I Don't Want To Wait For Our Lives To Be Over.

Tar.Aldarion

I want to know right now, what will it be;

Will you go through your life aimlessly or do you have an aim in life?
Is there anything you want to achieve before your time runs out?
I think we should embrace this life of ours and am not going to regret with having any more "what if's".
Maybe more of us should start letting instinct control reason in some cases and do what we have always wanted to do.
All we have is the very moment, and I don't want to do what his father and his father and his father did, I want to be here now.

So is there anything you have regretted not doing and want to do and is there anything that you want to do that you feel is very unique to you, what is it?
Maybe pretty normal ones might be to write a book, travel to every country, see all your favourite bands play, reconcile with a hurt friend or have a child?
Or verily is it the case that you just want to enjoy life and have no aim of which to speak of?

Basq

Could have done without the 'Dawson's Creek' flashback in the title........




..... not that i watched it or anything!

Atrocity

Christ there's so many what-if's already. I don't have any aims or dreams anymore. I just want to struggle along and survive until thirty

ST*

basquille wrote:

Could have done without the 'Dawson's Creek' flashback in the title............. not that i watched it or anything!

we all did :rolleyes: Least I did for the first couple for the first couple of series. I got pished of waiting for dawson and yer woman to get it on again.
did they ever

LovelyHurling

Yeah dawson and joey got together...


my sister watched it okay!

I have a list of life goals actually, havent fulfilled more than 5 of them since im only 21. some of them are small things like pass my finals and graduate, others are more ambitious. Whethr you make a list or not, it's important to at least know your goals and be able to rattle them off. How else are you going to aim if you haven't got targets in front of ya?!

ronbyrne2005

death is inevitable,life is futile ,everything is pointless ,on your deathbed will you look back on all these aims/goals??

Tar.Aldarion

ronbyrne2005 wrote:

death is inevitable,life is futile ,everything is pointless ,on your deathbed will you look back on all these aims/goals??

You can look back and be happy that you had a book about your life, a child, a lover and that you made a go of things?
Or even that you lived a happy life and had good friends.
Your goal could be to get to a ripe old age before the deathbed has to be lay upon.

Dathai

I go through it partially aimlessly.I dont plan ahead in years.For instance, Ive just been broken up with on new years day.And Ive done my best to forget about it.There was a girl I used to see alot before I went out with my ex, and I seen her there the other day, and just remembered how much I still like her.I have yet to speak to her, but I will eventually
So thats the only goal I have for the moment.
Oh, that and staying alive.

I regret plenty of things, many that Ive gotten over now, but still suck to think that I actually did them.

LovelyHurling

Ah sure you have to have regrets, itsd be very boring if we had nothing to cruinge at. As long as you keep a few basic rules like not getting naked in front of your grandparents and or having sex in public, id say just do whatever!
Keep the goalposts in sight though you never know when ya could get a shot

spiderlegs

I don't ever want to look back on life and have so many "what ifs" so I tend to just grab every oppurtunity...
I try not to waste my time and if I'm bored or unhappy I just try and move on from whatever it is I don't like.
I have goals and stuff too though I don't wanna say what they are and jinx them...I completed one today though, I finally did the crossword!! (with only a lil help)

LovelyHurling

that crossword in the times is a fuppin joke, i bet its all a cod and there arent any real solutions! i do the simplex one though which makes me feel better... sad i know

spiderlegs

LovelyHurling wrote:

that crossword in the times is a fuppin joke, i bet its all a cod and there arent any real solutions! i do the simplex one though which makes me feel better... sad i know

Ah here now I'm talkin' about the simplex so no it's not sad....I'll move onto the crosaire in a few years time...but still I felt quite proud finishin' it all the same.

Vikings

I go through life one aim at a time, first it was get to college - achieved (sort of), then it was get a job - achieved, now its get a car. Once I meet one aim I can get on to the next, which will be a holiday later in the year for me.

If you plan too far ahead you cant enjoy the now as all you think about is those plans.

jay-me

I have no real aim in life yet and time is slowly dwindling along...

LovelyHurling

spiderlegs wrote:

Ah here now I'm talkin' about the simplex so no it's not sad....I'll move onto the crosaire in a few years time...but still I felt quite proud finishin' it all the same.

Oh no wanst knocking it, I even cheat at the simplex, leave blanks and everything (to be filled in with next days solutions ahem!) so fair play

I have no real aim in life yet and time is slowly dwindling along...

Thats the spirit

LegacyUser

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

I want to know right now, what will it be;

Will you go through your life aimlessly or do you have an aim in life?
Is there anything you want to achieve before your time runs out?
I think we should embrace this life of ours and am not going to regret with having any more "what if's".
Maybe more of us should start letting instinct control reason in some cases and do what we have always wanted to do.
All we have is the very moment, and I don't want to do what his father and his father and his father did, I want to be here now.

So is there anything you have regretted not doing and want to do and is there anything that you want to do that you feel is very unique to you, what is it?
Maybe pretty normal ones might be to write a book, travel to every country, see all your favourite bands play, reconcile with a hurt friend or have a child?
Or verily is it the case that you just want to enjoy life and have no aim of which to speak of?

Wow, cool thread!
For as long as I can remember I wanted to be 'in the media'.
I dreamt of being a journalist, and my mam got little typewriter for Christmas, when I was about 10, I used to write for the local Chruch Newsletter.
I was also really into Dancing, drama and singing, and If I wasn't a famous journalist, I would be famous for my 'artistic qualities'

I went on to do a HND in journalism, when there I did some work experience in a local radio station, loved it, and went on to do a HND in radio, followed by a media degree.

My entire life has been geared toward an exciting life in the media, and yet for some reason, now that I have graduated college, I find myself working for an IT company.

How the hell did that happen??????

LovelyHurling

Cos in the game of scoring goals, you're playin Tyrone:D

daiixi

At the moment my aim is to have fun and to travel around the world. I'm slowly getting there and I think I have the rest of my travelling planned out (but I've been saying that for the past 6 months and my plans change every fortnight!!).
Apart from travelling and having fun, one day I want to settle down somewhere, find a job I love, buy a home and enjoy the rest of my life.

JohnCleary

I'm pretty proud of my goals, rather than my aims...

A car drove right over my spine, and I Was only *nearly* paralysed

Dave!

hmmm... well I'm quite ambitious in that I'm always making plans and getting ideas or developing new interests (or saying "hey that's cool!" and never getting around to doing it ), so I've got alot of things that I want to do in my life.

The main plan is to do alot of travelling. I've never been outside of Ireland with any independence, and I've got so many places I want to see. After college (or maybe if I drop out), I'm hoping to get a job and work for a while, until I'm able to afford to travel for a bit -- then I'll settle in another country and work there until I can afford to continue my travels, and I'll hopefully progress like that (that's the plan anyway).

Of course, I don't plan on doing that forever; when I've finished that, I want to settle into a job that I enjoy, maybe become a cop (in another country), and start a big family (at least 4 kids -- any volunteers to be my wife?;)).

So my main goal is to travel alot!

Rb

Jesus Tar, lay off the drugs.:p

tonymontana

I just read a book over xmas about all this, "7 habits of highly effective people". One of his main points is that without goals we'll ramble through life without acheiving anything. He suggests to acheive these goals we need to write them down as a mission statement. You should continually refer to your mission statement to remind you of your goals. I actually found this quite good. I kinda just scribbled down a few roles and objectives eg job, student, sport, family, exercise, friends, and then jotted down things both long term and short term that I wanted to acheive. It helped put things in perspective and its a good read, if a little weighty at times.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/0684858398/qid=1136748743/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl/026-5579254-3298047

dr zoidberg

ronbyrne2005 wrote:

death is inevitable,life is futile ,everything is pointless ,on your deathbed will you look back on all these aims/goals??

Ah, the existentialism of youth

Direction is very important in life, you need to have something to aim for, but at the same time it's important to be realistic. At least a few simple goals, if nothing else.

At the moment my goals are to complete my degree, to get a job, to get a decent apartment or house somewhere in Dublin (so much for realism!), to travel a bit and possibly work abroad (probably EU not a great fan of the US), and then maybe do a masters degree, depending on how things go. That's basically the way I see my life going.

tonymontana wrote:

I just read a book over xmas about all this, "7 habits of highly effective people". One of his main points is that without goals we'll ramble through life without acheiving anything.

Very true. I think this is the cause of a lot of depression.

LovelyHurling

I think the main thing to assessing your life goals is not to get over ambitious. Ambition is fine as long as it's achievable. Im surprised im in favour of this actually, anything life-coachey at all usually makes me wretch:D

TheVan

Open a bookshop/music shop á la High Fidelity....one of my many ambitions!

PJG

tonymontana wrote:

"7 habits of highly effective people".

good read, also Robin Sharma has some good stuff. Also Eckhart Tolle.

spiderlegs

TheVan wrote:

Open a bookshop/music shop á la High Fidelity....one of my many ambitions!

That would be sooo cool.

jrey1981

I am hoping I can finish the book I am writing and that it actually gets published and a few people read it.

Am thinking about doing a writing course to branch into fiction, to meet people and try and improve my writing and my vocabulary.

Sillysausage - sorry to hear you are working in IT - I am a struggling journalism graduate and if I can be of any help with sounding out ideas, feel free to pm me.

keevita

keep dreaming of a quaint little apartment in a small meditteranean seaside town, near enough to a big city, down v southerly so i can go to spain anytime i want... and my apartment would be full of throws over the furniture, unusual pottery, big cushions, plants, paintings photographs... and id wear scarfs and big sunglasses and take walks by the sea every morning, but id have a bike with a wicker basket and a puppy and id buy baguettes and make real coffee on my little gas stove and read classics and listen to jazz... and the wine...oh the wine!!

this daydreaming is why im going to fail my french exam...stupid politics. :mad:

mise_me_fein_V2

Life's a struggle I suppose. Depending on how you look on things.

You compare your current situation to where you wanna be in life, expectations and targets.

You think when you get to those targets you'll be happy, and you will probably but rarely do you know when you're really happy, only when you look back on it do you know.

Don't get stuck in a rut I think is a good motto.
Big deal if people are earning loads of money, this country has gone to fcuk in many ways.

The art of conversation seems to be gone.
I mean when you go to a pub, it's usually thump thump music.

We're living like Americans were money is everything, well a lot of us are.

All this goes out the window though, when you know your lucky to be alive.

Car accident or whatever, but after a while you slip back into the old ways.

That's what I think.

Nightwish

There are so many things I'd love to do with my life, career wise, but I dont have faith in myself to be able to do them. I'm graduating college this summer and I dont want to work in the field of my degree, so I've to decide on a masters, but I dont know what...

LovelyHurling

Nightwish wrote:

There are so many things I'd love to do with my life, career wise, but I dont have faith in myself to be able to do them. I'm graduating college this summer and I dont want to work in the field of my degree, so I've to decide on a masters, but I dont know what...

Nightwish Im in that exact situation. Very strange how your goals change from when your seventeen and filling out the CAO isnt it. Ive suddenly decided that I don't want to spend 45 years in a career that ive spent years of study in and im now (almost ) qualified for. Hopefully cold feet are normal:eek:

Anyway, I dont think theres much harm in altering your matchplan, as long as you do it before you go into extra time or else your focked!

Lady_Macbeth

LovelyHurling wrote:

I think the main thing to assessing your life goals is not to get over ambitious. Ambition is fine as long as it's achievable.

there's nothing wrong with a bit of ambition
Kind of ironic for me saying something like that in my first post. :rolleyes:

I don't believe in laying down specific goals: that would only tie you down, and force you to follow them throught, lest you don't achieve them and feel like you have failed.

Certainly, one should have aims, and general aspirations, but should not make specific life goals. I think we should think on a broader sense. Personally, one of my own life aims is not to have any regrets. We never know when our lives will end, we can't ever know. Therefore I genuinely believe in taking every opportunity as it comes. Carpe Dium (sp.?) and what not. You may never get another shot at it, so make the best of it while you can.

-Lady

Nightwish

LovelyHurling wrote:

Nightwish Im in that exact situation. Very strange how your goals change from when your seventeen and filling out the CAO isnt it. Ive suddenly decided that I don't want to spend 45 years in a career that ive spent years of study in and im now (almost ) qualified for. Hopefully cold feet are normal:eek:

Anyway, I dont think theres much harm in altering your matchplan, as long as you do it before you go into extra time or else your focked!

Yeah, 17 is too young to be deciding on your career IMO. I know I 'd like to get a qualification in something that both interests me and where I can get work. My degree has neither for me.

Steveire

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

stuff

Was this your 8000th post milestone thread?

Tar.Aldarion

rb_ie wrote:

Jesus Tar, lay off the drugs.:p

Shhsssh, on topic. ^^

Steveire wrote:

Was this your 8000th post milestone thread?

Wow I have over 8,000 posts. I have no idea if it was Steve.
Edit:looking back through my posts I think It may have been one or two shy.

Sarky

Je ne regrette rien!

xzanti

Id love to be an actress tbh... I used to win talent competitions at school (move over Meryl Streep :rolleyes: ) and I really enjoyed it, Iv always regreted not going to stage school... I just have to incorporate my drama queen antics into my daily life instead :rolleyes:

hullaballoo

I actually have no direction in life whatsoever. Apart from aesthetic values, life has little consequence to my mind. Once I've finished my degree, and done a masters, I will get a job and make money.

Then, hopefully, my own facetiousness will kill me.

Ah no seriously, I just want to get a career that I love, probably in business or law, I haven't quite decided yet.

Even though I'm not sure what exactly it it I want to do when college is over, I'm very much looking forward to making the choice when the time comes.

I also want to travel.

Keyzer

xzanti wrote:

Id love to be an actress tbh... I used to win talent competitions at school (move over Meryl Streep :rolleyes: ) and I really enjoyed it, Iv always regreted not going to stage school... I just have to incorporate my drama queen antics into my daily life instead :rolleyes:

Me too, I would love to give acting a go, I was quite good as a nipper.
If only I had a push from my parents and belief in myself that I could do it...

This thread reminds me of a quote -

"“Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.”

People should read that and say "Holy crap, thats me" and do something about it.....

Aisling(",)

Thats one of my biggest fears.Imagine waking up some day when you're old and just thinking I wasted my life.

I regret a lot but can't do much about it now.I regret not going out with my friends but thats not my fault(I'm not allowed).

I don't want to waste years studying for exams insted of living my life.
I don't want to end up alone.
The only think I'm certain of is that I'm never going to have this moment or any other I've had before ever again so I don't want to waste it but theres nothing I can do.

You are saying to write down your goals and keep them in mind while living your life but what if you don't know where you want to end up?what happens if you never find out what you want to do?

Tar.Aldarion

If you can't figure it out and you will, you are still very young, then just live a life that you can look back on and be very happy and that is all that matters.
I am happy that there is shakespeare in this thread. (:

fischerspooner

ok well I've travelled a lot, I've been in love, I've worked/lived abroad, I have what people would call a "good" job (even though it's the most uninspiring load of..). Now I'm on the wrong side of my 20s, I don't want to marry my g/f, I don't ever want to have kids, so what am I supposed to do with my life now? I have no goals or aims, there's not even any countries left I want to visit really. I've been through drug phases, drink phases, had weird sex with strange women, all sorts of ****. I really can't think of anything I want to do anymore. I think I might have burnt myself out too fast.

keevita

have a breakdown and go to a monestry in tibet for a bit of spiritual rehabilitation?

Bottle_of_Smoke

Aisling(",) wrote:

Thats one of my biggest fears.Imagine waking up some day when you're old and just thinking I wasted my life.

I regret a lot but can't do much about it now.I regret not going out with my friends but thats not my fault(I'm not allowed).

I don't want to waste years studying for exams insted of living my life.
I don't want to end up alone.
The only think I'm certain of is that I'm never going to have this moment or any other I've had before ever again so I don't want to waste it but theres nothing I can do.

You are saying to write down your goals and keep them in mind while living your life but what if you don't know where you want to end up?what happens if you never find out what you want to do?

Wasting, what defines wasting?

Don't have time to write a full reply but one thing that came into my head recently when thinking about things which arent worth thinking about which I found pretty comforting was that when we die, we won't know we're dead, thought it kinda relevent to this thread. So no matter how **** things go, nothing's really gonna hurt us when it's over!

Why I'm really against the death penalty, just doesnt seem like punishment/

jrey1981

Keyzer wrote:

"“Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day,
To the last syllable of recorded time;
And all our yesterdays have lighted fools
The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle!
Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor player
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage
And then is heard no more. It is a tale
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury,
Signifying nothing.”

People should read that and say "Holy crap, thats me" and do something about it.....

I have often thought that is a great quote too...

I remember how naive and ambitious I was at 18 when I went to uni. I got involved in a business and thought I would be a millionaire by 25.

So here I am, 25 next week, and I earn a very small and pathetic fraction of the average house price that I read is currently about €300k...

D'oh....!

The_B_Man

threesome

Sleepy

Only one major ambition in life tbh: to father a daughter with a woman I love.

LovelyHurling

What if you only have boys?:eek:

CathyMoran

Sleepy wrote:

Only one major ambition in life tbh: to father a daughter with a woman I love.

Aww, that is really sweet - I hope that you have as good a relationship with your daughter as I have with my dad.

For me - I want to become a lecturer in electrical engineering. My parents did not want me to do it when I was younger and the past few years have meant that my Masters in Elec Eng has had to be put on ice. I do want kids and I do also want to become known as a respected artist and writer - there is a strong artistic and literary tradition in my family. In terms of regrets, well I wish that I had stayed with one guy I met when I was 23, but then again your first love always ends disasterously and I would never have met some other people so there are swings and roundabouts. I also wish that I had done engineering when I was younger.

Very good thread BTW.

Tar.Aldarion

thankee,
sleepy that is ever so cute. ^^
It's good to know that there are more people who love engineering and fisherspooner, you are flying! mabe you should slow down for a bit...father a daughter? :P