Stag night - what is the best lapdancing club in Dublin?

PullMyFinger!

Ive heard good things about Lapello on Dame St

PullMyFinger!

Found this old thread

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=83422&page=1&pp=20

Flukey

Angels on Leeson Street is meant to be good.

Iago

not that i would know but ahem..lapelllos is by far the best...i've heard..from some bloke down the local...yeah that's it some bloke down the local...

PullMyFinger!

Cheers

We're thinking now of an alternative. It seems lapdancing is just a waste of money - too much of a frustration!

garthv

Yup,i work in a bar and i know most of the bouncers on the doors for all the lap dancing clubs in Dublin and they all say Lapello's is the best,nicest girls

gerire

PullMyFinger! wrote:

Cheers

We're thinking now of an alternative. It seems lapdancing is just a waste of money - too much of a frustration!

I agree, its such a waste of money. Its much more fun getting drunk and pissing against a wall, at least you get to participate.
My gf actually brought me to one as part of my 21st present, nice touch, now that was a different experience, the dancers love playing with women, gets them more tis off others viewing,

Went to Lapello btw

theciscokid

Well most of the people are saying i 'heard' which means they have never been to lapello's - THEY DONT SELL BEER - only wine, tis small too!

stay away from it! - i'm not sure if the others are still operating after the clampdown, but anything than lapello's is a good idea

actually theres a new(ish) one opened up beside the olympia theatre (or there abouts) - neon sign outside you cant miss it really (if you're looking)

vibrant

PullMyFinger! wrote:

It seems lapdancing is just a waste of money

Would it be innapropriate to use the term "cheapass" here?



Just kidding, have fun!

Don1

Tis very expensive way of getting even more frustrated than when you went in.
Still most definately worth doing, specially as a learning experience ie take note of what sexy temptress does then teach your girlfriend how to do it. Simple and effective. Now enjoy unlimmited free lapdances in the comfort of your own home!!! Although the likelyhood of having a girlfrien as hot as some of these vixens is microscopicly small.

My god I sound like I should have a frequent flier number!! It's just an observation, honest!

PullMyFinger!

gerire wrote:

My gf actually brought me to one as part of my 21st present

Marry her

*Sassy*

Hey, don't mean to hijack this thread, but I'm just curious to know where you attached lads stand on the issue of having private dances? As in, in a back room, one to one. Be honest! Totally uncomfortable with the idea of my bloke even having a lap dance, but I'd probably get over it. He actually said he would rather watch me have one!! But if I found out he had a private dance it would be curtains I'm afraid....

Iago

private dance and lapdance are the same things in Ireland..

I know in the Uk and the states you can actually get a "lapdance" sitting at your table in the middle of the floor, but in Ireland they don't have that available, the private dance is the only available dance..

also "generally" in ireland it is topless only and in Lapellos it is always topless only, whereas in the UK and other places it is normally a full strip and dance.

Personally I don't see a problem with being on a stag/birthday/celebration night out and having a topless lapdance, however if it was a regular occurence then there's probably an issue there...

Hagar

PullMyFinger! wrote:

Marry her

No, No, No, dump her....
Then I'll marry her...

boogie man

*Sassy* wrote:

Hey, don't mean to hijack this thread, but I'm just curious to know where you attached lads stand on the issue of having private dances? As in, in a back room, one to one. Be honest! Totally uncomfortable with the idea of my bloke even having a lap dance, but I'd probably get over it. He actually said he would rather watch me have one!! But if I found out he had a private dance it would be curtains I'm afraid....

I was in Prague the other day at a stag/hen doo. My girlfriend was their with me and let me go for a private dance with one of the hot czech girls! We've been in the relationship for over 9 years so I guess we have a certain trust built up. She didn't mind me doing it once there was no touching involved, and unfortunatly there wasn't :mad: ! If you ask me it's pretty much harmless fun. The place we were in was really nice with a good atmosphere and no sleezyness envolved, the girls working there behind the bar & dancing all seemed really relaxed and good fun.

BM.

beer enigma

Stag night.....Lapdancing Club......

To quote the words of Irving Berlin "There could be trouble ahead......"

shiv

i feel i have to agree with sassy, the idea of my boyfriend receiving a private lapdance without my knowledge, no matter the occasion, is not on. now if if it was a mutual thing, or was a "gift," that's a different story, but doing it on the sly is competely off limits in my opinion..

it also smacks of desperation. if you feel the need to get one (or many, whatever the case may be), perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place..

Sleepy

If you're secure in your relationship, where's the harm in your boyfriend getting a dance on a lads night out? Think about it, what's the difference between that and watching a porno/looking at pron mags?

shiv

sleepy, no matter how secure a girl is in her relationship, there is a HUGE difference between watching porn on a laptop or on tv and being there in the flesh being danced to with breasts all over the place, in your face, etc.

it's really about boundaries and crossing the line. some girls may be comfortable with their boyfriends being the recipient of this grinding sex on a stick indulgence, but i think they're few and far between. i wouldn't consider myself a prude by any means, but there's a fundamental lack of respect for your partner (especially if she doesn't know or doesn't approve) when a lad goes ahead and does it anyway.

like everything else in life, everybody has different threshholds of what's acceptable to them in a relationship. solo-on-the-sly lap-dancing is not acceptable to me. guys also have to put the stilleto shoe on the other foot, and see how it would feel..

Iago

shiv wrote:

sleepy, no matter how secure a girl is in her relationship, there is a HUGE difference between watching porn on a laptop or on tv and being there in the flesh being danced to with breasts all over the place, in your face, etc.

it's really about boundaries and crossing the line. some girls may be comfortable with their boyfriends being the recipient of this grinding sex on a stick indulgence, but i think they're few and far between. i wouldn't consider myself a prude by any means, but there's a fundamental lack of respect for your partner (especially if she doesn't know or doesn't approve) when a lad goes ahead and does it anyway.

like everything else in life, everybody has different threshholds of what's acceptable to them in a relationship. solo-on-the-sly lap-dancing is not acceptable to me. guys also have to put the stilleto shoe on the other foot, and see how it would feel..

so if your bf told you he was going to a lapdancing club for a birthday or stag or whatever that would be ok? It's all about trust I think, if you trust your bf then you know that it's harmless fun, you may not understand the lure, but you accept that there is no threat there, on the other hand if you don't trust him there's a problem, although the bigger problem is what possible direction your relationship can go in if there is no trust there..

I agree with your point about things being reversed though, he would have to accept the fact that you might want to go to a chippendales night or something similar, again as long as there is trust there shoudln't be an issue..

I wouldn't have a problem with my gf going to one of these nights at all, other than the fact that she might expect me to perform a similar routine when she came home

just as a point though, it's generally accepted that women tend to lose control a lot more than men in these situations, maybe it's all that repressed sexual energy

[size=-12]/me grabs coat, ducks and runs for my life[/size]

shiv

Iago wrote:

so if your bf told you he was going to a lapdancing club for a birthday or stag or whatever that would be ok?


iago, what i'm saying is that there's a difference between going to a lapdancing club on the sly (i.e. "for drinks"), and being open and upfront about it. that being said, i still wouldn't appreciate it, like it, or think it absoultely necessary...of course women and men will probably disagree on this point, although i'm sure there are some really "secure" women out there who like to make out it wouldn't bother them in the slightest..oh no.



It's all about trust I think, if you trust your bf then you know that it's harmless fun,


i disagree. it's not all about trust. it's all about respect. if both partners are into it, fine. if both partners attend, fine. if both partners want to see what it's like/want to turn themselves on for later, fine.
when these prerequisites are not involved the stage is set for a lot of secrecy, hurt and sense of betrayal, even if "nothing has happened."

you may not understand the lure, but you accept that there is no threat there, on the other hand if you don't trust him there's a problem, although the bigger problem is what possible direction your relationship can go in if there is no trust there..


i agree 100%. a relationship with issues of trust and betrayal (no matter the degree) should not be further unnecessarily tested by this type of seedy, instant-gratification "lure," in my humble opinion. it only exascerbates things.


I agree with your point about things being reversed though, he would have to accept the fact that you might want to go to a chippendales night or something similar, again as long as there is trust there shoudln't be an issue..


for the record, although i haven't been to a chippendales night, i have been to a strip club with a group of girls while single. now the one i went to was hardly a high-class joint, and the men less than stellar, so maybe it's that that's put me off the whole idea/environement, that and the fact that it made me feel like i was some desperate person. that being said, *there is a difference in going along to a lapdancing club for a stag night/whatever, and actually having a private dance yourself*


I wouldn't have a problem with my gf going to one of these nights at all, other than the fact that she might expect me to perform a similar routine when she came home


you can say that with a light-hearted tone now, but i'm sure if the situation did occur it might invoke a feeling of lacking on your part, that perhaps you weren't enough, or fit enough, that your woman had to turn elsewhere to get her kicks..we're all human after all..


just as a point though, it's generally accepted that women tend to lose control a lot more than men in these situations, maybe it's all that repressed sexual energy


maybe it's just their chance to make men feel like the sex objects for a change, and project that 20-30 years of objectification onto the weaker sex...

jesus_thats_gre

I find that getting a seat beside beside the dance floor in the Q Bar is the best place for lapdances

Jamesobrady

I thnk if my gf's name...(if i had one..different thread altogether!....) was "shiv".....i'd stay well clear of lapdancing,,,or porn....or in fact anything that she asked me too lest i discover the reason for her name.

My 2 cents......honesty breeds trust.
If i was going with someone and they didn't like handcuffs i mightn't understand or agree..and would prob try convince them that what i was suggesting was totally safe and harmless and there was an exit.....and if she just didn't like the idea of it and was worth making a small change to my likes/dislikes in the interest of something bigger at the end of it all i'd never suggest it again.
Ditto lapdancing. Haven't gone yet but i intend to sometime. If a girl told me she'd end it with me if i went, I'd have to turn around and ask why. If she said "just because i don't like it" i'd end it with her.
If she said "because i don't like the thought of you being in the company of a naked gyrating girl because it might lead to you doing something else with her or someone else" then i'd respect the honesty even though it was lack of trust. But, in being honest about her fears she's trusting that she can be open about it......and that i'd understand that it won't always be an issue.
Honesty about lack of trust or an insecurity in a relationship is much more mature and potentially strengthening to your bond then pretending its ok while you worry about the what-ifs. If a girl was that honest with a guy and he ended it or went anyway then who's the better person. I would say her....at least she aired her fears instead of shutting it all away. And he didn't give a fcuk about what she felt for him...he just wanted to see boobs and not be called whipped by "the lads"........

shiv

Jamesobrady wrote:

I thnk if my gf's name...(if i had one..different thread altogether!....) was "shiv".....i'd stay well clear of lapdancing,,,or porn....or in fact anything that she asked me too lest i discover the reason for her name.

hi james--what exactly do you think shiv means that you'd be quaking in your boots? i assure you i'm no whip-wielding kali (sorry if that disappoints)

My 2 cents......honesty breeds trust.

I couldn't agree more, but if you've had issues with this, it's not as straightforward. I agree with the last part of your post as well, it's important to accept your partner's worries or fears and take them seriously, and not dismiss them as hyper-paranoia of the female mind.

dendenz

Would yolu believe just spotted a new place on Dame Street called Le Paradis? Dont know if it is a lap dancing club but says something like exotic ladies outside , might be worth a look!

Jamesobrady

A shiv would be the type of improvised knife people have in Jails!!!
No, I've been lucky in that nobody i've been in a serious relationship has cheated on me.....but to be honest I very rarely find anyone worthwhile enough to get serious with.

monkeyfudge

dendenz wrote:

Would yolu believe just spotted a new place on Dame Street called Le Paradis? Dont know if it is a lap dancing club but says something like exotic ladies outside , might be worth a look!

Le Paradis is terrible! I tried it out about 2 months ago. It's very expensive and the girls don't even touch you. And stay well away from the Garden of Eden too!

Lapellos is still the best club in dublin. I've been there many times. It only serves wine though (as stated earlier) and the girls keep thier panties on. But they have some very nice girls there.

Angels is alright sometimes, it has a full bar and is quite large and you get to see alot more in the dances. But some of the dancers tend to be a little bit old and on the skanky side...

capricatz

im just getting over the fact my husband to be attended a strip clup and had 2 private lap dancing sessions and im pissed wedding almost canceled, he told me when he came back from kilkenny on sunday thought id be cool cause he didnt enjoy it well i tell youill make him pay for it for a long time to come its tainted my hen which was supose to be this friday and i cancelled it its tainted our wedding which is in two weeks and i'll never forgive his friend for paying for his private sessions because i beleive they have no respect for me paying women to dance naked arounf him he thinks its alright cause he didnt enjoy it and told me what if he did enjoy it and told me WEDDING OVER thats what after 10 years together and 3 kids and he dose that on his stag he had no respect for me whatsoever he said he thought he would enjoy it thats why he went along with it (hello diging a grave for himself) if that would make me feel better ive never been so hurt in my life and feel betrayed and worthless, guys out there just be aware your gf might just cancel the wedding. i was a phone call away from doing it its tainted my whole wedding im going to be saying my vows thinking of what he sis and it makes me feel like S**t.

Wreck

capricatz wrote: »

im just getting over the fact my husband to be attended a strip clup and had 2 private lap dancing sessions and im pissed wedding almost canceled, he told me when he came back from kilkenny on sunday thought id be cool cause he didnt enjoy it well i tell youill make him pay for it for a long time to come its tainted my hen which was supose to be this friday and i cancelled it its tainted our wedding which is in two weeks and i'll never forgive his friend for paying for his private sessions because i beleive they have no respect for me paying women to dance naked arounf him he thinks its alright cause he didnt enjoy it and told me what if he did enjoy it and told me WEDDING OVER thats what after 10 years together and 3 kids and he dose that on his stag he had no respect for me whatsoever he said he thought he would enjoy it thats why he went along with it (hello diging a grave for himself) if that would make me feel better ive never been so hurt in my life and feel betrayed and worthless, guys out there just be aware your gf might just cancel the wedding. i was a phone call away from doing it its tainted my whole wedding im going to be saying my vows thinking of what he sis and it makes me feel like S**t.

My guess is he probably got at least a blowjob with those private dances, probably anal. You should sleep with his friend who paid for it in revenge, and show a video of it at the wedding. That'll teach him.

capricatz

i told him no stip clubs before he went on his stag, i really really hate what he did and wish he never told me at least i would be able to enjoy my wedding ive been waiting 10 years for it. it ruined now ill always look back and remember. the lack of respect for me is what hurts, i know he'd never sleep with anyone but when he told me quite merrily that he had gone to stip club and had 2 private lap dances and didnt enjoy it (hello he had 2 not 1) and he is being honest with me and telling me which means i can trust him (hello you go sleep with some one, dont enjoy it ,come back and tell your partner, and shes like oh thats ok, you told me, AS IF) well at lest now he feels rotten and too right he should. he'll never go to another stag again , ha ha

Fratton Fred

TBH, he is an idiot for telling you. what happens on a stag/hen weekend should stay there. The main responsibility of the best man is to kill anyone who dares mentions this sort of thing.

there is a lot of pressure on guys to do this sort of thing which, tbh, is a complete waste of money anyway.

Lets face it, the guy has done it, probably under pressure from mates, felt guilty and told you. chalk it up to experience and get on with your marriage.

JohnCleary

IBTL

Macha

Fratton Fred wrote: »

TBH, he is an idiot for telling you. what happens on a stag/hen weekend should stay there. The main responsibility of the best man is to kill anyone who dares mentions this sort of thing.

there is a lot of pressure on guys to do this sort of thing which, tbh, is a complete waste of money anyway.

Lets face it, the guy has done it, probably under pressure from mates, felt guilty and told you. chalk it up to experience and get on with your marriage.

Yeah I'd say he felt under a certain amount of pressure to do it. But do 2?? Dunno...

Don't think the idea of lying to your future wife/husband is a very good idea..

120_Minutes

sounds very trollish. i'm surprised your relationship lasted 10 years. you sound very very insecure.


oh and IBTL

AARRRGH

capricatz wrote: »

i tell you i'll make him pay for it for a long time to come

Don't be silly.

capricatz wrote: »

ive never been so hurt in my life and feel betrayed and worthless

I agree what he did was wrong, but honestly, in his mind it had nothing to do with you. It was just something stupid he wanted to do before he got married.

Unacceptable, but you should not feel worthless.

capricatz wrote: »

it ruined now ill always look back and remember.

It's not ruined. You're overreacting.

I understand you're upset, but the wedding is not ruined. He's still the exact same person he was last month.

He just did something stupid. At least he had the honesty to tell you about it.

capricatz wrote: »

he feels rotten and too right he should. he'll never go to another stag again , ha ha

I now sense this is a wind up.

Quazzie

I think its funny that she doesn't seem to know what sentence structure, or a full stop is.

Your fella obviously enjoyed himself. If he says he didn't then he is ghey, and thats a much bigger problem than you have now. You seem insecure and I think you should just settle yourself with the fact that he got laid on his stag. Lets face it, most guys do. Console yourself with the fact that he paid for it, and it might have just been sex for him rather than an emotional lustful get together.

Enjoy the wedding!

IBTL

Dragan

The Barcley Club is by far the best. The girls are all nice and manage to at least fake some interest;). Doormen are sound but behave....the have a zero tolerance policy to bull**** and rightly so.

Personally i got one dance in the Barcley Club but only as i felt bad as she had spent 2 and a half hours chatting to me while my mates blew the months wages.

Fratton Fred

taconnol wrote: »

Don't think the idea of lying to your future wife/husband is a very good idea..

You are either
A) Female
Not married.

of course lying to your future wife is acceptable, its called practice.

JohnCleary

To hell with strip clubs, just get a decent GF whose up for a bit of messin' about

Quazzie

JohnCleary wrote: »

To hell with strip clubs, just get a decent GF whose up for a bit of messin' about

Nah GF's are over rated. Hookers is where its at!

capricatz

he never did anything like that before so its a hugh shock. i'll get over it but when i say my vows i dont want to be thinking of him and naked lap dancers as you shouldnt be thinking of such on your wedding day thats why its tainted. i should just be able to enjoy my self dont know if i can. i know the lads payed for his private sessions and by that i feel they have no respect for me and our relationship.

i dont want a guy whose gona be looking at every woman he passes who knows that night might have change his whole prospective of what should happen in the bedroom. theres not a hope im getting a pole to dance round ill shove it up is ass and throw him out the window.
after 10 years with had ups and downs his had cancer at christmas and who nursed him through it not his mate paying for sleezy thrill. least i know he'll never do it again.

as for him owning up to it i would have rather found out in 5 years as would be in the past and not relevant - 9 years ago i was pregnant with our first child i was very sick and in hospital for a week he said he could not visit me cause he had to study for college fine, he had exams comming up. a year later i got talkin to his mates turned out he was stiping in a nighclub pissed drunk insted of being with me, i laughed it off BUT if i had found out when i was pregnant - relationship over.

and about being insecure i probably am a bit i was a size 8-10 when we met 10 years on 3 kids im a size 14 and to have skinny big boobed dancers round him sure id feel insecure who woulnt - now im on a starve me diet. i trust him not to go off with anyone but dont like him looking at live in the flest lap dancers.

i can get over the strip club its the private sessions that hurt.

Dragan

capricatz wrote: »

i told him no stip clubs before he went on his stag, i really really hate what he did and wish he never told me at least i would be able to enjoy my wedding ive been waiting 10 years for it. it ruined now ill always look back and remember. the lack of respect for me is what hurts, i know he'd never sleep with anyone but when he told me quite merrily that he had gone to stip club and had 2 private lap dances and didnt enjoy it (hello he had 2 not 1) and he is being honest with me and telling me which means i can trust him (hello you go sleep with some one, dont enjoy it ,come back and tell your partner, and shes like oh thats ok, you told me, AS IF) well at lest now he feels rotten and too right he should. he'll never go to another stag again , ha ha

I'm not saying this to be mean but i don't see your marrige lasting.

Telling someone what they can and cannot do is never the best way to go about things.

If it was my stag and i was told there was anything i wasn't allowed to do then i'd be asking for the ring back.

Trust issues much?

Macha

capritcatz - you're not going to get any sympathy in AH. According to most of the gorgeous studs in here, men are animals with raging libidos, unable to restrain themselves with even a glipse of flesh. That's the way of the world & women should just lie back & accept it (while of course not behaving in a similar fashion at all. no no, tut tut slut)

You're better off bringing it to PI if you want to discuss it further.

Edit: Dragan, everyone is allowed their own limits of what they find acceptable. The problem with this relationship is there seems to be a mismatch between expectations. Gotta agree with you on the marriage not lasting...

capricatz

Not a wind up, but want hime to regret the moment he step through the curtain for his private session, and he dose. they hell ive put him through the last couple of days he never will. Not worth the grief.

homerjay2005

capricatz wrote: »

im just getting over the fact my husband to be attended a strip clup and had 2 private lap dancing sessions and im pissed wedding almost canceled, he told me when he came back from kilkenny on sunday thought id be cool cause he didnt enjoy it well i tell youill make him pay for it for a long time to come its tainted my hen which was supose to be this friday and i cancelled it its tainted our wedding which is in two weeks and i'll never forgive his friend for paying for his private sessions because i beleive they have no respect for me paying women to dance naked arounf him he thinks its alright cause he didnt enjoy it and told me what if he did enjoy it and told me WEDDING OVER thats what after 10 years together and 3 kids and he dose that on his stag he had no respect for me whatsoever he said he thought he would enjoy it thats why he went along with it (hello diging a grave for himself) if that would make me feel better ive never been so hurt in my life and feel betrayed and worthless, guys out there just be aware your gf might just cancel the wedding. i was a phone call away from doing it its tainted my whole wedding im going to be saying my vows thinking of what he sis and it makes me feel like S**t.

10 years and you were going to ruin your life via a phone call?

have some concept of reality please, a lapdance is nothing and fair play to him for telling you. this man deserves better than you posting on here telling us what a bas*ard he is, when what he did was harmless fun. woman are no better/worse, what happens if your mates get you a stripper for your hen? in fact, they probably were. my missus was on a hen last weekend and they got the girl a stripper. any harm done? no.

go out on your hen and enjoy it for feck sake.

capricatz

Dragan pity the woman who marries you - i deserve more respect than that and i demand it to. So should all women not after simpathy warning men that some things are unexceptable.

homerjay2005

and by the way, private sessions arent what they say on the tin. "private sessions" can often be in a group with 4 or 5 other lads in there with different girls. it depends on the club. any clubs i have ever been in, have been like that. they all have cameras and generally a bouncer nearby.

lapdancing is a harmless lads way of doing something different. as i said in above post, woman are no better on hens, in fact, alot of woman are disgraceful in them

gazzer

For gods sake capricatz will you get over yourself. 10 years together and if this is all he has done then you have little to be worrying about. He had a couple of private lap dances.. so what. Just about every stag I have been at has involved the stag having a lap dance. At least he told you. How would you feel if he hadnt have told you and then you found out at some later stage.

Can I ask why you happened to mention to him not to have any lap dances before he went on his stag? How would you feel if he had told you what and what not to do on your hen night?

capricatz

Marraige will last. it lasted its through poorer and sicker (cancer), car crashes, parental interference, childbirth, sleepless nights, our daugher nearly died last year. weve been through so many bad things only the best yet to come.

the one things for sure cant live without each other through thick and thin - at the momnet im still pissed at him but ill get over it and his learned never to do it again - keepin him on a short leash and will be doing what a good husband should.

Macha

capricatz wrote: »

keepin him on a short leash and will be doing what a good husband should.

WTF?? Is he your husband or your dog??

capricatz

not having a hen - dont want one not into that sort of s**t.