how to attract a girl

LegacyUser

Little help? I'm totally lost on this. I wouldn't regard myself as really ugly and i've seen guys much uglier than myself with gorgeous girlfriends. Thats not to say i care so much about looks (as if i could afford to). What i really need to know is how to approach girls because there's nothing worse than asking a girl out and she says yes, then brings a friend along...just say no! So if anyone can help me i'd really appreciate it! Btw, if anyone says 'just be yourself' i'll scream! I know i have to be myself but that doesn't explain how to approach a girl and talk to her properly. I like girls on the indie music scene, intellegent. So if anyone here fits that description, you could probably offer the best advice. But any advice is welcome...

Crash

heres my advice
you need to remember one thing mmmkay? just remember...

I remember mama said
You can't hurry love
No you'll just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take


...i dunno if that helps but i always take the heartwarming lyrics of Phil Collins with me through hard times.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

women are just people. they're no more special than you or me. just have a bit of confidence in yourself, she wants you.. and you god damn know it!

everyone gets knocked down a few hundred thousand times (except me, naturally), it's all part of the fun.

blobert

"how to attract a girl?" : be attractive.

Agent Smith

lets face it, 99.9% of women want collin farrell as there boyfriend....
99.9% of men want britney/christina/<insert model's name>

what you got to remember is that looks isnt everything, if it was, most of us wouldnt be here....


if you want to meet women, now thats a diffrent question. the usual advice is to join clubs, go out on the town, take a evening class, what ever,

remember, there's more of them them then us,......

Bottle_of_Smoke

well the answer is never gonna be here now is it

its completely random with women being attracted to me
*however* i would get a much higher proportion of randomness in my favour when im in happy\confident mood (happiness\confidence in a girl attracts me so i believe it, plus confidence leads to being witty\funny etc... so on so forth)

so basicly no matter how gorgeous\hideous you are you'll do better when you're in a good mood! look on the bright side always

*brought to you by a happy ****ing hippy*

RossFixxxed

2 words: Jack Black!

Be funny and very confident. Don't do the "hitting on" the person thing, just show a little interest. You really have to play it by ear I guess.

Failing that wave wads of money around!

Ross

Zulu

Be funny. Be confident.
Don't be arrogant. Don't be ignorant.


There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance - find this and you'll have no problems.

RossFixxxed

Zulu wrote:

There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance - find this and you'll have no problems.

Good point! It's an easy one to cross, but if people see that you're a genuinely sound guy you should get past this one ok. It's like some people tell a joke and it's funny, another guy does and he's sleazy.

Good luck!
Ross

Gurgle

And bear in mind that while women are allegedly not all insane, their brains do not work the same way as yours.

IrishMike

Gurgle wrote:

while women are allegedly not all insane

stop fooling urself
they are all mad as hatters
some are just not as mad as others !

The Corinthian

When getting to know a girl, simply study the different ways that her father ignores her and emulate them. That should do it.

Gizzard

Just pretend like your interested in whatever she is talking about, also its important to pretend you have feelings etc, and you like to walking, and pets chicks like that kind of stuff!.

Gurgle

IrishMike wrote:

stop fooling urself
they are all mad as hatters
some are just not as mad as others !

shhhhh, they're all nuts but we're not meant to know

Idbatterim

women are just people. they're no more special than you or me. just have a bit of confidence in yourself, she wants you.. and you god damn know it!

everyone gets knocked down a few hundred thousand times (except me, naturally), it's all part of the fun.

What Mordeth says, bang on

Idbatterim

Idbatterim wrote:

women are just people. they're no more special than you or me. just have a bit of confidence in yourself, she wants you.. and you god damn know it!

everyone gets knocked down a few hundred thousand times (except me, naturally), it's all part of the fun.

What Mordeth says!

luckat

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/customer-reviews/0919637264/002-6680926-6736820

This will solve all your problems.

rs

3 things attract women more readily than anything else, seek them out.

Fame
Money
Power

Good looks are handy too, but not a requirement by any means.

tk123

Are you asking us where to meet girls or do you want to ask somebody out - whats the surroundings - work/pub etc Are you talking abt approaching a stranger or say somebody you work with!?!? I need more info before I can give you advise!! p.s i'm a girl so my advise will be better than the guys here

lol only messing guys!!

ando

blobert wrote:

"how to attract a girl?" : be attractive.

oh god, what the hell kind of response is that :rolleyes:

Tusky

Fill your socks with salt and pepper, add some yogurt and a dash of lime juice... When you walk it will make a squidgy sound not unlike the sound of hot sex... The women will subconsiously pick up on this and cream their pants for you. Works every time.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

the truest one yet?

angeldelight

There's no magic formula..... some women will be attracted to you some won't, usually isn't definite explanation as to why you're first attracted to somebody. even ppl who have "a type" will find themselves attracted to dif type of opposite sex at least once! Be nice friendly and warm and don't try too hard is all I could suggest! And don't think about it too much, its better to let things go naturally

cerebus

Don't overlook the power of science in helping you with this problem. Try putting the amazing irresistible force of gravity to work!

Lets assume you're a typical young, male basement-dweller, weighing in somewhere around the 90Kg mark. All you have to do is raise your weight to 180Kg by increasing your calorific intake and removing exercise from your daily schedule. Supply yourself with enough fast food, cable/satellite TV, a few games consoles and a comfy couch and you should be able to reach this goal in no time.

Once you reach 180Kg, I can guarantee that girls will be twice as attracted to you than they are now. Don't believe me? Here's the science.... If you can triple your weight, so much the better - keep piling on those pounds and see your power of attraction keep increasing!

The beauty of this technique is that it applies to *all* girls on the planet. For example, once you double your weight all females will find themselves powerless as they are twice as attracted to you. Britney Spears, even though recently married, will find herself drawn to you twice as strongly as before. Other A-list celebrities like J-Lo will also find themselves twice as attracted to you (and given the way the size of her arse is increasing, the attraction between you will only get stronger).

No thanks necessary... but I believe my work here is done. Let us know how it goes

aidan_walsh

cerebus wrote:

Other A-list celebrities like J-Lo will also find themselves twice as attracted to you (and given the way the size of her arse is increasing, the attraction between you will only get stronger).

Actually, that effect is likely to have J-Lo find herself unable to leave you altogether, you'll find that she's permenently hanging around.

Some people will call it an orbit, you can call it love...

Crash

See other people give ****e advice here, but my Phil Collins advice gets me negative rep

:rolleyes:





...heh

eggshapedfred

See other people give ****e advice here, but my Phil Collins advice gets me negative rep

thats cos those lyrics were originally sang by the Supremes and written by the Holland-Dozier-Holland holy triumvirate. its sacriledge to say phil collins wrote them....

Crash

my god you're right......remind me never to post song lyrics advice when i'm tired.

doesnt help that i was listening to a genesis cd at the time

RossFixxxed

Everyone has a spark that makes them attractive to someone. Be it a cheeky smile, a glint in their eyes, the way they carry themself, their sense of humour. The worst thing is to hold back and not let yourself shine through. I've seen it happen. Do NOT do this. I WILL roll up a newspaper and slap you on the snout.

Ross

spooiirt!!

Mordeth wrote:

women are just people. they're no more special than you or me. just have a bit of confidence in yourself, she wants you.. and you god damn know it!

.

Thats not true. Women are mystical, unattainable creatures that we all want to "get". - And i should know, ive seen one! :eek:

luckat

Anyway, as time goes on you'll find that the problem isn't attracting a woman, it's finding a woman you *want* to attract. (Or a man, if you're a woman.)

mitnick

u left out man wanting a man and woman looking a woman
embrace all people in this world luckat

ps be happy, no one like a sad lookin person unless they look like Avril who does it in a different way that makes her incredible hot dam you Bizzy D

wont say be urself but dont be like others ie those mates who give u a line to get a girl
ie get ur coat ur pulled or how heavy ur polar bear
cos no girls like them, get to now what see likes and music interest is one of the best to get into

l8r

luckat

I can't embrace all the people, mitn, there isn't time.

Anyway..... if you want to attract the opposite (whatever that is) sex, become successful, reassure them, flatter them, and make sure you don't have bad breath, BO or clammy hands. Well, clammy hands wear off, but bad breath or BO anyway.

Good lines: "You say such *interesting* things", "Do you *really* think that? Go on! Tell me more!" "Excellent!"

Shewhomustbe...

Why is it so difficult??

I don't think women and men are that different at all.
It's the generalisation that causes the problem, and the vast gulf that's supposed to divide the sexes, which is all just a big pile of poo.

Best question to ask is do you want a relationship or are you just looking to shag someone?

IrishMike, men are equally as nuts as women, you all just think you hide it better

What you need to start to learn, all the men out there, is honest dialogue (sorry if it's too chat show)
I'm in a relationship seven years and we are better now then ever because we talk without fear. Emotions are not something men are devoid of so why hide them.
Bravdo may be fun in the pub but it doesn't make for a great partnership.

azezil

tell them you're gay, they'll go to extraordinary lenghts to convert ya

Typedef

how to attract a girl

In this order.

A: Seem rich

B: Seem like a rebel type.

C: Seem gay

Possibly B & C could be swapped around.

Any combination (or not) of the above is permissable, however A & B together are not allowed.

Thus ends today object lesson.

Typedef

Also don't underestimate how being aloof, disinterested and genuinely not giving a toss about a girl, will make her want to bear your children.

You should practice on not-so-attractive girls in the pub... perhaps try tripping a few up ... just to.. you know get into the "zone".

_grin_.

ur mentor

just keep it simple. walk up say hi, i'm ...insert your chosenname.. and make some other comment like, you look well, your hair is nice, love your boots, whatever. etc. dont say it if you dont think its true.- repeat- dont say it if you dont think its true.
if they have any interest at all in you/ not going out with someone else/ they will chat away to your hearts content.
atb

Bunnyefey

You need to unleash some hot chat up lines. Lately I've been waiting for someone to hit me with that line from the old snickers ad where the American Footballer gets hit with the ball and he says something along the lines of

"Hello Good Citizen, Im batman............would you like that, would you like to ride with Batman"

Now that would make me swoon.

Alternatively, cruise up in the Batmobile like Robin, roll the window and holler in lame accent

"Wanna take a ride in my lurve machine"

Haha, now that too would have me on my knees. God, why can't guys use cheesy chat ups more often. I'd be so impressed. Plus, anyone who gets hold of the batmobile is clearly gonna score right?

ando

Typedef wrote:

how to attract a girl

In this order.

A: Seem rich

B: Seem like a rebel type.

C: Seem gay

Possibly B & C could be swapped around.

Typedef wrote:

Also don't underestimate how being aloof, disinterested and genuinely not giving a toss about a girl, will make her want to bear your children.

I tried something similar to that a few weeks ago in work (involves meeting new people every day on different sites) as I'm usually a nice guy and easy to get on with, but this time I just acted like a prick and was boasting about my 'new car' and how I was saving for a deposit on a house! and I can say it does definatly work, the girl was droping hints like there was no tommorow. To bad I wasnt interested

Only thing I did'nt try is to 'seem gay'. I think I'll leave that one out :rolleyes:

spooiirt!!

Whatever you do, dont lie to a girl. They seem to have a special sense that they can smell your lies from a mile away.

meepmeep

Bunnyefey wrote:

"Hello Good Citizen, Im batman............would you like that, would you like to ride with Batman"

:eek:

Bunnyefey

meep, you looked scared?

NotMe

Heh heh that was a deadly ad. Thanks for reminding me about it.

Jamesobrady

Meh....very simply some like you and some don't...it doesn't matter a toss what you look like physically. At the end of the day some women find Brad Pitt attractive and some simply don't. With that logic i accept that some find me attractive and some don't. C'est la vie.
You can dress up really nice going out and spend time grooming yourself which is always appreciated in games of attraction....but at the end of the day when you meet someone you like they'll see all sides of you- including the next morning bad breath drool drip version of you. (unless you set your phone alarm on silent but vibrate under the pillow and get up before she wakes and brush your teeth/remove drool/sleepy eye gunk! Opportune time to get the breakfast on too!) The ones who choose to accept you as a person and not a Brown Thomas mannequin are the worthwhile ones.

Don't get drunk and fall over to someone...obvious really but how easy does anyone find it to go out sober and approach people? Repressed Ireland has a lot to answer for. Try Internet dating.....some of my more socially percieved physically ideal non-conformist colleagues(fugly) have met and fell in love with people. Others have just got laid. Try going out on your own....if you have to, say you're waiting on friends...they should be here any minute...mind if i join you in the meantime........lol...etc..... admit to liking people-watching...and play people watching games.....best ice breaker I've ever found plus you get to suss out what lengths she'll go to to take the piss out of people and decide if you like her or she's just a jumped up materialistic cow.

Ask a question when you approach someone(where did you get that ensemble my dear its absolutely FABULOUS....hint of gay!).....it gives you just a little time to relax and compose and try not make your voice break glass with its nervous shrill. Smile at the answer...look sideways in a suave manner....and say the first thing that comes into your head. (unless it's..."god i like her nipples in that top")

Ps ..."Cant hurry love" by Phil collins has always healed my hurt.(Right-on that man!)

But this.....

Do you remember when you'd pray
to never see the day
when someone would make you feel this way
'Cause you knew
they would cut right through you
and once inside, you were afraid they'd find
nothing to hold on to
(COwboy Junkies "Ring on the Sill")
Reminds me to keep developing and finding new interests and accepting people as i find them.

And this.....

I had to escape
The city was sticky and cruel
Maybe I should have called you first
But I was dying to get to you
I was dreaming while I drove
The long straight road ahead, uh, huh

Could taste your sweet kisses
Your arms open wide
This fever for you is just burning me up inside

I drove all night to get to you
Is that alright
I drove all night
Crept in your room
Woke you from your sleep
To make love to you
Is that alright
I drove all night

Puts me in the mood for meeting nice gurls..........

Above all else.....maintain the thought that everyone revolves around you tonight....If someone is disinterested its because she can see you deserve better then her faster then you can...so appreciate her consideration for not wasting your time. (positive thoughts = positive results!)

All of this has been playfully seriously written.....take that how you like.

embee

Tusky wrote:

Fill your socks with salt and pepper, add some yogurt and a dash of lime juice... When you walk it will make a squidgy sound not unlike the sound of hot sex... The women will subconsiously pick up on this and cream their pants for you. Works every time.

/me nods

It snared me manys a time....

mwnger

This may sound obvious, but actually listening to the girl helps a lot. So many fellas forget to do this. Now I mean actually concentrating on what she is saying to you. Cos arrogant blokes are probably just mentally undressing her while she is talking and aren't really interested in what she has to say anyway. While on the other hand, shy, nervous guys who really do want to get to know her, are worrying about what they're going to say next and whether she'll be interested in what he says, instead of taking in what she is saying at that moment.

I know because I used to be in the latter catagory of bloke. Believe me, if you just let a girl know that you think she's interesting, you really will go up a notch in her book (and of course, it's best if you genuinely think she's interesting, not pretend to)

One major gripe women have about men is, when talking to us, especially if they've only just met, the guy is only interested in talking about himself. They know we love nothing better than spouting off about our favourite subject i.e. ourselves. This is their way of getting a guy to like them. So just reverse the roles next time. Let her talk - cos women love to do that too! But don't stand there not saying anything, interject with relevant questions, observations etc.
Oh yeah, keep eye contact as much as you can. This can be difficult for some people (myself included) but it lets the other person know you are listening to them. And if you really fancy her, every now and again drop your gaze to her mouth and nose, generally scan her face briefly before looking into her eyes again. This will let her know you like her.

Sorry if that sounds a little text book-y. But I know how you feel. Most reasonable, quiet blokes feel the same way at some point.

Actually, I'm one to be giving advise on women - I'm single at the moment! Disregard the above!!

40crush41

just want to say, mwnger -thats great advice. don't disregard what he says! nothing is more annoying than someone who talks constantly about themselves and doesn't even bother to stop a second and ask, "wait -how are u?" guys and gals included -let the other person know u care anything about them.

anyway, you seem like a pleasant person. if ur into music i would think u would look for a lady at some music related thing -she might be there. and begin conversation about whosever playing -then ask what music she likes, comment on what you think about them (ah, don't be negative though b/c that will make anyone feel bad, if u detest what she says be like, "ive heard some of their stuff, but i don't really know them all that well") something like that.

and remember -never be afraid to laugh at yourself.

good luck to ya~beth

Memnoch

i'll give u my guarenteed 5 step success program

1) Pick gorgeous girl that you fancy
2) Hire mercenaries from antiga
3) Have her family kidnapped and sent to antiga
4) Inform her that if she doesn't love you for ever, they will be handed over to the Americans dressed up in Taliban uniforms
5) Enjoy!


on a more serious note, I know u didn't want to hear this but... be yourself, that and stop looking.
As long as you are desperate to "be with a girl", you will just end up chasing every girl that says "hello" or tries to be normal "friendly" with you. The result is that girls will percieve you as a desperate sleaze bag that just wants to get in their pants.
Only once you actually STOP looking, will u come to the stage where you will actually go after the girls you really fancy, as opposed to going after girls BECAUSE they are girls. etc etc

JohnCleary

Only 1 way to do it mate.. And heres how.
Follow these simple guidlines:

Pull down yer pants
Pull yer schlong out
Swing it around in a clockwise direction while shouting "HELICOPTER!"

Sarky

Your infatuation is based on a physical attraction. Talk to the woman, and you will realise you have nothing in common.