How many still live at home

Am I Sad?

I'm pretty embarressed by the fact that I still live at home with the parents at 29 years, 8months and 20 days old.

I simply cant afford to move out yet and thankfully I have a wonderful relationship with my parents who don't seem to be in a hurry to get rid of me or my 3 siblings either.

The reason I bring this up is that I was listening to a discussion with Gerry Ryan on the radio last night and they were discussing this very issue, highlighting the negatives of such an arrangement as well as the positives for both parents and 'children'. It seems with house prices and rents so high in this country that there are a lot more like me. I'm still a sad ******** but at least it seems there a lot more sad ******* in the same situation as me :D Also in many European cultures its expected for 'children' to remain in the family home untill they get married. Is it going that way here, as a result of financial necessity rather than a family cultural change I wonder?

[Edit] Im sure the Poll is flawed so can someone with a more logical mind than me devise a more useful one please??

KdjaCL

I recently moved back (me 27) after 10 years out OMG please god kill me now ...........

Im in the middle of 6 kids with noone left at home only me and parents ,i really do think i have died and this is Hell.

But some people actually like and get on with their parents so living at home isnt all bad ,its a lot cheaper than renting /buying.
Stuff gets done for you trust me after 10 years living out of the house all these little things are perks again if you like your parents that it and they aint 2 completley mental alcholics


kdjac

mr_angry

I don't think it really matters that much to be honest. Where you live doesn't really define who you are, so I wouldn't say it makes you a sad b*****d by any means.

The only thing I would say is that living away from home, even for a brief period, teaches you to be self-sufficient, and tolerant of other people's bad habbits, etc. (It can be surprisingly difficult).

Better yet, if you do it with absolutely no money, it teaches you amazing kinds of survival techniques! Believe me, there's nothing like spending a winter in a house with no heating and f***-all food, to make you appreciate what you have actually got! Its actually one of my fonder memories - it brought out a great sense of comeraderie in myself and my housemates. Thankfully we made it through alive!

Borzoi

Originally posted by Am I Sad?
I'm pretty embarressed by the fact that I still live at home with the parents at 29 years, 8months and 20 days old.

You're hardly alone with the CSO releasing statistics say that over 40,000 over 30's live at home with their parents.

Curiously more men are at home compared to women, which leads me to suspect that the girls are living in their boyfriends gaff:D

DaithiSurfer

If you stay with parents untill you get married then you will miss out on any free wild life you might have wanted to experience first.
And don't say you have a free wild life living with your poarents.
Its a completely different experience.
You make regret some day having missewd the oppertunity.
As the man says how about living in a cold flat with no heating at all.
Might be misereble but it is a great experience just to have had and laugh about it now.

no1lfcfan

Get this.......my parents are living at home with me!! They bought a house last October and its still only half finished!! It's a pain in the ass.........all I want to do is have parties and watch what I want to on the telly!!

Woden

Still at home am for the immediate future, away on for the summer though at the moment in newcastle which has been a great personal experience, learning how to wash and iron etc., when i finish college i may move out. If i do a Phd in ireland though i may have to live at home, or stay at home for another couple of years till i get a house deposit, i don't want to rent it just feels like dead money thrown away i can think of a better way to spend €1000 a month

Emmo

I have been living on my own since 18 and im now 24. I guess some of us buck the trend.

Im from Dublin and went to college in Dublin too so its not like I moved away from college!

Emmo

DaithiSurfer

I moved out of home at 17.
31 now and still can't iron or wash, so you're a few years ahead of me there

Sposs

Moved out when i was 19, 22 now, will never go home it would wreck my head.

DaithiSurfer

MisterAnarchy my heart bleeds for you.
People in flats maybe dont paint the house etc.
But they do
give 125 + euro per week in cash for rent and food etc.
Pay for the satellite subscription which is 60 euro per month.
do their own washing and tidying up after meals.
pay back money that was invested in them by parents.
do all the household chores ,DIY,gardening,painting etc.

a lot do paint as well you know. My house needs painting so, i'll be at it next summer too.

Pay esb, gas, tv licence, rubbish charges, heating, clean windows, cook, clean the bathroom, hoover.

they buy the tv, video,etc

Living with your parents makes you imagine that you are special by doing things that almost everyone else does without a thought in real life anyway.

You probably even think its hard work to make your own breakfast.
Living away is most definitely tougher than living at home.
You need to experience it to see that.
Having said that though, its sooo worth it.

Bard

I'm 26 and I moved back home a few years ago after living in various places of my own with either friends or my ex-fiancée before that. I'll be moving back out and buying my own place within the coming year.

Ste-

21 living at home and it sucks but it's too expensive to move out.
Some intersting stats were pointed out on news 2 last night about more people living at home.

MisterAnarchy

Pay esb, gas, tv licence,

This is all direct debit now by the way

JohnK

22, living at home and I'll be damned if I pay some exorbitant rent for a place of my own. I'm going for squatters rights here but I'll have to outlast my sister.

dahamsta

Heh, I don't even fit on the poll. Someone cut my apron strings before I start wearing nappies again?!

Mossy Monk

still at home. i can't afford to move anywhere so i'm staying here for a while. 23 btw

Am I Sad?

I mean its not like I'm some obese pizza eating slob addicted to the internet who never leaves the house and has his mammy do everything for him. (NB infer nothing from the specifics of that description! )

Like anarchy I pay 'rent' to my parents, pay my share of the bills (ESB Gas etc), pay the whole phone bill, the NTL Digital bill etc etc. I do anything that has to be done around the house be it chores or maintenance, painting etc. So its not as if I'm sponging of them.

I have a decent job, drive a decent car (audi A3), enjoy a varied social life and even manage to save a few quid. I just refuse to pay dead money on exhorbitant rents even if that means foregoing some of the 'freedom of action' (if you know what I mean ) that those who have 'flown the nest' enjoy. Like I said I get on great with my parents who are liberal open minded non judgemental folk Obviously I can't have the lady of the moment stay over every night so its a little bit restrictive in that respect but its not a huge problem. Obviously its not ideal but you learn to compromise. If I had dinosaurs for parents things might be different and paying any amount of rent would probably be preferable to staying at home but tbh there just doesn't seem to be much of a generation gap between myself and my parents views or attitudes and like I said we get on great.

I just love the way they compare us with the rest of Europe where most people rent and hardly anyone owns their own home. " Ah sure we're just getting more continental". That would be all well and good if Irish rents were the same as on the continent but they're not. They're nearly as high as mortgage repayments!!

I just despair at the thought of never being able to afford a decent home unless I marry an heiress!

Why oh why didn't I listen to people telling me to buy a house 6 or 7 years ago?? "Sure what would I need a house for at 22. I'm gonna enjoy life for another year or three" Famous last words!! :D Now I'm screwed!!

rainbow kirby

I want to move out. Im 19 and am bored of living at home...

echomadman

Originally posted by MisterAnarchy
I'm 26 and still live at home with my mother and 2 brothers.
Unlike other opinions I think living at home is alot tougher than living <snip>
[blah blah blah]
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before I emigrate next year.
It is a bit of a bummer but life isnt easy .
Most people living in a flat do nothing .

That's a most ironic nick you have there misteranarchy.

I personally left home at 18, best decision ever.

Its nice to achieve something.

this gets my vote for most condescending mommas boy remark of the year

ven0m

Good man JohnK - always make sure ye get those squatters rights to make sure the other bastards don't get nada

Having your own gaff is a friggin great idea... wild parties, all weekend orgies, week long beer drinking contests.... fab.... pity it ****in costs so much to be able to do that in your OWN gaff... "Right parents, here's 400, now **** off for the week & whatever you hear about Roman Toga parties - it's all bollocks!!"

ven0m

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Gwan ye good thing........legeeeennndddddd

BLITZ_Molloy

My reasons for staying at home are mostly economic. The rents are far too high to save money and thats the only way I'll get a house without some crazily high morgage.

But the parents are pretty sound so I'm lucky that way I suppose.

monument

I haven’t moved out; as if I do I'll end up living in this lovely town of mine for the rest of my life :rolleyes:

Syth

I still live at home, but I'm only 19. I would move out, except that it'd be way too dear to pay the rent, food etc. Money I don't have nor couldn't get. I like living here, it's great. No real push factors to leave.

Am I Sad?

Of the people saying they moved out in their teens/early 20's.

How many mean recently or actually mean when they were 20yo in '93 for example? Don't we all wish we had the foresight to get on the property ladder back then.

If you mean recently, are you living on bread and water so you can afford the rent/mortgage for a decent place or are you paying a little less exhorbitant rent/mortgage for a hovel?

If recently and your not living on bread and water and you have a decent place, are you a lawyer, doctor, Tradesman or Cisco network Tech!

Me, I'm on a low to average income (worked my ass off for the car), didn't get on the property ladder when I should have, am loath to waste money on rent, and unfortunately am a bit of a snob to boot so a hovel for a few quid less in rent does not appeal to me either. As much as I blame the government for the ridiculous housing situation I have never claimed benefit and am loath to claim a council house from them although I'm probably not eligable anyway.

How are you people doing it. Surely you've had to make compromises to be able to afford it. Whats the secret?? :D

In saying all that......I know I'm still a sad bastard. :D Fingers crossed in the lottery tomorrow! :D

Tellox

Living at home, as Im 15.

I intend on leaving Ireland though when I get my JC, at which time I'll be 17..

Lukin Black

Originally posted by no1lfcfan
Get this.......my parents are living at home with me!! They bought a house last October and its still only half finished!! It's a pain in the ass.........all I want to do is have parties and watch what I want to on the telly!!

Can't remember which comedian said it, but I hope you put them in different rooms and told them "They'll be none of that carry on under my roof!"

24, living at home. Can't afford to move out yet, but I have lived away from home, at college and away abroad for the best part of a year, so I do miss the freedom, peace & quiet etc.

And being able to go from the bath/shower to my bedroom in the nip

KdjaCL

Anyone can buy a house on Councils 50/50 scheme thats how i bought mine after renting for a few years.

Bought house for €110,000 now worth €220,000 and its in Neilstown in D 22 ...LMAO 200 grand for a house Neilstown thats fukkin shockin.

But pay 520 a month half is rent, other is mortage , 25 year mortage on €55,000 you can get the bank to remortage and buy the house outright but then its 700 a month.
But with the council you can pay of the rented half in minimum payments of 1,000 so every 3 months i pay 1000 =4k a year so rented part should be paid within 12 years then 13 years left of 260 mortage


but as i said bought house 3 years ago for 110 now worth 220 ,thats a lot of cash the council may not loan you that.
And the above idea is based on my mortage not a 220 one.

But a bank aint gonna loan you 200K + so best bet is the council.

The catch with the council is you pay half the mortage over 25 years and the other half is rent then you have tobuy the councils after 25 years so if you did it their way your 100K house has been bought by you for 200K ,so get out fot he renting part quick.


But my wife kicked me out so im paying for her house now and im back in parents


kdjac

KdjaCL

Oh and the best thing about your own place is one thing.

Leaving the bathroom door open when you having a crap.
Thats it the best thing about your own place


kdjac

Cabaal

I lived at home till I was 20
I was never sure about moving out, but finally did and best thing I ever did.
Freedom for all and get off your arse and get yourself a job!

TomTom

I've been living out of home for close on a year now but before that i was in college so i was away from home for most of the year.

Tis great living away from home.
You may have all the bills and stuff and have to take responsibility for the gaff.
But the freedom is great.
Nobody waiting up for you at all hours of the morning to question you about where the hell you were. (unless you are living with the gf)

Havelock

Cunning parents would do what mine did.

From the age of about 8 I have been tiding a room in the house each day, have other choirs, from 11 did most of the local shopping, from 14 cooked, cleaned and ironed for my self, now at tyhe age of 20 pay my parentsd money for living at home and do everyones, washing, cooking and cleaning, and due to my parents' "backs" any heavy work has always been left to methe only son. Though it ain't all bad, I am never at home bar to sleep and shower, so its better than paying rent to do the same.

Emmo

Bought my place 5 years ago when I came into some money. My Dad advised me to buy a aprtment when I was going to college so I got a two bedroom apartment.

I took the small room and I rented the spare room. My Dad paid the balance of the mortage for 3 years (about 200 quid a month) so I took out a loan when I got a job and repaid him the loan and now I pay the balance of the mortage whist still renting out the spare room.

Emmet

bug

I moved out for three years when I was 22, then I moved back in March due to not being able to afford the increasing rent. I dont know why I moved out in the first place.

There's three of us left at home now 3/5. The other two are still always there during the day and we all get along very well, nice atmosphere. enjoying it very much.

Dustaz

I moved out when i was 23 for about 3 years. After leaving my first flat, i moved home while looking for another one. I thought id give it a couple of months but after 2 weeks i was going insane and luckily found a nice flat ive been in ever since (ive been here 5 years now).

It sometimes feels like dead money, but id rather pay that than live at home especially at 31

Trojan

I don't get the whole dead/wasted money think regards renting - you're getting a nice place to live with no strings attached, surely that's worth money?

Been away since age of 20 (5yrs ago), moved to Dublin for 1st job, been renting since.

Al.

aodh_rua

Originally posted by Am I Sad?
Of the people saying they moved out in their teens/early 20's.

How many mean recently or actually mean when they were 20yo in '93 for example? Don't we all wish we had the foresight to get on the property ladder back then.

If you mean recently, are you living on bread and water so you can afford the rent/mortgage for a decent place or are you paying a little less exhorbitant rent/mortgage for a hovel?

If recently and your not living on bread and water and you have a decent place, are you a lawyer, doctor, Tradesman or Cisco network Tech!

Hmm - I moved out aged 20 and went to London for a summer's work (this was in 2000). I came back to finish final year in College and moved into a flat in the centre of Dublin across the road from Trinity for dirt cheap rent. I'm doing a postgrad now - still living in the same place three years on, and I can say that there is absolutley NO WAY I'd move back to live with the parents. Don't get me wrong - I get on well with them - but having lived away I think it would be a real backwards step to move back.

As for people still living at home into their thirties - to me it doesn't sound too healthy for people to get to that age having not learned to survive on their own. Still - I know its not their fault. Not everyone's as lucky as I have been accomodation wise.

TacT

25, living at home, get on grand with the folks etc and pitch in so it's not all that bad, only have part-time work atm so can't afford to move out (which I would have done already if things had gone as planned but the haven't....)

May yet leave the country in order to be able to afford my accomodation and food

Seraphina

almost 19 now and still live at home, starting college, so i wont be able to move out coz i wont have enough time to work enough to pay rent. my parents dont like the idea of me moving out really, they say there's no point because its an easy journey from where i live to where im going to college, but its really the lack of freedom that gets me. hopefully i will get a part time job and be able to save enough to move out when i finish college.

Big Chief

moved out when i was 19, im 21 now and never looked back..

my parents and I have a better 'phone relationship' than we do when i was staying at the house... Hell, we actually get on with one another and are able to talk since i moved out

wheres the 'i dont live at home' option anyway?

Zab

I read this a while ago. It seems to have some relevance here.

po0k

19
Been renting exactly a year.
Was living at home for the first eyar of college, but moved in because the cost of rent was roughly equal to the cost of getting cabs home the one or two nights I went out.
Also the lack of hassle thumbing lifts in teh morning was well worth it.
Course...I never counted for the cost of heating, ESB, DSL, food, cost of beer due to me going out more etc.

One great perk is having my own room (and a bigger bed) to do what I like with whom I like and be as loud as i like.

The house is cheap rent, close enough to college but isn't a palace. Dry and semi-warm (when we buy oil)
Must switch over to having house parties instead of pubbing.

AL][EN

i moved outta my house when i was 12.

went to boarding school from the age of 12 and really only ever made it home once a fortnight

there are both pro´s and con´s to living at home you dont have your own personal space and freedom at home Vs 3 square meals a day nice warm bed at nite but there´s absoutly nothing wrong with living at home

either way is fine

Doodee

Been living away from home for a year now. It is good freedom wise, but you can get very lonely, specially when you want to just chat to someone, but i suppose, thats what phones are there for

also leaves me with less cash to go out, so not as much of the bad stuff for poor old me

skipn_easy

I've been living away from home since I was 16 (3 years) and it's been great. Sure two of the places were studenty dives but it was well worth it.

Able to go out all night and come home the next morning and fall into bed without worrying about calling home or getting agro from the parents. Able to have parties and invite everyone you know without worrying about getting beer stains on the carpet.

I lived in a really nice house in sandymount with my brother for the last year which was the best of both worlds, he didn't care what i got up to as long as i paid the rent, and cos he's earning lots of dosh we were able to get a really nice house with broadband and lots of games consoles

When I moved back home for a couple of weeks recently I nearly cracked up because I kept getting in trouble when I didn't call to say I wasn't going to be home, and when I didn't get up early in the mornings etc. I have to say my relationship with my parents improved dramatically when I moved out.

sceptre

Originally posted by no1lfcfan
Get this.......my parents are living at home with me!! They bought a house last October and its still only half finished!! It's a pain in the ass.........all I want to do is have parties and watch what I want to on the telly!!

Ever think of invoking "my house, my rules" and by extension "my choice of what I want to watch on my TV in my living room"?

... or "rent a place, damn you, to hell with my inheritance"

sceptre

Originally posted by Lukin Black
Can't remember which comedian said it, but I hope you put them in different rooms and told them "They'll be none of that carry on under my roof!"

:mad:
I wanted to post that.

/stamps foot repeatedly

Lord Nikon

Well, I'm 23 living at home. I guess the reason why I want to leave is the fact that I have to share a room with 2 brothers. There simply isn't enough room for my clothes and stuff, and it's damn annoying.

If moving out was an option, trust me, i'd take it. But with the cost of living and buying/renting a house, it seems like a lot of money wasted. I'm gonna wait until house prices drop, or better still move abroad and bring back a **** load of money, and then buy a house.

Next year my car is paid off, then I'll think of getting a house. Although, an Audi A4 is looking like the nicer thing to do...

Am I Sad?

Finished paying for my A3 this August! €430 a month better off. Woohoo! Course rent for a half decent place is at least €800pm so that doesn't really help me. Basically to afford the rent I would have to work more overtime and days off and thus would basically only have time to eat and sleep in the place. Whats the point? Thats what I do at home. Eat and sleep and do whatever needs doing for the parents. At least this way I can save or spend.... and actually have free time to spend the money that would otherwise go on rent. Sure I can't throw wild parties, but I'm a bit old for that now and sure I cant 'do' the missus at the drop of a hat........(just makes it more rampant when we do actually find the time/place to do it) :D:D

.........Course when I do find 'the ONE'.......she can pay half the rent.....Sorted!! :D

bloggs

I moved out when i was 17/18. Never looked back. I have always wonder who people can have sex in their parents house, is it out of desperation or do you go to another place or what? Getting Ma to do your washing and cooking and stuff seems really sad to me. Also girls don't like mammy's boys