should I do?? I'm not asking how can this be changed haha no I not homophobic in anyway just wondering what I should do to help him he's 18 and basically I caught him looking at some porn that would suggest he was gay.
having confronting him about it later which I know wasn't the best move he just denied it saying he wasn't and didn't want to talk about basically to fu*k off for myself!
If he was gay I would not have a problem although other members of family probably would so can understand his reservations plus I'm not really the go-to kinda guy.
should I just wait for him to deal with it in his own way and mind my own business, I'm conflicted
Tyrone

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#2 20-04-2006 11:12am

Beruthiel

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WorriedOlderBro wrote:

having confronting him about it later which I know wasn't the best move

did you happen to mention at the time that you had no problem with the fact he might be?

he just denied it saying he wasn't and didn't want to talk about basically to fu*k off for myself!

he has made his thoughts clear then

should I just wait for him to deal with it in his own way and mind my own business

I believe you probably should, when he's ready to deal with coming out then he'll do it. You should just be there support him when he does.

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#3 20-04-2006 11:36am

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Hey, I see you went unreg but you might want to remove your name from your post.

I would be inclined to let him deal with it himself although if you can, reassure him that he has ally in you and that you'll be there for him 100% should he choose to come out.

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#4 20-04-2006 11:41am

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btw
would you not prefer to have this in the G/L/B Forum, you can post unregged there too and the folks there might have some more useful ideas for you

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#5 20-04-2006 12:03pm

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Well, all you can really do is let him know you're there for him if he wants to talk, that you care, and wouldn't judge. At the end of the day, if he isn't ready to talk about it, you can't force him.

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#6 20-04-2006 12:09pm

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how do you go unreg,just out of curiosty.

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#7 20-04-2006 12:14pm

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you log out and then post.

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#8 20-04-2006 2:02pm

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Thaedydal wrote:

you log out and then post.

thanks

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#9 20-04-2006 4:55pm

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A similar thread cropped up on the LGB forum a little while ago. It might be worth a read.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054905856

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#10 20-04-2006 4:55pm

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A similar thread cropped up on the LGB forum a little while ago. It might be worth a read.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054905856

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#11 20-04-2006 5:08pm

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Make it clear that you have no problem either way, but then just drop it unless he brings it up. Worst thing would be if he thinks that you're about to mention it everytime it happens to just be the two of you around. Would be very uncomfortable for him and make him less likely to talk about it with you

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