Save yourself a lot of time women

If you find yourself trying to figure out a partner's behavior and are one of those people (women especially) who constantly make excuses for trying to "figure them out"

Ever just wonder whether he's really that into you?
Do you think if you stopped to think about that and not use excuses would it stop your endless hours of thinking about what's going on in their mind ?

Same goes for men if/when they do it

Yes this is based on a quote from sex and the city
only brought it up becuase they brought out a book of same title and was thinking to myself
Will it even make a blind bit of difference
If you really like someone and are not sure??? your always gonna be making excuses!!! Can you really eventually cop on?

Merrick

The way I see it is that you can never really know for sure what's going on in their mind, so there's no point in obsessively trying to figure it out.

mickymg2003

Its better not to think about it or question whether somebody likes you.

Yeah but i know for a fact a lot of women and men still spend a lot of time trying to

Merrick

Well yeah they inevitably will try, especially if they really like the person, but it's sometimes best to try not to think about it too much.

Beruthiel

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Do you think if you stopped to think about that and not use excuses would it stop your endless hours of thinking about what's going on in their mind ?

why do you feel the need to spend endless hours trying to figure out what's going on in his mind? all that does is help you make up stuff that may not be true.
I suggest you stop thinking and just go with it

Yes this is based on a quote from sex and the city

not real life you know

Can you really eventually cop on?

yes you can, once you grow up and learn from previous mistakes

Femelade

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Yeah but i know for a fact a lot of women and men still spend a lot of time trying to

well i guess some people dont want to find out they have been wasting all their time and energy on someone for a length of time only to find out that their significant other wasn't really too bothered in the first place.

ST*

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Yes this is based on a quote from sex and the city
only brought it up becuase they brought out a book of same title and was thinking to myself Will it even make a blind bit of difference If you really like someone and are not sure??? your always gonna be making excuses!!! Can you really eventually cop on?

CSG, put away the volumes of SATC and live your own life. Stop trying to figure it all out, you arent doing yourself any favours. its only by trial and error that we figure this stuff out throughout our lives. Its not good to live in denial, so if you feel like a boyf doesnt feel the same as you -then move on. Do not ever settle, you are only fooling yourself tbh.

You seem like a nice girl, but you will worry yourself to death wondering what people think of you.

Beruthiel

Beruthiel wrote:

why do you feel the need to spend endless hours trying to figure out what's going on in his mind? all that does is help you make up stuff that may not be true.
I suggest you stop thinking and just go with it

Yes this is based on a quote from sex and the city

not real life you know

Can you really eventually cop on?

yes you can, once you grow up and learn from previous mistakes

Why do ya think the situation in question is too out of this world to be loosely based on real life?

Shock_treatment

Shock_treatment wrote:

CSG, put away the volumes of SATC and live your own life. Stop trying to figure it all out, you arent doing yourself any favours. its only by trial and error that we figure this stuff out throughout our lives. Its not good to live in denial, so if you feel like a boyf doesnt feel the same as you -then move on. Do not ever settle, you are only fooling yourself tbh.

You seem like a nice girl, but you will worry yourself to death wondering what people think of you.

I'm not in this situation at all ....doesnt apply to me!!!!!!
this is an obervation on a quote that they have now written a book on
thats all
just wanted to know people's opinions!

ST*

coolsmileygirl wrote:

I'm not in this situation at all ....doesnt apply to me!!!!!!this is an obervation on a quote that they have now written a book on thats all just wanted to know people's opinions!

Misread then soz my thoughts on the matter were in there anyway.
Its never actually happened to me tbh. If I even began to feel this way, I'd be out of there. I wouldn't settle for living in doubt, that would just make me miserable tbh.

Kernel

There's a honeymoon period in a relationship where it's all great, but after that, a lot of the time you girls just wreck our heads. You'll notice that when your man starts wanting to have more 'lads' nights out - and I reckon that is why women often have trouble with lads nights out. I dunno, probably not enough depth to your characters or something for you to be considered interesting enough for us. After a while it becomes a bit tedious listening to the same girly stuff yet again.

I'm pretty sure you know if someone is not interested in you though, but be careful not to confuse that with the normal progression of a relationship, comfort zones and the 7 year itch for new fanny.

Pighead

Shock_treatment wrote:

CSG, put away the volumes of SATC and live your own life.

With every post Shock_treatment makes Pighead becomes more convinced she is in fact a he.To be continued.

On topic Pighead finds it easy to tell how the chicks are feeling about him. They're forever telling me how great I am so its no great mystery at all.

Kernel

Pighead wrote:

With every post Shock_treatment makes Pighead becomes more convinced she is in fact a he.To be continued.

Yeah, ST is a man, I'm with you on that one snout face.

Pighead

:eek: She/He/It deleted her/his/its post.
She/Her/It replyed with a simple lol, 5 minutes later the laughter died. What the hells going on Shock. Why are you hiding the laughter and more importantly why on earth are you hiding your Penis?
Answers demands Pighead.

AngryBadger

Since this thread is directed at women, I think it's an opportune time to throw out my two cents for the girls vis-a-vis the boys.

If you are not sure whether he likes you or not, ask him. Anything other than this will only result in a complicated mess.

That is all.

ZiabR

I tried to read a gf before and it turned out bad. You end up wrecking thier head and your own. Never do it, its just not worth even thinking about.

Kernel

Pighead wrote:

:eek: She/He/It deleted her/his/its post.
She/Her/It replyed with a simple lol, 5 minutes later the laughter died. What the hells going on Shock. Why are you hiding the laughter and more importantly why on earth are you hiding your Penis?
Answers demands Pighead.

Shock Treatment: It rubs the lotion on its skin. It does this whenever it is told.

Ms. Piggy: Mister... my family will pay cash. Whatever ransom you're askin' for, they pay it.

Shock Treatment: It rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.
[to his dog, Precious]

Shock Treatment: Yes, it will, Precious, won't it? It will get the hose!

Ms. Piggy: Okay... okay... okay. Mister, if you let me go, I won't - I won't press charges I promise. See, my mom is a real important woman... I guess you already know that.

Shock Treatment: Now it places the lotion in the basket.

Ms. Piggy: Please! Please I wanna go home! I wanna go home please!

Shock Treatment: It places the lotion in the basket.

Ms. Piggy: I wanna see my mommy! Please I wanna see my...

Shock Treatment: Put the ****ing lotion in the basket!

AngryBadger

AngryBadger wrote:

Since this thread is directed at women, I think it's an opportune time to throw out my two cents for the girls vis-a-vis the boys.

If you are not sure whether he likes you or not, ask him. Anything other than this will only result in a complicated mess.

That is all.

Yes you would think its that simple but im my experience of men (other womens) they would rather have their arm chopped off while hanging it out a bus window than having to say this to a woman because more than likely will result in shouting /crying / yelling /kicking etc etc etc

men are pathetic when it comes to tellin truth like this

AngryBadger

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Yes you would think its that simple but im my experience of men (other womens) they would rather have their arm chopped off while hanging it out a bus window than having to say this to a woman because more than likely will result in shouting /crying / yelling /kicking etc etc etc

men are pathetic when it comes to tellin truth like this

Sorry now you just shifted the goal posts there. I'm talking about whether or not someone is ATTRACTED to you, I'm not talking about IN LOVE with you. On that score, it's a tad more complicated, and maybe if you opened your mind just a smidgen you'd realise the reason most guys don't like having to say IT, is because we express our feelings differently, and if we're out there being affectionate, attentive and just a generally good guy, it undermines our committment, (and thus annoys us), when the gf starts pressuring us into saying the words.

Kernel

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Yes you would think its that simple but im my experience of men (other womens) they would rather have their arm chopped off while hanging it out a bus window than having to say this to a woman because more than likely will result in shouting /crying / yelling /kicking etc etc etc

men are pathetic when it comes to tellin truth like this

Maybe women should stop playing on a man's conscience, and stop making him feel bad with an emotional tirade when a man breaks up with them then?

Kiera

Kernel wrote:

Maybe women should stop playing on a man's conscience, and stop making him feel bad with an emotional tirade when a man breaks up with them then?

Going through a bad break up, Kernel??

Wanna talk about it?

jonny68

Merrick wrote:

The way I see it is that you can never really know for sure what's going on in their mind, so there's no point in obsessively trying to figure it out.

Who birds?your dead right,most straight blokes are straightforward whereas birds are seriously complicated,if women were less complicated a lot more relationships would actually work IMO (Judging from experience as well)

Kernel

Kiera wrote:

Going through a bad break up, Kernel??

Wanna talk about it?

Pighead... he's not even returning my calls anymore. The bastard lied to me ... he said it was forever. He can keep his ring! (nudge nudge)

Kernel

jonny68 wrote:

Who birds?your dead right,most straight blokes are straightforward whereas birds are seriously complicated,if women were less complicated a lot more relationships would actually work IMO (Judging from experience as well)

Amen brother. They should go back to their subservient role as our bitches and child bearers and stop trying to live in the man's complicated world!

It all went wrong when we allowed them to vote.

Kiera

Kernel wrote:

Pighead... he's not even returning my calls anymore. The bastard lied to me ... he said it was forever. He can keep his ring! (nudge nudge)

Well seeing as i'm newly single i'll look after you and treat you well my lovely, Kernel x x x x

AngryBadger

AngryBadger wrote:

Sorry now you just shifted the goal posts there. I'm talking about whether or not someone is ATTRACTED to you, I'm not talking about IN LOVE with you. On that score, it's a tad more complicated, and maybe if you opened your mind just a smidgen you'd realise the reason most guys don't like having to say IT, is because we express our feelings differently, and if we're out there being affectionate, attentive and just a generally good guy, it undermines our committment, (and thus annoys us), when the gf starts pressuring us into saying the words.

I'm not really talking about Love either
i'm talking about like
as in enough feelings to date someone

AngryBadger

coolsmileygirl wrote:

I'm not really talking about Love either
i'm talking about like as in enough feelings to date someone

Well then it's simple, "Do you wanna go out sometime?". If he says yes, mystery solved, everyone goes home happy.

Kernel

Kiera wrote:

Well seeing as i'm newly single i'll look after you and treat you well my lovely, Kernel x x x x

[looks at know your nerds photo]...

RESULT!

AngryBadger

Kernel wrote:

[looks at know your nerds photo]...

RESULT!

pretty much

metrovelvet

CSG- Dont look to Sex & the city for answers. I can tell you as someone who grew up in manhattan, its BS. Altogether.

I do agree that women make a lot of excuses for men and tend to believe what they want to believe.

Forget that book Hes Not that Into You. **** it. Stop listening to the BS men say [they lie you know, they lie to each other too, I dont think they can help themselves due to living in a culture which doesnt permit them to show anything but bravado - hence your comments about their resistance to showing vulerability] and judge by their actions.

When a man likes you you will know it. They act on it. If they dont then their fear of rejection is outweighing their attraction/feelings for you and well, hmnnn I just dont have time for that.
IMO I think men are more romantic than us in the end. And also hornier, thats why everything they say is about getting down your panties.

Merrick

jonny68 wrote:

Who birds?your dead right,most straight blokes are straightforward whereas birds are seriously complicated,if women were less complicated a lot more relationships would actually work IMO (Judging from experience as well)

Ah now straight guys can be surprisingly complicated themselves. You lot are not exactly as straightforward as you like to think you are. This is of course coming from my own experience.

Ickle Magoo

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Ever just wonder whether he's really that into you?
D

Nope, I assume because he is with me he is into me until proven otherwise.....I find if I assume a relationship will fail then it does....:)

Femelade

Kernel wrote:

Shock Treatment: It rubs the lotion on its skin. It does this whenever it is told.

Ms. Piggy: Mister... my family will pay cash. Whatever ransom you're askin' for, they pay it.

Shock Treatment: It rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.
[to his dog, Precious]

Shock Treatment: Yes, it will, Precious, won't it? It will get the hose!

Ms. Piggy: Okay... okay... okay. Mister, if you let me go, I won't - I won't press charges I promise. See, my mom is a real important woman... I guess you already know that.

Shock Treatment: Now it places the lotion in the basket.

Ms. Piggy: Please! Please I wanna go home! I wanna go home please!

Shock Treatment: It places the lotion in the basket.

Ms. Piggy: I wanna see my mommy! Please I wanna see my...

Shock Treatment: Put the ****ing lotion in the basket!

what in gods name is that about....

metrovelvet

metrovelvet wrote:

CSG- Dont look to Sex & the city for answers. I can tell you as someone who grew up in manhattan, its BS. Altogether.

I do agree that women make a lot of excuses for men and tend to believe what they want to believe.

Forget that book Hes Not that Into You. **** it. Stop listening to the BS men say [they lie you know, they lie to each other too, I dont think they can help themselves due to living in a culture which doesnt permit them to show anything but bravado - hence your comments about their resistance to showing vulerability] and judge by their actions.

When a man likes you you will know it. They act on it. If they dont then their fear of rejection is outweighing their attraction/feelings for you and well, hmnnn I just dont have time for that.
IMO I think men are more romantic than us in the end. And also hornier, thats why everything they say is about getting down your panties.

This is only an obervation on a quote that they have now written a book on
I do think its Bull**** hence i was questioning it
when i said "Will it even make a blind bit of difference" ?
I dont listen to men's S**T either

also fear of rejection is another excuse used by women to talk about men that probably just dont like them

ST*

Pighead wrote:

Why are you hiding the laughter and more importantly why on earth are you hiding your Penis?

*Pushes generous sized penis back between the legs*

What penis?
What post?

It was more of a smirk moment than an lol tbh Pighead.

Femmy wrote:

what in gods name is that about....

I did wonder myself..

AngryBadger

Femmy wrote:

what in gods name is that about....

Where in Hell's bowels did that come from?

Shock have you been rubbing lotion on under the instruction of puppets?

AngryBadger

coolsmileygirl wrote:

This is only an obervation on a quote that they have now written a book on
I do think its Bull**** hence i was questioning it
when i said "Will it even make a blind bit of difference" ?
I dont listen to men's S**T either

also fear of rejection is another excuse used by women to talk about men that probably just dont like them

Well done on reading a book, have you ever thought that if you posted less of this hate-mongering garbage you might get less crap from guys? On boards at least

ST*

AngryBadger wrote:

Shock ahve you been rubbing lotion on under the instruction of puppets?

Havent a breeze what the hell he is bangin on about badger boy.
maybe hes sniffin the same sh1t you were yesterday when you came up with the pacman thread :v: :v: :v:

Pighead

Shock_treatment wrote:

*Pushes generous sized penis back between the legs*

What penis?
What post?

It was more of a smirk moment than an lol tbh Pighead.

You have to get up very early in the morning to catch this poster out. Pighead is on to you Cock_Treatment.

i didnt read it but to be honest pretty much gives it away in the title

do you think its hate-mongering against guys

how so?

ST*

Pighead wrote:

You have to get up very early in the morning to catch this poster out. Pighead is on to you Cock_Treatment.

Now that was worth an LOL.

Terry

badger was quoting lines from silence of the lambs.

Merrick

coolsmileygirl wrote:

i didnt read it but to be honest pretty much gives it away in the title

do you think its hate-mongering against guys

how so?

I didn't think it was hate mongering...

julep

julep wrote:

badger was quoting lines from silence of the lambs.

Shame on you badger
p***k:D

AngryBadger

Shock_treatment wrote:

Havent a breeze what the hell he is bangin on about badger boy.
maybe hes sniffin the same sh1t you were yesterday when you came up with the pacman thread :v: :v: :v:

That's some good sh1t, Go PACMAN!!! :v: :v: :v:

coolsmileygirl wrote:

do you think its hate-mongering against guys

Let's see now

coolsmileygirl wrote:

I dont listen to men's S**T either

and...

coolsmileygirl wrote:

men are pathetic

I'll let you make your own mind up.

metrovelvet

It has made a difference to all the dumb women who believe their bull****. The men are now finding counter strategies because they are getting dumped left right and centre.

Well they are like this because we make it easy for them. They don't have to work for it.

As for fear of rejection - yes that dumb excuse. Ffs, a mans worth is measured by how well he can overcome his fear isnt it? Dont you like a man who can face his fear and step up? And guys, dont you feel really proud when you can do that?

And men are not as simple creatures as they make out! No way.

Heyes

Us girls do over think everything, its probable what causes most of our worries, because were been stupid and making situations and problems that are nt even there. Basically thinking too much.

The way i deal with things is, if i have a worry i say it, if i have an opinion i say it, and if anything needs to be asked, then it is done ... Simple as.

Saves a lot of hassle

connundrum

Heyes wrote:

Us girls do over think everything

That is all.

:v:

Merrick

metrovelvet wrote:

It has made a difference to all the dumb women who believe their bull****.

Can this be classed as hate mongering against women?

AngryBadger

Merrick wrote:

Can this be classed as hate mongering against women?

i think that was a blast against both genders Level playing field, can't beat it