Upset by work colleague.

All I’ll say is that if ahe’s actuqlly eating healthily and benefiting from it and is getting ‘results’, don’t be so quick to dismiss what she might have to say, just because you don’t like it.

We don’t eat very well these days and it’s about time we stopped making people who do out to be some sort of villain/offender or ‘food bore’. She may well have good intentions and a solid point to make. No matter the reason, overweight (and more than that...) are sometimes prone to taking offense instead of taking the point and doing something with it.

You may well have some clear-cut reasons for a temporary weight gain, and best wishes for an improvement in your health in relation to those factors, but try to be open minded about the intentions of folk around you when they comment about how they ‘couldn’t’ have dessert/chocolate/cake. It’s about them more often than not, so don’t take it as a dig at you. What they’re saying is quite true. You can accept that or react to it, positively or negatively. Try doing it in that order if you can.

The time may well come when you’re ‘better’, shed some of the weight you put on and adopt the same approach as your co-worker, being disciplined and open about what/why/when/how often you have a ‘treat’. In that case, wouldn’t you feel better getting a ‘well done you, fair play, you’re right to look after yourself and you’re doing great’ type reply, rather than having people get the hump with you because they mistake your pride in doing well for bitching at them?

Benefit of the doubt, she sounds decent, as do you. Best wishes to you.