Worst/best thing to happen to you in life?

mr_fegelien · 12-11-2019 8:24pm #1

Worst: probably failing the leaving cert

Best: the entire year of 2013. Extremely manic, thought I could do anything.

dodderangler · 12-11-2019 8:25pm

Worst: having kids at a young age
Best: having kids

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 12-11-2019 8:30pm

Worst. Losing my father far too young.

Best. Having my own family.

Tell me how · 12-11-2019 8:34pm

Worst: Lost block of time due to depression
Best: Relationships (platonic) with some family members.

Four Phucs Ache · 12-11-2019 8:35pm

Worst was touching a shiny silver screw inside an open lampost on my street aged 8.

Best is still happening, watching/listening to my near teenage kids knowing I've done a good job in raising them.

12-11-2019 8:36pm

Worst - My mam getting sick
Best - Having had her for a mother. Having my dad too.

mr_fegelien · 12-11-2019 8:37pm

dodderangler wrote: »

Worst: having kids at a young age
Best: having kids

for a second I thought you were Sramreen

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 12-11-2019 8:40pm

mr_fegelien wrote: »

for a second I thought you were Sramreen

We're twins. Just have over forty years between our birthdays.

baldbear · 12-11-2019 8:42pm

Worst: Cancer getting the auld fella just as we got close.
Best: Seeing my kids been born.

Seamai · 12-11-2019 8:47pm

Worst, loosing my father at a relatively young age and not getting the chance to know the man.

Best: meeting my partner almost 20 years ago.

Berserker · 12-11-2019 8:49pm

Worst : Had an accident a few years ago and I had to spend some time in hospital. Thought I was invincible before that.

Best : My wife. Brilliant person.

Stacksofwacks · 12-11-2019 9:00pm

Worst: Too many to mention
Best: Not too many highlights here

Marhay70 · 12-11-2019 9:00pm

Best: Every day I wake up

Worst: Losing my mother at just the time when I began to realise how much she meant to me.

The Tetrarch · 12-11-2019 9:09pm

Best: being born into a rich Western economy
Worst: having to work for a share of it

Better Than Christ · 13-11-2019 5:24am

Worst: My mother's illness and death. Seven years on, it still makes me feel sick when I think about the fact that I'll never see her again.

Best: Having her for the first thirty years of my life.

s7ryf3925pivug · 13-11-2019 5:44am

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Worst: probably failing the leaving cert

Best: the entire year of 2013. Extremely manic, thought I could do anything.

Your brain undergoes damage while you're manic. Thinking an episode of severe mania was the best thing that ever happened to you shows an alarming lack of insight.

13-11-2019 5:47am

Someone said something obscene to me one day..altered the course of events of my, and probably others' lives..It's weird, he's the one person I can't forgive..

s7ryf3925pivug · 13-11-2019 5:52am

Deleted User wrote: »

Someone said something obscene to me one day..altered the course of events of my, and probably others' lives..It's weird, he's the one person I can't forgive..

What did they say that could have such an impact?

s7ryf3925pivug · 13-11-2019 5:53am

Things don't happen to me. I happen to things.

13-11-2019 5:57am

Case Shrilling Wilderness wrote: »

What did they say that could have such an impact?

Ah, I'd rather not say, and tbh, it probably wasn't their intention, but considering who was there, it was yeah, just obscene, and just kind of altered lots of things, and decisions after..

It's weird..It was definitely a turning point though..

13-11-2019 5:59am

Case Shrilling Wilderness wrote: »

Things don't happen to me. I happen to things.

I'm in a combined mutual cause and effect relationship with things..

theballz · 13-11-2019 6:07am

Worst: Death of my best friend when I was 17 and failing my leaving cert that year

Best: Helping teenagers with options after they fail LC. Completing my MBA at UCD Michael Smurfit and dedicating it to my best friend

Graces7 · 13-11-2019 7:30am

Losing the last of my family after contracting a ,misdiagnosed, misunderstood incurable illness ..

Contracting a major ,incurable, illness misdiagnosed until recently as it has taught me far more about life, about endurance., living with and overcoming pain, about fellow humans than anything else ever could.

It is in darkness that we learn to see and value light

Wanderer78 · 13-11-2019 7:46am

Worst: fathers death
Best: potentially being diagnosed with autism

13-11-2019 8:07am

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Best: potentially being diagnosed with autism

Can I ask why?..I'd probably have a touch of it myself if I'm honest..dont really see much benefit in being diagnosed though..

banie01 · 13-11-2019 8:12am

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Can I ask why?..I'd probably have a touch of it myself if I'm honest..dont really see much benefit in being diagnosed though..

I don't want to presuppose another poster, but I'd hazard a guess that being diagnosed after years of second guessing oneself as to mental capacity or illness?
That having a diagnosis can put a whole new, and quite comforting slant on ones interactions?

KathleenGrant · 13-11-2019 8:22am

Worst was losing my daughter.
Best having my children and my grandchildren. My grandchildren make bad days wonderful.

antimatterx · 13-11-2019 8:23am

Worst: Falling out with a girl as a teen who accused me of stalking her. Gave me extreme anxiety of running into her/her friends that I still have 10 years later.

Best: My parents. They raised me well, and I'm going to have an extremely easy life due to them.

dvdman1 · 13-11-2019 8:27am

Worst: regret not having kids at a younger age.

Best: my wife & kids

SusanC10 · 13-11-2019 8:31am

Worst- Losing my Dad after a very long and difficult illness.

Best - meeting my Husband and creating our own family.

D3V!L · 13-11-2019 9:50am

Worst: finding out I have Boneitis

Best: found out it was totally curable

Wanderer78 · 13-11-2019 9:56am

Deleted User wrote: »

Can I ask why?..I'd probably have a touch of it myself if I'm honest..dont really see much benefit in being diagnosed though..

banie01 wrote: »

I don't want to presuppose another poster, but I'd hazard a guess that being diagnosed after years of second guessing oneself as to mental capacity or illness?
That having a diagnosis can put a whole new, and quite comforting slant on ones interactions?

well said, thank you

more or less, its giving me great insight into my own struggles in life and most likely reasons for other family members struggles, im luckily getting help from an autism outreach service, whereby im meeting others on the spectrum, and very well informed professionals

Graces7 · 13-11-2019 10:15am

banie01 wrote: »

I don't want to presuppose another poster, but I'd hazard a guess that being diagnosed after years of second guessing oneself as to mental capacity or illness?
That having a diagnosis can put a whole new, and quite comforting slant on ones interactions?

More than anything is empowers to act to help and support yourself. Before, you had no idea what was wrong and knew it was not what was being mooted. First thing I did was get on the internet and start learning and sorting. Not comforting, as in my case I was stunned and terrified, but truth is always a relief and a release.

banie01 · 13-11-2019 10:35am

Wanderer78 wrote: »

well said, thank you

more or less, its giving me great insight into my own struggles in life and most likely reasons for other family members struggles, im luckily getting help from an autism outreach service, whereby im meeting others on the spectrum, and very well informed professionals

There is a large cohort of folk in the 30 and above age bracket that are slowly discovering that what was boisterous or poor behaviour in school was very likely due to their being on the spectrum.

There was no ADD/ADHD or Autism spectrum recognised in Irish schools when I was going, and one of my brother's was probably the 1st to receive an official Irish diagnosis in the mid 90's.
But that was only after Trojan work and research by my mother that at one stage even led to him being commited to Fairyhouse.

Glad to see a diagnosis and support have made a positive difference.

razorblunt · 13-11-2019 11:08am

Worst: Realising next year I'd have lived as many years without my Mam than with her. The thing about losing a parent as a teenager is that you never get over it, you just get on with it. But you have almost every life milestone and hurdle ahead of you without them, College Graduation, Marriage, Kids etc. They all just come up and smack you on the face when you're least expecting it.

Best: Getting married and starting a family.
Also the feeling of knowing you've worked hard to get where you are now and it's all come together.

w/s/p/c/ · 13-11-2019 11:30am

Worst: Losing my mam suddenly 3 months ago. Will never get over it

Best: Meeting my wife

astrofool · 13-11-2019 12:00pm

D3V!L wrote: »

Worst: finding out I have Boneitis

Best: found out it was totally curable

New Worst: Forgetting to get the cure

D3V!L · 13-11-2019 12:04pm

astrofool wrote: »

New Worst: Forgetting to get the cure

Nope, didn't forget thankfully. I gave up my job at the brokerage to concentrate on a cure.

Lollipops23 · 13-11-2019 12:07pm

Worst: Depressive phases on and off before I got on medication.

Best: Meeting my OH-he's made me a better version of myself and even if down the road we part company I know he's had a lasting effect on me for the better.

captbarnacles · 13-11-2019 12:11pm

Worst: MND
Best: my son and daughter and anytime I get to spend with them

Chelle_C · 13-11-2019 12:13pm

Worst: Telling my Grandad I'd call him tomorrow and not doing it. He unexpectedly died that night, I will live with that forever.

Best: I'm currently pregnant and feeling my baby kick is the best feeling I could ever imagine. If it's a boy, they will be named after my Grandad.

Foggy Jew · 13-11-2019 12:16pm

Worst: Husband of 19 years doing a moonlight flit on me and my 4 boys.

Best: My 4 boys.

Motherof123 · 13-11-2019 12:18pm

Best : Travelling around the world when I was 24 not a care in the world! I worked two jobs to save it took me 10 months to gather up enough money for the round the world open flight ticket! Couldn't possibly do that now young people are crippled with rent and taxes.

Worst : losing 2 close family members (not at the same time) one to cancer and the other a brain condition very hard to watch someone suffer and not be able to help in any way possible.
Most other worst things that have happened me I always tried to flip it and say it could have been a lot worse and accept that.

Motherof123 · 13-11-2019 12:20pm

Foggy Jew wrote: »

Worst: Husband of 19 years doing a moonlight flit on me and my 4 boys.

Best: My 4 boys.

I can only assume a moonlight is he left.
That's awful

Mango Joe · 13-11-2019 1:30pm

Four Phucs Ache wrote: »

Worst was touching a shiny silver screw inside an open lampost on my street aged 8.

Best is still happening, watching/listening to my near teenage kids knowing I've done a good job in raising them.

1. Please tell us the rest of the lampost story?
2. Sorry to hear that your far away teenage kids are such bollocks's.

eviltwin · 13-11-2019 1:38pm

My husband is the best thing that ever happened to me. I met him as a kid, we started dating as teenagers when my home life and sense of self worth was at its lowest he brought me back to life, everything good that's happened to me is because of him and he means the whole world to me.

Worst thing was the family I was born into but it all turned out OK.

giggs76 · 13-11-2019 1:53pm

best: winning a million euro in the lotto

worst:being to young and blowing it all with bad decisions except for i still own a house outright

the beer revolu · 13-11-2019 1:57pm

giggs76 wrote: »

best: winning a million euro in the lotto

worst:being to young and blowing it all with bad decisions except for i still own a house outright

Seriously?
What kind of stuff did you blow it on?

bladespin · 13-11-2019 1:59pm

Best thing: my babies, nothing has had such a profound affect on me or made me feel happier.

Wost: my parents sort of abandoned me with my grandparents (they were brilliant) when i was 5, they gave me the choice of where I wanted to stay... Nothing has had a bigger affect on me bar my kids.

13-11-2019 2:04pm

Worst: Multiple family tragedies and close bereavements.

Best: Meeting my incredible partner and starting our lives together, the sheer luck of being born into a great family and all the advantages that solid foundation resulted in.

branie2 · 13-11-2019 2:06pm

Worst: one of my uncles dying suddenly
Best: graduating from university

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