Glorious grudges!

As I posted already in the thread “What are you reading atm” I’m reading atm a fabulous and hilarious book: How to hold a grudge. From resentment to contentment – the power of grudges to transform your life.

The author, Sophie Hannah, is actually a crime writer that I admire greatly because of her brilliant style, her wicked plots and dark and yet warm sense of humour.
https://sophiehannah.com/how-to-hold-a-grudge-2/

I’m grinning while reading, sometimes laughing out loud, to the consternation of my cat. And I finally see the light, or the enlightenment of holding grudges.

I’m a passionate grudge holder, I can hold them for decades and in one case beyond the death of the instigator of one grudge. It’s not that I’m always angry, resentful or miserable. I’m just aware that someone did something that caused the grudge and I’m henceforth wary of this person without being vengeful.

I’m not one to forget and forgive. Or maybe forgive at some stage or rather can’t be bothered anymore. I think that the sanctimonious forgiveness, some people utter after some tragedy, is completely false. It’s human nature to be hurt, angry and feeling resentful, at least in the immediate aftermath of a certain grudge-inducing incident. A grudge is a healthy thing to deal with hurt. And after some time it can turn into forgiveness, maybe or maybe not.

I found the Irish are especially good and long lasting grudge holders, I think they have the longest lasting grudge in the world, 800 years or so...

And village life in Ireland wouldn’t be half the fun without grudges over generations between certain families that don’t even know anymore what the original reason was.

So do you hold grudges? And why? And do you cherish them?
Do tell.