Boyfriend Trouble.....PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME

pretty-in-pink

recently me and my fella decided 2 bring our relationship to the next step. having been an item for well over a year and been on hols 2 gethter and well just being in a super rel, we decided2move in together.

however no sooner was d ink dry than a bad side of my fella raised its head. he is(was)USELESS round d house. so i would ask him2do stuff etc, i guess it morphed from gentle enquiries2nagging coz he just wouldn do anything.

we had a few fights about it, and we would fight wen drinking. we both were real mean2eachother.

however we decided2backtrack and make things work. make things all exciting and fun and nice. so i thought anyway. we bought a vibrater so he could use it r get me2 and he could watch (it makes him horny), and things were geetting ok...better then ok again...r so it seemed. then d other week, we were out with friends and a girl who was friends with one of them. we all headed2a arty+the new girl came home wit us.

i knew he wanted a 3sum, and he seemed2think this girl was pretty. i thought that she seemed really nice and so agreed. it was just foreplay but things started2go wrong nearly as soon as they started.

he was much more into kissing her,touching her,going down on her etc then me, and he definatley enjoyed it more. he didnt want to have sex wit me,he lost his hard on when we tried, but wit her it just kept big and hard-even though there was no sex on the cards.

now that in itself is a MAJOR blow2my ego,2my self-confidence, but when she was going home he went downstairs after her2get his clothes, and he kept looking at her wit big puppy eyes. it totally freaked her out and i gotta say made me feel sick-with worry.

but when we went back to bed (she kissed me "goodnight" but not him, so i dunno if that means she was not interested in him r so interested she was trying2make him jealous) he swore blind that while yeah he thought she was beautiful, and had a great rack that he much prefered me.

just days later though he told me that he REALLY REALLY fancies her, that he wants 2 F**K her, and that she turns him on even when he just thinks of her4mere seconds/minutes. He said that she makes him hornier+harder den i do, that he is more attracted2her then me.

he said that he has been bored wit me, wit our sex life for a while now, before we moved even and that was why he was finding it harder2finish r even enjoy himself. he criticised everyone of my techniques and blamed me for his dwindling interest. he kept swingin between "i dont really fancy u" to "i do fancy u but not as much as her".

my heart is so broken, but then last night we had a talk and i told him id leave him think.that id make up d spare room, and sleep there. he said that he would and i said ok, that where he wakes up will determine us. that if he stayed there that we were over and he could try go2her, and if he came2me then we would work on things and fix us. i gave him this food4thought cause he wasnt able2choose between us when i asked him if he had2pick between love,security,me,our history,our bond,everything he used2claim meant d world 2 him, that he would die for or something that mightnt happen, let alone make him happy.

i went for a bath and made up d spare room, bout 20 mins r so later he came up2me, and joined d bath and was so sweet and nice. i gave him head but he didnt seem2like it much. he criticised one r 2 bits so i said sure il try again coz i was likin it but he just pushed me away and said2leave it alone. i then went to bed, and2my delight he joined me. but it was short lived. he wouldnt let me cuddle him, gave out2me for loving him so much, and made fun of me for praying. he was only concerned when2dreams woke me up. then wen i was half awake this morning he was playing wit himself. he has done it before but only wen im2asleep2wake up. wen i opened my eyes however he was getting dressed and denied doing anything. he then left for work but didnt even say goodbye r kiss me.

he is so angry and annoyed that im hurt by his confession and behaviour. what can i do? i lve him so so much and i dont want2lose him. what can i do 2make him love+want me again. if it was anyone else id cut my losses, but we have shared so much that i dont think i can give him up without a fight. please help me. please.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

I think the only viable solution is to propose to him.

Repli

lol thats the funniest thing Ive read in ages - I thought I had problems

JohnnyBravo

Ah the Moderators
So helpful

Doc

Does he have a pet bunny? If so may I suggest…
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Devilled Rabbit
(serves 4)

Ingredients :

I rabbit washed in water with a little vinegar then diced
4 oz fat bacon, finely chopped
I large onion finely chopped
8 oz mixed carrots, leeks and turnips, diced
5 tbsp flour
1/4 Pt milk
1 pt water
1 tsp Worcester sauce
1 tsp curry powder
1 tsp salt
1/2 tsp pepper
garnish- finely chopped parsley

Method :

Sauté the bacon in a large saucepan with the onion, carrots, turnips, rabbit, curry powder and Worcester sauce for 2 or 3 minutes. Add the water and bring to the boil . Season with salt and pepper and reduce the heat to low. Simmer, covered, until the rabbit is tender about 1 1/2 hours. Blend the milk and flour in a small bowl, stirring continuously, and cook until the sauce is smooth and thick. Add more salt and pepper if necessary, and serve at once, garnishing with parsley.

pretty-in-pink

no guys im serious. i wouldn kid bout this. its 2 serious. please please help me.

Doc

If your serious dump him he sounds like a sh!t.

(Edit)
P.S. This should be in Personal Issues otherwise no one take it serious

Fudger

bleedin jasus

Sleipnir

Maybe he's tired of your txt spk?

I'l sick of having to translate text speak in my mind.
It's 'too' or 'to' not 2
Capital letter at the beginning of a sentence.


Here's a list of the text talk, i haven't included the grammer because it would take too long.

decided 2 bring
hols 2 gethter
super rel
decided2move
was d ink dry
round d house
him2do
enquiries2nagging
fight wen drinking
mean2eachother
decided2backtrack
me2
r so it seemed
headed2a
home wit us
3sum
seemed2think
started2go
blow2my ego
2my
her2get
trying2make
wants 2
her4mere
attracted2her
bored wit me
wit our sex
harder2finish
r even
fancy u
i do fancy u
up d spare
go2her
came2me
food4thought
able2choose
had2pick
used2claim d world 2 him
made up d spare room, bout 20 mins r
up2me
d bath
seem2like
one r 2 bits
coz i was likin it
said2leave
and2my
out2me
when2dreams
wit himself im2asleep2wake
want2lose
2make

jay567

i assume the mod is taking the p***. You seem like a sweet person, u have put alot of work into fixing it. Walk away! before u get really messed up. others would be lucky to have yeah.

JohnnyBravo

I think moving in killed it
He likes the other girl because he hasnt seen her at her worst and she doesnt nag him about cleaning and he can get away from her when he likes
The spark is gone welcome to monogomy some guys worst nightmare
Seems to me he is stringing you along and he is imature albeit lucky (threesome)

Civilian_Target

You can't really expect us to take this seriously if you write it in "txt msg" on the After Hours forum. Try using real words, and posting in the Personal Issues forum.

Raz

Break up with him. He's a loser and you'll get over it. You've only been together a year. That's not that long tbh.
The fact that you feel you've got such history after a year just shows how young you are.

Raskolnikov

Originally posted by Mordeth
I think the only viable solution is to propose to him.

Yep, he'll definitly come to his senses and abandon his wild ways when you get a ring on him. Ohhh, you could get yourself pregnant, if he's half a man he'll have to marry you.

BuffyBot

u shud get rid of him asap coz of wot he did u no

pretty-in-pink

where is the personnal issues forum.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Originally posted by Doc

P.S. This should be in Personal Issues otherwise no one take it serious [/B]

ROFL



also, if this isn't a troll...i have just lost another large chunk off my faith in humanity.


http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?forumid=127

that's the PI forum

if you are being serious... just dump him, honestly it's the easiest problem any self styled agony aunt has had to deal with.

NocturnalDonkey

What did you expect to happen after inviting a better looking girl into a threesome.

JohnnyBravo

Shouldnt the moderator MOVE IT to the personal issues

Sleepy

If this thread isn't a piss-take, get the fuck out of that relationship.

OLDYELLAR

first of all if my boyfriend seriously suggested a threesome with some girl he found pretty , id be like oh really well you just have her for the night if shes so great and dont expect me to be here in the morning
secondly if he even dared criticise my sex techniques id be like haha whatever , would you **** me ?id **** me?
the fact that he keeps going on about this other girl suggests he wants you to dump him so he does`nt have to do the dirty work , probably the other girl did`nt want to seem like a complete bitch and so kissed you goodnight because she felt bad for you and was probably thinking wow your boyfrend seems like a prick
i`d dump him , he should`nt be thinking bout other women when he`s with you , i know over a year is a long time and moving out will be awkward but you tried your best even when he criticised yor giving head you went again to make it better for him
he sounds like a pratt dump him
also this should probably be in personal issues

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

first of all if my boyfriend seriously suggested a threesome with some girl he found pretty , id be like oh really well you just have her for the night if shes so great and dont expect me to be here in the morning

you sound like great fun!

JohnnyBravo

Call me

pretty-in-pink

prior to that happening i asked him did he prefer her,and he said no that he thought i was prettier. until recently he also said i was the prettiest/sexiest girl in the world. sorry for text speak if it has annoyed you guys. its a force of habit when texting or in a board/chat-room

OLDYELLAR

ah i am great fun really

Fudger

first of all if my boyfriend seriously suggested a threesome with some girl he found pretty , id be like oh really well you just have her for the night if shes so great and dont expect me to be here in the morning

so you wouldn't be back till the evening ? COOL....

this tread is very bleedin funny......

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

doing anything at the weekend? <-- Yellar


naughty


listen to dennis leary's "asshole song" and think of your boyfriend.

see how they fit?

he's an asshole..(an asshole) eeh-oh, eeh-oh

joe_chicken

"im2asleep2wake!!!"


it took me 10 minutes to read this!!!

jay567

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first of all if my boyfriend seriously suggested a threesome with some girl he found pretty , id be like oh really well you just have her for the night if shes so great and dont expect me to be here in the morning
=============================================

bummer!

The_B_Man

from your intial post, ive noticed 2 things:
1: your into threesomes
2: when you give head, if hes not happy you give more head.

my advice would be to dump him and come round my place...oh, and bring a friend

JohnnyBravo

Check your private messages and all will be revealed

SheroN

Your boyfriend is a dickhole, make no mistake about it.

OLDYELLAR

hey mordeth my 21st the 24th wanna come down ?
sure why would he need a threesome when he`s got me ?:D

Doc

It sounds like you just need practice and to learn new techniques. I’m starting up a class for girls like yourself to give them the skills needed to suckseed. Your more then welcome to join. My fees are very reasonable and classes can be taught on a one to one basis as you don’t seam to like groups.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Originally posted by OLDYELLAR
hey mordeth my 21st the 24th wanna come down ?
sure why would he need a threesome when he`s got me ?:D

where are you, and what drugs will be available?

OLDYELLAR

doc ahahahahahaha if you dont seam ahahaha nutz

OLDYELLAR

its down in waterford
haha what drugs , we want you to have a clear mind that night.

simboyotic

naughty,
that guy sounds like a complete jerk.
have some respect for yourself and dump him now. don't fool yourself by thinking he's going to change.

the fnj

moved to personal issues

Giblet

Ok the thing I would think to do is, say you want another threesome.

AND BRING A BIG BLACK GUY!

pretty-in-pink

Um thanks, I really would not know where to look for anything here as I'm a stranger in your midst, also thanks to everyone who has been replying to me

pretty-in-pink

Where would I find one of those? One that would be willing to play at any rate.

Spunog UIE

Originally posted by Giblet
Ok the thing I would think to do is, say you want another threesome.

AND BRING A BIG BLACK GUY!

BLACKKKKKKKKKKKKKK did you say BLaaaaaaCK.



.... oh and a tube of vaseline, should do the job

... was that implied....


knew i had just the video

link

smoke.me.a.kipper

Originally posted by OLDYELLAR
we want you to have a clear mind that night.

thats not in the spirit of a 21st.

and naughty_girl, your 'boyfriend' is a shit. why are you still around?

OLDYELLAR

true smoke me a kipper very true ,
yea he sounds like a complete bol*x!

joe_chicken

I'm a stranger in your midst....

WARNING WARNING WARNING WARNING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my patented BULL**** METER has just gone crazy!!!

seamus

OK. You probably need to take a long, hard look at yourself.

You move in with your boyfriend. He doesn't clean, you start nagging at him, you fight.
One night you're out and (by your account) he just brings a girl home with you, completely out of the blue, on the off-chance that you'd be into a threesome. You do it, notice a complete disinterest in you throughout the thing, and an infatuation in her, on his part.
(At what point here did alarm bells start going off?)
Then he tells you that by Jesus, he doesn't find you attractive any more, that he would much prefer the other girl that he brought home for a threesome! So you, obviously pissed off, for some reason decide to give him a chance to decide, and after he walks in with his tails between his legs, you suck him off. Then he tells you that it's crap, and pushes you away when you try again.

What are you missing here?
He doesn't fancy you anymore. He doesn't respect you. You don't respect yourself. He expects you to be there for sex, and still give it to him even though he tells you you're **** and you're sex is ****.

Dump him. Otherwise you'll find yourself ten years down the road with three kids, a boyfriend who only touches you for sex, who tells you you're **** and no-one would ever want you, who sleeps around with every woman he can get his hands on, and spends all his money on anything but you.

Either that or you'll walk in and find him in bed with this other girl and he'll ask you if you want to join in. :rolleyes:

Cop on to yourself.

OLDYELLAR

what he just brought this one back without warning you ?i missed that the first time
hey maybe he thought you werent going to be there and was goina do her anyway , oh my god , why are you still with him ?
i would o definetely put his head through a wall by now !

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Originally posted by OLDYELLAR
its down in waterford
haha what drugs , we want you to have a clear mind that night.

good god, why?

Raz

Originally posted by OLDYELLAR
i would o definetely put his head through a wall by now !

Why would you do that to a perfectly nice wall? Smash his head off the road. They're much more durable.

Naughty, I think the general concensus so far is that you should dump him. I don't think one person has advocated his position. He comes across as a wanker (which you delightfully detailed for us ... thanks :dunno:) and you're not coming across the best yourself.
Leave him and restore some faith in yourself.

OLDYELLAR

ah im only kidding with ya , you`ll have to find a hostel or something though , my place full as it is