Lessons you learned the hard way?

Marhay70 · 26-11-2019 3:09pm

When your missus says there's "nothing wrong", always assume that there is indeed, something wrong and that you are to blame.

Widdershins · 26-11-2019 7:10pm

Oh I have one.

Don't feel sorry for your ex and try to be their friend.
There are a million ways it can go wrong.
And they'll think you're back for another round.

olestoepoke · 26-11-2019 7:21pm

Honesty is the road to poverty.

Also when you get angry at a person or situation sleep on it, think on it and then say your piece. Never react straight away you nearly always regret your actions.

Widdershins · 27-11-2019 4:15am

You got to know when to hold Em. Know when to fold ' Em. Know when to walk away, and know when to run.

'Cause every gambler knows that the secret to survival, is knowing what to throw away and knowing what to keep.

NoteAgent · 27-11-2019 8:01am

Drumpot wrote: »

The entire banking system is corrupt, has led to people dieing (suicide or health stress- I’ve seen this first hand) , destroys families and is protected more then it’s Customers by the regulator. The fact that state money was used to bail it out protects it to a large degree as some people interpret this as “their money” so don’t care how banks act once it gets its money and makes money from customers.

Yeah, we should all get free money from the bank and not have to pay it back LOL

Without banks we wouldnt have ANY Irish business. Or global business. And you wouldnt have a job. The companies that hire us wouldnt even exist without access to financing.

But if you want to get rid of banks and go back to the 1500's thats your choice I suppose

M.T. Cranium · 27-11-2019 8:03am

Never read an entire thread on AH.

KathleenGrant · 27-11-2019 9:29am

Two that were brought home to me again yesterday.
1. The more you do for someone the less appreciated you will be.
2. The people you put yourself out for most will turn on you most.

Widdershins · 27-11-2019 9:52am

It's a phenomen I've seen myself in a type of person.
They're the type best avoided.

Gloomtastic! · 27-11-2019 2:29pm

_Farah_ wrote: »

Do not make too much plans, just hit the road.

But, but, but, perfect planning prevents pathetic performance! :P

Widdershins · 27-11-2019 2:30pm

No plan survives contact with the enemy.

Wanderer78 · 27-11-2019 2:33pm

NoteAgent wrote:

Yeah, we should all get free money from the bank and not have to pay it back LOL

Should banks have the ability to create money, largely at free will, then have the audacity to charge us for this privilege?

27-11-2019 2:37pm

dont subsidise primary industry

NoteAgent · 27-11-2019 2:43pm

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Should banks have the ability to create money, largely at free will, then have the audacity to charge us for this privilege?

The banks dont have the ability to create free money. Central Banks do. And even then its not "Free Money". Its used to buy Public, Private and Municiple bonds.

Wanderer78 · 27-11-2019 2:47pm

NoteAgent wrote:

The banks dont have the ability to create free money. Central Banks do. And even then its not "Free Money". Its used to buy Public, Private and Municiple bonds.

They more or less do, and the majority of money doesn't come from central banks in our modern monetary systems, the majority comes from normal commercial banks in the form of credit, which in turn becomes our debts, hence why we had a credit crisis not so long ago

NoteAgent · 27-11-2019 3:57pm

Wanderer78 wrote: »

They more or less do, and the majority of money doesn't come from central banks in our modern monetary systems, the majority comes from normal commercial banks in the form of credit, which in turn becomes our debts, hence why we had a credit crisis not so long ago

No they dont "more or less". All of those Bonds, IOU's, Promissiory Notes, etc have to be paid back.
And Commercial Banks certainly dont.

Have you got a better alternative to Banks?

Wanderer78 · 27-11-2019 4:08pm

NoteAgent wrote:

No they dont "more or less". All of those Bonds, IOU's, Promissiory Notes, etc have to be paid back. And Commercial Banks certainly dont.

They do, there's loads of research going into this at the moment, including within central banks

NoteAgent wrote:

Have you got a better alternative to Banks?

We need to democratise our money creation systems, as we have moved towards the majority of our money supply being created by other, more private interested institutions, which have a more profit driven model, than a social good. Money creation and banking is of course a critical social need, the introduction of public banking systems would be a good start

seagull · 28-11-2019 2:22pm

Look after your knees in your youth

KathleenGrant · 28-11-2019 10:57pm

seagull wrote: »

Look after your knees in your youth

Absolutely agree.

Ipso · 28-11-2019 11:04pm

Wanderer78 wrote: »

They do, there's loads of research going into this at the moment, including within central banks

We need to democratise our money creation systems, as we have moved towards the majority of our money supply being created by other, more private interested institutions, which have a more profit driven model, than a social good. Money creation and banking is of course a critical social need, the introduction of public banking systems would be a good start

Public banking, to be run by the same people who run public health I assume. Funny, no one trusts politicians but yet turn to them for really important functions.

Thargor · 28-11-2019 11:19pm

Oink wrote: »

Also, don’t loan money to people and then act all shocked when they never give it back.

Ashamed to admit I was nearly in my thirties before I realised this after several fcuk ups, people will destroy a friendship over €100 or less, its actually amazing. I dont lend a cent these days and I dont think Ive ever borrowed from someone, Ill buy someone their lunch in work if they're short but I will not hand over cash.

cj maxx · 29-11-2019 1:58pm

If you have a broken middle finger, in a splint, on your right hand, use your left hand when wiping your arse !.
I feel I could post in the LBGT forum with some authority now;(
Toilet roll is of course assumed

trashcan · 29-11-2019 2:17pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Always p1ss before leaving a place, even if you don't need to.

The wise man goes when he can, the foolish man waits until he needs to.

Greyfox · 29-11-2019 2:41pm

Agreeing with women all the time will get you nowhere

For years I thought agreeing with them would help my chances as it would show we have things in common but the more things you disagree on the more interesting your conversations will be

realdanbreen · 29-11-2019 2:53pm

Never assume it's going to be just a fart.:cool:

xzanti · 29-11-2019 7:11pm

Keep the original packaging for all your Christmas decorations.

Shady Grady · 29-11-2019 11:27pm

When your lady friend says "We need talk". That is the calm before the storm.Ha!

jaxxx · 29-11-2019 11:29pm

Don't trust anyone, especially those who claim to be your friends.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 11:29am

Trust people up to a point. The dodgy ones will reveal themselves. You haven't given them full bone-deep trust so you'll be grand.
The good ones will also reveal themselves and you can take them to level 2 trust.

Earthsnotflat · 30-11-2019 11:51am

The race is not always won by the swiftest, the battle is not always won by the strongest; prosperity does not always belong to those who are the wisest, wealth does not always belong to those who are the most discerning, nor does success always come to those with the most knowledge – for time and chance may overcome them all. Like birds that are caught in a snare – just like them, all people are ensnared at an unfortunate time that falls upon them suddenly.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 3:23pm

After years of feeling crap at saying the right thing and that listening only does a certain amount of good, I've realised the best way to help someone in a bad situation is to build them up in other ways, not focussed on the unchangeable unfixable stuff, so they feel their life isn't all about the bad stuff.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 30-11-2019 3:28pm

Earthsnotflat wrote: »

The race is not always won by the swiftest, the battle is not always won by the strongest; prosperity does not always belong to those who are the wisest, wealth does not always belong to those who are the most discerning, nor does success always come to those with the most knowledge – for time and chance may overcome them all. Like birds that are caught in a snare – just like them, all people are ensnared at an unfortunate time that falls upon them suddenly.

Ecclesiastes?

Snow Garden · 30-11-2019 4:10pm

Never stay in a job more than 4-5 years. Especially at the beginning of your career. It doesn't matter how well you think you are doing. I did 7 once, the last 3 were a complete waste of time.

Purple Mountain · 30-11-2019 4:39pm

Life is not black and white.

blade1 · 30-11-2019 4:54pm

You don't start a sword fight with a banana!

Signed E O'Sullivan.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 6:16pm

When you dance with the devil, you wait for the song to stop. Know what I mean?

Snails pace · 30-11-2019 7:52pm

A shut trap catches no flies

People dont fully appreciate things for free

Ted_YNWA · 30-11-2019 7:55pm

Snails pace wrote: »

A shut trap catches no flies

You're better off being thought of as a fool, than to open your mouth & remove all doubt.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 7:58pm

Dark minded people want to make you afraid to enjoy your life, by scaremongering and telling you dire things will happen

Others are so empty headed careless and selfish they try to coerce you into things that are detrimental to your mind and body, and sneer at your self respect and caution

Find a balance

30-11-2019 7:59pm

Life is a sexually transmitted disease. It's always fatal.

30-11-2019 8:08pm

If a new partner ever asks you for your social media/phone password...run. Very far, very fast.

If jealousy rears it's ugly head in the early days, get out of there before it becomes controlling and oppressive.

If someone is being rude or dismissive to you, treat them politely anyway. Just because someone behaves badly doesn't mean you have to join them and you'll only feel bad about yourself if you join in.

Don't gossip. Unless it's really, really juicy.

Don't put anything smaller than your elbow in your ear.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 9:30pm

Someone who starves and represses your spirit can never really make you happy in your body either.

Widdershins · 30-11-2019 9:36pm

Beviaamo wrote: »

Hopefully your spirit has recovered.

Thank you, That's a lovely thing to say

It has indeed.

Antares35 · 02-12-2019 12:17pm

Snow Garden wrote: »

Never stay in a job more than 4-5 years. Especially at the beginning of your career. It doesn't matter how well you think you are doing. I did 7 once, the last 3 were a complete waste of time.

Yup this so much. I stayed in a job for almost a decade waiting for an opportunity to develop and it never happened. My salary jumped more moving from that to my current job than it did in the 10 years I was there. I think another related lesson I learned the hard way is that the notion of "working your way up" in one place is not always straight forward. In my last role, I started at more or less entry level, worked really hard and studied part time for 4 years to get the qualifications I have today. But, rather than having these recognised or being promoted to what I was capable of, I always had the label of "Antares the receptionist" or whatever. People put you in a box and their view of you can become entrenched despite your achievements - sometimes the best way to be recognised for your skills and achievements is to start afresh somewhere and almost "reinvent" yourself. I found that quite liberating and my only regret was not doing it sooner!

Lessons you learned the hard way?

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