Being on first name terms with your auldpair.

funk-you

For my whole life ive always refered to my parents as Mam, ma, dad, da, Sometimes auldfella and auldone for the laugh but ive noticed a lot recently that some people will just use their parents first names. Would anyone else find this a bit weird when referring to them after all there is only one person in the world you can truly call mam and only one you can call dad.

I really dont think i could go to theirs for dinner and come out with "Oi Joan, pass the salt". It just doesnt feel right.

-Funk

radiospan

Yeah, definately doesn't sound right. Maybe under some circumstances (separated parents, step-parents or something like that).

I think Pighead had a good thread about this a while back.

Chinafoot

One of my cousins does this. Personally I find it wrong. My aunt finds that compared to her other children, the one that uses her and her husband's first names shows a lot less respect.

Dont think I'd be letting my kids call me Steph.

Fajitas!

I call my mum Mum, and my dad Mike. Comes from when I was a kid though, I'd often by with my dad in work, and just hearing people calling him Mike. We still have a great father-son relationship like, it was just what I was used to when I was 3 and 4!

SexeeAussie

I call my Mum and Dad...Mum and Dad......
But I call my grandfather Jim.......cos his name is Jim, apparently I wouldn't call him Grandad...so I called him by his name.

What I have a problem with is adults calling their parents "Mummy and Daddy"..that to me is a feckin weird thing.

seamus

Depends. Sometimes Dad is Dad and sometimes he's Ger or Gerry. Mam is always Mam or Ma though unless I'm taking the piss.

Mossy Monk

first name terms with mine and i am far from disrespectful

Devon

I'm oldschool too. Ma is ma and Da is da! Weren't allowed to call them by their first names when I was a kid so just got used to the labels.

spiderlegs

I dunno...I wouldn't wanna call them anything else except mam and dad...my cousin calls his parents by their first names, to me it just seems weird and kind of detatched...but that's what their used to.

monkeyfudge

I've always been on first name terms.

My sister would call them ma and da... but she's an idiot.

Kablamo!

if i call either of my parents ma or da there's war....
it has to be mother, father, mam or dad.
if i get annoyed at my mother i'l only refer to her as her first name til i calm back down, cuz it pisses her off.

tk123

I call them by their names cos thats what they taught us!

liamskater

Kablamo! wrote:

if i call either of my parents ma or da there's war....
it has to be mother, father, mam or dad.
if i get annoyed at my mother i'l only refer to her as her first name til i calm back down, cuz it pisses her off.

Where you from.. Cork?!

RoundyMooney

liamskater wrote:

Where you from.. Cork?!

???

chump

I'm oldskool (ma da, is that oldskool?)

But my gf is name terms, which I find extremely weird, never came across that before til I met her

senordingdong

I'd get a slap if I called my awl wan or awl fella byt heir first names.

natter

SexeeAussie wrote:

What I have a problem with is adults calling their parents "Mummy and Daddy"..that to me is a feckin weird thing.

No what's even weirder is my dad sometimes refers to his mother, my grandmother as granny. And my granny sometimes calls her husband father. No wonder I'm always so confused

Rb

I know some people who are on first name terms with their parents, I don't get it tbh, just couldn't see myself calling my parents by their first names.
Instead I either call my mom Mom,Mum or on occasion Shylock and just call my dad Dad.

Rabies

Always call my parents Mam or Dad.
The only exception is when I'm out on work at a gig. I'm not going to call for 'Dad' over the radio

Willymuncher

I'm on first name terms, but I did grow up with my Grandmother, so I call her mam, and my mother by her name....and my step father by his name, which I guess isn't that uncommon.

MrSinn

My mother is on all sorts of pills and me auld fella is a bit cranky so my sister addresses my mother as "mad woman" and my father as "mad man"

The moral is if it feels right then try it!

Nevyn

You usually only have one mother and one father and really calling them Mam and Dad demotes a relationship you have with them that you don't have with anyone else on the entire planet.
The are terms are respect and endearment and I would always use them.

SexeeAussie

natter wrote:

No what's even weirder is my dad sometimes refers to his mother, my grandmother as granny. And my granny sometimes calls her husband father. No wonder I'm always so confused

LMAO!!!!!!

ThiiinkPink!

natter wrote:

No what's even weirder is my dad sometimes refers to his mother, my grandmother as granny. And my granny sometimes calls her husband father. No wonder I'm always so confused

My mothers parents were 'mother and father' to me, and my parents were mom and dad. We got it, but not many did!

Mr.D.Leprachaun

On first name terms since I could speak. My sister has bizarrely taken to using Mother and Father instead recently.

Azureus

calling my mam anything but would just be weird... my boyf is on a first name basis with his parents though, found it a bit odd at first but now i hardly notice, hearing him say mam and dad would seem weird too! whatever youre used to i suppose.

DonkeyStyle \o/

I did it once as a cheeky quip, it really didn't feel right at all...

The_B_Man

wen i was about 12, i was in a fellas gaf who i was mates wit at the time. he called his ma by her first name and i was like "wtf?". kinda disturbed me a bit. tho he was a bit weird.

Dave!

No first names for me -- I call them ma and da, and they are "the parentals"

Julesie

Definitely Mam and Dad, anything else just feels weird and detached. I guess its just a habit though.

bounty_hunter

I called my mother by her first name when I was younger, but I remember a friend from school commenting that it was odd and started to call her Mum instead. She's now Mum all the time, unless I'm feeling particularly distant. My father has always been Dad.

Kablamo!

liamskater wrote:

Where you from.. Cork?!

try dublin...........
strange fellow

Agent Smith

i use there first names....

Kur4mA

MA AND DA! Referring to them by their names would just be weird tbh.

Oral Slang

Mam & Dad usually.

Though, sometimes I call my mam her first name when I ring her or when I'm messing! Only started doing that as an adult though - would have been weird as a kid!

natter wrote:

No what's even weirder is my dad sometimes refers to his mother, my grandmother as granny. And my granny sometimes calls her husband father. No wonder I'm always so confused

Yeah I used to find that weird too - my mam used to sometimes refer to my dad as dad or daddy when we were kids & I was never quite sure whether she meant her dad or our dad!

seamus

Oral Slang wrote:

Yeah I used to find that weird too - my mam used to sometimes refer to my dad as dad or daddy when we were kids & I was never quite sure whether she meant her dad or our dad!

My parents did this occasionally, and it was never really weird. A lot of parents do it when the kids are younger, to get the kids used to saying Mam & Dad, as opposed to John & Mary. I guess it sticks.

raheny red

I for one think it is unmannerly to call my parents by their first names. It just doesn't sound right!

One of my mates calls her Grandparents by their first names which is totally unaccpetable in my opinion!!:mad: :mad:

dundalk cailin

i call my parents Mam and Dad.. 'daddy' when im looking something
always called my grannies, Granny (mams maiden name) and Granny (my surname) my cousins called my granny 'nanny' i couldny really understand that at the time!!

20 Times 20 Times

Its simple as this , Mam and jim. Job done.

dbnavan

I believe you can call anyone on the planet by their first name, but there is only one person u can call mam, and 1 person u can call dad, so i call them that,

my perents deviorced and I no way i would ever call either of there new partners mam or dad, it will be a cold day in hell before that happens,

Sorry just feel very strongly about this

JackieChan

My six year old lad always refers to me and his mother by our first names.
I keep telling him to call me dad but does he...no!!
I'll just have to keep at him until he stops.
God, makes me feel like I'm not his father!!

I don't have a close relationship with my father, so the name I call him is a term of endearment that is a corruption of his first name.
If I called him dad it would feel weird to me but I'd never call my mother by her first name....it would be a slipper to the side of the head if I did

I know lots of parents that refer to each other us daddy/mammy but this is usually in front of the children to stress a question or make a particular point

dbnavan

JackieChan wrote:

My six year old lad always refers to me and his mother by our first names.
I keep telling him to call me dad but does he...no!!
I'll just have to keep at him until he stops.
God, makes me feel like I'm not his father!!

I don't have a close relationship with my father, so the name I call him is a term of endearment that is a corruption of his first name.
If I called him dad it would feel weird to me but I'd never call my mother by her first name....it would be a slipper to the side of the head if I did

In that case I'd pretend i didnt hear him, dont awknowledge him til he say "dad". Thats what my father did.

JackieChan

dbnavan,
Nice simple point. I might try this later!
Cheers

seamus

JackieChan wrote:

My six year old lad always refers to me and his mother by our first names.
I keep telling him to call me dad but does he...no!!
I'll just have to keep at him until he stops.
God, makes me feel like I'm not his father!!

Bart: Homer!
Homer: Heh, heh, heh, heh, heh. Homer's what grownups call me. Call me
daddy.
Bart: Homer.
Homer: Daddy.
Bart: Homer.
Homer: [increasingly irate] Daddy.
Bart: Da...da...da...
Homer: Yes?
Bart: D'omer! Hah, hah, hah...

foggy

My Mammy is Mammy and my daddy is daddy, unless we're messing and then they might get their proper names!

raheny red

I call my Grandmother - Nana
and I call my Grandfather - Grand-dad

I don't know why but I have always called them by these names!

Anyway Jackie Chan wonders why his kid doesn't call him Daddy - check out his post count!!

zippybaby

I think its a mark of respect to your parents and grandparents to call them 'mum' and 'dad' etc. My cousins call both their parents and our grandparents by their first names and it sounds so stupid. :mad: They think its a sign of their own maturity.....as far as i'm concerned its just a lack of respect!

There you go.....my two cents worth!

Rhyme

Ive always called them by their first names... the whole 'Mum' and 'Dad' thing didnt really stick with me, creeps some people out.

Eminem

I call my ma ma and my da da if i was to call them anything else they wouldnt like it and i think its disrespectfull to call them buy their first name:)

nlgbbbblth

I still call my parents Mam and Dad.

But when I introduce them to other people I reveal their first names.

WhiteWashMan

i call my mother by a variety of endearing names, but i call her by her first name when she is being silly.