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internet dating
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21-08-2004 11:51am#1
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*minimizes porn*
How are you doin'?
I'm too afraid to try that internet opposite sex thingy - dating, that's it. The conversation initially would have to be extra lame, more than the usual lame conversation upon talking to a female.
The Christmas specials of The Office maybe just ruined it for me
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I was a bit iffy about it at first to be honest, but figured I had nothing to lose. Of course you're bound to get weirdos, but there are also a good share of decent people there.
I met my current g/f on the internet and I have never questioned my decision to meet her there. Most of my friends meet people in discos and stuff like that which just isn't for me. We got to know each other first and things just progressed from there. I find that a lot more appealing than seeing a load of girls through beer goggles, as most of my classmates seem to do.
I also preferred that I could find someone who has my interests, instead of just being aesthetically pleasing.
But each to his/her own. If you really don't want to try internet dating then don't, but I'd say give it a shot. But then again, I'm a geek
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I don't see the problem in meeting people off the internet, it's just another way to communication, no different to going out to pubs or clubs. Infact, as long as you don't go wandering down dark alleyways on your own it's probably even safer than pubs/clubs.
From my personal experience I've met two people who I played Red Alert (now defunct ) with, both of whom I'd count as real life friends now. 0 -
elivsvonchiaing wrote:I'm reluctant to try it as I don't want to finish up as a servered head in some psycho-woman's fridge.
Probably more likely to happen to you out in a club on a Saturday night
In fairness, you could be just as likely to meet a nutter through a friend/work/club.0 -
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My own (further thoughts) on this are as follows: I once used a premium rate chat line to meet women- this was mainly quite sad. I did meet a girlfriend; it lasted 6 months - can't think this as a great ad. It was I think 50p/min for men 10p/min for women - in UK- the same service is here now at €1.50/min (I think) still ridiculous money. My parents found out how we actually met which was the biggest embarassment. Internet dating has to beat this anyday.
I've knocked it. I may try it yet, now that I've worked out that there are worse things in life
So guys - tips etc. are there any hot women on boards.ie 30-35
{Elivs checks radiation badge and dives into bunker
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Experience is a big thing. I don't think people should strike internet dating off the list just because it's 'sad' and there's a stigma attached to it. If that were the case I wouldn't have several very good friends which I have now. Yes, there are bad experiences, but what avenue of dating (or pretty much everything else) doesn't have bad experiences? You can't let a story such as a 13 year old girl being abducted completely throw you. It should just encourage extra caution.
Besides, even if you don't find a love interest, you could still find some good friends, maybe get to know their friends and then THAT would be socially acceptable :rolleyes:
Oh, and some of it's free too
I think I've voiced my opinions enough for one day. People will think I work for some internet dating agency otherwise.0 -
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I suspect that the point to Internet dating sites, speed dating or whatever is that it caters towards a more calculating demographic - the thirty-somethings.
Twenty-somethings are less picky about relationships than thirty-somethings, largely because they’re settling down isn’t on the cards. At twenty-two, you will look at your boy/girlfriend and know that the chances of settling down with this person are pretty slim, so you can afford to be less choosy. Once you hit thirty (give or take a year or three) you begin to consider that if you are going to be in a relationship, that it may be a much longer term one and so you’re less enthusiastic about going out to a bar and playing relationship roulette.
I think the issue is not so much one of getting someone - that’s never difficult if you put even a modicum of effort into it - but getting more than a one night stand or another three-month relationship. Women in particular are affected by this as their biological clock is less forgiving than men’s - nature has blessed us with an abundance of twenty-year-old bimbetts with father complexes and the ability to father children at eighty, even if we’re be too old to pick them up. We don’t live as long, but you can’t have everything.
Personally, I’ve flirted on free Internet dating sites in the past, but never terribly seriously. I probably will try one out properly, but just haven’t gotten around to it yet. I’ve asked friends who use such sites about them and from what I’ve been told they seem pretty similar, as far as Internet communities go, to Boards, except the average age is a little higher and they’re a little more up-front about why they’re there (*Ahem* Typedef ).
As for speed dating, it depends upon your character and temperament. I went to one once with a few mates and felt it wasn’t for me. It’s quite exhausting and repetitive, and so I got bored very quickly. Of course, other people can do much better, and indeed one of my mates has been in a relationship with a girl he met there ever since.
I’d say give it a try for two three months and see what happens. After all, all good things come to those who take them.0 -
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Internet dating is just another way of meeting people. No better and no worse. People are people, no matter where you meet them. Some weirdos, some freaks, and mostly wonderful people.
There are some really good sites out there - www.rsvp.ie is just one. Many have good social outings too. Nights out where many people meet up. Most are just a bunch of very normal people, from different backgrounds getting together.
Many people use the net because jobs etc don't give them a lot of scope for a good social life. Many are also bored with the pub/club scene.
So ... don't be shy, give it a try.
It can work, I speak from experience, and know 4 couples who met online and are now engaged.0 -
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Same thought struck me. Anyone I've met through chat-lines was after at least a week of talking to them - my fear of finishing up as severed head in her fridgetk123 wrote:dotie did you just meet him just like that - where you not afraid he might be an axe murderer or something?!?! That's just me. Maybe I'm just paranoid - but maybe thats why I'm still around 0 -
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Where I was coming from was my experience on chat-lines. I have to admit these can probably be sadder- but put me off so far of venturing onto internet dating. {Any moron can just dial the number - but any moron is finding it easier to acces the net too}Chucky the tree wrote:whats he gonna do? decapitate her in front of the cafe?
this whole its dangerous meeting people off the net is bollox.
unless you describe yourself as a 14 year old girl
I concede I possibly have watched too many Quentin Tarantino movies. I have encountered basket cases on phone lines though - one chick I spoke to had been talking to a guy who told her this story - so it's obviously true
He had agreed to meet at her house. He rang the doorbell. She didn't open the door. She told him to put his lad in the letter-box and it would -er- be rewarded. He ran.
Another girl I actually met turned out to be a raving nazi-rascist - because I had admited I like Patti Smith and she had assumed I was like-minded (as her). (Not aware PS is racist - but her song can't remember the title "Jimi Hendrix was a ******- n.n.n. with a finga on the trigga" seemed to have inspired this nutter. She scared the sheit out of me - luckily she didn't get obsesive - but I reflect on this - and think- paranoia is best.
This post has deliberately been formulated to confuse. Mainly feminists - if you're a feminist and can't work it out you must be completely ignorant and belong to Dworkin class (couldn't resist). (robbed from the Indo I think - can't remember) :rolleyes: 
:mad: :eek: :cool: 
That was for both a laugh and in the hope of getting everyone's attention: I don't think guys need to be too worried about internet dating - but certainly in the future women need to give a several day getting-to-know you period on the net as the nutters will no doubt discover it's there. They have in other countries so far. Just don't think women should thank Eircom that they haven't so far
Chucky: this may be true right now - I don't think it will always be true - particularly for women.0 -
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