'Swingers' scene thriving in Ireland

On Monday Ryan Tubridy read out a letter from a woman looking for advice on
her marriage.

As she explained, her husband had become distant and although he tells her he
loves her, “I can see it in his eyes that this is not true.” Things took a turn
a few months ago when he suggested they attend a swinger’s party to spice up
their marriage.

“I’m not sure why I agreed to it. Maybe I was trying to be cool and
open minded or maybe I just wanted to try and make him happy. After that I
became more more worried about what I was getting into, I tried to back out of
it several times but he would go into an unholy bad mood whenever I mentioned
backing out.”


Listeners got in touch to offer a word of caution to the writer, saying her
partner sounded selfish and inconsiderate. The Tubridy team also got in touch
with Tom Hogan of irishswingersclub.com to ask for some professional
advice. He frequently runs swingers parties across Ireland and has come across
people in similar situations.

“It has happened where people were there under duress and I
respectfully asked the partner to leave. So my advice to her would to just not
go.”

Tom said most participants “arrive as loving couples and leave as loving
couples”. The swingers scene in Ireland is thriving, he said.


“We have a huge demand to run swingers parties from Belfast to
Limerick…the Midlands, not too much”