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GerryRyan · 30-06-2007 5:33pm #1

Not exactly a life threatening situation, but is best approach her:

Gf's dad turning 40 and I've been invited to a meal thing.

a) turn up empty handed - have food - chat - go home
b) turn up with card - have food - chat ...
c) turn up - buy the auld lad and his brothers a pint - chat - have food ...

SirLemonhead · 30-06-2007 5:36pm

I'd go with c myself. I wouldn't assume you're expected to get him anything..

GerryRyan · 30-06-2007 5:37pm

Eh - I wouldn't think so myself. Yup, c is best ... thanks

Thrill · 30-06-2007 5:39pm

Dont turn up - go to pub - get drunk - go home

Otherwise choose C.

m83 · 30-06-2007 5:44pm

secret option d) get naked and rock out

¬_¬

Victor · 30-06-2007 10:00pm

Is this just a girlfriend's father or your soon to be father-in-law?

Dave! · 30-06-2007 10:12pm

C will get you most kudos

stepbar · 30-06-2007 10:26pm

+ stripper. Kudos for life

Zapp Brannigan · 30-06-2007 10:54pm

The obligatory: Atari Jaguar.

shay_562 · 30-06-2007 11:09pm

How long have ye been going out? Have you met her dad much before? And how come you can't just ask her this? (since she knows him best, and knows what he's likely to expect from you. Some people would be insulted if you didn't bring anything, others would be embarrassed if you did, and she'd know better than us which category he falls into)

Black Swan · 30-06-2007 11:27pm

Depending upon her folks, bring cool ones (c) or a bottle of wine.

peasant · 30-06-2007 11:58pm

Get the man a nice bottle of whiskey (unless he's a pioneer)
Definetly NO CARD !
He'll get more rounds bought for him that evening than is good for him, so yours will just add to the burden ..the whiskey he can enjoy later, in peace.

...I'm over 40, I should know

WhiteWashMan · 01-07-2007 5:20am

why does everyone think that fathers drink whiskey?#
jeez, i hate the stuff.

anyway, why cant you just sign the card your girlfriend will probably get, go along, chat, and offer to buy a beer at the appropriate moment. besides, you should be buttering up the mother in law to be, not the father.:)

Healio · 01-07-2007 5:35am

As has been said before, dont emphasise everything on the da, the rest of the family will probably be there too. i.e. your on show. Bring a card if that is your sort of character, sometimes certain people arriving with cards is cringeworthy. As has been said before a bottle of whiskey/gin/petrol can go down a treat, other times it doesnt work so well. Best plan is to head along, cogratulate him on his reaching 40, offer to buy him a drink, and his brothers/sons/whatever, treat your girl like she is the be all and end all, be the perfect gent to her and her family, and you should be rewarded in more ways than one.

InFront · 01-07-2007 8:13am

If her Dad is only 39 going on 40, and presuming there isn't a massive age gap between you and this girl, then you must be young, like <20 years... in which case I doubt you really have to go to much effort at all.

HammerHeadGym · 01-07-2007 1:45pm

If you trying to get on the familys good side go with peasants idea. Don't get some cheap ass whiskey either. I would recommend Jameson 12 year old, or some Bushmills single malt.

If my daughters boyfriend brought me a bottle of either I would almost certainly beat him less often. Almost.

Alanthroneus · 01-07-2007 1:50pm

get him a card that celebrates the 19th anniversary of his twenty first birthday...

failing that c

CathyMoran · 01-07-2007 2:58pm

What my now husband always did when invited to my daddy´s birthday bashes was to bring along a bottle of wine. Daddy said to him that he shouldn´t have but I know that he appreciated the gesture.

Goodluck2me · 01-07-2007 9:02pm

novelty cards FTW! i`d imagine if your goin out with her for a while get her to write your name on the card too, if your goin out with her >1 year then maybe something like a bottle of whiskey/brandy/scotch could work well.

Winters · 02-07-2007 12:44am

Bottle of wine and a card tbh.

Although, by the above I assume you have been going out for at least a period of time and not a month or so.

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