Best ways to get a date offline?

Sam Hain · 16-03-2019 8:24pm

Take The Wheel Jesus wrote: »

If you can, go to a trad pub full of tourists. Chatting up foreign women is like playing the game of life on God mode. You can literally seduce foreign women by talking about turf. In fact I would encourage you to paddy it up (but don't get too drunk and for the love of God don't ask an American girl her opinion on Trump or gun rights).

****e talk about ****e talk

Richard Hillman · 16-03-2019 8:25pm

If you work in at a large company, with a high staff turnover you'd have a shot by pure numbers. You can actually strike up conversations that don't make you come across as a sex offender.

You have no shot at a smaller work place, especially if you get to your 30s. All the best ones are gone by their mid to late 20s, male or female. Everyone over 30 either doesn't have their s**t together or has baggage.

Dtp1979 · 16-03-2019 8:28pm

davidk1394 wrote: »

What about a thumb war ? That’s how I met my girlfriend in Langtons in Kilkenny. I was getting a drink, she was beside me I asked her would she have a thumb war with me and it went from there

I hope you fcuking destroyed her

davidk1394 · 16-03-2019 8:31pm

Dtp1979 wrote: »

I hope you fcuking destroyed her

Damn straight

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 8:31pm

Richard Hillman wrote: »

If you work in at a large company, with a high staff turnover you'd have a shot by pure numbers. You can actually strike up conversations that don't make you come across as a sex offender.

You have no shot at a smaller work place, especially if you get to your 30s. All the best ones are gone by their mid to late 20s, male or female. Everyone over 30 either doesn't have their s**t together or has baggage.

I am 30, and yes I do indeed have some baggage. It used to be like a suitcase but now it’s quite manageable, I’d even be able to take it on Ryanair.

Would be happy to meet someone similar!

corner of hells · 16-03-2019 8:37pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I am 30, and yes I do indeed have some baggage. It used to be like a suitcase but now it’s quite manageable, I’d even be able to take it on Ryanair.

Would be happy to meet someone similar!

I own an airline , will that help ?

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 8:42pm

corner of hells wrote: »

I own an airline , will that help ?

You can handle all kinds of baggage so!

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 16-03-2019 8:46pm

You could try volunteering for a local club/cause?

Help expand your social circle as well and maybe meet new people.

Nothing ventured nothing gained ðŸ˜

corner of hells · 16-03-2019 8:53pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

You can handle all kinds of baggage so!

No , the airline is from my oxygen cylinder to my mask.

Giveaway · 16-03-2019 9:00pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Might be better off in PI with this one but I’m interested in what AH can come up with.

Any other singles totally sick of the apps?

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

1.Consult a calender. 2. Stop using americanism such as date- you will see more gash/pecker/whatever you're having yourself that way

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 9:48pm

Giveaway wrote: »

1.Consult a calender. 2. Stop using americanism such as date- you will see more gash/pecker/whatever you're having yourself that way

What word should I be using in lieu of date in this context?

SCOOP 64 · 16-03-2019 9:50pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

That definitely doesn’t happen.

I was actually asked out in the street by a French guy a few weeks ago, and I just said no and then we both moved on with our lives.

i wouldn't take all comments on here to seriously, especially my ones

(hope the winky fellow didn't offend you)

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 9:52pm

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

i wouldn't take all comments on here to seriously, especially my ones
(hope the winky fellow didn't offend you)

Sorry, OldMrBrennan genuinely seems to hold this view so I didn’t get that the follow up comments were joking!

Feisar · 16-03-2019 9:56pm

Firstly be good looking and interesting.

Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

Work on your social presence.

I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.

corner of hells · 16-03-2019 10:01pm

Feisar wrote: »

Firstly be good looking and interesting.

Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

Work on your social presence.

I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.

OPs a lady person.

Feisar · 16-03-2019 10:02pm

corner of hells wrote: »

OPs a lady person.

****e sorry. Same rules apply though.

corner of hells · 16-03-2019 10:05pm

Feisar wrote: »

****e sorry. Same rules apply though.

She also doesn't drink , have a little read if the thread.

Tell me how · 16-03-2019 10:09pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?

KikiLaRue wrote: »

That definitely doesn’t happen.

I was actually asked out in the street by a French guy a few weeks ago, and I just said no and then we both moved on with our lives.

Best way to get a date offline? Say yes when asked out.

KikiLaRue · 16-03-2019 10:12pm

Tell me how wrote: »

Best way to get a date offline? Say yes when asked out.

Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

Feisar · 16-03-2019 10:15pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

What age are you?

16-03-2019 10:16pm

Feisar wrote: »

What age are you?

She already said, 30
Following with interest for opinions, no unexpected suggestions so far, no french women asked me out on the street, Spanish would be better

Feisar · 16-03-2019 10:20pm

1874 wrote: »

She already said, 30
Following with interest for opinions, no unexpected suggestions so far, no french women asked me out on the street, Spanish would be better

OP where are you right now?

Tell me how · 16-03-2019 10:20pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

So embrace the french etiquette and ask someone yourself? Give them the whole "Voulez vous couchez avec pois, ce soir?"

Have you asked friends or work colleagues to introduce you to someone?
Or, go on the online apps with a commitment (to yourself) to message 1 or 2 or 3 new guys a week (even if you don't see them as forever and ever material) and ask do they want to meet for coffee. Don't necessarily wait for the spark online or for them to ask to meet.

Ubbquittious · 16-03-2019 10:43pm

Feisar wrote: »

Firstly be good looking and interesting.

Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

Work on your social presence.

I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.

The problem with apps is that you have to lay a lot of groundwork to even get to go on a date. You'll have to waste your time on several people who will ghost you for whatever reason or are happy to chat to you but won't go on a date. This can be a huge time sink but it will also take the pressure off you to actually go out and look for someone in real life. Which is not a good thing.

Giveaway · 16-03-2019 10:43pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

What word should I be using in lieu of date in this context?

Meet, Liaison, encounter or dinner?
Edit. you are French? .Approach random IRish guys and offer them an "education"

16-03-2019 10:47pm

Ask them can we take this meeting offline

16-03-2019 10:58pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I think a girl out in a pub on her own would be seen as quite weird... I know lads can get away with it especially if there is a match on, but I think a lady alone trying to catch the eye of a passing guy would be seen as desperate.

I quite like sitting in a pub with just a pint and book for company

Mind you it's not something I'd do on a busy Saturday night but the likes of Mulligans in Stoneybatter or Frank Ryans are good spots for it.

binana · 16-03-2019 11:08pm

I met my fella by letting him ahead of me in a queue! I also got a number from a guy on a train once, the name booking things weren't working and I made a joke about it being like lord of the flies or some other well known anarchy and we just started chatting. The initial conversations weren't flirty, just friendly and funny.

Once you get over the fear of starting a conversation with a stranger, people are quite easy to read. If the response is cold just drop it, and if they're interested they make the effort to dialogue. Good luck!

Feisar · 16-03-2019 11:11pm

binana wrote: »

I met my fella by letting him ahead of me in a queue! I also got a number from a guy on a train once, the name booking things weren't working and I made a joke about it being like lord of the flies or some other well known anarchy and we just started chatting. The initial conversations weren't flirty, just friendly and funny.

Once you get over the fear of starting a conversation with a stranger, people are quite easy to read. If the response is cold just drop it, and if they're interested they make the effort to dialogue. Good luck!

And I went on a date once because I viewed a room in a house. Room was actually gone however ended up on a date with the lady that showed me the room. One needs to be easy on the eye for those sort of encounters though.

binana · 16-03-2019 11:14pm

Feisar wrote: »

And I went on a date once because I viewed a room in a house. Room was actually gone however ended up on a date with the lady that showed me the room. One needs to be easy on the eye for those sort of encounters though.

And here I was thinking it was my warmth and magnetic charisma...

16-03-2019 11:38pm

Im a little more hopeful myself of meeting someone in my advancing state of aging, although Ive never really come across funny women, Id like if they could crack a joke or was able to make witty remarks that sums up a situation. They seem to exist, but Ive not met them.

binana · 16-03-2019 11:55pm

1874 wrote: »

Im a little more hopeful myself of meeting someone in my advancing state of aging, although Ive never really come across funny women, Id like if they could crack a joke or was able to make witty remarks that sums up a situation. They seem to exist, but Ive not met them.

The only possible explanation for that is funny women surely must be too intimidated by your superior sense of humour and wit to approach you. Ah, the curse of the misunderstood genius.

oneilla · 17-03-2019 12:04am

KikiLaRue wrote: »

Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

If you do happen across one you fancy, be forward and do the asking.

17-03-2019 12:12am

binana wrote: »

The only possible explanation for that is funny women surely must be too intimidated by your superior sense of humour and wit to approach you. Ah, the curse of the misunderstood genius.

Now why cant I meet a girl like you? one that understands me

at the least can massage my ego and put the boot in at the same time and make it seem like a compliment :pac: all the while not a hint of snarkiness, I was thinking what you're saying, Im too funny and smart for my own good, are there many of us blokes who think that way? Im kidding of course.

binana · 17-03-2019 10:05am

1874 wrote: »

Now why cant I meet a girl like you? one that understands me at the least can massage my ego and put the boot in at the same time and make it seem like a compliment :pac: all the while not a hint of snarkiness, I was thinking what you're saying, Im too funny and smart for my own good, are there many of us blokes who think that way? Im kidding of course.

We're like the tooth fairy... You just gotta believe

17-03-2019 1:48pm

binana wrote: »

We're like the tooth fairy... You just gotta believe

ok, so make it up in my head?
here's my imaginary girlfriend or just fake laugh at their jokes?

Id rather find them in person, havent started looking on the dating scene and been a while since I was there, dont really remember liking looking, nice when you meet someone nice, unfortunately I have some flaws, I guess Im slightly shallow, for one (I think everyone is but doesnt admit it), they dont need to be a supermodel but if Im not attracted to them, wont matter how funny their jokes are (equally no matter how good looking they were, if they were vacuous or a type of person I wouldnt like, no matter how good looking, Id never see a longterm thing in it, although I might hold out for a while/as long as possible). I couldnt think my way around not being attracted to them (I could tolerate or even like corny/bad jokes if a nice person, witty and funny would be nice though, too sarcastic in a mean way might not gel with me, being cynical and slightly sarcastic myself, I at least know when to tone it down).
Re looks, I dont think Jo Brand is that funny (sometimes she is) but I couldnt date regardless, anyway Im crashing the OPs thread, shes got a bit over a decade on my age group so think its easier still plus got time, in a few months I'll probably start posting on PI for advice myself.

ChikiChiki · 17-03-2019 2:21pm

Ubbquittious wrote: »

The problem with apps is that you have to lay a lot of groundwork to even get to go on a date. You'll have to waste your time on several people who will ghost you for whatever reason or are happy to chat to you but won't go on a date. This can be a huge time sink but it will also take the pressure off you to actually go out and look for someone in real life. Which is not a good thing.

On apps I just ask for a phone number more or less straight away or even a date as Im much better at real conversation than messaging. Seems to work as I find text convo can die or get tedious very quickly.

Ariadne · 17-03-2019 3:28pm

Like Biko said, I'd suggest meet up and see if there are any groups that interest you. It is using an online source but to make friends with people who have similar interests to you and see if anything develops.

Widdershins · 17-03-2019 7:52pm

I think you should find a hobby with the sole criteria being that you'd take pleasure in it, rather than with a view to meeting people for romantic /sex reasons. What's meant for you won't pass you by but it seems to be true what they say...these things will find you when you're not looking for them . And if it doesn't , you'll still have enriched your life .

Widdershins · 17-03-2019 7:57pm

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Lisdoonvarna!

Hm. Watch ''The Matchmaker '' (Janeane Garofalo & David O'Hara) first....

Feisar · 17-03-2019 8:29pm

OK I know you said that you are sick of the apps, what's plenty of Fish like these days? It is a bit more involved in terms of a bio etc rather than swipe left/right.

I moved to Belfast for work years ago and I work in construction so no wimmins there. I moved into a house with four other people, I instantly had a social group. I understand it can be hard if you aren't living near your friends network. Also easy for a lad to pop out on his own compared to a lady.

Also a lad isn't going to stroll over to you in a coffee shop. I've tried that approach and you get treated like a weirdo and I'd be fairly easy on the eye.

I think some sort of group is what you need be it a book club or whatever, basically you need a few people you can hit the town with. All I can say is spread your wings as much as possible. I met my wife at a charity event, we both had a mutual friend.

poisonated · 18-03-2019 12:09am

Tgis was probably mentioned already but you could try meetup.com

AMKC · 18-03-2019 12:26am

Go on ''First Dates Ireland'' although at this stage it could nearly be called ''Second Dates Ireland.

Find out what clubs are near you and join one that would interest you. I would myself if there was anything but there is feck all out here so I am doomed to remain single forever which is not bad in some ways but can be lonely sometimes.

jimbobaloobob · 18-03-2019 1:09am

Feisar wrote: »

And I went on a date once because I viewed a room in a house. Room was actually gone however ended up on a date with the lady that showed me the room. One needs to be easy on the eye for those sort of encounters though.

The same happened to me.

Op just start the chat and see what happens.

I ended up on a date once from just asking in a rural touristy pub if anyone wanted to play cards ( was one of those manky wet days where people used to seek refuge in the pub)

Ubbquittious · 18-03-2019 1:20am

poisonated wrote: »

Tgis was probably mentioned already but you could try meetup.com

I met some people through there and I have a group with ~2000 members but a few tips

-Don't waste too much time on groups that just meet up for pints on a weekday. There is little to no shared interest. Though it is no harm to darken the door with these for 10 minutes to see if anyone interesting is there. Aim for something physical or sporty the excersize puts people in good humour more so than a couple of pints on a work night.

-People use it as a makeshift dating site. Some make a lot of noise in comment sections but never attend any meetup. If you really want to go on a date you can spot these people and PM them. Although personally I wouldnt bother

-If you have a good chat with someone get their number straight away. They might not have RSVP to the event and you might not find them in the member list. You might not see them again.

Mister Vain · 19-03-2019 2:50pm

Meetup has too many rules. Try the facebook groups instead. You can search for events in your area and see if any of your friends are going. You also have the option to create your own event and invite whoever you want.

Leo Fatkar · 19-03-2019 5:49pm

KikiLaRue wrote: »

I do go out - just get clarify - but usually for one or two and not on mad sessions that end in coppers.

Two women in one night... wow

Best ways to get a date offline?

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