do words hurt you?

In one ear and out the other.

Sticks n stones

More than they should :-/

I don't get why people think it ok to be mean/put down people without provocation tbh....I don't say these type things to people....so it annoys me so much



Though I'm lucky enough in that any work critism I ever got wasn't too bad as I always try my best and what can they say then??
I get critized on being too particular in my job.....and I just get angry then

As said, depends on what's actually said and who says it.

kfallon wrote: »

Words always hurt when they are said in a nasty, vindictive tone! Even people who say they don't affect them are not telling the whole truth tbh!

I'd say people who go on and on about "special snowflakes" and "muh feelz" are the ones who'd freak out the most.

mailforkev wrote: »

The way I look at it, offence is taken not given.

Offence is given too IMO. I know it's a good idea not to get upset/pissed off by words when possible, as sometimes that's all the person is looking for, so giving them what they want is crazy (e.g. Katie Hopkins - the way she is empowered by people taking her bait; she'd shut up if they'd just ignore) but sometimes, in the case of very personal stuff, the responsibility is entirely with the person who says the words, and with all this "You're letting yourself be insulted" stuff, I'd be afraid of too much of a "Harden up" culture, which seems to be getting fashionable with all the "You're not a special snowflake whose feelings have to be protected" stuff. Stephen Fry himself showed himself up with his well known quote about people being offended, by... getting offended about stuff.
On a recent thread about awful things that were said to people, there were a couple of cases of people being jeered at in relation to a family member committing suicide - seriously, anyone who says it's "taking offence" to get upset by that, would really need to re-evaluate things. Deflecting responsibility entirely to the person on the receiving end of the insult is not always appropriate. The person who says the words in the first place always has some responsibility - sometimes all of it.

I personally think that 'stick and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me' is very inaccurate, damaging and misleading nonsense.

Words can absolutely hurt people, and can do a lot more damage sometimes than something physical, particularly long-term. It's ok to acknowledge this. People shouldn't feel the need to not be vulnerable, to put the wall up, to be untouchable.

Because we're human and we're not untouchable and it's ok to acknowledge and talk about our vulnerabilities, and if people generally felt a bit more able to, the world, in my opinion, would be a little better of a place.

Sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. Words I suppose will emotionally have an effect on someone no matter who those words come from. For example if you get a compliment, it probably will lighten your day a bit but if someone insults you, it might make you feel a bit upset. It just depends on how much weight you put on the other persons opinion, whether or not it will have a greater, lesser or mild effect.

There are so many different scenarios. Have you hurt that person by saying or doing something first?, are you close to the person or is it a stranger?, did it seem like they really meant to say it? Why did they say, what did they say etc.

Also there are going to be different kinds of hurt, like someone may be hurt at being told something that is true about themself so not hurt by the actual words but more the realisation of whatever home truths have been highlighted or someone saying something that makes you realise the problem is not you but you are hurt that they are not the person you thought they were, dissapointed with the person and that they thought it was ok to speak to you like that etc.

Each case would always be different circumstances and that depends what my reaction would be to harsh words.

I would like to sit on a porch right now, with Natalie Portman cXasTXOX.jpg . I will eat a chip butty with her and we can listen to Rod Stewart together. I will insinuate that we can have some fun time later on in the night, and will make snide innuendos about films she has appeared in.

V is not for Vendetta , V is a crucial part of the female reproductive system, wink wink Natalie, I will be stretched out waiting for her in my Thomas the tank-engine onesie. I have a feeling she likes infantilizing men with a passion for miniature locomotives.