Being harrassed my housemate - how to get rid

Stark · 07-08-2005 12:29am #1

First time posting proper on personal issues I think.

Basically I've been having problems with harrassment from a new housemate. She's just moved to Ireland from Poland and is looking for a job here. At first she seemed quite nice, myself and my current housemate got along fine with her, helped her in her job hunting, invited her out for drinks, let her use our computers to keep in contact with family from home etc.

However that all changed since my other housemate went on holidays a few days ago. She has been consistently rude to me, treating me like dirt.

She woke me up at 2AM one morning because I had left a light on downstairs.
Another morning I awoke to get a glass of water downstairs and she followed me down and demanded to know what I was doing.
Yesterday, I found a delivery note from an attempted parcel delivery to her. When I gave it to her, she became angry with me, demanding to know why she couldn't collect it immediately (it was 10:30 on a friday evening) and getting pissier with me when I told her she could collect it Monday morning (she's still jobless so it's not like she won't have time to collect it and either way it's not my problem).
She also seems to expect me to clean her dishes after her because she hoovered the living room.

The final straw came earlier tonight when I was sitting in my bedroom typing on my laptop and she slid a post-it note under my door saying "STOP MAKING NOISE ON THE LAPTOP BEFORE SOLICITOR COMES". She then knocked on my door saying "Well, did you read it?". At that point I was pretty much paralysed by rage, uttered something, she went back to her bedroom, I closed my door, she shouted across "Don't you dare shut that door again!".

I want the bitch out of my house. I've only just calmed down now really and feel sick at the thought of going to sleep tonight knowing she's so close. I've already been staying in work late the past few days because I didn't want to go home. I want to ring my landlord tomorrow and have her evicted. I've been told to come here first in case there's anything I should know to help my case. Thanks for your time.

OLDYELLAR · 07-08-2005 12:36am

She sounds psycho!!Ring your landlord I was living witha real headwrecker for 5 months and if I had my time back i WOULD ring the landlord straight off because it got worse as it went on , definately ring the landlord and see can ye get rid of her say you feel unsafe with her there because she sounds like a right mentalist!

derek27 · 07-08-2005 12:53am

jesus she sounds like a right crazy contrary bitch. just kick her out on her ass. dont let her get the better of you at all. lock her out of the house and leave a post-it note on the front dorr to tell her to fvck off back to poland!

:mad:

Crucifix · 07-08-2005 12:58am

Crikey!
How long til your housemate gets home?

tinkerbell · 07-08-2005 1:11am

Definitely ring the landlord first thing tomorrow morning. You've been there a lot longer, so obviously you will have say over her. What does your other housemate think of the situation?

That or change the locks on the doors when she goes out on Monday morning to collect her parcel from the post office, muahahaha!

county · 07-08-2005 1:12am

get her out,and if she is jobless how is she paying her way?

StandnDeliver · 07-08-2005 1:13am

well ring the landlord at work so shes not around.yeah nutter

OfflerCrocGod · 07-08-2005 1:14am

I'll bet you she goes back to being normal as soon as your other housemate returns. Tell her how you feel about her and try and explain the situation, then kill her and bury her body in the backgarden - your stress levels will fall considerably.

county · 07-08-2005 1:16am

OfflerCrocGod wrote:

I'll bet you she goes back to being normal as soon as your other housemate returns. Tell her how you feel about her and try and explain the situation, then kill her and bury her body in the backgarden - your stress levels will fall considerably.

lmfao

AARRRGH · 07-08-2005 1:26am

Don't be held back by the "nice guy" training you no doubt had as a kid.

You DO NOT need a negative force like this around the house.

Give her two weeks notice.

Be strong. This psycho will just get worse, not better.

DawnMc · 07-08-2005 3:50am

P-s-y-c-h-o

Stark · 07-08-2005 10:20am

dublindude wrote:

Don't be held back by the "nice guy" training you no doubt had as a kid.

You DO NOT need a negative force like this around the house.

Give her two weeks notice.

Be strong. This psycho will just get worse, not better.

Oh don't worry, it's funny how animal rage completely undercuts all that useless grey matter programming. I don't even want to give her 2 weeks notice. She says she'll be gone in less than 3 week anyway if(when) she doesn't get a job and I thought I could hold out until then, but after last night there's no way. She has a cousin who lives down the road from us so if I throw her out it's not like she's out on the streets.

up for anything · 07-08-2005 10:27am

Have you spoken to her cousin or anyone else who knows her about her recent behaviour? They may be able to throw some light on the situation, eg drugs or what have you.

LundiMardi · 07-08-2005 10:34am

Stark wrote:

Oh don't worry, it's funny how animal rage completely undercuts all that useless grey matter programming. I don't even want to give her 2 weeks notice. She says she'll be gone in less than 3 week anyway if(when) she doesn't get a job and I thought I could hold out until then, but after last night there's no way. She has a cousin who lives down the road from us so if I throw her out it's not like she's out on the streets.

tbh, has she signed anything? Is her name on the lease? If not then just fúck her sh*t out on the road and change the locks to be honest. That's what i'd do.

Boston · 07-08-2005 10:37am

up for anything wrote:

Have you spoken to her cousin or anyone else who knows her about her recent behaviour? They may be able to throw some light on the situation, eg drugs or what have you.

Not his job to get involved in her family, nor arrange alternative accomdation. you're living with the person. You care not for the reasons of their actions just that they are affecting your quality of life.

up for anything · 07-08-2005 11:15am

LiouVille wrote:

Not his job to get involved in her family, nor arrange alternative accomdation. you're living with the person. You care not for the reasons of their actions just that they are affecting your quality of life.

I'm not suggesting that he gets involved with her family or arrange alternative accommodation. It's just that I am incurably nosy and like to know what makes people tick especially if they tock when they should be ticking. However in spite of her abhorrent and because of her aberrent behaviour maybe a little humanity is called for here.

Pigman II · 07-08-2005 11:44am

Stark, you gotta show her who The Boss is! But since Bruce Springsteen isn't in town for the for the forseeable future a plan-b might be in order.

I suggest you should continue doing all these 'unreasonable' acts that irritate her so much with gay abandon! She'll either a) move out, b) rat to someone therein demonstrating what a nut she is or c) realise you couldn't give a **** about 'what she wants' and she'll just have to tow the line.

BTW would housemate #3 find it unreasonable if she heard the Pole saying things like 'stop typing so loudly' to you or would she consider it a perfectly reasonable request ie where is the balance of power here?

koneko · 07-08-2005 11:48am

Talk to the landlord and explain everything, get her out. It isn't worth wasting your time on psychos who can't act reasonable to people they're living with. She doesn't even have a job so I doubt the landlord is going to object, mooching psychopath that she is.

HappyGoLucky · 07-08-2005 12:55pm

If reasoning and talking to the landlord doesn't work, I'd suggest painting milk on the wall of her room. It will dry see through, but when it goes sour in a day or two, the smell will be unbearable....

Esel · 07-08-2005 1:31pm

Pigman II wrote:

...I suggest you should continue doing all these 'unreasonable' acts that irritate her so much with gay abandon! She'll either a) move out, b) rat to someone therein demonstrating what a nut she is or c) realise you couldn't give a **** about 'what she wants' and she'll just have to tow the line...

You forgot about option d) she flips and reaches for the cutlery drawer! :eek:

Pigman II · 07-08-2005 1:38pm

Well I had considered that option but she's seems a little too far-gone at this point to be turned into the domesticated good-housewife-type who will prepare Starks meals. Still we can live in hope.

Cathy · 07-08-2005 2:29pm

HappyGoLucky wrote:

If reasoning and talking to the landlord doesn't work, I'd suggest painting milk on the wall of her room. It will dry see through, but when it goes sour in a day or two, the smell will be unbearable....

He has to live in the house too!
And also, when she does go, it'd be pretty hard to rent the room to someone else.

Stark · 07-08-2005 2:30pm

Exactly yeah. And someone already did that to our fridge before (as well as sticking an easy-single to the back wall of the fridge). There was some red and green discolouration that I noticed, I assumed someone had left a loaf of bread sitting there and some of the colouring had rubbed off the packaging. It turned out to be some sort of bacterial infestation. The house smelt like swimming pool for days after I was done cleaning it and when the bleach smell had lifted, I noticed the original smell was still faintly there.

HappyGoLucky · 07-08-2005 3:19pm

Cathy wrote:

He has to live in the house too!
And also, when she does go, it'd be pretty hard to rent the room to someone else.

But if you make a mental note of where you painted (behind the wardrobe prehaps) then you can wash it off with soapy water and Bobs your Uncle and Sallys your aunt! Problem solved!

Cathy · 07-08-2005 3:22pm

HappyGoLucky wrote:

But if you make a mental note of where you painted (behind the wardrobe prehaps) then you can wash it off with soapy water and Bobs your Uncle and Sallys your aunt! Problem solved!

It'll have soaked through the paint by then, and would be pretty tough to get off.

HappyGoLucky · 07-08-2005 3:29pm

Cathy wrote:

It'll have soaked through the paint by then, and would be pretty tough to get off.

Fair enough....Try powered milk in the bed clothes. You get the same affect - it'll turn sour in a few days!

chillywilly · 07-08-2005 3:35pm

lol your housemate reminds me of the guy who moved in with Chandler in "Friends". Anyone remember Eddie??!! Psycho!!

Ruu_Old · 07-08-2005 3:39pm

Call immigration

seriously sounds like a nutter! best of luck getting rid of her, i hope the landlord can get rid of her though, is she on the lease or anything?

Stark · 07-08-2005 8:55pm

Chickened out of calling the landlord in the end. Ended up just fighting it out with her. Mistake on my part no doubt, like you've said, it probably won't make a difference, just buy me a few days relief. Though she'll be one in 2 or 3 weeks anyway when she doesn't get a job so it's not too bad I guess.

Our new housemate moved in just as we were having a shouting match. Great first impressions for him.

OLDYELLAR · 07-08-2005 9:06pm

Why didnt ya ring the landlord?Im telling ya man , things will get worse as it goes on , hope ya have a lock for your bedroom because if shes anything like the cow I lived with , half your stuff will go missing next.

Maynooth · 07-08-2005 9:08pm

Get her out!!

Victor · 07-08-2005 10:40pm

Moved from PI to Accommodation / Property.

No more vigilantee action please.

Lots of people banned.

the_syco · 07-08-2005 11:25pm

Stark wrote:

She woke me up at 2AM one morning because I had left a light on downstairs.

Leave all lights on downstairs.

Stark wrote:

Another morning I awoke to get a glass of water downstairs and she followed me down and demanded to know what I was doing.

Tell her its to keep the aliens at bay.

Stark wrote:

I've already been staying in work late the past few days because I didn't want to go home.

Eh, f*ck that. Your house should be a place to relax. Look around for another place, and then notify the landlord that either she goes, or you go. ANd the landlord will proberly know that she's going back in 5 weeks, so they'll most likely give her the boot.

Stark wrote:

Though she'll be one in 2 or 3 weeks anyway when she doesn't get a job so it's not too bad I guess.

Our new housemate moved in just as we were having a shouting match. Great first impressions for him.

Replace "when" with "if". Not a nice thought. Get the landlord.

Since the new guy has moved in, act sane. Real sane. And nice. Then when you goto the landlord, the new guy can back you up (providing she doesn't act the victim to him).

galwaydude · 08-08-2005 9:02am

to be honest that kind of behaviour is unacceptable, stand up to that cow.I had a housemate kinda like that when i was in college many moons ago.One day he left a card signed by all the housemates because i didnt pay the rent in the morning instead of the evening.I was actually in class early that morning.He was a right prick and im glad i didnt see him again.I never stood up to that bully and i regret it so dont take that **** from that person.

Also contact your landlord asap as you dont deserve to be treated like this. I wouldnt mind she doesnt have a job !!!!!!!

MorningStar · 08-08-2005 9:39am

I am little puzzeled here. How did she find your place? Was it the landlord who moved her in or did you find her? If the landlord moved her in he is responsible if not it is all up to you and your flat mate.
People sometimes just take a dislike to each other and there isn't much you can do about it. Her behaviour sounds very erratic and potentially dangerous. Don't provoke her in any way. Being away from home can make people act a little odd but a lot of people decide to get away from their demons by going to another country. Their demons follow them. Poland has a checkered history which can easily lead to unhinged individuals as with some people from the North. Don't assume she is going to think with logic, I'd lock my door at night if I was you.
If anybody thinks that is a bit racist I would say the same about many Irish people who lived in the UK acting like nuts. Even if you go to Kilburn on Paddy's Day they scare the hell of you.

Stark · 08-08-2005 11:29am

Yeah it was the landlord who moved her in I think. Unfortunately our house doesn't have locks on the bedroom doors.

zAbbo · 08-08-2005 11:36am

Stark wrote:

Yeah it was the landlord who moved her in I think. Unfortunately our house doesn't have locks on the bedroom doors.

Its a 10min job to put one on though, a few screws and a screwdriver. One of those slidey bar ones.

Ring the landlord, and stop whingin

MorningStar · 08-08-2005 11:36am

Stark wrote:

Yeah it was the landlord who moved her in I think. Unfortunately our house doesn't have locks on the bedroom doors.

Get a lock and move out as soon as possible. Regardless of her you have no control over who comes in next. The amount of problems you can encounter with such a situation is really worrying. You don't need to live in a place with a landlord controlling a big part of your life.

Beruthiel · 08-08-2005 11:47am

I really hope you don't have a pet bunny stark!

seriously, she sounds too loolaa to talk to about this.

I would ring the landlord, tell him everything and keep ringing till he gets her out, hound him enough and he'll sort it
also
get yourself a lock for your door, especially as she's in the house while you're out working

el tel · 08-08-2005 4:28pm

Call all the hospitals and asylumsin the neighbouring towns and counties. She could be an escapee and there could be a reward on her head.

OLDYELLAR · 08-08-2005 5:30pm

But why not just call the landlord??Whats the big deal with ringing him ?

Stark · 08-08-2005 6:26pm

Because as far as I know, he has to give her 7 days notice to move out. That's 7 days of living with the level of tension squared.

OLDYELLAR · 08-08-2005 6:29pm

Yea but she`d be gone otherwise ya`ll be living in that hell for much longer than 7 days.

Boston · 08-08-2005 7:34pm

Stark wrote:

Because as far as I know, he has to give her 7 days notice to move out. That's 7 days of living with the level of tension squared.

Can't see why thats the case, since she aint on the books. Nothing to say she even lived there. If you want to be a real **** about it, tell her you'll imform imigration she hasn't got a job, see how fast she moves out then.

Victor · 08-08-2005 7:44pm

I'm not happy with the level of abuse in this thread and I will ban people and bin the thread if necessary.

LiouVille wrote:

tell her you'll imform imigration she hasn't got a job, see how fast she moves out then.

And what will they do? Poland is an EU country, she has a right to be here.

Boston · 08-08-2005 7:52pm

Keep forgetting that. Awh well, maybe get onto to The revenue are report your landlord for having a tennant off the books. Won't be long before he gets shot of her.

the_syco · 08-08-2005 8:49pm

Stark wrote:

Because as far as I know, he has to give her 7 days notice to move out. That's 7 days of living with the level of tension squared.

Get a lock, or she has 7 days to sell your stuff. 6 days to sell your laptop. 5 days to sell your CD's... you get the drift.

Also, how do you know she hasn't "borrowed" stuff before?

Finally, take the day off work some weekday, and see what she does. Pretend to leave, come back in 30 minutes later, and watch TV. See if she uses your stuff, etc.

Supercell · 08-08-2005 10:08pm

Been there a long time ago..crazy biatch piled HER fuppín dirty dishes outside my bedroom door (straw..camels back..she was being nutz before this)..saw red..her name wasnt on lease..

Had witness (other housemate) tossed all her stuff onto the garden and told her to fupp off...it wasnt that polite. She threatened legal stufff..i said here is the lease..your name isnt on it..i have a witness..you are acting unreasonably..fupp off

End of story, before you throw her out, make sure that others witness you doing so and will understand why you are..ie show them her little message.

Stark · 08-08-2005 10:22pm

OLDYELLAR wrote:

Yea but she`d be gone otherwise ya`ll be living in that hell for much longer than 7 days.

Only for 2 - 3 weeks. She's also got the new housemate now, on whom all her attention seems to be focused and my other housemate will be back before then so it won't be just me against her.

Supercell · 08-08-2005 10:29pm

Sucks living with a housemate from hell, it will be over in a few weeks..keep telling yourself that..and dont do anything without a witness!!, totally understand what your going through and hope you keep it together..trust me you will look back and shudder one day !! (and feel great that its in the past!!)

eth0_ · 08-08-2005 10:44pm

MorningStar wrote:

Poland has a checkered history which can easily lead to unhinged individuals as with some people from the North.

Northerners and Poles are unhinged? That's really fscking offensive. :mad:

Being harrassed my housemate - how to get rid

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